Men having sex with men as we get older

I engage in M2M, MFM, & M2F as often as possible. I became interested in MFM and M2M with my first wife. We had a friend of mine as a partner and I myself was hooked forever after. I prefer M2F and MFM but have a friend coming over tomorrow for a M2M morning of fun. If it feels good and no one is getting hurt and everyone is in agreement, I go for it. Plan to have many more enjoyable experiences in my lifetime.

Any kind of intimate contact is riskier during this pandemic. Hope you are both covid-19 free!!

I would like to find a man to play with now after 15 years of sexless marriage. I have very strong concerns about STD’s. I’m a really older guy, but still have strong sexual desires. Sex play and enemas would be great!

I am 51 recently divorced from my wife. I have been finding it hard to hook back up with women and have thought about exploring sex with guys. I have wondered what it would feel like to be penetrated and then to penetrate a guy. Starting with some spanking and enema play. I haven't done as growning-up christen I am afraid of the whole going to hell thing.

I am 51 recently divorced from my wife. I have been finding it hard to hook back up with women and have thought about exploring sex with guys. I have wondered what it would feel like to be penetrated and then to penetrate a guy. Starting with some spanking and enema play. I haven't done as growning-up christen I am afraid of the whole going to hell thing.

Don’t worry, there is no hell.

@Pajamaboy_Trucker said

I am 51 recently divorced from my wife. I have been finding it hard to hook back up with women and have thought about exploring sex with guys. I have wondered what it would feel like to be penetrated and then to penetrate a guy. Starting with some spanking and enema play. I haven't done as growning-up christen I am afraid of the whole going to hell thing.

@gwhap said

Don’t worry, there is no hell.

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Don't worry, there is no reward going to heaven either; no god, no angels, no devils, no soul, no afterlife and no spirit either; none of that crap.

It's all a fairy tale. Do not fall for it.

Do what makes you happy and screw the rest.

When you are dead, it's all over.

You will rot in the ground like every other dead organism on earth for the last four and a half billion years.

You might as well have a good time now.

Quite often that's what a lot of older guys like guys like. I'm in the older guys it doesn't matter what we do

Probably the only way it will happen for me is if my girlfriend shows an interest in watching a guy fuck me or me fuck a guy. If it turns her on I’d do it.

Im very curious about that scenario,i probably wouldnt go so far as anal sex but would likely try sucking and mutual masturbation

Probably the only way it will happen for me is if my girlfriend shows an interest in watching a guy fuck me or me fuck a guy. If it turns her on I’d do it.

I wouldn't have sex with another guy even to please my wife. If she wanted to see that I'd turn her on to gay porn or hire a couple of guys for her to watch. I'd have no issue watching with her, but I wouldn't participate

Previous, I would agree based upon my own experiences; but now that I stopped shaving my bod and let it all grow out I feel very viral like a big bear looking to mate with females.

I was born in 1947. I have called myself bisexual for quite some time but now prefer the “fluid” concept. Although to be accurate we should all just call ourselves “sexual”.

Better yet, we can just call ourselves “horney”, because we can always find a way to get ourselves off. Sorry, sometimes I get disgusted with myself for dissecting and classifying everything. I would do better if I just used body language.

When 50 I got up the nerve to say I was bisexual to a friend. He said he had never considered himself bisexual, which seemed odd to me since he was the one that had been fucking me.

After processing that for a few minutes I realized he was right, because he was always on top. He was always “the man”. Bisexuality is not a matter of who you fuck, so much as a matter of who YOU are when you fuck.

I don't know why we think the man's top position is the “dominant” position? Even women think that way? If I had 50 men banging me, I might be on bottom, but I would be the one getting what he wanted - the most pleasure.

So throughout history, has the old missionary position been “role playing”? Why can't we just give each other pleasure without a hierarchy?

The man may be giving the woman a load of sperm (there, take that) but for many hours, it will be reminding her of how she was desired. While the man has probably already forgotten about it.

Social pressure eased off enough for me to admit to myself I was bisexual when I was 50, but when I was 15 I knew I wanted to suck dick. My sexuality did not come to a head until 50 because while still young, stupid, and susceptible to peer pressure - I married. But by 50 the marriage was pretty much over.

. . . . . After processing that for a few minutes I realized he was right, because he was always on top. He was always “the man”. Bisexuality is not a matter of who you fuck, so much as a matter of who YOU are when you fuck. . . .

Quite the contrary, bisexuality IS EXACTLY about WHO you fuck.

If you fuck someone of both the male and female sex, you ARE bisexual.

Fuck people only of your same sex, you are HOMOsexual.

Fuck people only of your opposite sex, you re HETEROsexual.

Then let me say it another way. By sometimes taking on the role of a man, I get to have the “man” experience, and when I attempt to experience what women experience (however poorly I do at that) I do get some idea of the “woman” experience.

So while I have tried to function as both a pussy and a dick, my friend has only had the dick experience. I'm bi and he is not.

So while I have tried to function as both a pussy and a dick, my friend has only had the dick experience. I'm bi and he is not.

Your friend is bisexual, same sex activity - top or bottom, oral, hand jobs, etc. - is a homosexual act. If he fucks or has other sexual relations with women he is bisexual.

Both you @gwhap and @SwitchableSusie have nailed it - does not matter who is the top or bottom… it's as you have said.

This has taken on a life of its own!

From my original post:

He said he had never considered himself bisexual, which seemed odd to me since he was the one that had been fucking me.

I Understand what your saying, because I was using the same definition untill my friend made his curious statement. That statement started 23 years of reconsidering. It's fun to muse about such things, so consider:

My friend would fuck anything with a hole, including, but not limited to; horses, cows, and fence posts. He did not require anything from his sex partners other than they hold still for a minute, and I doubt any of his partners expected him to get on Facebook and change his relationship status - because there was no relationship.

Have you heard the saying, “Women are for babies, and men are for fun.” Apparently it is a very popular saying, so I guess my friend has a lot of company. Shall we reward them all with a classification title? Does masturbating mean I am really homosexual? Now I'm getting stupid; sorry.

I think I'll stick with what I said in the beginning. We are all just “Sexual”.

Being bi myself, I've been doing it on and off for some sixty years. When you have an intense feeling for Love, you do what you need to do in order to fulfill that feeling. It's as simple as that.

I'm a 60 plus year old male. Married over 40 years with kids and grad kids. I've become more and more interested in having a sexual encounter with another guy. I'd like to try giving a blowjob as well as being a bottom cat. The thought of a 9 inch cock in my ass just drives me crazy. I don't know if it will ever happen but I can dream. Any older guys have the same desire??

I'm a 60 plus year old male. Married over 40 years with kids and grad kids. I've become more and more interested in having a sexual encounter with another guy. I'd like to try giving a blowjob as well as being a bottom cat. The thought of a 9 inch cock in my ass just drives me crazy. I don't know if it will ever happen but I can dream. Any older guys have the same desire??

Yes, like you, I’ve been straight all my life, married 42 years, kids, grandkids, etc. However, I love “all things anal”. When I had prostate cancer a few years ago, the meds, radiation, etc. killed any future “traditional M2F“ sex for me. Meds made my boobs grow and I began to have great urges to be anally fucked. I’ve still not found a guy who will mount me, but DO really enjoy using butt plugs and dildos up my backside. So yes, now at 73, I really do have a desire to engage in M2M sex as a bottom. I cant “get it” any other way now. My wife is very vanilla and won’t even consider pegging me.

@KY_kid I'm a 60 plus year old male. Married over 40 years … I don't know if it will ever happen but I can dream. Any older guys have the same desire??

Yup - I'm in a similar boat, and yes I dream too!

@Jonah_R

When 50 I got up the nerve to say I was bisexual to a friend. He said he had never considered himself bisexual, which seemed odd to me since he was the one that had been fucking me.

This made me lol. That was a great deadpan delivery. I am bisexual and always have been. I think your musings that we are all just sexual has some merit, but that is likely because of my life and experience. I know plenty of people on one pole or the other of the Kinsey scale who would disagree with us .

I don't know why we think the man's top position is the “dominant” position? Even women think that way? If I had 50 men banging me, I might be on bottom, but I would be the one getting what he wanted - the most pleasure.

Since you asked, I don’t think most women think this way. I don’t consider every receiving act to be submissive. Do you consider every penetrative act to be dominating? Top and bottom may be helpful terms to express what you want, but they’re just positions. The whole concept of domination or that the receptive partner is always ”feminized” comes from patriarchal thinking.

In an earlier post I said:

I don't know why we think the man's top position is the “dominant” position? Even women think that way? If I had 50 men banging me, I might be on bottom, but I would be the one getting what he wanted - the most pleasure.

And you (@play7399) replied:

"Since you asked, I don’t think most women think this way. I don’t consider every receiving act to be submissive. Do you consider every penetrative act to be dominating? Top and bottom may be helpful terms to express what you want, but they’re just positions. The whole concept of domination or that the receptive partner is always ”feminized” comes from patriarchal thinking."

Actually, I did not say "most women". But now that you mention it, we are still living in a patriarchal society, and sadly, I believe most women do still think in terms of man-top-dominant. I probably shouldn't say they "think" in those terms, at least not consciously, so I'll just say they "react" in those terms. Let me explain why I say that.

I used to conduct my own sex survey by asking my women friends if they would like to watch their man have sex with another man. Those who had respect for their man, said they would like to see him be on top, while those who were "put out" with their man wanted him to be on bottom.

I did not ask them about top or bottom, they volunteered that information because it had meaning to them. We all have a lot of cognitive dissonance, and it will take a few lifetimes to change that. Meanwhile, some of us will speak the matriarchal language while the rest speak patriarchy.

As for the rest of your comment, you seem to be in complete agreement with me, but without knowing it. I will try to be more exact with my wording.

@Jonah_R I might be on bottom, but I would be the one getting what he wanted - the most pleasure.

I agree – much like when I would have a friend give me a large soapy enema or a spanking. Even though I was the passive one, I had instigated what was happening…

I think the answer (to the original question) can be found in the observation people (both sexes) starting nudism or swinging later in life.

I have not seen many younger people in either group.

Do we become more comfortable with our bodies - and sexual preferences? Or are we tried of worrying about it?

Good Lord, yes!! I started exploring my my bi-sexual side about a year ago! I've been enjoying every encounter! Totally enjoy the give and take of each experience!

Nope always been 100% straight my wife has a fantasy about men being with men I don't get that. She always asks me if I would be into that she thinks a man is so horny we will have sex with anyone willing man or woman. I guess that could be somewhat true when younger and hormones are at their peak. I never had any attraction to a man I did think about sex lot more during those late teen and 20's with females. I would think about my GF going down on me have to masturbate so I could get my homework done.

My first experience with a man was at a play party several years ago. One of the ladies had a trap on and asked for a volunteer. I volunteered and stood behind me inserted the strap on and started humping me. While she was doing this her boyfriend knely in front of me and sucked my cock. I had a MIND BLOWING orgasm! After that the three of us play together. I would play with her and he would play with my ass. I fond that an orgasm from a man doing me was just as nice as a woman.

My first experience with a man was at a play party several years ago. One of the ladies had a trap on and asked for a volunteer. I volunteered and stood behind me inserted the strap on and started humping me. While she was doing this her boyfriend knely in front of me and sucked my cock. I had a MIND BLOWING orgasm! After that the three of us play together. I would play with her and he would play with my ass. I fond that an orgasm from a man doing me was just as nice as a woman.

I would say that was one of the best ways you could have a 1st man experience

Not a chance in HELL!! I am stricty hetero and have no desire to experiment in, or partake with, another male in any sexual situation. PERIOD

I am 74, and during early teens and before I did the usual fooling around with buddies; stripping, jerking off, and such. It never went beyond that, and I discovered the joys of young budding breasts and wet pussies. However, if any of my buds previously had taken the initiative to do more, I would have easily gone along. Even at that early age I had a sexual interest in my backside and thought other young penises like my own would be fun to suck.

Fast forward to my forties and a lousy sex life with my wife. I traveled quite a bit, so I spent many nights alone in hotel rooms around my work territory. Naturally, that inevitably leads to lots of masturbation, and those earlier curious desires from my youth. I was loyal to my wife and never pursued other women, but rather began to refocus my sexual thoughts about being with other men. I was at this point in my life very reluctant to endanger my marriage, and deal with the whole “gay/bisexual” acceptance. I divorced and remarried in my fifties, and have become much more comfortable with M2M activity, and although I am very selective, I do enjoy oral sex with other older guys, and my biggest fantasy is to receive anal sex. Who knows, maybe some day it will happen.