Pain and safe words

The last person I was in a relationship with would not stop when I asked him too.

I agree ...

He is/was not a true dom. For as many have stated here, the dom's first priority is the protection of his/her sub. Safe words are not only smart play, they should be mandatory. No safe word=no play. Also there must be a level of trust in the person you are submitting to; If you can't/don't trust them, then no scene. [/i]

A true Dom would listen to their sub and be respectful of their wish to have play stop. Find out why they are not wanting to continue and adjust so that things may continue with consent.

@MissStress I so hate that phrase a True Dom(me) as I have heard it so misused over the years but I do get your intent. I prefer using a real dom and one can create a list of characteristics that defines one. It also comes down to pairing the right dom to the right sub, certain chemistry, ideals, desires, wants and needs which all need to be discussed. I am not a big believer in that I am the Dom and I will mold you into my perfect sub/slave. I think it is important to start with safe words in the beginning as both need to adjust to one another, be able to read micro expressions, and communication.

I'm a straight male switch with several straight switch female exes who fortunately for me enjoyed embracing and sharing all my 5-6 kinks with me as a very active participant. We especially enjoyed evenings where as Domme she gave me large prolonged submissive enemas after dressing me to experience all of my other kinks at once. They had never done it before, but were extremely effective, fun and satisfying if very enjoyably strict Dommes to me. We loved elevating the intensity and eroticism of the sessions by both being very vocal with each other. But she was also perceptive and playful enough to encourage me to moan, groan, complain and beg about her strict prolonged treatment of me while appropriately and very erotically ignoring most of what I complained about. A very amateur but very effective and satisfying Domme. And I never used a safeword even once. I wish we were still together.

Eric

@ericmacson said

. . . . . We loved elevating the intensity and eroticism of the sessions by both being very vocal with each other. But she was also perceptive and playful enough to encourage me to moan, groan, complain and beg about her strict prolonged treatment of me while appropriately and very erotically ignoring most of what I complained about. A very amateur but very effective and satisfying Domme. And I never used a safeword even once. I wish we were still together.

Call me.

I love administering corporal punishment. If you like to moan, beg and cry, I will give you a card with your safeword on it lest you forget what it is in your stupor, as I dispassionately beat you to a pulp. 😁

Be careful what you wish for.

Call me.

I love administering corporal punishment. If you like to moan, beg and cry, I will give you a card with your safeword on it lest you forget what it is in your stupor, as I dispassionately beat you to a pulp. 😁

Be careful what you wish for.

Okay Susie and everyone else, my apologies for lack of truth in advertising. While I realize that Susie loves her S&M and beating people to a pulp, it's my fault that this was totally misleading. I was responding to a previous post about discussing intelligent, compassionate but erotic Dom behavior and wrote my post, even though completely truthful, about my D/s experience but forgetting that this thread is discussing pain and safewords.

I was writing strictly about my switch ex wife acting Domme as she often did when we both enjoyed giving me submissive enemas mixed with all our other several kinks but NOT pain. Neither of us enjoyed or gave any pain to each other but did have many extremely enjoyable D/s-intensive evenings mostly giving me submissive kinky enemas, occasionally switching so she could also enjoy her sub side.

So thanks for the offer, but perhaps you can give your husband a few extra hard whacks and make up for my mistaken impression of looking for S&M. My fault, not yours. And I hope you keep enjoying that sort of thing at home. For my part, I'll just keep recalling my ex's wonderful evenings as my enema Domme and hope for someone to try and replace her someday.

Eric