Yesterday the company i work for had us participate in an art related charity activity for Imagine, a center for coping with loss. I felt my participation contributed to one day help those who are grieving. And that i may have helped make a difference. Which i felt good about.Then when i got home, i had read a message that was sent to me on fetlife. Excerpts: "you are a gift to me, I mean that very sincerely. I feel so comfortable with you to say anything that is on my mind, very few men on or outside of fetlife have ever made me feel this way.....you are inspiring me to keep looking after myself and to not let myself go....."It felt even better to have made a difference in someone's life on a more personal level. There were a lot more endearing words which i'll keep confidential.I think you will find good and bad everywhere. This website and any other.
I am a member of the website fetlife.com and if you message me on there I will usually give you a nice sincere reply. Yes some people can be arseholes on there but I'm not if you talk to me nicely then I will talk to you nicely if you act like a dick then I can be a dick.
Is it moderated? That can make a big difference. Imagine what it would be like here if there was no moderation...
Is it moderated? That can make a big difference. Imagine what it would be like here if there was no moderation...There was no moderation except by those who run each group. It is individual rules, not site rules.
Is it moderated? That can make a big difference. Imagine what it would be like here if there was no moderation...I got told it has got moderators who do not do much.
Some years ago I learned about Fet at E-Fest and I absolutely love it! I joined many groups and there and now go to munches and play parties, although I've never had any enema play yet, but I sure do have lots of other play!
Yes, I used to be a member. I suppose technically I probably still am. However Zity is far superior in every aspect in my opinion.Everyone is more friendly and genuine here I find.
Recently joined Fetlife, removed my account after about a month. I found it to be difficult to make friends. Ireland has these kink meetups which one must attend organised through Fetlife to make friends on the site. Most of my requests or outreaches were ignored or declined. Zity is a much friendlier place.
It seems like a good way to connect with all the different fetish classifications there can be. I have to admit though, after a while, reading a lot of stuff on there gets very boring.If you start "following" people, you can see what new pics they post, since you have an idea what they're into, and can see on your newsfeed any pics or whatever that "might" be worthwhile to you.I enjoy playing a "music title" game, and I have to admit I occasionally will use 1 word song titles, before bitching about the fact there's this one member who almost always uses 1 word song titles, thereby killing the game, much to my dismay.
I enjoy Fetlife...but, you need be careful as it is not as user friendly or kind and forgiving as Zity... there certainly is more diversity of fetish on FL, but most of the kinks I enjoy are covered here. Our “Zity World is comprised of very caring and friendly individuals....I feel that there are too many dark corners to FL, so if you do venture there, one must be far more careful....always happy to chat about my experiences on both sites...
Your observations in your post @CitraHops, is exactly why I left Fetlife and closed my account. Mostly the dark corners.
I've been on fetlife for a few years and to be honest, when you try to make contact with others, which I do in a friendly way not assuming anything, people just don't reply. There are thousands on there that haven't logged in for years, so it looks to have far more people that it actively does. Not impressed. In the old days Yahoo was good for interaction, but that platform has gone really.
I am a member but rarely use it. The last time I logged on, I clicked the photo of a cute woman and in some of her personal photos she posted pictures of herself taking a "spicy noodle enema", then expelled it, then ate the noodles. So I guess fetlife is like a box of chocolates.
I am a member but has been going there less. Zity is a better site. I do like the videos that Fetlife has.
I had fet for maybe 6 months several years ago. It was the pits, the amount of DMs you get as a female is overwhelming and 95% of them are garbage - i met a few decent people there but i feel its more for people who do these larger group meet ups which is really not me
I'm a member there as well, but I find it to be very impersonal. There are a lot of people advertising their "OnlyFans" sites and a lot of fake accounts. You do see a lot of fun pictures there and some of the groups can be very specific but that also means they are sometimes rather inactive. Zity seems to be a much more "personal" site.
I had it, was awhile ago 6 months maybe touch longer ,left for reasons as you say , found people very ignorant ,never had a chance to really find chance too chat will never bother going back that for sure .I find Fetlife has nothing on Zity ,just sayin
I've been a member for about 10 years. I check it often, mostly to keep in touch with members I know and/or have played with at public (private) events. There are a few Dommes I know and follow, as well as a few others in the lifestyle. I has allowed me to connect with and vet a few folks, too.I know women are - like here on zity - more likely to be harassed or to receive unwelcome contacts, which is not a problem for me. If you like eye candy, there's an abundant supply of it (female and male) and tons of kinky folks that are farther out in their kinks than you can imagine - with photos to match. There are enema kinksters there, too, but that part has not been as useful on Fetlife as zity has been - by a wide margin!I (used to) travel a lot for business - and expect to again someday. Fetlife is a decent source for learning more about other cities, states and professionals, with less sanitized photos and more honest information about their kinks.
I’m on fet life but find it close to useless. In particular, the search function is not user friendly. One can search say for “enema” but can’t then search that set for location or sex or whatever.I suggested to the powers that be that they permit searches for multiple variables but they refused saying that the members don’t want that because it would yield too many contacts. The argument makes no sense to me.And then, there’s the problems others have mentioned - rudeness, no intention to respond meaningfully, etc.
I agree. I was a member of Fetlife a few years ago, but it wasn't really the scene I was looking for. Probably because I'm not into "the scene." I don't need attention from mobs of people (aka Facebook - don't need that either), and I don't need to "out-kink" the next person. I just want genuine connection.
I think Fetlife is good for pictures, I am a member there too, but hardly enter at it, maybe twice per month, but just to see pics, dont have much interaction with members there as I have here......Zity is better!!!!Za
Yes, been on fetlife a while, Fetlife seems popular but with little discussion. Both here and fetlife has both pros and cons, i do have some groups on fet but after a while very limited... 'a bit like a new shop opening' I forget which i joined first. I guess it depends which people find first here or fet.