Aroused by embarrassment?

This is perhaps a bit tangential to the notion of embarrassment. But replace that with the notion of ‘uplifting of anxiety’ causing an upwelling of arousal.

I have found this to be so for myself. Some issue or another, personal or often administrative pertaining to obligations or regulations being resolved, often results in a very noticeable increase of arousal.

I suppose it's not an especially startling notion. If a person (or animal: think of mating problems in zoos) is anxious about something, then in most cases the sex drive will diminish. Remove the anxiety and then it seems as if otherwise pent-up or sublimated sexual arousal comes bubbling back to the surface.

And in a way, noticing this phenomenon is somewhat beneficial. I now know that once an anxiety causing issue is resolved (and most usually are) then things will revert to normal with often enough a bonus of an extra dose of sexual arousal.

Thinking about this topic… for years when I was a younger man I had a kind of addiction to embarrassing and humiliating myself by going into stores and purchasing enemas bags or at other times going to store to purchase women's underwear. Doing this was something I both hated and enjoyed at the same time. The embarrassment created a rush - I was too nervous for it to be sexual while I was actually in the store; only when I was back at home was where I could then look at what I purchased and become aroused.

I was too nervous for it to be sexual when I was actually in the store; only when I was back at home where I could then look at what I purchased, and then become aroused.

I would have something similar when buying erotic literature or objects when I was young. I certainly didn't hate doing so. But I was very anxious and nervous and shy about doing so.

When 16 for a first Playboy or 18 for a first Dutch sex mag, it is normal to be nervous and anxious about being refused or told off or embarrassed. The arousal only comes later.

@agracier : I should have clarified… when I say I hated doing it, I hated (too strong a word, disliked is better) and it was the nervousness in thinking about doing it and actually doing it that I did not like - but paradoxically, that's what made it so thrilling to do. Ha, kind of nuts..

When I was teenager though my early 20's when testosterone is at it's highest peak my cock would get hard instantly just any thoughts of a woman. I remember one time I was walking into the Gym in 9th grade as I walked in I saw a girl every guy drooled over she was tall with thick long hair blue eyes perfect face walking by with a smile on her face. By the time I got to my locker with my gym shorts on I had a tent going some kids saw it of course quickly called me gay used other words and so forth it was the 1980s. I just ignored them grabbed my things went to another row quickly changed got out of there.

Yes, very much so. For whatever reason, the sense of being embarrassed will often mean I get erect.

That suits absolutely to my situation. I have a massive stethoscope and auscultation fetish but also I have a doctor and hospital phobia. Those phobias cause an embarressment to me but I cannot describe it as a body embarrassment. Even tough I don't like at all going to a hospital or visiting a doctor, being examined by a female doctor and watching her reactions are inexpressible for me. So, even tough my embarresement take its own source from my phobias, an arousement from an embarrassment is a situation that fits me on.

Embarassment and humiliation are the key factors for me. A play Doctor that knows how to perform a comprehensive medical exam and handle these feelings is the best Doctor for me.

I'm speaking as a sub so for me a Doctor must be reassuring but during the examination authoritative and strict.

I'm aroused by the awkward ness of the whole physical exam and pulling my pants down

Yes it is the embarrassment/ humiliation that get my juices flowing

The idea of being exposed, vulnerable and totally embarrassed is the most arousing thing for me and a key factor.

Yes it is humiliation/embarassement of the moment,giving power over !been taking care of..

I’m both aroused by being embarrassed as a patient and causing embarrassment as a doctor or searcher

This is one of scenarios I want to role play. Some kind of military doctor/officer that conducts a strip and cavity search. Both options available - very strict with many restraints or a trusting one, who gives some freedom to his detainee.

As I started to mature, I felt ashamed of having to undress. But I would like to see a woman in such situations. At the age of 15, I was very ashamed when a nurse-apprentice gave me an enema in the hospital (she was 1-2 years older than me). I was very ashamed of it, but then I was surprised to see that the memory of this humiliation excited me.

It was similar when I was 18 years old and I was about to undergo military medical examinations. When I had to take off my panties in front of a female doctor, I was very embarrassed. However, remembering that medical examination was exciting for me.

Shame and a sense of humiliation are strong feelings that paradoxically evoke excitement.

From my opinion embarrassment, feeling ashamed, shy or sometimes feeling humiliated (in a nice way), is for a lot of people the base of medical roleplay. Which is directly related to the fact that such feelings have a lot of influence on the response of the body. First to see (or sometimes smell) is the penis being stiff or the vulva being wet. Apart from the response when the genitals are being touched and examined. The reflex of the body is often heavy and responding to it. Which adds of course to the embarrassment.

On the other hand, this is also what makes an examination interesting for the patient and for me. Since I do make a remark of any signs of arousal. I ask questions about it. And examine it with extra care and attention.

Definitely. Giving up control, being exposed and being vulnerable are a key turn-on for me.

I would love to be embarrassed and strip naked and have Doctors and nurses examine me and embarrass me with the exam..

I like the embarrassment, the humiliation and being exposed during the examination.

Think of all the people on this website that are aroused by embarrassment. Then there are all the people not even on this website who are also aroused by embarrassment. That's a lot of people aroused by embarrassment when you think about it. Just how big that community is. Maybe not on the size of the community of sexless marriage, but larger than we realize, nevertheless.

Interesting way of putting it, JTMac (post #170)! Thank you! Any special reason for singling out sexless marriage for comparison to embarrassment? How do you know such a statistic, or do you just observe?

(As l'm sure l've said here before, childhood embarrassment - e.g., in my case re doctors - seems to me the basis of very many fetishes, such as medfet itself.)

- Ken

Any special reason for singling out sexless marriage for comparison to embarrassment? How do you know such a statistic, or do you just observe?

I chose the sexless marriage community because that's one that people don't realize how big it actually is until they start chatting with many different people on different websites, and seeing how many people respond on various threads. Take the sub section of sexless marriages that caused men to turn to other men for the 1st time.

So similarly, those who are aroused by embarrassment are many more than I think a lot of people realize.

Thanks, JTMac (posts #170, 172) l'm pretty sure that my own parents were in that category when l was growing up. It may explain my own self-interest sexually as a boy - although, in addition, several of us boys did get together and play ‘doctors’ when l was about 7yo, so my interest was externalised to that extent. But ‘girls’ as sexual objects did not enter my life until adulthood, i.e., l grew up auto-erotic and/or gay.

- Ken

I just feels so right and naughty…… for example being caught masturbaiting.

Every medical appointment , or any appointment that has to do with my body or mind tends to get me aroused

I get aroused thinking about the doctor doing the whole exam while I'm completely naked.

I get aroused thinking about the doctor doing the whole exam while I'm completely naked.

Is that due to attraction for the doctor, or just the idea of the doctor being in the role s/he is in as it relates to your body ?

Yes, embarrassment of being exposed. I like having to take off my clothes in front of the nurse. And I love being examined. Definitely sub medfet.

I get stimulated going to stores dressed in jeans with holes, torn t-shirts and most of all barefoot.

Absolutely embarrassment played a role in my fetish, especially as the patient. How ever I also Like know that my patients are also struggling with embarrassment; Being able to help comfort them yet at the same time subject then to ever more invasive procedures.