Men having sex with men as we get older

For men born in the 1950s and 1960s (or later), to what extent are you now more likely to engage in such M2M activities as mutual masturbation and oral sex?

The is a question I’ve wondered about. Why is it that some men who have been straight all of their lives become curious about sex with another man. Many of these decide to act on that curiosity. I know I have and while I don’t feel attracted to men, I enjoy having sex with another guy. What changes? And why do men who gravitate to also having anal sex become either a bottom or a top? I think it’s an interesting topic and I’d love to see what everyone thinks.

I'm pretty sure there's another thread similar to this about men getting older... I took a quick look but can find it, and perhaps a mod can merge this into it...

Why is it that some men who have been straight all of their lives become curious about sex with another man.

What changes, you ask? See the sexless marriage thread. That's what changes!

I'm pretty sure there's another thread similar to this about men getting older... I took a quick look but can find it, and perhaps a mod can merge this into it...

You are correct.

I believe there is another, larger thread on the same subject, and when I eventually find it I will probably merge this into it.

67 straight male here. Never happened, never will. Can't even conceive of it. Have fun if you enjoy it.

Eric

Don't foresee myself doing that activity anytime soon. Likely never; no matter what my circumstances are. Love the softness, scent and curves of a female too much. Intimately, looking at a male does nothing for me. Just do what you got to do to be happy. You only go once around the ride.

Maybe some guys have had a curiosity or suppressed m2m desire most of their lives. As you get older - maybe it’s just time for them to find out about it - before they don’t have that option anymore. There are lots of opportunities for extracurricular m2f sex. I don’t think they develop a desire for m2m sex just because their wife isn’t interested anymore. It was there all along. Just my thoughts.

I understand how someone would think that you have had a repressed desire for men always and finally act on it. Just from my experience I know that’s not true. I’ve been in theatre my whole life and had many offers for sex from men for over fifty years and never had any interest. I thought I would never be with a man. My prompting started as sex in my marriage ebbed and then left. I still crave sex with a woman but settle for sex with a man when I can get it. The only part of having sex with a man that I crave is being fucked in the ass. I love that.

You are correct. I've merged this with another thread started only a few days ago.

I believe there is another, larger thread on the same subject, and when I eventually find it I will probably merge this into it.

Thanks DrZ you are the best! Regarding topic at hand - I mentioned in other threads that when I reached my mid-40's I literally got into women's girdles, panties, stockings, bras, etc... I was surprised how easy it became to find other men who were straight, and wow! were they ever straight) mostly married and very interested in seeing me wearing and showing off in the things I mentioned. No women were interested, well not directly, but one who came with her male friend was interested in me as well... As time when went on I found it exciting to seduce otherwise straight men... I should mention at the time I began my proclivities, I was not at all in a sexless marriage, but doing what I was doing did over time but the kibosh on my wife finding me sexy... so the marriage became sexless for her...

I see men having sex with other men as they get older as a byproduct of a sexless marriage or similar to what happens to men in prison, where they search for some kind of intimacy with another person. A sexless marriage or prison term can definitely cause an otherwise straight man to have homosexual sex.

@SwitchableSusie what are your thoughts about men's interests broadening with age... as for me, when I was in my 20's I couldn't get enough straight sex with first wife.. in my 30's with next gal, still lots of sex, but then role-play creep into it... still never dreamed of doing anything with men, that didn't happen till I was in my 40's and despite my 2 wife being super attractive and sexy, it seems the more I had sexually the more I wanted in terms of something different... I'm thinking about movie stars who have it all and still want a new partner....

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@SwitchableSusie what are your thoughts about men's interests broadening with age... as for me, when I was in my 20's I couldn't get enough straight sex with first wife.. in my 30's with next gal, still lots of sex, but then role-play creep into it... still never dreamed of doing anything with men, that didn't happen till I was in my 40's and despite my 2 wife being super attractive and sexy, it seems the more I had sexually the more I wanted in terms of something different... I'm thinking about movie stars who have it all and still want a new partner....

I do not think men's thoughts broaden with age with regard to wanting homosexual sex.

I think DESPERATION for some kind of sex increases when their wives become frigid and withholding of sex.

I do not think men's thoughts broaden with age with regard to wanting homosexual sex.

I think DESPERATION for some kind of sex increases when their wives become frigid and withholding of sex.

I am certain there are many men who are not in a sexless marriage or a sexless desert and yet still come to entertain interests in same-sex activities. Not out of desperation, but what I would think is a process of enlightenment. They come to realize that their initial ideas about sex same activities were not the natural order of the world, but were something imposed by society. And when there is a general change in social attitudes towards same-sex activity, realization comes - perhaps slowly - that it might not be such a hideous activity as they were taught when young.

Besides, with age comes the realization that many things we were taught when young are often clear and utter nonsense. Once that happens with a few tenets or beliefs, then many more come tumbling down like proverbial dominoes.

To me it seems like a positive evolution, of people abandoning imposed strictures and discovering new joys and ways of pleasure.

I have posted some thoughts on the other thread regarding this issue. But overall, I think for the men who actually follow through and do meet and have sex with other guys they always had the potential for M2M sex essentially they are bisexual. I think this is a prerequisite for men having sex with other men. The individual circumstances of a marriage may bring out a man's bisexuality if the sex dries up, but I really don't see a true heterosexual guy pursuing another guy for sex. The heterosexual guys go and chase other women if the marriage sex goes away.

I have posted some thoughts on the other thread regarding this issue. But overall, I think for the men who actually follow through and do meet and have sex with other guys they always had the potential for M2M sex essentially they are bisexual. I think this is a prerequisite for men having sex with other men. The individual circumstances of a marriage may bring out a man's bisexuality if the sex dries up, but I really don't see a true heterosexual guy pursuing another guy for sex. The heterosexual guys go and chase other women if the marriage sex goes away.

A circular argument: men only have sex with men if they are truly bisexual to begin with, even if they don't know it.

A comforting answer to all who think themselves 100% true and blue hetero for ever and ever or attach importance to a sexual identity label.

I like all sex and I’m very anal. I like my ass fucked. And I’ll top if my partner wants it.

Born 1963 here. I couldn't perform oral on another man, but I might accept under the right circumstances. Mutual masturbation would be exciting I think, and I am a lot more open to that idea than I would have been say twenty years ago.

I have received enemas from another guy several years ago, no other sex involved except that I masturbated during the prostate massage after the enemas. I am more open these days to the idea of being topped now than I have been in the past. I could probably go for topping another guy but my main interest would be in receiving, which would have to be part of the deal.

For the record - my M to M enema encounter had happened when I was married, and the sex had pretty much dried up (she is deceased now). I currently have a girl friend now who will offer up some anal play on my behind now and then, including enemas.

It’s far easier now. When I was growing up it was a huge taboo. I never even considered doing it. But now it’s completely different. I became curious and it was not a problem to find an opportunity to experience sex with another man.

Older here. Not interested in any form of M2M. For those that are desperate for sex - maybe ok for them. Delete this if offensive just my opinion. I

Older here. Not interested Not in any form of M2M. For those that are desperate for sex - maybe ok l for them. Delete this if offensive just my opinion. I know my posts are targeted.

I enjoy your opinions. Yea, I'm in the "desperate for sex" category for sure. As I've mentioned I have no romantic interest in men, and don't find their bodies sexy. Yet, I enjoyed playing around with men if some element of something feminine (like women's undergarments) are involved or discussed. My wife says this is because I need a few younger gals to play with instead..

Yea, I'm in the "desperate for sex" category for sure. As I've mentioned I have no romantic interest in men, and don't find their bodies sexy. Yet, I enjoyed playing around with men if some element of something feminine (like women's undergarments) are involved or discussed. My wife says this is because I need a few younger gals to play with instead..

I am not judging anyone for becoming bisexual/gay/kinky or just curious. If you get off on M2M as a sexual; outlet as you get older enjoy it and don't have a guilt trip over it. I never had the desire to explore with other men as I got older. I still crave younger voluptuous/athletic women - but realize my ability to attract them isn't that great anymore - probably zero! 😢

I think my interest in exploring M2M sex is the result of becoming impotent. I am 72 years old and have severe ED as a result of prostate cancer, radiation, meds, etc. I still would like to have traditional M2F intercourse with my wife but find that I can now only get orgasmic feelings through my asshole. I regularly wear butt plugs and occasionally penetrate myself with a dildo. It feels great, but I miss the closeness of a warm body being “in the mix”. My wife is not interested in pegging, thus the idea of hooking up with a male to fuck me in the ass has become very appealing. However, I have great concerns about STDs, AIDS, etc., AND want to be faithful to my wife of 41 years, so being anally fucked by a guy probably won’t happen....

I think my interest in exploring M2M sex is the result of becoming impotent. I am 72 years old and have severe ED as a result of prostate cancer, radiation, meds, etc. I still would like to have traditional M2F intercourse with my wife but find that I can now only get orgasmic feelings through my asshole. I regularly wear butt plugs and occasionally penetrate myself with a dildo. It feels great, but I miss the closeness of a warm body being “in the mix”. My wife is not interested in pegging, thus the idea of hooking up with a male to fuck me in the ass has become very appealing. However, I have great concerns about STDs, AIDS, etc., AND want to be faithful to my wife of 41 years, so being anally fucked by a guy probably won’t happen....

That was a very well stated, heartfelt statement.

I too was around 48 and found myself in a sexless marriage when I entertained the thought of a m2m experience. I looked on a web sight and found another business traveler like me that was in DFW regularly and he and I got together. He was in the same boat, and neither of us wanted to change our lives so we agreed to be exclusive fwb’s. I guess I was more of a bottom and he was more of a top so it totally worked. I looked forward to the nights that we were both in town. I’d be so anxious that my hands would shake when I’d get off work to meet him at the hotel. He’d work me over with his 7.5 inches all night and usually once more in the morning. This usually happened about 2-3 time per month. It wasn’t truly the sex I would have chosen as I am only physically attracted to women. But is was way more than satisfying enough to get me and him through a rough time in our lives.

I’d be so anxious that my hands would shake when I’d get off work to meet him at the hotel.

I can relate to that kind of nervousness - it what made my bi-activities very exciting. This kind of anticipation/trepidation was at times better than what took place once we met.

I do not think men's thoughts broaden with age with regard to wanting homosexual sex.

I think DESPERATION for some kind of sex increases when their wives become frigid and withholding of sex.

I agree with Susie. I'm a 68 year old straight switch male with a strong libido and several very prominent kinks or fetishes I enjoy, but without a partner since a divorce in 2010. And that same switch ex-wife despite our divorce over nonsexual nonfetish issues accepted and I might even say loved all my kinks and enjoyed doing them with me to the point that she was very good at being either a Domme or sub and loved our kinky sex life. One of my major kinks, enemas, was also her main kink and we enjoyed trading submissive enemas, dressing the sub for the evening in tight total body latex and sneakers and cuffing them for prolonged D/s enemas and great sex. And even at 68 with bad ED, I REALLY miss that but still do it for myself solo until I find another partner.

But even so, going solo for over 10 years, I still don't have the slightest urge to do any of it with another man, and from reading and writing on Zity for 5 years, I'd estimate that I could find another man to join me if I wanted to. No thanks, fellas, not my cup of tea. My solo bathroom rug large volume, prolonged retention submissive enemas covered in latex or neoprene plus sneakers leading to orgasms is still a much-loved practice. It would just be even more spectacular being Domme'd by a new partner, and then giving them to her to enjoy.

Eric

I was born in the 60's and have had M2M mutual oral and jacking. Pleasure without the bullshit.

While some men may venture into bi activity as a result of not getting enough from their wives, for what it's worth, in my case it was the opposite. Seems the more I got from my gal sexually, along with all the sexual freedom she was okay with my doing - the more I wanted. Like an addict who needs more and more to produce the same high, I needed something more, different and what I hadn't done to produce excitement.

I am a mature age bisexual male who not only engages in oral sex and mutual masturbation with men, but I like to be spanked by men and have them place me in a diaper position on my back on a bed, spread my legs open, and use me as their submissive bottom. During the past fifteen years, I have found that I have a greater attraction toward men than toward women. My arousal level becomes high when I am with a male who is masculine, has a hairy chest or muscular body, acts dominant, and knows how to engage in anal sex in a manner where we both experience pleasure. Some of the mature age bisexual males whom I have had a meet up with are low in testosterone, act passive or feminine, and have a "slam bam thank you maam" self centered attitude as a top male during three minutes of anal sex with my ass pussy. I feel empathy toward the women in their past who they describe as being frigid but who in reality may have not felt attracted to a man who is self centered and lacking in skills as a lover and friend. I have been in communication with mature age men at this website whose profiles identify them as single but who report to me that they are married when responding to some of my questions. I am not looking for meet ups with married men who should wear a white t-shirt with "Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire" printed in red letters. I am looking for sexual encounters and relationship building with top males and versatile males who are single or divorced. It is a plus if they enjoy fishing, kayaking, hiking, nude activities indoors and out of doors, trading erotic body rubs, and home brewing beer and hard cider, which are six of my interests.