The G Spot or Female Prostate?

HOw to find the G-Spot:

Two fingers in, look for the "pulpy" area on top of the vagina wall, about 2 to 2 1/2 half inches in. You need to make the pleasure build up. Take your time. When she is really hot you know you can inside on this area and then whoohoooo shower 😁

This is absolutely correct. it is in the top of the inside of the vagina. the distance inside will vary slightly, and the feeling of the tissue will vary from soft and pulpy to almost like a wash board, but the result will be great for your woman. she may not squirt, but if you give her an enema and then massage that spot, she will have one of the best orgasms of her life and love you forever.

OK, dinner's done and the girls are doing their homework. Here's my response:

Nice of you to ask about what we women think.

First of all, squirting is much less common than the porno sites would lead you to believe, and the ability to squirt is hardly a factor in making a wonderful sex partner from either an emotional or purely physical standpoint.

Second, while the basic area is similar in women and the walls of the vagina feel the same when you palpate it in different women, the exact location men seem to be looking for the G-spot also varies.

The center of the G-spot can be as little as 4 and as far as 8 cm from the entry of the vagina on the anterior wall. Some women like two fingers, others like only one finger to be used making a “come here” motion with your fingers. Then again some women like three or four fingers and a small few like the whole fist. Some women love the sensation when that area is stimulated and some don’t. Many complain that it just makes them feel like they have to pee, which isn’t strange because when you push against the G-spot area, the bladder is the next structure coming forward, and even if it is empty, pushing against the bladder walls gives some women a sensation they don’t like. Furthermore, women vary in their sensitivities on the anterior vaginal wall.

And I hate to burst your bubble, guys, but most women do not and are not even capable of squirting, just as most women, probably two thirds of us, cannot orgasm from intercourse alone. Most of us need specific direct clitoral contact to cum.

So, don’t take it as an insult because your lady doesn’t cum all over the room when you fuck her like a jack-hammer, because even if you have a 3 inch wide, 10 inch long penis, it just isn’t going to make her cum. You are probably ignoring areas she needs to have stimulated, and it doesn’t matter that you are big. I have had men with large penises that were lousy lovers that couldn’t make me cum and men with smaller and average penises that drove me wild.

Also, some women can cum very fast even if you are a lousy lover, and others take longer. How long it takes them to cum is no measure of how good a sexual partner they are (or you are!) or how much they enjoy what you are doing. On the other hand, we usually like men who can last so we can have a good "bonding" experience, even if intercourse doesn't make us cum.

Another thing I would say to all you men is, don’t ignore our labia. I know in all the porno movies you see guys with pointed tongues flicking their lady’s clit, but that just isn’t how most of us like it. Most women like a wide broad flat tongue that fully covers the labia, especially the entire inner surfaces of the labia majora and all over the labia minora. Don’t just flick your tongue on our clits. We want the whole area covered whether you are using your fingers or your tongue.

What I suggest you do is strip each other down, lay on the bed and/or get on all fours and DON’T HAVE SEX, but rather play with and examine each other’s bodies. Poke and prod everywhere, see what feels good or even “interesting.” Your partner should allow you to do whatever you want within reason, because new sensations might not be appreciated until they become familiar. You both might learn something about your own bodies as well.

You guys would really do better with your women if you experimented and actually TALKED to each other instead of listening to hearsay from other people about how to find and stimulate your lady’s G-spot.

I hope my suggestions bring you and your women great happiness. If you can't bring pleasure to yourself and your women, what good is all the equipment?

Actually a good response. however, don't assume that most men don't know their woman's anatomy. many of us do and we take pride in knowing how to please our women. you're right about the big penis thing. I know 2 guys hung like horses, and one of their wives is always hustling me because he hurts her and she gets no satisfaction. the other one went through 30 women before he found one that could accommodate him. and then he married her and had 6 children. i don't totally agree with you on how to stimulate the so called g-spot. i have found in several cases that it is very hard to reach with fingers and a curved vibrator seems to get the best responsive. As for squirting, i have only seen it once and hope i never see it again. My bed was a mess and i almost never got the smell out of my mattress. So it is not the nirvana everyone thinks it is. also---almost all women differ in some small ways in their anatomy. so the man has to take his time and get to know her individual body. also they do not all respond to the same stimulation. I was in the porno business for 10 years and most of those women couldn't have a genuine orgasm if their lives depended on it.

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. . . i have only seen it once and hope i never see it again. my bed was a mess and i almost never got the smell out of my matress. . . . so it is not the nirvana everyone thinks it is. also---almost all women differ in some small ways in their anatomy. so the man has to take his time and get to know her individual body. also they do not all respond to the same stimulation. i was in the porno business for 10 years (my co was called tvx) and most of those women couldn;t have a genuine orgasm if their lives depended opn it.

Harry, any time there is a bad smell coming from vaginal fluids, there is an infection. Both lubricating fluids and female ejaculatory fluids, and I guess urine while we're at it, should have very little smell.

I agree with most of what Susie said, with one addition... I hope I have learned a bit from 35 years with the same lady (two years dating and living together, married 33).

What Susie said about differences between women in terms of their genital sensitivities and what pleases them are all correct, with the addition that even with the same woman, and one you know very well, what pleases her will change over the course of a lovemaking session.

For us, she may be totally getting off on my diddling her clit, and then suddenly want me to switch to a finger or two in her vagina. This communication is sometimes verbal, and other times as simple as her taking my hand in hers and moving it back toward her vagina. I may be a male, but I'm not totally dense and I get the message! Again the key is still communication, on an ongoing basis. BTW, we are 60 and 53, not exactly spring chickens by any means.

The other thing that makes for good sex, at least for us, is not to follow any script for lovemaking. We never really know when we start how it will end. Sometimes it is pretty conventional foreplay followed by intercourse, sometimes we finish off orally, sometimes other ways. There have been a few times when I have concentrated on her and never got to the point of having my own orgasm... still had a satisfying experience. We are always aware that next time we can try something different, so there is no pressure to try to do it all in one session.

Scripts are for movies, not lovemaking!

Just my two cents worth...

Warren

Forgot to mention that on the subject of squirting, my lady does not and it makes not a bit of difference to either of us. If she did, we would probably do the same thing we did when she had periods, throw a towel under her and then go for it...

Warren

My own personal experience is that some of the best sex I have ever had it with myself!! I know what I like, how hard or soft, which orifice, for how long etc. and it is much easier to do than trying to explain to someone else. Just being honest!! However, my partner has definitely found my G-spot on many occasions and has made me have some very hard orgasms. Women my age (44) tend to produce less cum as they get older, so absence of cum in the event of an orgasm is not uncommon. There have been many times when I have masturbated for an hour or more and it felt really, really good, but I never did have an orgasm. I guess that would be similar to the erectile dysfuntion problems men have.......you want to, and it feels good, but your body is just not cooperating. I just like sex and I especially like pleasing my partner in whichever way he desires. Whether I have an orgasm or not does not really matter to me, so long as what I am doing feels good while I am doing it!! My opinion is that a good indication of whether or not you are sexually satisfying your partner is if they keep coming back for more or not....LOL....and NOT how many orgasms they have while they are with you. 😉 😁 😮 😜 😘

A wonderful, sensitive topic. The female anatomy is much more individual and personal than the male. One of the most exciting thing for me is the "girl juice." I did know one lady who continued to have a wonderful wetness well into her 50's. But regardless enjoy all the pleasure possible.

I remember that I bought a book. The G-spot. I think that was the name, it was so long ago.

Anyway, here's the technique that will produce the best results. Girl is face down on bed, legs spread. Ease two finger into her vagina, PALM facing down. Now, feel for ridges on the front (anterior) wall of her vagina. You have to have a very tactile feel to actually locate the anatomical structures themselves. Mostly, you will use the ridges as landmarks.

Stimulation is light stroking, sorta with a "come-here" crooking of your fingers. Also, medium-hard pressure. On and off. Push and release.

Wiggle your two fingers back and forth inside of her. Sorta side to side.

Now, wait until the girl is highly aroused to do this, because you will also be applying pressure to areas related to urination, so she may feel unsettled by stimulation in that area. And, expect only limited success. I've been doing it all my life, and to this day, I can get only 50% to 60% of women to actually squirt out fluid with ease, whenever I like. And, there are some women that I can NEVER make come like that, no matter how much I try. So, it could very well be the girl, not your technique.

Dollar for dollar, you'd be far better off perfecting your clitoral stimulation techniques. They ALWAYS work!

And, the results are always very good for the girl!

Google: G-spot anatomy to learn more. Buy some tools too. G-spot vibrators, and such!

Here's what I did. Perfect your technique with a girl who can climax like this, then learn to fine-tune your style until you are able to repeat the performance anytime. Then, start going out and working with other girls, to see the variations in anatomy and stimulation styles. Get it right with ONE girl first!

My only question is----why lay her on her stomach. it is much more pleasant to have her laying on her back so you can look into each others eyes,. your description of the anatomy is right on, but you are nmissing a lot of the pleasure and the woman can react more easily and orgasm more easily on her back. also she can orgasm over and over again. and if she squirts, as does happen in some cases, you and she are in for another thrill. harry adams

I agree completely.

The ONLY reason that I start with her face down on the bed, is because that is the best chance at LOCATING it in the first place. For me, anyway!

Once I got it, I make a mental note of location and feel. Then, it doesn't matter what position she's in. Let her hang from the chandelier or whatever. Once I got the mental picture, I can find it again.

It's just getting it that first time that's a little hard sometimes. Especially in obese women. I must be getting old, or losing my touch or something!

You know, for me, sometimes the toys are better than two fingers. They are so big, that they provide the pressure that a woman needs.

I have one of those day-glo jelly G-spot vibrators. Works great!

My first fuckbuddy was a squirter for life after our first time together, so there's a great deal of truth to the g-spot.

What has *always* worked for me is COMMUNICATION.

It goes something like this:

*poke*

How does that feel?

*poke somewhere else*

Which is better?

Rinse and repeat until she's gushing like a fountain. Keep an open dialog when you two are first trying to find it. If she already knows exactly where it is and how she wants it to be played with, then she should tell you rather than be tormented by half-assed fingers. It doesn't hurt to ask.

Dr E is right, btw. That's a great way to find the G-spot, but please COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER! A "yes" is much more useful than a "mmph" unless you're as good as me 😜

Very intelligent post. I read about a woman's G spot in a Book called Sex in the 90's that was written by a woman sex therapist. She described a venus butterfly kiss, how to drive women crazy, & how to stay hard longer through exercises. Many of the same things written here about stimulating & location of the G spot. It does vary but she described it as 1 to 2 inches behind the pubic bone.

Communication is extremely important in the bedroom. Sometimes all you need is body language, moans and screams to tell you that you've found the right spot. Sometimes you need verbal dialog.

I have never been shy about telling a lover exactly what I want, where I need him to be and how it should be done.

There is no point in suffering through a clumsy attempt at lovemaking when you are seconds away from heaven if you'd just open your mouth and tell them how to make it happen. Ever lover's body and desires are different, so good communication can help you tweak your technique to please them.

There is nothing wrong with asking for what you want and nothing wrong with asking a lover what would feel best for them. If a person is shy, the technique you described, Gazeebo, works well. Some people are shy about specifically asking for what they want or may not know how to tell you what to do, so experimentation and conversation can help bridge the communication gap and make everyone happy.

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As far as actually finding it goes, I would like to add one thing to the top of the list: give the lady a massage! A massage will establish trust and induce relaxation, and you need lots of both!

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Massage is wonderful, Love, but it should be given for relaxation purposes and should not always lead to sex. It's difficult to relax if you think your lover is only doing it as foreplay and that you are going to be expected to perform whenever he tires of rubbing your sore muscles and wants his "muscle" massaged.

I like massage for its sake alone and would prefer not to have my genitals rubbed or tush lightly smacked. It takes away from the relaxation of the massage and spoils the mood. If there is no pressure or expectation, I am more likely to relax and to initiate play of my own once I'm completely at ease.

Massage can be extremely arousing and a great way to start off a night, but it shouldn't be on a time table, to-do list or expected.

This is not a personal note to you, Gazzy, but just a general reminder for guys to slow down, don't push and let things happen naturally.

Isn't that really the best way to relax though? Getting your spring wound tighter and tighter until,BOINGGGGGGG!!! And you release and unwind like blowing up a balloon and just letting it go flying around the room.

I was fortunate in that my "training" in the care, operation and manipulation of the female body came from a very patient lesbian friend.

She taught me a lot of the, if you'll excuse the expression "ins and outs." of pleasing a woman.

So much so that I am disappointed and lose my "mojo" unless I can bring my lover to at least a "mild" orgasm. I often enjoy "foreplay" more than the "main event," and I find it almost impossible to "perform" unless I have an aroused partner. Strange, I know.

For her I become a living tool for stimulation, the surfboard upon which she can ride the wave of pleasure.

To locate and stimulate my partner's G spot and be rewarded is, to me, almost as good as having my own orgasm. On ocassion I've had to settle for that as my partner might become exhausted, and I've never been one to force an issue or make love with an unwilling (or unconscious) partner.

My belief is that amy man who is not willing to go the extr mile to please his lady has no right to expect her to please him. I have no intention of changing.

Ciao,

Tom

Patience and tenderness, no use to go right in and start poking around trying to bring your lady up.Patience and communication goes long ways and brings great reward.

My advice to the men here... lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of practice makes perfect! 😉

--thank you Susie. I learned a couple of things...even at my age. Gee, and here I thought that I knew it all! Wow.

Have a great Thanksgiving.

the boxcar

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how do you convince her to get past the urge or feeling of having to pee? I know I can get her to squirt is she'd relax

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If the two of you discuss sexual activity, you can tell her that it turns you on when things get intense and that you want her to relax completely. Reassure her that her reactions are normal and that although you know she feels like she has to pee, that more than likely she won't, but that if she did, it wouldn't be a big deal. Tell her that it turns you on when she releases the wild woman inside her. Suggest that she void her bladder prior to sex (which any woman wanting to avoid cystits should do) and lay a towel underneath her bottom to catch any fluids she may expel. Having to wash the sheets is a small price to pay for amazing sex.

If she's not the kind of woman who likes to talk about sex, the next time she's getting close and tries to pull back to control herself, don't let her get away. Follow her into that great head space and let her get fully into the moment. Encourage her to relax and to let go completely. Some women need "permission" to let go. They want to know they are safe and that he's going to be with her on the ride and take care of her. Vocalize what you're feeling and make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. And maybe she'll let go. Good luck.

Thank you to the ladies for sharing here--it makes me feel a little more comfortable--I'm not such a dumbass man after all--being not well endowed and having some ED problems I've had to find extra skills--and I've found that many ladies are not necessarily in need of the "stud" types--

my current gal pal and I have had a wonderful time exploring whats been said here life is to be enjoyed---go for it!!!

badger

I agree that many women don't know much about their own bodies and have never really explored them. I've taught several of them how to please themselves and to allow others to please them via the internet. When I was young there was very little information available and a lot of the available info was bogus. Plenty of good, factual info out there today if you just seek it out.....Jimbeaux

There is a pic of my favorite G-spot vibe somewhere on here. The title of the file is getsthespot and that's exactly what it does. Nothing has ever made me come as well as my pink G-spot vibe and it's turned me into a squirter with the help of a very wonderful gentleman who is dear to my heart (and other soft, squishy, pulsating areas.) I was really needing an orgasm today, big time. Just one of those hormone things when a lady's gotta have it. And since it was just me here, it was up to me to see to it that I got it. And, wow, did I.

Instead of my usual quick clitoral orgasm with my Hitachi Magic Wand, I decided to explore a little deeper, er, um, a lot deeper. I've got myself off numerous times with the g-spot vibe as it is an amazing little piece of equipment. And since July (Thanks again, Love) I sometimes squirt when I play. But today, oh, my goodness. I soaked right through the sheets. The wet spot was nearly a square foot. Not only that, but for the first time, my hands were in the right spot to feel myself squirt and showered my fingers with my juices. Holy mother of God, no wonder you guys are always so proud of your ejaculations. It was so intense and made me so turned on I just kept cumming and cumming and cumming. It was a delightful way to spend the afternoon after my enema series. I highly recommend it. 😃

I'd like to see what kind of response happens when that g-spot vibe is applied to a gentleman's prostate. Hopefully something as wonderful as I experienced with my g-spot stimulation.

All I need nowis a willing victim, I mean volunteer. Mwhahahahahaha...

I recently had the chance to use my Hitachi Magic Wand with its G-spot attachment on a gentleman friend's prostate. And um, well, you guys have to go out there and one for yourselves. Pretty yummy sensation from what I could tell. I can't wait to do it again.

Egirl,

I bought my wife the Magic Wand with the curved G Spot attachment as a gift a few years ago and she thinks it's the last word in vibrators. I've tried to get her to try it on me. She told me, "that attachment is only going in my pussy. I'm not using it after it's been in your ass. Get your own." So I will have to get my own. I'm just undecided if I should get the straight or curved one.

Curious and egirl -

THANKS for the strong recommendations on the Magic Wand. We don't have one, but it sounds like a must have!

With respect to "curved" versus "straight" attachment, I would think that the curved version would be best for male prostate stimulation, BUT I'm not a medical expert. Hopefully we will get some others better qualified to answer before I order our wand.

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MOST WOMEN ARE TOO SHY TO TELL HIM WHERE IT IS

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Oh, please. Most men are too stubborn to ask for directions. Why else do you think Moses walked around in the desert for forty years?

Seriously, some men find it emasculating to be given directions and some are just plain ignorant when it comes to female anatomy. There was a study a while back where men were given diagrams of anatomy and the list of words to label the correct parts. Many of them confused the urethra with the clitoris. If they can't get the external genitalia - the parts they've been looking at for years - correct, how on earth can they understand the internal anatomy.

I do my best to guide lovers to the right spot but whether or not they find it is up to them. They have to follow direction and look to physical clues, verbal clues, visual clues and sensual clues. Hell, men are into sports. Maybe we should turn it into a game of warmer or closer.

There are also a lot of women who are ignorant of their own bodies! Women's plumbing is a lot smaller than men's and very fleshy which makes it hard to discern where and what things are. Also a lot of women don't let men look at them...This is not a war between women and men. We should help each other and not critisize each other so much...Jimbeaux