Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older and can no longer get hard! I have always been BI curious, but more and more I want to be a sissy cock sucker. Do other men have this fantasy much more often in older age?

I am a gay man and would consider myself "older." I have noticed over the years more men who identify as straight interested in having sex with another man. They not would I ever suggest that they still are not "straight." They have just become curious about sex. It is like when we were in early puberty when boys would "experiment" with other boys. I have had some encounters with "straight" men who have actually expressed a desire to do some of those things which they did as a young man. I think it brings back fond memories of sexual exploration absent all the gender roles and expectations that some men were forced to assume later in life with wives and family.

It is certainly less of a taboo to have sex with a man now. Plus as I've aged I just want more sex and some women (my wife included) want less and less sex. So now I am happy having sex with either a man or a woman.

I would say there's a tendency for older men to start to become at least bi curious if there is less opportunity for heterosexual sex available for various reasons, including what's already been mentioned.

Maybe the older you get, the wiser you become.

And one of those pearls of wisdom you pick up along the way is that, despite what many unscrupulous politicians and religious leaders and many prudes wish you to believe, having gay sex is NOT one of their many and numerous roads to perdition after all. It's just sex with a partner of the same gender, nothing more.

Inkdik EXACTLY Thank you! These are MY thoughts too! agracier, not an issue for me, as I am an agnostic. I have always been very close to being BI, and could be in a NY minute! My brother did do me anally when we were in puberty, it felt ok-good, then in my 30's I tried to give a friend a blow job,( married at the time, and still married), but he was drunk, did not get hard, & he told me to not do this, a shame we did not continue! P:S my wife has always had her orgasms when making me admit this, since the time I no longer got hard, and the fantasy of being submissive to both a man and her, the other man as well being submissive to her. . we have both ALWAYS been sexually excited by me being spanked by her!

My wife has had me cum it my mouth, & we both know that we enjoyed it!

In my teens I had gay fantasies, but then went straight until my 40s when I had a bdsm session with a male Dom. Since then I have enjoyed gay sex too, especially sucking a man and swallowing. At the end of the day it's just giving each other pleasure and enjoying the intimacy, even if that can be ephemeral with a male partner.

I read this with considerable interest as i thought i was the only one having these gay thoughts at a late age. I am married and although not getting very hard i enjoy pleasuring my younger wife. She is a Spanko so we have many sessions with her over my knee or on the bed for a paddling or a caning. She says that makes her horny. It works for me.

In spite of a happy sex life, i often fantasies about having a sexual encounter with another man. I have never held a penis other than my own, let alone had one in my mouth. It is a favorite fantasy going down on a hard cock. Maybe its a dream that will never come true as i am not in the gay scene at all. I imagine sex with a friend not a stranger but i seem to have no gay friends

I find that the older I get, the less worried I am about labels. This includes what kind of sexual activities I enjoy. I have limits and my heart will draw me to women for an emotional relationship.

I would like to add on to my reply. In my profession I have worked side by side with people who were open about their sexuality and had many opportunities to have sex with other men. I never acted on this and I didn't really have any desire to. I had no issues - I just wasn't interested. What changed? I can't really answer that question. I know that having access to any variety of porn online has allowed me to see sex in all its forms and I've seen things that I became interested in. Plus my sex life slowly dried up and I found myself open to experimenting with what I was seeing.

Anyway, since having sex with a man, I am sorry that I didn't take advantages of the opportunities that I had when I was younger. But maybe I wasn't ready for them then. I guess I will never know.

I love a huge cock in my ass but I really have no interest to be with a guy. The thought kind of skeeves me out although for me it's all about the cock.....I love being dominated by a woman with a strapon, and I am just enamored by a woman's body.........while I can appreciate a guy with a nice body, I have no desire to touch it or have it near me......who knows maybe I could do a glory hole where I didnt know anything about the guy......just a cock for my ass.....frankly I think I would need a really big dude....maybe a shaq type.....

Two factors seem to be in play.

As hetero men age and if their sex drive is still strong when their wives are less interested or not interested at all in having sex, then they start thinking about other ways to have sex. Available options are masturbation, sex with other women or men. Masturbation is easy and accessible but maybe not fulfilling enough. Sex with other women can get very complicated and risky to your marriage maybe too much risk. Sex with men can be causal, easy with no strings attached especially if it's with another bi man who just wants discrete sex too. So this is a real viable option that fits the need.

The second factor is having some capacity to have a same sex partner. I think bi sexual people pretty much start out with this capacity early in life but it may get suppressed. But then the man ages and the sexual circumstances at home changes and those suppressed desires re-emerge. Some men never act on these desires while a few do.

I have found that I am more attracted to men as I have gotten older. I can't say when it happened, it was more of a gradual transition where the male body became increasingly more attractive. Now I find I think about guys more then girls.

I believe as we get older,and out testosterone drops, we get more into it,,or .maybe we have nothing left to prove

Older men are not out to prove their masculinity. They can enjoy what they want without any macho pissing contests.

Now in my 70s, it's more like I'm free to re-engage with feelings that were quite intense in my youth, suppressed during adulthood, and now re-awakened. Am amazed at the number of men of my generation I meet who had the same experience of coming full-circle in their sexuality and have finally found the freedom to express themselves.

I can relate to a lot of what's already been said in this thread. I've never done anything with another guy, but I do think about it often. And I would say that the older I get the more I think about actually acting upon those thoughts and feelings and giving it a try.

The reasons?

Partly because my wife has has no interest in sex, but yet I still do.

Partly because I think I've always had some attraction to other males, but never acted upon that due to the social stigma attached to it.

Partly because there is now much more acceptance of same-sex experiences.

And partly because as I get older, I figure that I don't have that much longer to live. So what the fuck? Why not give it a try at least once before I die?

A lot of logical points and common ground among a lot of us. Reasonable explanations for what could clear up confusion about how & why things are gravitating in the direction they are with many of us.

This describes one of my deepest fantasies as desires. I'm happily married, in my mid-40s, and for the past 10 years or so I have become very curious about sucking cock and swallowing cum. I've never done so. It seems the older I get, the more I want to satisfy this desire.

My wife would in no way approve of me doing this.

I've read many accounts of men who share the same urge. There is absolutely no attraction to other men, no desire to kiss or be affectionate with another man, yet the act of orally servicing another man's cock and balls until he ejaculates in your mouth seems common among older, married men.

Perhaps there is a genetic/evolutionary advantage from doing so. As we men get older, we become less likely to fertilize a woman. However, if we consume the sperm of other more virile men instead of letting them fertilize a woman we remain genetically competitive.

Maybe sucking cock is in our base instinct and society's "expectations" have just shamed us from acting on it.

It's too bad JimmyJohnson and I don't live down the street from each other!

It's too bad JimmyJohnson and I don't live down the street from each other!

It does sound like we are in similar circumstances. But I am just a bit older than you. And after looking at your profile, it seems that we both like to write stories on literotica -- another thing in common. Texas and Georgia aren't that far from each other. I'm just saying.

Texas and Georgia aren't that far from each other. I'm just saying.

About 16 hrs driving between the midpoints of the states. If each of you drove about 8 hrs & met in the middle, that would be either Louisiana or Mississippi, depending.....

I think whatever they have in mind would be illegal in Mississippi or Louisiana. 😁 😁 😁

I think whatever they have in mind would be illegal in Mississippi or Louisiana. 😁 😁 😁

Mississippi perhaps. But I thought just about anything goes in LA, what with Mardi Gras and all.

I don't think the desire to have sex with another man changes over time. What changes is the willingness to fulfill the desire.

Nope, I haven't changed. Women only!

I've never had any desire to have sex with another man. I'm over 60, and that has not changed in the least. The introspective (Know Thyself) part of my psyche wonders from time to time why it is that I absolutely love being pegged by a woman, but the thought of anal sex with a guy disgusts me. Sorry gays, we can be friends; to each his (or her) own, but homosexual sex is not my cup of tea.

I have no desire for males.

When I was younger, I fooled around with the neighbor boy and at different times, his younger brother. I hooked up with both of them at different times only one time after we were adults. I always enjoyed it but was interested in women, wanted to get married and have kids.

In 2002, my wife died and after going thru a terrible 4-5 years alone, (by choice), I decided any sex was good sex so I hooked up with guys and girls. Even had a brief 3some with a couple I met online. Now, I am looking for a woman to have a home with, but until then, when I want to have sex with someone, I find a guy to play with. Mostly because there is no pressure or obligations.

Not sure how often others are in your condition but i love sucking on an older guy if you were here sucking me I'd still want to suck on you, I know from a friend with ED issues that he still loves having his cock sucked. Back in January i sucked on him a good 45 minutes.