How Do You Like Your Anal Sex... Pleasure or Pain

Hey,

I keep running into ladies who have bad experiences with anal sex and get a earfull about their partners who don't get it.

It is one thing to have a lady who is into pain and the like who wants you to rock the house.

However ramming your manhood into an unsuspecting lady's bottom for your own selfish pleasure doesn't help our swine like reputation.

As an anal sexpert it has been my pleasure to intoroduce a number of ladies to the tender side of anal sex... many of whom really dig it, inlcuding many who have had bad anal sex experiences in the past.

So the the assembled group an informal poll... pleasurable anal sex or painful anal sex?

Cheers!

I had a strange experience with an elderly woman yesterday. I am also elderly. We have known each other for some time and are comfortable together. She is not into pain, and some how I induced an orgasim in this woman playing with her anus. I devoted about 10 minutes to the act, and to my amazement she came the same way she does when I do her normally. I felt relieved that she came, but this has not happened before. She respond's to finger play quite well, and goes off like a firecracker multiple times. This was a first for me. Any one else with a simuliar experience?

Patience...patience... and more patience. Anal can be intensely pleasurable for both, however the ... um ... inserting partner (in any permutation) must be patient in preparation, foreplay and lubrication. The receiver has little control over involuntary spasms which can cause pain (and adverse feelings into the future). Only patience and tremendous sensitivity from the giver can yield the time for pleasure.

I have a pain/pleasure need for anal penetration. If it hurts at first, that's OK, because it usually feels great afterwards. I love to be banged hard so I can come, in my pussy or my ass. If I feel sore like I was beat up inside, and my muscles are stiff the next morning, I know I had a good time the night before.

We like slow. Not into this pain thing. It always hurts a little, but that's part of the fun.

Pleasurable of course 😃 it's much more fun if you can both really enjoy it. If you stimulate her clit during the anal sex you might even get her an orgasm

When it comes to anal sex I have to agree with happygirl. The combination of the initial pain followed by pure pleasure is a fantastic combination. Having a mirror to watch increases the experience.

Most of the time I prefer slowwwwwwww......but every once in awhile I crave an assfucking that hurts.

Pleasurable! The fierce white hot pain that comes from too much too fast is not fun for me at all.

It can be painful for a number of reasons. I believe that a lot of guys, especially those who aren't that experienced with anal sex or who aren't very sensitive to their partner's needs, think that you can just approach it like a wet pussy...stick it in and go for it. Not so. Finesse and understanding the erotic connections are involved.

I'm into pleasure not pain. What works well for me: plenty of lube, nice preparation and foreplay with a finger(s) followed by a toy, then go a little slowly at first.

Arianna

When it comes to anal sex, I only want it to be pleasureful.

There are plenty of other ways I can give or take pain!

All pleasure, no pain, it should never hurt. go slowly, lots of lube and stretch her very slowly, she'll love it and always want more.

Since viagra I am able to go about things slowly since I can last longer. So I have learned that you must relax your girl slowly and not act like this is high school and stick it in as fast as possible. I am sure I ruined the pleasure of anal sex for my earlier partners and spouse. I guess with age comes wisdom.

I heard so much about painful anal sex but I'm so fortunate to have a very thoughtful and loving partner that started it right for me on my first time. Subsequently, I'm the one offering my ass for him for more! So for me, I would definitely go for PLEASURE!

You need to be slow and gentle when giving i have been on both ways and having something rammed up there is not fun so lube lube lube and slow at first then you can go at it

I like it slow with lots and lots of lube. But I like to be stretched too and if I take it slow and easy

my hole will get huge and drippy. That I love. If it hurts of the get go, I'll tighten right up and then

its no fun at all. It all has to start with a long enema though. Done right, the reward is mind shattering.

Sizeking above also reflects my thoughts.

When I insert or have things inserted in my rectum, I thoroughly enjoy slow and gentle with the appropriate amount of lubrication. Too much or too little lubrication or force is a killjoy for me. When I am as cleaned out as I am capable of from slow, gentle sensuous enemas, it is completely arousing and fulfilling for me to have a slow,gentle, insistent, deep insertion. The slow,gradual, gentle dilation of my rectum is sensationally pleasurable, giving over to ecstatic sensations. As mentioned, when I experience pain, I tighten up and the fun is gone. When done right, I lay there inserting & withdrawing (or having another do so) bringing myself to and over the edge repeatedly. I would rather, and have abstained than have a painful experience, I myself gain no pleasure from pain, only from gentle erotic stimulation. When circumstances are right, I will use my rosebud to greedily, repeatedly flex out and grip and pull in until there is full and complete penetrating satisfaction. 😃

G.N.

Pleasurable, definitely pleasurable

I cannot imagine anyone wanting anal any way but pleasurable. A very sensitive area indeed, and the pain from going too fast, would just be too painful to bear. I think both the giver and receiver should know and trust each other very well before engaging in anal sex. Just my 2 cents worth I guess.

My first experience with it was with a women who did it more because I wanted to. Not because she wanted it. She never said it hurt and I was always careful, lots of lube and went slow. But it wasn't that great for me because it seemed one way. The latest gf is different. She likes it, asks for it and we're only into toys so far. Much better this time!!

It really depends on my mood. Sometimes I want it in a fast hard punishment sort of way, other times gentle and slow, and the rest of the time I don't want it at all!!

I prefer being played with and having toy play or plug inserted but not opposed when the timing is right.

Male partners tend to be more forceful and rougher than the ladies, especially my Special Friend, she has taught me a lot in how to approach anal play. Obviously she can teach an old dog new tricks.

Switchable Skybear

Anal sex with my husband is usually painful but only for punishment. I secretly enjoy it though. He bends me over the bed or couch or counter... whatevers closer... lubes up his dick and slides it in my ass anf just starts fucking me. He won't stop until he finishes in my ass. There is nothing gentle about it but it is a turn on

It all depends on my mood and my wife's mood. There's nights were she wants it real ruff and ill us little lube and force my dick or a toys up her ass. Then she wants it gentle so i will use a lot of lube and play with her ass. Same with me if i want it ruff i will get my ass reamed good and even tho it hurt it really felt good.

My wife likes a slow butt fuck at first . When she starts to cum I try to strech her asshole and repeatedly put dickhead in and out of her ass. A liitle tongue as she cums is well received.

Always slow and sensual, nice enema first then fingers rubbing the special place inside. Face down on pillows as she massages my back rubbing the business end of the Gal Pal against my pucker before easing inside. Feeling of fullness, then the touch on the prostate will cause moans from me and a push back toward her as she leans over my ass.

I love the feel of her breasts touching my back, feeling the hard nipples rub on my bare back with each stroke of the Pal. I can clench my ass muscles causing the Pal to pull out of her slightly, then I push back putting pressure on her G spot and clit. The sudden sound of her unexpected pleasure always rewards my efforts.

Usually my Special Friend will reach around and give Big Boy a stroke or two rubbing the pre-cum on the head. Once she starts her orgasm she will get faster and faster pushing deeper as I try to clinch on the back stroke to pull the Pal against the front of her vagina & "G" spot causing the great guttural moans to escape her lips.

I enjoy the feeling of being taken not knowing when the little wiggles, speed or depths of thrusts will happen, just being used and enjoying the ride. Sometimes she will stop and have me turn over with pillows or a wedge under my butt as she slides back inside, leaning over to rub and pinch my nipples or kiss my lips and rub Big Boy until I explode on both of us. Sometimes it just happens when Big Boy is between our bellies.

She will lay on me as we both try to catch our breath enjoying an occasional push or pull of the Gal Pal and the slickness of the baby batter between us. I think some women know how to screw better than men.

In answer to the question of "How do you like your anal sex?" OFTEN!

Cheers

Skybear

Slow and easy at first, until she takes control and starts pushing harder and harder....

Pleasure! With the hint of not quite pain

Definitely slow. One of my favorite positions is to be spooned while my man's penis is inside. I realize it doesn't let him thrust lying side by side, but there's something very dreamy about laying there with his cock in my ass. When the mood is right, I also will warm up to more aggressive anal sex (a shower is a great place to do this). And the best is last, when my partner cums while deep inside of me. The warm sensation of my rectum filling with his semen is just amazing.....