Masturbation vs. Sex

Does anyone prefer masturbation to fucking?

By that I mean just fucking for fun. Having sex with someone you love or some kind of emotional attachment is different but when it comes to just doing either for fun I think masturbation is sometimes underrated - with masturbation you can;

a) Fuck anyone you want (Agent Scully some years back was always begging me for a deep anal fuck)

b) They always enjoy it & say thanks

c) No-one has to sleep in the wet patch

OK This is a bit tongue in cheek but I would be interested to see how others, men & women, feel about pleasing themselves.....

Solo sex is... different. As you said, you can have any partner(s) you choose. (You listening, Jason Momoa?) Your imagination is the camera operator, seeing the whole scene, a close-up of what's most interesting at the moment, things you cannot really view while having sex with a partner. And the lighting is better than in reality even with skilled people setting it up; parts of our anatomy are in creases and shadows. The "you" that you view is often more beautiful than in reality, as well as younger, better groomed, slimmer, and all that.

With a partner, you are rightfully concerned about their pleasure as much as your own. Solo, though, it's all about you all the time. What do you want, right this moment? Got it. It's not even being selfish!

Although there can still be a wet spot, if you're a woman.

And last, as a happy couple ages, there are physical limitations, even impossibilities, that may make sex more difficult, painful, or just not as fun. For me, that's not a license to find a new, more able partner but to arrange for some alone time.

OK, so I prefer jacking off to fucking. Reasons? First of all no real performance issues arise. No fighting over whose top or bottom. Go at your own pace. If with a partner I like using my hands and fondling them, finding their g-spot and working them til they cum. I like the same. Also like seeing the jiz shoot on my or the other guy's chest, or even just dribbing down and getting into their pubic hair. Sometimes, scrape up their jiz into my bush and use it to jack myself. So, finally, what can you do if you're alone? Now you know what I've tried. You??

It depends on who I am with…if there is no chemistry then there is no fucking!! Maybe a little masturbation & that would be a big maybe 🤔 I do alot of masturbating when I am on my layovers it relaxes me after my long days of flying 😈💦✌️

Well I'm pleased to see I've at least stirred up a bit of interest! I wish I could remember some details but years ago I read an article titled or sub-titled "Blue movies of the mind" which basically went on to discuss how your own imagination could create custom scenarios so much better & more erotic than any porn you could view. & I bet Dana Scully still has a sore ass!!

Generally yes.

I can make myself a lot happier than the few guys I dated ever did. They were more interested in Fucking Me than in Pleasuring Me. I still hold out hope to find a guy I really like but for now I’m happy alone or with women.

Yes. Masturbation is more preferable. I have less and less sex thhese days. So masturbation is the best option.

Although there can still be a wet spot, if you're a woman.

@Merlot Very true. On my own I usually manage my fluids to not end up on the sheets. (Usually on my stomach, palm, or in a glass🤭) However, when my wife and I have sex the wet spot underneath us is mostly my doing. I will happily sleep in the wet spot as a reminder throughout the night of our recent fun activities.

Generally yes.

I can make myself a lot happier than the few guys I dated ever did. They were more interested in Fucking Me than in Pleasuring Me. I still hold out hope to find a guy I really like but for now I’m happy alone or with women.

That is desperately sad. Otherwise known as masturbating inside a woman. I didn't realise that self-absorbed men were so common. Not all men are so bad.

I'm a guy and my orgasms induced by anal play and prostate massage are way stronger then my regular penile orgasms, so theoretically I could prefer masturbation to sex with a partner. But being with a partner is a whole another game.

Yes, fewer risks and you don’t have to go through the trouble of dating apps

I guess you would call what we do masturbation but some call it fucking. Lol

I’ve tested the theory.

Sex is better. It effects last longer.

Masturbation is quicker and easier.

I do masturbate after sex sometimes.

Imo, fucking is better because it involves two human beings, even if they are not deeply in love

I would say masturbation is like seeing a movie on your laptop and real sex seeing it in a ( decent):movie theater.

Once past a certain age, actual physical sex can become something of a sour grapes kind of thing.

You start to think it overrated, that it is too much work involving too much emotional drama at times with complicated emotional vectors being implied and expected by a partner, not to even mention possible financial aspects in some situations. And you may very well develop a negative self-image due to simply aging and becoming less attractive looking with less stamina. Or have to worry about erectile dysfunctionality for men. Often embarrassing.

So by then, I'd guess that masturbation can be more preferable. There is certainly less drama involved or implied expected consequences and less awkwardness after it is finished. Less expectations and certainly less inhibitions. Since masturbation is mostly in the mind, where the fantasizing takes place, you can do just about anything you wish, things a partner might not wish to engage in. True, the physical sensations will not be the same, but someone with a good fantasy can come mighty close. And one can choose any partner you wish.

I prefer fucking, that way I can give a woman oral before with 1-2 fingers up her butt. 😜

Masturbation, hands down (and up and down and up and down, etc.)

Well especially in cases of having to worry about potentially unwanted pregnancy, masturbation is relatively worry free in comparison. You can work your own pace masturbating, while sex may take more active work. The timing for masturbation can be a lot more flexible than for having sex. After masturbating, you can easily resume your life or fall asleep if tired. the time after sex might be a little more complicated.

I am not a big fan of masturbation. I prefer a warm body pressed up against me. Yes, age starts can make things awkward.

Surely the single huge advantage sex has over masturbation is the unpredictability of another's hand. There ain't no surprises from Mother Hand and her Five Daughters.

Relatedly, prisoners are know to have a 'Dead Hand Wank'. Sit on your hand until loss of circulation makes it feel numb & alien; it then feels like another's hand.

There’s a place for both in a healthy relationship. Sometimes one wants to just be alone, whether to read a book, meditate, workout, or self pleasure. Other times the need to be together is there. Nothing wrong with enjoying both and not having to choose one over the other. One shouldn’t feel guilty about masturbating alone, or with their partner.

It totally depends upon who I'm going to be fucking.

I already have started a thread "Masturbation vs. Sex" - perhaps this thread should be joined to it?

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1163719

@reddevil - I agree, so I performed a merge. The threads were essentially the same.

Wife and I don't have sex for a variety of reasons and both absolutely adore our vibrators. I also use underpants and brassieres to masturbate with, and my wife will ask if I used hers or others. (She buys me worn underwear at thrift stores often) She will also question me about how much semen I released.

The 2 acts are pretty different in my mind and I engage in both for different reasons. In the past I've had lovers with whom I had difficulty orgasming. Often I'd masturbate after sex with them to achieve relief. Other times if I were alone and horny, I'd masturbate. Sometimes I'd masturbate when I was anxious (or bored).

The lack of O during sex really isn't an issue for me anymore. I'll still do it if my husband isn't around and I'm horny, but now that I'm post menopausal that happens less frequently. I used to need orgasm at least daily but now our normal sex life of 2-3x a week keeps me quite satisfied. On the whole, now, I vastly prefer sex to masturbation but when I was younger it depended on how skilled my lover was as to which I preferred. The sex was great for closeness but if I wasn't being physically satisfied I needed to 'get there' and even if a vanilla lover was making me cum, a lot of times the darker part of my sexuality was still needing satisfaction.

Interestingly, using my left hand feels so much better than using my right (dominate) hand. Hard to believe that it's just the difference of angle making so much difference 😕 Unfortunately, my left hand tiers faster

I've never been able to switch hands at all. So lucky you ... 😃

…and even if a vanilla lover was making me cum, a lot of times the darker part of my sexuality was still needing satisfaction.

@Nurse_Phillips I glad you said that. The orgasm alone does not always satiate every desire. There are often additional wantings that linger around the edges and grow over time. Eventually the need to be used, or be pushed, or to serve in a depraved way almost exceeds the need for the simple orgasm.

Eventually the need to be used, or be pushed, or to serve in a depraved way almost exceeds the need for the simple orgasm.

Which is kinda hard to do solo, but you find ways. Clothespins, sewing needles, occasionally cutting but happily I never went too deep there. I know some girls who still have scars from it, I was always careful not to go too deep.