Do guys want to have sex with virgins?

Do guys want virgins? Depends....when I was young, most of my peers, (girls) were virgins.....we were all groping in the dark, not knowing our asses from third base.

Yes, I even managed to nail a couple when I was young.

Now that I am older I have two different schools of thought. One, a virgin needs someone experienced to take her through that first go round. Make it like her fantasy.

Second...maybe two rookies need each other to both figure it out together. One thing is for sure, I have never known any ex virgin that never screwed again because her first time was less than perfect

Second...maybe two rookies need each other to both figure it out together. One thing is for sure, I have never known any ex virgin that never screwed again because her first time was less than perfect

My first was a girl that was more experienced and I'm sure I sucked. She put up with it and I was a quick learner so in a couple weeks it was a lot better. I think it is better if one knows what they are doing but it doesn't take long to figure it out even for two virgins. Most young guys want to have sex with whoever they can, virgin or not. They aren't picky

At my age?? No if it means deflowering her.

I'd perhaps like to see a real hymen up close again.

I never had sex with a virgin. Nor was it ever a goal of mine.

I never had sex with a virgin. Nor was it ever a goal of mine.

Same with me. No specific interest. If it happened, fine, but not a goal.

Eric

Sleeping with a virgin was always something to brag about for young men but to be honest, it really wasn't a big deal during the actual act.

My first girlfriend was a virgin and we eventually had sex, months after we started dating. Honestly, I can't even remember what it was like. Probably all for the best, it's not that big a deal. But I do regret not trying to make it a special or romantic event. I was young and dumb, probably didn't realize things like that matter.

But to answer the question, no, I'm not really interested in having sex with virgins. Sometimes an inexperienced woman is fun because you get more of a reaction out of her, it's not as mundane as it can be with others. But generally I prefer an experienced woman.

Never been a goal and never will be...

Now, having sex was/is my goal and when we move beyond the “virgin” standard, it so opens the window of possibilities.

Do guys want to have sex with virgins?

I can't say one way or the other. Some do I suppose, but it was never my goal when I was dating to try to get into her panties and have sex with her. I never carried any protection on a date even when I was going steady with the same girl for over a year. There were two reasons why I didn't carry any protection. The first reason was in the small town I grew up in the only place to buy any protection was the local drugstore and the father of a girl in my class ran the drugstore. The nearest major city where protection was available where you would not be known, was about 30 miles away. The second reason was when I went on a date and knew that she and I were just going to go "parking" at our favorite spot to make out with each other for several hours, I never planned on trying to have sex with her. If we did get close to that point and she wanted me to keep going, I stopped because of fear of pregnancy. In those days it would ruin your reputation and would have killed any chance of my going to college.

Is there an appeal to it?

For me there was not any real appeal to doing it with a virgin because I never thought about if she was or wasn't a virgin. For me to date a girl it was did I like that girl and did I think she would like to go out with me. Even if she were not virgin and I liked her and she liked me I would date her and if we loved each other, I would have married her, virgin or not.

Do you enjoy sex with virgins?

I did enjoy sex with the two virgins I had sex with. The first girl was a virgin, but we never went all the way and I never penetrated her very far so I don’t know if I “popped her cherry” or not. We got close a number of times, but the fear of pregnancy always stopped me even though she wanted me to keep going. The second girl I had sex with was a virgin and we did go all the way and she got pregnant the very first time we did it, too. We got married over 50 years ago now and still are married.

In high school and college many guys wanted to be a girl's first and to pop her cherry, but does that actually make it a better experience for him?

Again I can't say since I was never interested in going all the way with a girl I was dating, UNLESS I was in love with her and she as in love with me and she was someone I wanted to marry and who wanted to marry me and be together for the rest of our lives.

Does it give him certain responsibilities to the women?

Yes. He better NOT get them pregnant or just "use 'em and lose 'em", meaning he dates them until he takes their virginity from them and then never calls them or dates them again. He also better not be spreading rumors or bragging about his conquests. If he does, he is a real jerk and a loser. But that's exactly what guys like that do, brag to their buddies and tell everyone how "easy" she is.

I guess as a teenager and college student I may have been different than other boys in high school and college. When I dated a girl more than once, the most I expected from her was some kissing. I never tried to put my hands anywhere the girl wouldn’t want me to and I let her lead me if she wanted me to touch her. The only girls I dated that ever went beyond kissing a few times were the two virgins I mentioned above and anything I did to them or with them was with their “permission” and was something they wanted me to do. In high school, several of my friends and I went steady with the same girl for well over a year or more. Never was there any "locker room talk" about what we did on our dates or with the girl. It just wasn't done by anyone. If we broke up there was no trying to smear the girl's reputation either.

Sorry for the long post, but I have always wondered why it is okay for boys to sleep around (it didn't hurt his reputation) and then want to get married to a virgin, but it was not okay for a girl to sleep around and if she did she was "easy" or a whore and her reputation was ruined.

When I was young - just wanted to have sex. Prefer the unccomplications of virginity, but any pussy would do.

Of course guys want to have sex with virgins. Who doesn't want to go where no man has gone before. And the thrill of being someone's first. Everybody always remembers their first partner. I know i do. I'm sure every guy has different reasons, the excitement, some sort of feeling like they were the first to go there probably like the idea of how tight a virgin is I would say it's pretty safe to assume that guy's definitely want virgins

Of course guys want to have sex with virgins. Who doesn't want to go where no man has gone before. And the thrill of being someone's first. Everybody always remembers their first partner. I

Not to disappoint, but being the person to take someone's virginity is not my idea of something to look forward to doing. It is a big responsibility and as even any kind of superficial perusal of literature about the subject should make very clear, most first experiences are (very) disappointing, for men but especially more so for females. I certainly do not want to be that disappointment to someone else. I prefer partners to have nice memories of me, not the memory of the one who hurt them.

That idea of having sex with virgins thing is often a holdover from times when venereal disease was rife and people thought that since virgins had never had sex yet, they could not possibly have any sexual disease and therefore be safe from infection. Which is quite erroneous but still believed by many people the world over.

Of course guys want to have sex with virgins. Who doesn't want to go where no man has gone before. And the thrill of being someone's first. Everybody always remembers their first partner. I know i do. I'm sure every guy has different reasons, the excitement, some sort of feeling like they were the first to go there probably like the idea of how tight a virgin is I would say it's pretty safe to assume that guy's definitely want virgins

Once upon a time, this used to be my exact sentiment. I guess the fact that I'm much older now, the fact I'm into older women generally, and prefer women who are mature, it would only really apply now to like a 40 year old virgin or something.

But there are women who value their virginity, in that they want to try to be sure they lose it to someone worth losing it to. And not something they'll regret. So with that, can come a lot of pressure. You got to be ready to deal with the potentially ensuing mental and emotional shit. Am I ready to deal with that ? Nah, I'll pass.

I wouldn't understand why not. If needed, just give a little gentle guidance and have fun.

@Plumber70 said

I wouldn't understand why not. If needed, just give a little gentle guidance and have fun.

Most of the guys posting have stated why they didn't like or would rather not have sex with a virgin.

It's a big deal for most girls/women because there is a lot of emotional baggage and some pain attached to losing virginity that men would rather not deal with, and I don't blame them.

If girls were encouraged to get dildos and fuck themselves so they were accustomed to having things inside their vagina, it would be different, but most girls don't do that and NOT fucking yourself with a dildo, large candles, keilbasa or other phallic device as an educational activity (not to mention the pleasure they would have) is a mistake.

I had the privilege of having my first piv with a virgin at age twelve. She was fourteen. I was a virgin, also. Any regrets? Nope. Was I an expert back then? Nope. Did we still have fun getting naked and doing the deed with no hurt feeling on either side, and I got to get my dick wet other then getting oral from her, which I'd happily reciprocate? Yup. Did I do it bareback without a condom? Yup. It was all good. Now being almost forty years older, would I want to have sex with a virgin? Sure, why not. But, chances are I probably won't attract a female that young anymore.

If girls were encouraged to get dildos and fuck themselves so they were accustomed to having things inside their vagina, it would be different, but most girls don't do that and NOT fucking yourself with a dildo, large candles, keilbasa or other phallic device as an educational activity (not to mention the pleasure they would have) is a mistake.

It is a good and sensible and practical idea, but it will never become accepted. If such a statement/suggestion were even made/whispered in a sex education class, the teacher would probably be tarred and feathered before being thrown into jail.

It probably wouldn't even be a good idea if it were known that parents encouraged this either. Chances are a visit from Child protection Services perhaps?

Of course guys want to have sex with virgins. Who doesn't want to go where no man has gone before. And the thrill of being someone's first. Everybody always remembers their first partner. I know i do. I'm sure every guy has different reasons, the excitement, some sort of feeling like they were the first to go there probably like the idea of how tight a virgin is I would say it's pretty safe to assume that guy's definitely want virgins

I am saying this without being sensitive about my feelings or anything, that is not me.

But, do stop and ponder for a moment how stereotypical and somewhat denigrating such an idea about men actually is. Do you think we are all sex-obsessed or eager to stick into any genital canal that presents itself? There are always consequences with first-time sexual couplings and one never knows what they will be until they have happened.

Even back when I was young enough to have a reasonable chance of meeting a real virgin, the idea never appealed to me. Hurting someone, making them probably bleed and the chance of strong emotional responses from the girl herself or having her think me a bumbling fool or an inconsiderate type ... no thanks, life was complicated enough already ...

Wow! Did I miss something on a more personal note here. Don't understand the rant about why a virgin female should first fuck herself with a hair brush handle, dildo, candle, zucchini, bowling pin, trailer hitch ball or whatever. Only have had one virgin so far in my lifetime and it certainly wasn't a terrible thing.

Wow! Did I miss something on a more personal note here. Don't understand the rant about why a virgin female should first fuck herself with a hair brush handle, dildo, candle, zucchini, bowling pin, trailer hitch ball or whatever. Only have had one virgin so far in my lifetime and it certainly wasn't a terrible thing.

It is not a rant, but when you think about it in a detached and impartial manner, an imminently practical suggestion.

First time intercourse will in most cases be painful to females because of there being an unbroken hymen usually. This needs to be broken and it will usually bleed, especially if done brusquely. Loads of fun for sure ... 😢

Then we have the description that lechers give of having a nice tight pussy. Meaning it has not been stretched and is therefor unaccustomed to penetration. Sort of like having a large sized anal plug inserted as initial initiation to anal plugging. It will hurt.

And moreover, members weren't talking about pain or discomfort from a male perspective - men usually don't have any when penetrating a virgin. They were talking about the female perspective. A first-time penetration can be painful for females.

And many men, gentlemen I would hope, don't really wish to inflict pain on anyone. It is unbecoming, beneath anyone and can leave a bad impression.

@Plumber70 said

Wow! Did I miss something on a more personal note here. Don't understand the rant about why a virgin female should first fuck herself with a hair brush handle, dildo, candle, zucchini, bowling pin, trailer hitch ball or whatever. Only have had one virgin so far in my lifetime and it certainly wasn't a terrible thing.

What don't you understand?

It's practice. It is learning how your body works. It's like riding a bicycle. You start with a tricycle, then a bike with training wheels, and when you are ready, the training wheels come off and you ride the bicycle.

Fucking yourself in private, alone with a dildo or other phallic object can be considered a "practice fuck" or a "rehearsal" for sex with another person.

The girl can have full control over the experience with no expectations or demands from another person and she can progress over time at her own rate. That's what I did, and later discovered that is what my daughters did. We all had wonderful first experiences losing our virginity--no pain, no bleeding; just a really good time with the boys.

I think this is a great question (i.e., the OP).

i'll toss in a gay perspective, and also being a guy who was married to a woman.

i grew up in a strict religious culture where sex was verboten prior to marriage. my wife and i were both members of the same belief system and were both virgins, so we were each others first. i was young and inexperienced, and if i take what she told me at face value, she never masturbated, at least using penetration. i, on the other hand had a ton of penetrative experience as a bottom lol, i had been putting things in my rectum from an early age, i had discovered it as a sex organ way before my penis.

i was so inexperienced that i actually missed the first time. Yep, literally missed my former wife vagina I.e., i didn't get in). i had nothing to compare to, and pretty much my first experience was humping. She was quite gracious about telling me that i hadn't actually gotten there, and even though i had a very quick orgasm, i recovered pretty quickly. There was no question in her mind that i was a virgin.

We pretty much discovered together after that. She introduced lube to me and guided me in the second time. We got plenty of practice on our honeymoon. i was so ignorant about female anatomy though. Since we were both new, orgasm was pretty easy for both of us after she opened up. But after about a month of marriage, she broke down and cried and accused me of not caring because, apparently, i was missing the mark. It wasn't that i didn't care, but i was clueless about what a clitoris is, where to find it or how to stimulate her. i learned from that moment though, i hated her tears and disappointment.

It's kind of interesting how i got really good at giving my wife multiple orgasms, but over time she was disappointed by that. i trained myself from those first tears to never orgasm until she had. She later reached a point in our marriage where she expressed the wish for me to just "take her" without regard to whether or not she had an orgasm. i never got to a place where i could do that, that was about 20 years into our marriage. Now, after years of divorce, i get her need to be "taken." We were both bottoms and both sort of sub in nature.

i think a lot of notions of virginity are born out of religious culture, mine and my former wife's sure were. Virginity (especially a woman's) are touted as virtue. In the religious culture i grew up in, virginity and virtue were practically synonymous. my religious culture was decidedly patriarchal and sexist in structure, so the primary and underlying emphasis was a woman's virginity. Today it's kinda hilarious for me to think of these guys blowing themselves up in the name of their god in hopes of getting 80 sexually inexperienced women as a reward. i am a loss to think of any activity that is better when ignorant and inexperienced?

Now days i think the whole notion of a guy wanting a virgin is immature at best. How developed is the ego that needs someone inexperienced in order to feel fulfilled?

As a gay bottom, i had a ton of practice taking things into me before my first penis. i so agree with Susie, "it's practice."

i'm a member of a gay discussion forum, and by far most Tops want an experienced and opened bottom. The idea of a "tight" hole is pretty much the fantasy of inexperienced guys. We actually do surveys and both Tops and bottoms mostly seem to want experienced partners, not virgins.

. . . .

i'll toss in a gay perspective, and also being a guy who was married to a woman.

. . . . i, on the other hand had a ton of penetrative experience as a bottom lol, i had been putting things in my rectum from an early age, i had discovered it as a sex organ way before my penis. . . . .

. . . . Today it's kinda hilarious for me to think of these guys blowing themselves up in the name of their god in hopes of getting 80 sexually inexperienced women as a reward. . . . .

As a gay bottom, i had a ton of practice taking things into me before my first penis. i so agree with Susie, "it's practice."

i'm a member of a gay discussion forum, and by far most Tops want an experienced and opened bottom. The idea of a "tight" hole is pretty much the fantasy of inexperienced guys. We actually do surveys and both Tops and bottoms mostly seem to want experienced partners, not virgins.

1--you said you had a lot of anal penetrative experience before doing it with another person--YOU PRACTICED and that is what girls should do.

2--your anus/rectum is no more a sex organ than your hand.

3--the people who blow themselves up think get 72 VIRGINS, not experienced women. How misguided can they be!

3--the people who blow themselves up think get 72 VIRGINS, not experienced women. How misguided can they be!

I thought it was 72 (angry) VIRGINIANS!!! Even worse! 😄

the people who blow themselves up think get 72 VIRGINS

Not to be detoured, but I seriously doubt people blowing themselves and others up, really believe in that. It is something of a metaphor, a manner of describing a state of bliss and contentment.

When I was young, people used to say that in heaven, everybody got to eat porridge with golden spoons. That (European/Belgian) metaphor was probably concocted during a time when famine and fire crouched for employment in the world. Did grown-ups believe it? I hope not. But it was a useful tool for bamboozling youngsters and especially for denigrating and insulting someone you disagreed with or who was an (ideological) opponent.

Not to be detoured, but I seriously doubt people blowing themselves and others up, really believe in that. It is something of a metaphor, a manner of describing a state of bliss and contentment.

i'd like to agree, and i hope they are a minority. i've known people who approach beliefs as fundamentalists and they become literal. When i was a part of fundamentalist Christianity, i went through "reparative therapy" to try and de-gay myself. Lot's of adults literally tried to "cast demons" out of me. Once on the outside, one shakes their head and finds it difficult to believe there are such people, but there are.

A couple of good autobiographies discuss the literalists at the fringes of religions are "Infidel" by Ayaan Hirsi Ali and "Educated" by Tara Westover. Two different and waring religions with amazing (to me) similarities. When i read "Infidel," i was continually struck by how similar and familiar fundamentalist Islam is to fundamentalist Christianity. Not so much the beliefs, but the manner of literal belief to the point of calling belief "knowledge."

I would prefer an experienced woman

Not to be detoured, but I seriously doubt people blowing themselves and others up, really believe in that. It is something of a metaphor, a manner of describing a state of bliss and contentment.

Why would believing there are seventy-two virgins waiting for them (or getting to eat porridge with golden spoons) be far-fetched if believing there's a sky daddy waiting up there after we die isn't, though?

I heard from an intelligence source that most suicide bombers need to be filmed for propaganda purposes. If not, the families were not paid.

At my age give me a sexy experienced woman between 40-70. I've seen some very beautiful women from 50 -70 and I'm sure some of them still enjoy receiving oral and some hot sex. 😜