No butt play for lots of women

I can understand how so many women give a hard no here.

I really think this is an individual thing - and every woman is different. For example, in medical play, I like the inclusion of rectal temperature, rectal examination, suppositories and enemas. But for me, it is because I like elements of embarrassment and submission in medical role play- and that is the height of embarrassment in my opinion (especially if the doctor comments, etc). However, I do not enjoy being ‘turned on’ in medical play, or when medical play becomes sexual. It’s just not my thing at all. Similarly, I don’t enjoy anal play in sexual situations. No toys, no (non medical) fingering or insertions, and definitely no anal sex. I’ve never done it and I have no interest in trying, or being ‘persuaded’ to do so. We all have our own version of what turns us on… and for me, that’s definitely not it.

Anal play is amazing. That’s. Yeah. Y’all said all the things already.

But it. Is. Ahhhhmazing.

@Rigel internet search came up with 25-36 percent women have tried or have anal intercourse regularly..

The flip side of this that there are a lot of frustrated men wanting anal intercourse. 👹👹👹

The flip side of this that there are a lot of frustrated men wanting anal intercourse. 👹👹👹

@Enough Any kind of sex is what I would think they would want. 😜

This discussion, while interesting, is hardly dispositive of 'normal' given the group discussing it. I belong to a few adult oriented groups and the population of Zity is one of the most anal-focused groups I've encountered. I mean the largest sub kink on here is enemas most likely followed by diapers. MedFet follows 3rd but even the med fetters are obsessed with rectal temps etc.

While anal play is a lot more mainstream than it's ever been, this website is a self-selected group of anal fanatics lol.

The 20-30% of women engaging in Anal is likely skewed to the younger demographic (Millennial and younger) while the average population here skews Boomer hard. I'd love to see the stats on Boomer women and anal. Yes I partake, but I don't think I'm average for my generation.

A quick internet search came up with 25-36 percent women have tried or have anal intercourse regularly (2+ times per month).

The statistic seems rather useless when it includes "have tried" (i.e., may have tried it ONCE in a lifetime), all the way to those who practice regularly...

When I was bi and with my fiance let him try it twice. It hurt and bad. I always try something at least twice. Then when I met the girl who started me on enemas things changed. She moved in with me. After sex one night we started talking about it. I even asked her what is wrong with my vagina. She said she just loves anal and I should try more. I knew she loved anal. I didn't mind using my fingers or toys on her. I told her I was worried that she may put a finger or something in me and feel something or take something out and it is dirty. She asked if I ever felt anything in her or pulled a toy out of her dirty and I said no. She said that is because she does enemas. I cringed at the thought because I remembered the one I got when I was nine. Then she asked if I would help her with her enemas. So for weeks I helped her and watched her have orgasm after intense orgasms. I finally got up the nerve to try. Granted it took weeks before I could take a full bag. But I started to like the clean feeling and orgasms. Now I love anal with toys and fingers only when I am clean inside and out. We came to the conclusion that it was all a cleanliness thing with me. Plus if I had poop inside me it probably made his penis seem longer which would hurt as well. Now I am a lesbian so no slamming anything in my ass. I am just more relaxed.

Bonjour à tous, hello all , guten Morgen zusammen

I find that anal sex is more "pure" than making love normally, because it shows a great hunger, a great desire, a mutual trust, and in the action, which can be very hot, if the lady loves it, it's terribly exciting because the anal ring gives an extraordinary massage of the cock, difficult to resist for long.

I initiated my lover when we were both in our sixties. We found there a very passionate expression of our desire.

Of course, the sphincter must get used to the small enlargement, and this must be done gradually with patience and attention to others.

The angle of penetration, at the beginning, must also be chosen well...

But once the physical agreement is underway, when my lady begins to want to impale herself on my cock, deeper and deeper, the vision of her beautiful blooming buttocks sucking my excited and hard member... It's paradise ! She doesn't want me to go out anymore, she asks again and again, we have videos where this magic word, "again" takes me to 7th heaven, and often, it's me who asks for mercy so as not to cum too quickly, because at our ages, old batteries don't charge as quickly... It's like electric cars!

@Nurse_Phillips Zity is one of the most anal-focused groups I've encountered.

We are probably the most enema-focused group on the web....

Anal sex is amazing! My anal orgasms are so much more intense than my vaginal orgasms…there are so many nerve endings in the anus that when a man inserts his meaty thermometer inside my tight hole it’s total euphoria for me🍑🍆

The flip side of this that there are a lot of frustrated men wanting anal intercourse. 👹👹👹

I agree.... unfortunately. 😁😁😁😁

@Nurse_Phillips

I think you are more mainstream than you think. Anal was a popular method of birth control before pills were available.

Anal is really great !!!

However it depends on the size of his cock.

I love having him unload in my asshole..mmm

Merel

I think there needs to be a second question. Have you had an anal experience? Most women I have had tell me that they don't want any anal at all, have had a negative anal experience when they were younger. Either an overly enthusiastic partner or one who having agreed to just try the tip, then tried to shove the full length up there. Another common turn off was no lube or not enough lube leading to a painful anal experience and therefore a reluctance to go there again. As Men it is our responsibility to give love and pleasure sensitively and be guided by our partners desires. If we get that right then their desires for more and more get triggered and we more to a more mutually beneficial sexual experience.

so I agree with @Merel , anal is great

I've replied in this post some time back but after reading the latest posts I just had to comment once again.

Personally I've enjoyed anal sex since I was 16, the 3rd time I had sex it was anal and I was fine with it even back then. To be fair I had a great lover (he was 25) that knew what he was doing, used a glove, lots of lube and took his time. Frankly I found anal more pleasurable than vaginal sex initially but eventually vaginal sex was great too. I've been bi for a lot of years - many many ladies I've known over the years enjoy anal play - to be fair - not all enjoy anal sex some just prefer anal massage.

In the last year I've met a number of young gals that practice a thing called AO - Anal Only sex - primarily a means of natural birth control but they also tout way stronger orgasms - which I for one can attest to. For anyone interested there is an AO web site - most of the participants are female.

From what I see on the internet anal sex is getting more popular these days.

BJ

@valleyman I do everything you say you would do except I’d give that woman a series of warm enemas, at least two soapy full bags then a salt water rinse. I love them clean and I love administering enemas.

@Nurse_Phillips Guilty as charged, I'm quite anal oriented.

I'm wondering about your age group analysis. I think there are two counteracting factors on this.

Older people grew up in an age where rectal temperatures were commonplace and, depending on the country, suppositories or enemas… not to mention digital rectal exams to confirm appendicitis. So they were used to getting things up the anus for medical reasons. Clearly this created a fetish for me.

At the same time, at the time, anal sex was taboo, and in fact outlawed in many jurisdictions (including many US states). Anything anal for a male was considered associated with homosexuality when I was a teenager, and homosexuality, though legal, was largely considered by teenagers as some kind of hideous abnormality.

Younger people grew up at an age when these intimate medical procedures have largely been phased out.

At the same time, anal sex, dildos, plugs, "pegging" are now, I would not say mainstream, but at least less taboo.

Combine this with the fact that some Western women, in the past, used anal as a contraception method, whereas today it's more like Muslim girls preserving their hymen.

I thus think that today plugs and anal sex are more mainstream for younger people, and anal medically-oriented activities (digital rectal exam, suppositories, enemas…) are more for older people. What do you think?

@Jacana I think you may be right. I doubt anyone in the US born much after 1985 ever even had a rectal temp taken. Technology had made them, well if not obsolete then unnecessary. Add in changes to support patient modesty and things were different for them. And, as you say, the mainstreaming of porn has introduced them to the idea of anal sex more than we were. I read an article suggesting a college educated woman in her 20’s to 30’s is the demographic who most likely say they have tried/do anal with a partner.

@Nurse_Phillips Indeed. And maybe some young women feel compelled to do it because women in porn do it and their partners expect it, much like many women shave their pubes because porn has bare snatches.

Unsure about cut-off dates for rectal temperatures and suppositories in France… but certainly nowadays, there are far fewer drugs in suppository form than back in the days. Most have been discontinued I think. Rectal temperatures are clearly considered old-fashioned.

Mainstreaming higher cut and smaller bathing suits had as much to do with bare pussies as porn in my opinion. It’s easier to make the decision to take it all off to see how it looks if you’re already shaving off most of it so it doesn’t show out of your clothes

This is all normal. The anus is absolutely not suitable for penetration. But with due care and caution it is possible to produce very intense orgasms.

Some women enjoy anal sex and it shouldn’t be a guilty pleasure ...

https://theconversation.com/some-women-enjoy-anal-sex-it-shouldnt-be-a-guilty-pleasure-221373

Some women enjoy anal sex and it shouldn’t be a guilty pleasure ...

https://theconversation.com/some-women-enjoy-anal-sex-it-shouldnt-be-a-guilty-pleasure-221373

Good article and no one should feel guilty if they enjoy it. Big problem is getting an open and honest sample pool to provide honest inputs on the topic. Supposedly, 30% of women indulge in anal sex per NIH. My guess is there are more women (and men) that enjoy it but won’t talk or admit to it, even in a confidential poll.

There’s a lot of guys that don’t want anal play as well………

Have only butt play with one gal. We were young and in college...back in the days when nothing was off limits. Ahhhh the good ole days...

More or less continuing in the theme of my first post, we're not a normal distribution. Yes, I like butt play. No where near as much as many of you do but I like it on occasion. I enjoy fingers but would rather have a cock in my pussy than my butt, but anyway, my point is that the one time I had any sort of conversation about this with my 'normal' girlfriends, the majority of them were 'ewwww' about it. This wasn't that long ago so figure a group of a half dozen 60ish woman with one talking about her new boyfriend wanting to 'do butt stuff' and them all reacting as a hard no. I was NOT about to step up and extol the virtues of butt play.

My point, a lot of women possibly don't like it, and those that do are very likely peer-pressured into keeping quiet. Which is why I don't trust surveys.

the one time I had any sort of conversation about this with my 'normal' girlfriends, the majority of them were 'ewwww' about it. This wasn't that long ago so figure a group of a half dozen 60ish woman with one talking about her new boyfriend wanting to 'do butt stuff' and them all reacting as a hard no. I was NOT about to step up and extol the virtues of butt play.

My point, a lot of women possibly don't like it, and those that do are very likely peer-pressured into keeping quiet. Which is why I don't trust surveys.

Yes, shyness and the fear of blame will be the reason of it !! - but, who knows exactly, what will be in the bedroom of those women ??

Anal sex can be quite exciting, I enjoy the stretching . . .and the need to push back on him to open up. Much like the enjoyment of inserting a thick enema nozzle or a dildo. I like to be gaped and have my lover shoot his cum onto and into my gaped hole. I find this erotic.

Anal sex can be quite exciting, I enjoy the stretching . . .and the need to push back on him to open up. Much like the enjoyment of inserting a thick enema nozzle or a dildo. I like to be gaped and have my lover shoot his cum onto and into my gaped hole. I find this erotic.

@ylwbird Will you marry me? 😜 LOL 😆