There is a question I would like to ask and get some advice about if anyone can help.
I know of a couple who love each other and want to stay together, but the man just can not help chatting up other women and men online.
The women found out by chance and as the man she loved and trusted had lied to her about it for so long and even lied and denied things until evidence was in his face, there is obviously a trust issue now from his partners perspective.
He really doesn't think it is a big deal as he never met anyone( he would if someone had wanted to meet him I think),
Is this a man thing, he acts like its no big deal, he loves her and she should be happy with that.
Trust is such a big thing to her, so to satisfy his urges what she did next was to arrange for him to meet someone who we could pay to do some of the crazy things he likes as his partner isn't into everything he is and has a low sex drive.
Even that is not enough as she found that he had been chatting again on another site after agreeing to always tell her everything.
I think he likes the secrecy, it turns him on to do things in secret and behind his partners back.
He has a long term illness and his partner cares for him and will stay with him no matter what, but it hurts her so much when he lies and deceives her.
He knows she will never leave him and he isn't going to change, he truly likes to do things behind her back, it is part of the turn-on for him.
She has had to learn to live with it and be a good detective to catch him when he does it again, I think its a game for him, but it is not for her.
Any advice would be great.
Peace.
Cazzy