Do guys want to have sex with virgins?

You expect us to believe that is your PRIMARY reason to have sex??????????? HAHAHA.

There are going to be some folks with sentiments like this that are unfamiliar to you, based on what circles you choose to be in, and not be in. Occasionally you're going to find something so far fetched, but yet they honestly believe it is what they feel.

This particular sentiment can tend to be held by younger guys, and probably several Catholics/Christians. Older guys are done with the concept of pleasing a woman as a priority, which is why many become bi.

i recall being in my early to mid 20's. being offended when I heard a middle aged woman say her primaryb interest in sex was for her own pleasure, with little or no regard for her husband. i thought it was supposed to be more about what you can do for your partner, and of course your own gratification would naturally follow. Back then I was also homophobic.

Fast forward to now. I've developed a much better understanding of the need for many men to just want men sex for their instant gratification & focus on what they want. Which works out well, as they tend to be mutually pleased with minimal hassle.

Getting back ton the topic of the "appeal" to have sex with a virgin, I think if you feel you can teach a virgin something about sex that you know will have lasting effects, then there's an appeal to it. Especially if you've no one to be compared with, and you bring the virgin such joy, she long remembers it fondly. Like the Stone Temple Pilots song Sour Girl, "She was a happy girl the day that she left me", revealing that you made her life better while she was with you, that now she goes out into the world with a lasting happy experience to build on.

And to be responsible for that, i would say many, inlcuding myself, could find that "appealing"

The fact is, when I have sex with guys, I find that when they go all out to fuck me hard for all they are worth, so THEY get the most pleasure out of fucking me, I have a great time--much better than when they are being sweet and loving, making sure I have a good time and making sure they don't hurt me.

So guys, fuck me for all you're worth, don't be concerned with pleasing me and don't coddle me. I want a man who knows what he's doing. I know what I need to do with my body to have a great time and I promise, I WILL have a wonderful time.

Calm, polite, gentlemanly fucking is fine for making love and is OK on occasion and maybe for the first time you have sex with someone. Just being next to and hugging each other is wonderful for making love, but it's not what I want for a vigorous session of sex.

And you will be much happier with older men, because they will do just that.

Of course calm, "gentlemenly fucking" could always be a mode of a man who wants to take his time and make it last all night, hoping that you too will endure, and not otherwise become worn out 😉

And you will be much happier with older men, because they will do just that.

I have had that with YOUNGER men, even in college and had a fantastic time.

We are wired to have sex with anything that moves look a stiff dick has no conscience and if I see a nice butt I'm going for it....

I've never had sex with a virgin and I don't think I missed anything. All of the women I have fucked, and fuck, are anything but virgins. I enjoy the hell out of them and sex with them is/was fun and satisfying. The women I fucked were all friends, or at least friendly, and had the stars and rainbows fucked out of them a long time ago. It was a way to have a good time and have a release. I just enjoy them.

I do admit that those women I fucked I had feelings for, but after dating a couple of "professional virgins" I began to stay away from the idealists. Women's lib was big back in my day, and I think they had the "professional virgin" concession nailed down.

Now that I'm older, there's no way in hell I would want to do a virgin. Not that there are many 40's, 50's or 60's virgins around. That is another thing, you can keep all the under 30-somethings and even the 30-somethings. I like it when we both go after what we want and applaud ourselves if we just so happen to end up at the same time.

I'm not good with "pick-ups" or game playing, I just enjoy it a lot better with someone who knows who the hell John Wayne, Heddy Lamar, or Jill St. John are without having to look them up on the internet.

@Cedar said, "That is another thing, you can keep all the under 30-somethings and even the 30-somethings. I like it when we both go after what we want and applaud ourselves if we just so happen to end up at the same time."

That may have been true waaaaaaaaaaaay back in your time, but us 30-somethings are a whole different animal than those antebellum hippy(?) chicks you were used to before TV was invented. 😁 😁 😁 😁

You're not much on history, are you? "Antebellum" is usually something before the Civil War. I'm not that old. The 'hippy chicks' were during my time, but I missed out on the "free love" and "love-ins" which would explain the lack of non-professional virgins I might have encountered.

You have to be kidding me.

Most men want to have sex with any woman who is still breathing. ??

Seriously: 'any woman who is still breathing'? Now it's you who has got to be kidding me. I've never made an effort to try and put a number on the percentage of women I have seen - even passing by on the street - with whom I would like to have (no strings attached, gratuitous) sex. But I can assure you it wouldn't be much above 1%, if even that.

No offence intended, but not every female is all that desirable, and many are off-putting, not specifically in a physical sense, but more often on the question of attitudes and thinking.

In the end, however, everything went well. In practice, they have self-deflowered; I was supine and they were on top of me.

I suppose that this will be the optimal manner for both sides.

I am unable to speak for all men of course but as one I did not seek out virgins to deflower. The only time in my life virgins were available was during high school. I got a rather early head start it seems so I did in fact have sex with several of my "female" virgin friends. I wasn't pushy. I enjoyed any kind of sex than and didn't care how many times someone had previously had sex. I do however know that sex was far better with someone the more times they had done it previously and how many times we had done it together. Not all encounters showed improvement but most did.

I don't think I have to worry much about "intercourse" virginity for partnering these days.

In high school and college many guys wanted to be a girl's first and to pop her cherry, but does that actually make it a better experience for him? Does it give him certain responsibilities to the women?

I suppose that was all part of the teenagers' myth. For boys, popping a cherry was supposed to be the ultimate "prize". Few, if any, of them really knew what it meant.

I didn't have the experience, so I don't know if it is any better or worse in general. As for responsibilities, I doubt many teenagers really consider the consequences of sexual activity. However, assuming consent has been given by the girl, prevention of pregnancy and disease are the major ones. If one of those fails, the boy SHOULD assume the required responsibilities.

As an aside, I often ponder a fantasy scenario where a teenaged girl comes to me for her first sexual experience. It makes for a good bedtime fantasy...

That may have been true waaaaaaaaaaaay back in your time, but us 30-somethings are a whole different animal than those antebellum hippy(?) chicks you were used to before TV was invented. 😁 😁 😁 😁

Well @Dahiana - you youngn's didn't invent sex, and you haven't perfected it 😉 but more than likely a good time was had by all when you popped into the cosmic scheme of life. 😉 😁 😁 😁

I mean - @Dahiana you probably started out as a good time fuck 😉 that took a turn for the serious. 😁 😁 😁

I never had a thing for virgins. My first GF and I were at the time and after a year of petting we tried sex. It hurt her, I got too nervous about hurting her and we stopped. Then we never had another opportunity. Since then I’ve always been with women who had at least one previous. I don’t think guys ‘owe’ anything to the girl, but they should try extra hard to not pressure her, not force her and make it a pleasant and respectful time for her.

If a virgin offers herself up to me, who am I to tell her no. I will be gentle

Do guys want to have sex with virgins? Is there an appeal to it?

In high school and college many guys wanted to be a girl's first and to pop her cherry, but does that actually make it a better experience for him?

I'm not sure it's still the same as when I was in my teenage years, but from what I observed back then among my peers, some did want to have sex with virgins partly due to wanting to be a girl's first. An expectation of tightness also seemed to be a factor for some. But now, it seems to be common for teenage boys to be more interested in how willing a girl is to put out. Experience seems to be valued more than inexperience. Too often, boys seem to think porn sex is real sex, and expect girls to behave like porn stars.

From my own point of view, virginity hasn't been important. I did sleep with a few virgins when I was 16 or 17 and a bit later, but it wasn't the be all and end all. Many years later when I met my wife, she was a virgin, but that wasn't the most important thing about her. I was captured by her stunning beauty, her personality, something about the look in her eye, how she moved, and the fact she had the guts to make an approach towards me, putting me under her spell. That she was a virgin wasn't something I considered essential, but she just was, and I respected that.

Do you enjoy sex with virgins?

Yes and no. If she was keen and excited then I'd try to make it a fulfilling experience for both of us. Although I always enjoyed it on some level, I couldn't expect the same know-how I experienced when I lost my own virginity to a beautiful woman who certainly knew what she was doing. But sleeping with a virgin wasn't all about me, as I said. It was perhaps more about her, and it certainly was when I met my wife.

Does it give him certain responsibilities to the women?

How about not acting like a crass, selfish idiot, and not giving women a bad impression of us all?

This brings about another question: If you don't want to have sex with virgins, do you want to think about who's been with them before you.

Have you ever sat at a table, for example as a wife's second husband, with her first husband also at the same table? Had the thought crossed your mind that he had her before you did? And how did that make you feel?

That is the alternative thought process TO having sex with virgins. Because then you have to wonder where it's been. And then the thoughts about previous partners go on from there.

Some may say they are indifferent to that. Those who claim they are open up a whole host of other questions for me.

This brings about another question: If you don't want to have sex with virgins, do you want to think about who's been with them before you.

Have you ever sat at a table, for example as a wife's second husband, with her first husband also at the same table? Had the thought crossed your mind that he had her before you did? And how did that make you feel?

That is the alternative thought process TO having sex with virgins. Because then you have to wonder where it's been. And then the thoughts about previous partners go on from there.

Some may say they are indifferent to that. Those who claim they are open up a whole host of other questions for me.

@JTMac While I haven’t been in that exactly situation, Ive been in many others (sitting with ex’s 2nd husband (I was first), or her boyfriend, and her being with my current GF.) And you know what? Who cares? You have to think about who right NOW can get into their pants, who NOW do they want to have sex with. It is YOU and everyone else, even their exes, are prohibited.

And equal rights - do you want your female partner to be constantly thinking about where your cock has been? How many other hands, mouths, pussys, and asses has it been in before they started dating you? Should she be concerned or indifferent to that?

If you REALLY think and care about it, you will quickly become celibate because the older you get the more impossible it will be to find virgins. If you are really worried about her previous partners, then you need to grow up and become an adult. If you can’t, you’ll have to enjoy life alone... Good luck with that.

It's been a long time since this was a consideration. At the time, I figured that both men and women have to lose their virginity at some point, and just as I lost mine, I'd like to return the pleasure to a young lady. But the issue for me was more about equality.

Which perhaps explains how I feel about someone else having sex with a former or prospective partner. It is only a problem if the someone else is having sex and I'm not. So I have no problem with a partner having sex with others so long as I know that she isn't going to begrudge me having sex, either with her or with someone else.

Before I was not the first guy for my girls. For me, this is somehow disappointing. I am not the kind of guy that sticks his penis in every hole that moves.

All my relationships are kind of magic and series of coincidences that lead to the new experiences. Once I met a true virgin. She might have some petting or oral sex experience before with the previous guy (not sure), but she was kinda afraid of sex. I did not insist on the intercourse when we began our relationship, but I had a true chance to get her laid for the first time, but you know, the lack of time and that truly innocent eyes and voice. I decided to delay this moment for her. We separated for a few months, but I believe that I did the right decision that one night. The was also grateful that I did not insist on sex.

So yes, I always preferred a virgin, but... may be sometimes you need a little bit experience to compare. Should be great to meet a person, have the first time with each other and live together forever ever.

Nanjoy said

. . . Once I met a true virgin. . . . . I had a true chance to get her laid for the first time, . . . I decided to delay this moment for her. We separated . . . So yes, I always preferred a virgin, but. . . .

You NEVER had a virgin so how do you know you prefer it?

Tillie said:

You have to be kidding me.

Most men want to have sex with any woman who is still breathing.

Perhaps you said well; Most men.

I am very happy to be part of the minority of men.

I have (still, and I do not know how much longer), the possibility to choose (to be chosen would be more right, but that's another topic) my girls sexual partners and I can assure you that, I prefer to take a ride with my car rather than having sex with a girl I do not like.

I can assure you that, I prefer to take a ride with my car rather than having sex with a girl I do not like.

My sentiments exactly. Though I'd rather go for a walk. Driving where I live has become a nightmare ... 😃

Most men want to have sex with any woman who is still breathing.

Come to think of it, this does sound like a sort of Andrea Dworkin statement. The kind where men are always considered to be not much more than beasts who are governed and controlled by their supposed animal instincts. You might as well create a segregated society if you believe this, with women on their own and men also on their own - but supervised and strictly controlled.

If I could choose between a virgin and an experienced woman, I would choose the experienced woman every time. Having sex with a virgin might have appealed to me when I was a young man or a teenager, but now not so much. Sex with an experienced woman is so much better!

But then again, if I was single, and had the opportunity to have sex with an attractive, legal aged virgin, of course I wouldn't say no......

My first wife was a virgin and so was I. I couldn't even get my little finger started in her it took long time to stretch her with out it hurting we were both 17 at the time. I would never ram a virgin just to break her I'd think the pain would not be worth it just to say broke a virgin in. I've had anal virgins without pain that we both enjoyed very much. I love anal my wife now will have nothing to do with even being touched,

My wife was a virgin when we got married, we had been showering together, and doing everything sexually, but having intercourse for about a year before we were married. I had had intercourse a few times with past girlfriends, who were more experienced, but was really, no more experienced than my virgin wife. Our wedding night was the blind leading the blind, both going to fast, and thinking my penis would just slide into her vagina. The reason we both thought, it would just slide in, was because, she had started using tampons and douching in her early teens during an just after her period. The second reason, when she asked my sister, if she thought her hymen was broken before we got married, my sister told her, between douching and using tampons during her period, her hymen had more than likely broken years before. Big mistake, her hymen was still intact. It hurt her when my penis broke her hymen and it hurt the glans of my penis when it went through. Once in, I just kept my penis deep in her vagina till it stopped hurting, before I started moving my penis back and forth. I had a good climax but she didn’t, and when I pulled my penis out of her vagina, it was covered in blood, good thing we put a towel under her before we started. We got up from bed and went to the bathroom to clean up and shower together.

During our early teens my sister taught, my brother and I, how to give her a douche. This happened, not long after we started giving each other enemas after school in the afternoon, when no one else was home. My brother or I didn’t douche her that offered, only when ask. She just loved it, when someone else was moving the douche nozzle back and forth in her vagina, as she rubbed her clitoris to orgasm while receiving a warm douche.

While my wife and I where in the shower together on our wedding night, she asked me to douche her like my sister taught me. That surprise the the hell out of me, because I didn’t know till that moment, my sister had told her about teaching my brother and I how to do that, so she could rub her clitoris to climax while receiving a douche with the nozzle moving back and forth. My wife just loved it, when douching her, I started moving the nozzle back and forth in her vagina as she rubbed her clitoris to climax. Boy, did she ever have a good orgasm and was hooked on the method from then on. After we got out of the shower, I talked her into trying an enema for sexual pleasure and to help her relax, like my brother, sister, and I did in the afternoon after school. She told me a week or so later, my sister had also told her about the afternoon enemas we gave each other as teens, and that, she should give it a try. That’s why, I didn’t have any trouble, talking her into giving it a try, my sister had already paved the way for me. She had only received enemas for constipation, but never for sexual pleasure, needless to say, she loved it, like the douching, she was hooked on the enemas my sister had discussed with her. Then I taught her how to give me an enema, and after we gave each other several enemas to relax, we went back to bed. I went down on her orally once we were back in bed, and she had another good orgasm. By this time, her vagina was wet, and my penis just slid right into her. Intercourse, the second time, was great for both of us, even thought she didn't climax, she got very close. And for the rest of our honeymoon, we were like a pair of rabbits, we just couldn’t get enough of each other. Between oral, sexual intercourse, douching, and enemas, we wore each other out.

While my wife and I where in the shower together on our wedding night, she asked me to douche her like my sister taught me, which surprised the the hell out of me, because, I didn’t know till that moment, my sister had told her about teaching my brother and I how to do that.....

That had to be one of the most mind blowing experiences anyone on here has ever had. Think about it. It's like a kink coming full circle with unsuspecting ends. And then, the next few opportunities the 3 of you were together must have been somewhere between awkward and wild. And then I wonder if it stirred up any horny sexual feelings in the presence of your sister. It wouldn't be the 1st time I would have heard about something like that happening either.

@JTMac, sorry to disappoint you, but there was never an issue between us. My brother, sister, and I learned about our sexuality from each other as teens, because there was no one else, but ourselves. My sister and my wife to be were roommates for a year, and my sister helped my wife to be loosen up about her sexuality, being open to trying different things, and nudity around others, be they male or female. As for anything beyond enemas, douching, and masturbating each other as teens, there was nothing.

Our wedding night was a year in the making, the only thing I was surprised about, was how much my sister told my wife to be about our afternoon activity, it had been something that was private between us as teens. But this was, with all due respect, a number of years later. And frankly, I’m happy my sister did, because she really helped my wife be comfortable with herself, her body, and her sexuality.

I don’t think I ever was a woman’s first, at least not the first guy fucking her. I don’t feel the idea of popping a girl’s cherry particularly appealing, and thinking how awkward my first time was, I’d much prefer someone who is far more experienced.