For MYSELF and what I expect of MY HUSBAND, I agree with those who say that cheating on your spouse for whatever reason is not acceptable. MY husband, Meat Monster ( @Silent ) and I have cut to the chase with each other in OUR marriage and between the two of us. In OUR marriage I can take the righteous stand and decide just how righteous I will be IF ever cheating comes up.
My righteous, high horse, idealistic, standards begin AND end with me and my husband. He and I alone will be the judge of how we deal with our marriage and all of the issues. Anyone else that doesn't like what we do, accept, or tolerate, or enjoy in OUR marriage can fuck off.
I wasn't always this way. I was judgmental and self righteous and absolute about a lot of my beliefs about life. I knew absolutely the difference between right and wrong. I had all of the answers to all of the questions and anyone with a different opinion or different way and everyone else thought the way I did or were ignorant.
Then two or three years ago I found out my Mom was cheating on my Dad. Real long story short, my Mom was cheating on my Dad. My Dad was cheating on my Mom. Fucked my little world up right down to the foundation but I had my own problems and a husband who was having problems with his life and I was going to solve them. All of that without a fucking clue on my part.
Mom was straight up no shit and no sugar and didn't take my shit and never did take my shit. And we had more than a few "dust ups" and I was all righteous and judgmental about her and knew the whole story. It turns out I did not know shit. The guy Mom was fucking turns out to be a fantastic guy and I have even got some advice from him to help me with dealing with the shit my husband encountered in his life. My Dad really was a saint and somehow, someway, WITHOUT my fucking help, my Mom and Dad got their marriage back and where they wanted it.
Both of them more or less told me that they appreciated my thoughts but to MYOB if I was going to be so fucking righteous about it. I can't be that way anymore.
At least not with anyone else's marriage or the way they deal with it. It's not my place to make the judgment or think one size fits all. It's just an opinion, like my asshole, everyone has one. THAT is one of Dad's sayings.
Both of my parents are gone now, and it will be a year pretty soon when I lost Mom. Dad went a little while later. I wish I hadn't been such a judgmental "lil bitch" and got to know them earlier. But I learned that a marriage is ultimately between two people when all is said and done and that I'd be wasting my time worrying about someone else's marriage. It isn't my place.
My place is fucking my Meat Monster's wheels off and not letting shit slide or build up. IF it does, then he gets an enema or two or three and I suck any information or feelings he has pent up right out of his body and mind and soul straight through is cock. He's a big man and tough but when I have my teeth so close to his little head and my hands on his "boys" he is mine. Mom and Dad, the cheaters, got their shit right and probably never lost it in the first place. My take away from them is to not let it go in the first place, just like a few people here have already said. Only more righteously than what I know in my own heart.
Thanks for being such a bitch Mom. ❤️ ? ? ? ? I learned I don't have any room to judge or be righteous and to MYOB. I'm still working on it though and it's not like she was perfect either. ? ? ? ? ?