Who has not told their wife or girl / boy friend they are on this site ?

I have been with my husband for almost 39 years. There is nothing that we do not talk about. I know his fetishes and fantasies and try to help him realize them. He knows about my medfet interests. He is not interested. He is very supportive of my interest. He knows about this site and has surfed here. He also supports my interest in possibly having an exam in real life. This is absolutely the best of both worlds not only do I have a wonderful caring and supportive husband but I also have someone who is willing to actively help me fulfill my fantasies. I am one very lucky girl.

I aint told no one in my family about it as they would probably go bonkers!

My wife doesn't know about this site. I have no idea how she'd react.

My wife doesn't know. She actually told me tonight she was thinking of scheduling her next appt. for mid-April which happens to be around my birthday. I made comment to "you have no idea how much of a birthday present that could be" and she got upset and said that was weird. Needless to say, she knows I like to examine her breasts for her monthly but has no idea about any of this, even what I am writing at this moment.

My wife knows and I want it that way !

Mine knows and approves.

After about a year I finally broke down and told my girlfriend about my medical fetish, It was the only thing she didn't know about me yet and she accepted me for all my other abnormalities. After discussing my dirty little secret nothing became of it until 4-5 months ago. I had grown old of hiding it from her, like making sure my search history was cleared whenever she used my laptop. Anyway I worked her into it by getting some gloves and doing doing play exams with minimal resources. I have recently splurged and got some more supplies for a proper exam and that tailor to my kinks. Although we have yet to play with my recent purchases I know she won't disappoint. But if you are with someone that truly loves you they will accompany your needs to assure that you are satisfied, even if it means stepping out of the vanilla zone. Luckily, I've only had 1 true partner to explain it to, but if you are straight forward and convey your needs they should be willing to experiment. Just start slow and work your way into it. Don't go on amazon and purchase 5 speculums andexpect her to be comfortable using them on you in your first session. Progress into it slow, let her get a feel for it as well. I know in my case my girlfriend finds it stimulating because she is able to see my reactions. I think she has even developed a little fetish herself, but she won't tell me yet. I would also advise not begging for it just remind her of your needs and when the time is right magical things will happen.

My partner knows that I am into medfet and that I chat and sometimes meet with others. He doesn't know that I am on Zity.

My wife definitely knows that I have a medical fetish, but she doesn't know that I a a member at this site.

My wife knows of my fetishes but not that i'm on this site.

My wife knows I'm on some sort of sight but it doesn't bother her and she knows about all my fetishes which we try once in awhile if she's in the mood

Unfortunately I do not have a significant other but I have not told any of my former lovers of my medfet. I hope that someday I won't be scared to open up about it.

He doesn't know, and I probably won't ever tell it

My girlfriend knows about my fetish aswell. I've told her a couple of years ago. Unfortunately, she does not enjoy it as much as I do.

Not about to tell her, or anyone. Too much professional and social fallout if they talked. And in my circle, I know damn well they would talk. I might confide in someone else who I had a sense was a kinkster as well, and share this or even more debauched practices, sort of a mutually assured destruction kind of thing. So far that person hasn't materialized but perhaps I'm not looking in the right places.

Have not. I dont know if is a blessing or a curse. I just don't know anymore. I wish I knew an easy answer. Perhaps....some things are better left unsaid

Well said.

I may leave the screen on this site when i'm on it while she may be walking in & out of the room, but she has no idea what it is. Nor does she know about any of my fetishes

Nobody knows about this fetish ... and that is for the best I think.

Sadly I know that is part of my fantasy and I never will realize it.

Some years back I attempted to discuss it with my wife. I'll never forget the look of shock and ... disgust? ... that was on her face.

My interests fell fairly into the area of gyn exams and a deep exploration of female anatomy. After finding this board, and coming across it elsewhere on "the net", I figured it was at least a safe subject to discuss. Turns out, I was wrong. She was repelled by the idea, as she felt as though it wasn't about "sex" or "lust", but -- like rape -- all about power over women. Yikes! I didn't expect an open-armed welcome, but she was really appalled.

We never discussed it after that except one time when I was caught browsing some content about sounding and e-stim. Of course, not only was she once again appalled, she even thought I might be gay.

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Anyway, we've finally separated and although this isn't the only, or even primary, reason -- there were definitely other contributing factors -- this particular topic just sat like an elephant in the room and had interfered with our intimacy ever since.

Seeing all the past comments on here from folks who said "Nope, never gonna tell!" -- I can definitely concur. But I do also think it's terribly sad. It's such a deep and personal part of who I am, knowing that I was always "keeping the secret" or felt "like a sicko" (to her) that it was also always a big stumbling block in our relationship.

I've mentioned enemas to my wife but she didn't pick up on it. I've offered a vibrator as a fun gift but that was not accepted. So I'm here for enjoyment.

"Nope, never gonna tell!" -- I can definitely concur. But I do also think it's terribly sad.

You got that exactly right. It is terribly sad that I can't share my fetishes with my wife. But I don't think I want to deal with the potential problems if I ever do.

My wife is not into much of what I find here on this site, so it is my secret in fact she is gone on a trip overnight, and I just enjoyed 2 enemas.

Unfortunately my wife is as vanilla as it gets. Creative sex has never been of much interest to her. I have try to breach the subject in the form of a role play, but to no luck. Wish I could find some success as this is a huge turn on for me.

No I have not told my wife I am on this site. She is well aware of my enema equipment and knows I do enemas regularly. She is not a fan of enemas and doesn't participate. I am sure she would not approve of me revealing such intimate info about me and her / our sex life. She accepts my enema fetish, but really doesn't want to know the details. Participating on a fetish site even anonymously would not meet with her approval.

So I am very careful to close this window when not using my computer.

As the old saying goes- It is what it is.

Have not told anyone and not planning on telling any one

My late husband who I was with since college days was as much into it as I am, and granted that made things a heck of a lot easier. I wonder if he wasn't or if he didn't approve would I have told him. I have dated very few times, relatively since his death, and have had no reason to disclose, nor any real opportunity to discover whether or not my suitors were even interested. I am also fortunate to have some playmates that I can count on both in real time and cyber.

Disclosure is tough. I would have to say keep this in the realm of "don't ask, don't tell".

Nope I have not told anyone I was on here. If they ask I may tell them I'm not sure how they will take it but it is what it is and I like my old and new found fetishes.

I haven’t told any family members about this site, nor did I tell my ex-husband. Technically, I wasn’t a member when I was married, but I did lurk around here some and read things in the library. It’s not really something that I share with people, but there are some that I did tell, like my best friend, @Miss_Raven and another friend that talked a lot about BDSM (she’s a dominatrix). I doubt I will ever tell my mother that I enjoy Medfet or some BDSM. I would have to explain it all to her anyway, lol.

My wife has no idea I’m on this site. She’s pretty vanilla when it comes to sex. She was very much into sex until our kids were born. Our sex life has been nonexistent since our last child was born unfortunately

My husband, friends, and family do not know that I post here. Some of them know about my enjoyment when my bare bottom is up and over someone's knee for a sound spanking. This is my personal space and I enjoy others on zity who share my interests. A woman that I met 3 years ago told me about this site. We still visit each other, although i am now a new mother.