Punished for masturbating?

Several members here mention being walked on or “caught” masturbating. This happened to me a couple times with my mother, and, boy, the first time, was she disturbed, she clearly disapproved, but however did not prohibit the act.

Have some of you been punished for masturbating by parents/relatives/caregivers, or threatened with punishment if caught again?

I was ‘caught’ by both parents at different times. The first time it happened they told me that they disapproved of the practice but never prohibited it or threatened punishment. When caught after those first times, their reaction amounted to an eye-roll and exiting the scene.

the first time, was she disturbed, she clearly disapproved, but however did not prohibit the act.

I was ‘caught’ by both parents at different times. The first time it happened they told my that they disapproved of the practice but never prohibited it or threatened punishment.

Perhaps these parents recognized the impossibility of policing someone's sexual urges and furtive practices. Might as well try to command the tide to never occur again … ha ha

I was caught at about 14 years old by my mother who was quite a religious person. She passed her observation to my father who spanked me. It wasn't the last time I got caught and I was also spanked by a total stranger who caught me. There you go. Punishment has been dolled out to me anyway.

I think I mentioned this in another post that my father caught me one morning in bed totally naked and pounding it! I was up to “the feeling” and he pulled me over his lap and started spanking me, and that pushed me over the edge and made a mess all over his trousers! After that he always knocked on my door before entering and never scolded me again for masturbating. I was 14 at the time.

I got caught masturbating quite a bit growing up. My dad was fine with masturbating, but he was very against porn. Probably five or six times he caught me with it between the age of 15 to 19.

My grandfather was against masturbation in general. Once he even spanked me for having a wet dream.

@DomGreekChi What happened about the porn?

My dad would blister my ass with the belt. The most humiliating time, I was pretty close when he caught me, so I finished mid spanking. First time he ever spanked me on the cock and balls.

My mom caught me, not in the act though. I was just sloppy in cleaning up. She talked to my dad, and my dad gave me the ‘talk’. lord that was insufferable. Lol. He told me to do more sports or something dumb. I don’t quite remember. The only thing I learnt from that experience was, do not use socks, just do it in the shower.

I came awfully close to getting caught, but never actually did. I mean, most people have urges, and need to address them in a healthy way. Things would be much better, if you could just approach someone that you’re attracted to, and ask them to indulge you. But, that’s not reality for some of us.

@DomGreekChi gay or straight porn?

Never got caught “in the act”. My want, however, was to jerk off under the covers at night into a handkerchief and then stash it under my pillow (the handkerchief, dummy, not my pecker!!). Once in a while I would forget to toss the handkerchief in the hamper so I'm pretty sure mom didn't take long to figure out what I was up to; she was an RN and pretty savey about things in general…. Anyhow, nothing was ever said.

BTW someone in an earlier post mentioned socks and, yes, when I didn't have a hanky nearby, a sock was the next best thing. How yucky, eh - a mushy hand puppet!!!

I reckon many of us can relate to the sock scenario …..?

@duhwizzard I think my mother saw semen stains in pajamas etc but affected not to see them. Unless she walked on me doing it, she could pretend I was not doing it.

Was not really punished but scolded when my mom caught me playing around with the enema. One time she caught me using the turkey baster as an enema. She yelled you can hurt yourself. If you want an enema I will give you one. What is wrong with you she said. I never had her give me the enema then. I was so ashamed and embarrassed.

Although my mother caught me once masturbating in my bed while taking a soapy enema and therefore knew, that masturbating with an enema was my preferred method of getting sexual release, she never mentioned what happened, nor to me or other family members. In the 50s and 60s it was widely accepted that boys were masturbating, although my method combined with enemas was not generally practiced. She also knew, that my father enjoyed enemas she had to give him for medical reasons. I never found out if they included enemas for prelude of marital intercourse or if my mother used enemas as replacement for sex after my father died. Nevertheless, I am glad that my mother accepted my activities, therefore I never felt myself guilty for this unusual way of getting sexual release as a horny boy.

Socks are a convenient depository and one that I used growing up. My mom never complained about that their use for that likely because I always turned my socks right-side out before putting them in the hamper. That saved my mom from having to reach into a wrong-side out sock to reverse it. Squish! They still may be crusty, but they often got crusty just from my sweaty teen feet.

While in the service you were issued a sock bag to store your dirty socks in and i would cum in my socks and i think most every one did, those bags were thrown in the laundry,they were a nylon mesh bag and while talking to a laundry worker he said “we never opened those bags” they just threw them in the machines with everything else! Cant say that i blame them!

After Mom walked in on me masturbating a few times while sitting at my little desk while I was supposed to be doing school homework assignments, she instructed me to please close the bedroom door while doing homework. She would then knock a couple of quick knuckle raps on the door and quickly open the door to see what was happening. Always seemed kind of weird to me how the door would then be closed without a word being said. After a few times of this happening she must have finally said something to my Dad about my “homework ” sessions.

One early evening he came in and I was really doing homework, and not the fun kind, and he says “I have something here that I want you to study”. He hands me a STACK of early explicit magazines with lots of hot naked babes in them, turns around and walks out. This is in the early 60's when you didn't ever see those kinds of publications around as a young kid.

I am positive to this day he was told to give me “the” talk by Mom and this was his answer. Holy crap, the man was my hero for many years after that evening and I am sure he did not tell Mom what he did or said as she was a very religious church going woman that insisted we all had to go to church three times a week, including Dad!!

@DomGreekChi gay or straight porn?

It was usually a Hustler magazine I stole from my older brother.

For me I masturbated after being punished as a teen. My parents spanked us well into our teens (I had two sisters) bare bum over Dads knee. In my teens the sensation of getting spanked and my penis rubbing on his pant legs caused an erection which he always ignored. Afterward in my room I would jerk off with my butt on fire. My older sister walked in on me jerking and said "you as well" - she masturbated as well!

Only got caught once by my mom when I was around 12 or 13. I received a bare bottomed spanking in front of my sister and then when I stood up my mother slapped my penis hard several times and told me that was not to be played with. So many things from my childhood coming back in therapy lately I had forgotten. 😢

I didn't have the courage to try getting caught very often, but when I did get the guts 'to let it happen' I wasn't punished. I'm glad my wife tolerates my emerging exhibitionist tendencies

I received a bare bottomed spanking in front of my sister and then when I stood up my mother slapped my penis hard several times and told me that was not to be played with.

Wow. Interesting to read the different reactions parents had.... I was about 5 when because of getting poison Ivy I was rubbing my penis where I had gotten it, producing and erection that my mom saw. It was no big deal for her.

Masturbating shouldn't be considered a big deal, it's natural for kids - or anybody - to do it. Unless it becomes obsesive or compulsive, parents should give their kids some privacy. If you're married or with an SO and they catch you (or you catch them) - hopefully they will "lend a hand".

Never punished! My father walked in on me several times while I was masturbating. I was always completely naked and stretched across the bed. Being uncovered there was no hiding the fact but I did attempt to hide my penis with my hand. "Nice try" he said! 😉

One time that he walked in on me, I was masturbating while looking at one of his Hustler magazines. He later mentioned to me that he now realized why his porn stash was in disarray! Guilty!

I was never punished for masturbating but I did have an interesting experience. When I was about 11 not too long after I started menstruating I started to use my mothers vibrator fairly frequently. One day She walked in on me using it in her bathroom shower, I hadn't turned the water on so you couldn't miss it.

Later in the day we had a conversation. She was matter-of-fact about the whole thing. The only thing that bothered her was she wasn't into sharing her sex toys. She was very fastidious and always put fresh condom on the vibrator every time before she used it. Catching me in the shower was really an accident but she had suspected I was using the vibrator for a while she noticed the condom supply was going down faster and then she noticed the knot was tighter than the condom was looser on the dildo then when she put it on, she really stretched it a lot more than I did when I put a fresh condom on it and put it back in her bedside drawer.

She bought a gross i.e. 144 Ramses condoms just for use with her dildo. We ended up looking at a couple of sex toy catalogs together and I picked out a straight vibrator/dildo more or less just like hers but smaller in diameter. I also wanted a rabbit type as well. She went into New York the next day and came home with the vibrator/dildo I wanted and also a rabbit.

A couple of days later she dragged me to our local pharmacy. It was kind of an old-fashioned place, a holdover from the days in Connecticut where all contraceptives were behind the counter thing. My mom knew the woman that worked there but primarily handled rubber goods and contraceptives. I swear we spent while more than an hour in there with my mom in the saleslady looking at different brands of diaphragms and spermicides. My mom ended up buying a new diaphragm and a couple of tubes of spermicide along with condoms for me to use with my new dildo.

It was my first time that my mom bought contraceptives at the drugstore when it I was with her. We had bought menstrual sanitary supplies like napkins and tampons together but never contraceptives. I do recall a couple of times when we would go to the drugstore and she would get everything we needed, get back to the car and say she "forgot something". Invariably she would come back with a couple of tubes of Koromex or Ortho vaginal cream. At the time that seem kind of odd to me that she would not buy it in with me present. Perhaps she didn't want to be embarrassed buying it or maybe didn't want me to be embarrassed.

When we are home she made no attempt whatsoever to hide what she bought and often would ask my sister or my self to carry it upstairs and put it away in the bathroom.

Dita

Your mother was obviously very progressive @Dita . Pity more parents weren't as forward thinking.

My late wife took her daughter out to buy a vibrator for her 16th birthday.

I was caught as a child a few times and punished - spanked. This was prepubescent. It made me more careful about where and when. With my own sons I tried to be a lot more open minded. I addressed it as ‘that’s something you do in private’ the few times I saw one of them. I did buy them condoms once they started dating. There was no way I wanted them as teen parents.

@Nurse_Phillips I think I read somewhere that some "child care" books used to advise not to spank masturbators, so as not to establish a link between sexual pleasure and spanking. 😉