Who has not told their wife or girl / boy friend they are on this site ?

I have not told my girlfriend yet because I think it would freak her out. I do not want her to feel weirded out with me and my fetish. Should I tell her or not? Someone please tell me.

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I have not told my girlfriend yet because I think it would freak her out. I do not want her to feel weirded out with me and my fetish. Should I tell her or not? Someone please tell me.

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My opinion is that you should. That's not to mean that you should just blurt it out. I would discuss what you both find exciting. You should both know what the other's interests are.

I have always had a niche in my mind for this. I am an usual person but the reason why I am on this site is because my fiance is pushing for the medical fetish in the bedroom. She wants me to be the doctor and examine her and thus being the top. We are starting to just dip our toes into medfet and bdsm so Ia m learning what I can like a nerd from research and talking to others.

Nullspace, You should be glad your fiance is willing to make you a part of her medical play...so many others on this site don't have anyone to share their fantasy with. You can get plenty of good advice here so enjoy.

I have yet to tell my boyfriend about this site or about my medfet. He's not very open to trying new things when it comes to sex.

My partner knows about my med-fetish and also about me joining this site. I feel that if I can't tell my partner what pleases me I shouldn't be with that person. They don't have to be into the same things as I am, but we should at least know what floats the other's boat so to speak. I would try something the other partner likes even if I didn't think it was my thing as long as it wasn't something that was a deal breaker for me. If it was a dealbreaker and they could not give it up we probably would not be together. So far things have worked out great between my partner and I he tries my fetish, I try new things that he likes( and he did tell me he will never do the one thing that he had done in the past that totally squicks me.)

My partner knows about my med-fetish, but not about this site. I would tell him though, it just hasn't come up. I certainly don't think it would bother him.

I wish my wife would consider med play, but she doesn't. She wouldn't like it if she found out I was on this site. I'm glad that a lot of you don't have this problem.

My wife knew about my interest from the start of our marriage and I would question her about her gyn appointments when she was home. We had some really hot sex while she told me all that happened in the examining room. She doesn't share my interest but will indulge me from time to time and I have actually built a faux exam table that works pretty well. She knows that I probably visit sites devoted to this but I've not actually told her and she wouldn't mind if it makes me happy.

To me, the "med fetish thing" is about sharing with like minded people (like the ones on this site). I don't want my spouse involved as it might upset the balance of our relationship. I would bet that most people who are into med fet have strong relationships with thier spouse or s/o. THe beauty of the med fetish is that it is not just about sex.

Well my wife and I role play the entire med fetish thing , but we don't use the word fetish , (for whatever reason ) good girl thing , but she doesn't know about this site , I am new so to here , enjoy it but not quite ready to share the site so to speak

My wife would kill me. She knew at one point I had an interest in this a little, but when we were going through marriage counseling she said she doesn't want me doing anything with medfet. I love her and my son dearly, so I keep this private. Even though she knows it turns me on to see her getting examined by her doctor.

My wife is a professional - nurse at the children department of the local hospital. Unfortunately, she does not like medical plays saying the medicine is a very serious thing to misuse it that way. She knows I write MedFet stories (in Czech, of course), but she refuses to read them. She does not know about my membership in this site and she cannot find out that because she does not understand English.

I feel priviledged because my girlfriend shares my interest in medfet. There are not many girls out there who would be happy to insert a catheter or urethral sound in my pee-hole - I'm a lucky guy!!!

My wife certainly doesn't know. She had a very inhibited childhood and dislikes what she calls my 'weird interest'. I made the mistake of telling her about my doctor fantasies early in our marriage and she was horrified. As a result I was never allowed to attend her medical appointments, or play doctor. We no longer talk about it but she is pretty smart so probably thinks I am looking at porn when on the computer. All this apart we have a very happy marriage and I have no intention of spoiling that, so have learnt to keep my fantasies to myself.

I am delighted to hear that so many of you are able to share your enthusiasm with understanding partners. Make the most of it.

I am not sure many couples come to this board together... after all, if your partner is interested in medfet, you don't really need to come on this board to talk about it 😉

Ummm no, I must say I have not come clean to my partner about my med fet or activity here. I think it goes back to the old 'freak factor' where you just feel really naughty or strange for deviating from the norm. She's quite vanilla too so I'm not sure how it would go down. But the more I engage with this site the more less bizarre it feels.

Funny thing is that I have had several previous girlfriends who got into it with me and I have always been surprised how willing a lot of women are to try it out. Some girlfriends just played along to keep me happy but a couple got really into it. They were all people that liked a bit of bondage and role-play in general though so it was quite easy to introduce the concept as the erotic boundaries had already been pushed out a bit,

I'm going to work on it though.

SFS

SFS I think you should! I am a female and I would be willing to try almost anything that my boyfriend wanted to once, with the exception of some very extreme fetishes.

Since I last posted on this thread, I have a new boyfriend, who is incredibly open... As we havent been together too long, I havent introduced the idea fully yet, other than telling him the idea of "doctor play" turns me on. (I mean, to what extent.) We were sharing fantasies last week and he brought up the nurse/ patient roles. I don't think he has the secret fetish, but I am quite hopeful he'd experiment!

My wife and I often discuss "playing doctor" but for the most it is more part of foreplay than a true exam. She doesn't like for me to do things without her being involved, but I don't know if I will spring this on her too soon or not. She tells me not to waste time masturbating by myself, she wants to know so she can do it, which is not all that bad either.

I would never tell my wife about any of my fetishes. I think she would say I was tatally perverted and probably wouldn't talk to me for a long time. She is very STRAIGHT. She always wants the mission style and never try anything new. She can't cum any more because she had a historectomy and all the nerves where cut. What a butcher. At the time she was fairly young and we didn't know what was going on. I started reading about it and realized that is what happened. The Dr. didn't reconnect any nerves. Sto threw the years I have developed these fetishes to take the place of not much sex.

I agree with Sleuth - very sad not to have relationships where this is open. Secrecy in any form is usually a difficulty in relationships. However, it is perfectly well expected that we all do what we need to do...

but doesn't make it any less sad.

My wife knows I look at medical porn and does not like it. So I have made a point not to tell her about this site.

My gf does not know that I am on this site nor does she know I look at med porn. I did very recently tell her about some of my medfets though. It is still early in our relationship, so I have not told her everything that I would like her to do and vice versa yet. I hope to at some point...

I'm married 6 Years now, and I haven't told my wife anything about my interests. I think it's too late now.

My wife has no idea,however, ex-girlfriends knew and other female friends on whom I practice know.

My GF has no idea about this fetish. I am not sure just yet how to address it with her, or if it will be my dark secret for a bit longer :p

I didn`t tell my boyfriend either because I just can`t imagine him in rhe role of the strict doc, he is too kind.

I have never had a direct conversation with my wife about this fetish. I do believe that she may have some clues that I am into this. I've been able to attend some of her exams, especially when she was pregnant with our children. When I haven't been with her, I always ask her all of the details that night. When the time is right maybe a full discussion will happen with her about this side of me.

I haven't told my husband that i'm on the site, but not because i think he'd disapprove or try to persuade me to not be a member etc. I haven't told him as he isn't interested in this sort of thing in the slightest from what i have judged over the years.

Tell him that you are in this site is maybe the best way for him to know more about your sexuality and medfet intersts. I think that would be good for both and for your relationship. and who knows? maybe he'll find exciting anything in this small univers of ours. It's hard to me imaginig a man who wouldn't like to see her girlfirend or wife with her pussy opened wide with a speculum, but then it's me...