Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

For me, I have become more interested in sex with men as I get older, but I think it is due to several factors:

1. wife having no interest in sex

2. erections becoming unreliable [meds can only do so much and sometimes the side effects are bad enough they are not usuable]

3. society is more open and accepting - well at least here in Canada

4. As I get older, I care much less about what other people think

My experience was that I didn't come out fully as bisexual until a couple of years go at 31, and a lot of that was simply not having either the maturity or insight to understand my sexuality. Sure, I had been comfortable being sexual with guys in fetish play prior to that, but didn't really address the cognitive dissonance head on until 2-3 years ago.

I had crushes on other guys as far back as middle and high school, experiences that I repressed since I was brought up culturally speaking with heterosexual norms. I don't say this in a hateful way, but even in the 2000s we still grew up with LGBTQ+ identities being taboo, especially as a high schooler. Most of my experiences with other males sexually was with medical play, but I otherwise constructed my sexual identity as heterosexual and kept my medical fetishism interests a secret because of how embarrassed I was about it. It was very uncomfortable to try to process allowing myself to do medical play with guys and let guys sexually touch me and then go on to try to pursue heteroromantic relationships.

In hindsight, I was always bisexual, but didn't have the tools to understand or accept what it was until more recently. I think it has less to do with "being older" and more so having the self-reflection to acknowledge and make sense of it in a healthier way.

I’ve been predominantly straight, and have never considered myself gay. As a teen and also a younger man I did some experimenting, and it was always a pleasant experience, but was never my preference. Now that I’m older, I wish I would’ve experimented a little more. Now days if I were to play with a guy, I would like him to clean shaven, athletic and younger. Yes, as a now older man, I too find a smooth slightly arching erect circumcised penis with a blushing ros’e head and a taught scrotum to be quite intriguing, erotic and a bit salacious.

I am older and I have no interest in being bisexual at all and I never have. I love the companionship of women only. I can always tell when I am around other older couples if the man suffers from erectile dysfunction or is bisexual and is not interested in sex with his wife. Their wives get very interested in me and shower me with affection, which I enjoy. Many old ladies are very lonely and horny.

@Silver_Bullet : Isn't that a little selfish if you use women who suffer from dysfunction? I think if a man mentions this disorder to you, he will trust you and certainly do not expect that you will start something with his wife.

It seems that I am, and often fantasize about being the bottom or sub for either a man or woman. Anal sex in particular excites me, and I would love being on the receiving end from my partner.

I don't think I am more interested. I think I am just as interested now as I was 40 years ago. I am not as inhibited now as I was 40 years ago.

Not me

Perhaps it is not the question of whether older men become more bisexual than younger ones, but a question of changed sexuality. If the woman's desire for frequent sex perhaps in the case of older couples may decrease, and the longing for afterwards tends to increase, men often look for ways out outside of the partnership. The search for a younger woman would be far too stressful for me, because a young woman also wants to be loved extensively. If I get involved with men occasionally, but then no love comes into play, but only uncomplicated pleasure satisfaction without obligations. It also took me a long time to go this way, today it is like a valve to reduce my pent -up sexual tension from time to time.

For me, the answer is "yes". As a kid, I sucked another boys cock, because he asked me to. But as a teenager, my total objective was females, and finally at 19, I lost my virginity. Sex with women was always wonderful, and I enjoyed them thoroughly for the next 40+ years. However, from time to time, I would think of my first homosexual experience, and wondered how a man would be. During this time, there were 3 men, who I would have liked to have sucked their cock. I never could devise a way to see if they might be interested. Also, at that time, I was married, and still am. So, the desire passed.

By my late 60's, sexual desire had passed, but in my early 80's, I discovered that men my age still had sex, but with other men! Realizing that I always had a latent desire to have sex with men, I acted on it. I found that homosexual sex was completely satisfying for me, and enjoy engaging in it with other. men. I have no intentions of stopping.

However, I did wonder whether I was gay, or bi-sexual so I experimental by watching gay, and straight porn.. I found out that sexual activities with both men and women excited me greatly, but sex with women was not realistic at my age, whereas, with men it is!.

So, my answer to the question is; yes, as I aged, I found myself liking sexual activities with men, while still being excited by women. That is described as "bi-sexual".

If judging by porn - yes 😃 In real life...

Me myself met older partner just once. 66 y.o. guy, pretty desperate to find gay partner (even faked his age - told me he is 54 before the first date). Not good at sex, because of inexperience with men, and erection limits (not dysfunctional, just half-flaccid all the way), but very... sensual. He love our dates. And I discovered I'm into elders, thanks to him)

I would say no, but that's only my opinion.

Me myself met older partner just once. 66 y.o. guy, pretty desperate to find gay partner (even faked his age - told me he is 54 before the first date).

Inexperienced men aren't the only ones who do that. I had a hookup with a guy while on a trip who said he was 56 when he was 66. I wasn't buying it (especially since I prefer older guys). We really hit it off and now we see each other several times a year. My partner refers to him as my boyfriend. 🤣

I am 68 now and find myself much more open to having sex with other men. Meanwhile I keep pleasuring myself, which feels great and keeps everything working.

I wish I had a better understanding of human sexuality when I was younger. I (gay male) once had a wonderful friendship that became sexual with an older married (straight) man that I worked with. I was 32 and he was 61. He and his wife were in a sexless marriage. The relationship was over, but neither seemed to think there was any point in getting divorced at that stage of life. I was very attracted to him and couldn't believe he was acting like his life was over because of his age and having grown children. He was handsome, generous, in great shape, very smart, & interesting. However, once our relationship became sexual, I had a difficult time accepting that he was being honest with me or himself. He told me things like "I never in my life wanted to have sex with a man but things changed as I got older", "I guess I'm a little bisexual, but I don't go around looking at guys thinking I want to f*** them", "I could never have a regular relationship with a man because I don't see myself holding hands or publicly kissing a man."

At the time, I was convinced he was in denial, and it annoyed me and made me feel used. I was horrible to him, and I regret it now that I'm older, wiser, and more open-minded.

I don't think so. Although maturing raises some sexual issues it doesn't really change who I am just how I do it. I do find myself much more open to expand a wider social circle which does include more women but that doesn't mean I have any great desire to jump in bed with them.

It's usually not just an either/or issue. I believe our natural desires fall on a continuum from purely heterosexual to purely gay. And depending on circumstances, that point on the continuum can be fluid. I have ended up being all over the place on that continuum.

I find as I get older, my gay friends and straight friends, whether in a relationship or not, a more sexually open to trying new things.

I work with a much younger guy. He tells stories all the time where he and his guy friend will "tag team" girls. He will also have e threesomes with 2 girls. He doesn't see it as gay, bi or straight. Just having fun.

I think the younger generation is more open about thier sexual experience than we were. And I'm 41. Not that old at all!

When I look at pictures of nude women, I become aroused. However, recently, I have become interested in looking at penises, but this is more of an intellectual interest or curiosity, reminiscent of being a kid comparing with friends. I prefer images of just the genitals -- I don't find the overall package of the male body particularly attractive.

I’m a senior citizen, who has never had any attraction for men. I believe that biology plays a role in determining whether we’re straight or gay. People don’t wake up and suddenly decide what they want to be.

I’m a senior citizen, who has never had any attraction for men. I believe that biology plays a role in determining whether we’re straight or gay. People don’t wake up and suddenly decide what they want to be.

That is not how such changes work. It's not an 'on the road to Damascus' thing. Only very dramatic occurrences fuel drastic short-term change.

Such changes occur bit by bit, like chipping away at a wall.

I’m a senior citizen, who has never had any attraction for men. I believe that biology plays a role in determining whether we’re straight or gay. People don’t wake up and suddenly decide what they want to be.

No, sexual orientation does not change suddenly. I think that in every person there is a hidden homosexual gene. In some people it emerges from the start, maybe never for others. And in between there are also people who discover their interest in their own gender at any point in life. In the past, the other later. With one out of curiosity, for others out of sexual frustration with the opposite sex. Some then fully turn to their own gender, with others it remains with occasional adventures.

Being older I have developed a greater appreciation and desire simply for the human closeness afforded by intimate sexual contact, and I would be pleased having that with either men or women. I’m definitely more aroused by male genitalia now than in the past and have a heightened interest in receiving anal pleasure and sex.

For me, getting older was not a factor, but having opportunity in my later years sparked greater interest in same sex encounters. I'm now 73 and spent most of my life in a heterosexual relationship. My bisexual self remained suppressed and deeply closeted. I retired at age 60 and moved to a different state. It was at that time that I felt comfortable enough to book a session with a gay massage therapist who I continued to visit for the next 7 years. Our early sessions were strictly by the book. We had many good conversations about sexuality and, over time, he gently introduced me to the pleasures of physical and emotional intimacy between two men. In my previous thoughts, I always envisioned myself as a top. Much to my surprise, I found that giving oral and receiving anally gave me the greatest pleasure and some of the most intense orgasms I've ever had!