Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

My thoughts on this subject have certainly changed as I grow older.

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older…

Thinking about this I have to wonder how much a part does the easy access we have via the web to where we can see photos and videos of erections. As such, images seen on a screen are isolated from the reality of actually being in the presence of another male.

Thinking about this I have to wonder how much a part does the easy access we have via the web to where we can see photos and videos of erections. As such, images seen on a screen are isolated from the reality of actually being in the presence of another male.

I think you have a very good point. An impressive erection may well look attractive on screen, but the big hairy bloke it is attached to might make less pleasant company. The web makes it much easier to indulge in fantasies that might never realistically happen.

@BulgeInPants An impressive erection may well look attractive on screen, but the big hairy bloke it is attached to might make less pleasant company.

Yes - exactly, having been there, done that as they say. I also think we give off pheromones and we seek the sweet scent of our sexual opposite…

To be honest I started having sex with other men because it was a lot easier to hook up. Then nature took over and I couldn't get hard anymore so not being able to satisfy anyone that way I changed. I started to bottom and I can't lie, I love it.

I finally get excited about sex. Before I guess I was just going through the motions. So I guess getting older wasn't such a bad thing after all.

In another thread about monogamy @Phoenix7 wrote:

Monogamy evolved as a way to provide a stable and protective environment for child rearing where a couple can focus their limited resources into bringing up their children and also later descendants.

Several others have theorized that everyone is bisexual - it is just suppressed by societal constraints, religion etc. When children leave home and child rearing responsibilities for both spouses decrease, do the natural human instincts of expanding their sexual experiences - both heterosexual and bi-sexual - manifest and come into play?? Not sure how true all these assumptions are - but if you put them together it makes for a reasonable argument.

Most likely the same arguments (if indeed those arguments are valid) would hold for women the same as they do for men. If the assumptions that mankind (including women) have both a “bisexual” seed and are not sexually monogamous - except for societal indoctrination are true, then as women age and the children leave the nest one becomes more free to explore either bisexual or other heterosexual relationships.

I do not know the answer to this question but can give you information from my own experience.

I had sex with my best friend back in grade school when we traded blow jobs as often as we could. I enjoyed my time with him but still lusted after women. This was back in the 60's and I did not know about bisexuality untill later. It was after that when I finally was able to understand my sexuality and acknowledge my being BI.

I married a great gal and thought that I could ignor my bisexual needs for cock and cum. As time has passed, I find it much harder to ignor these needs and wanting to suck a nice cock and swallow some cum once again. BTW - I have always swallowed my own cum when I masturbate just because I love it so much and also thought this would keep me satisified. It has not completely kept me satidified.

Is this a function of my older age or just because it has been a long time since I had a cock to suck? IDK.

I would love to get with other older men for intimate play. I’ve not had any sexual intimacy with my wife (or ANY warm body) in many years…. My wife is just not interested when I try to spark things up. With me having ED, I get no sexual pleasure except when playing with my plug and dildo…which I must do only when I can get some privacy. She would freak out if she knew I do this! So having some nice, sensual anal sex with an older guy, who can still get hard, would be something I might enjoy on a regular basis. At least I’d like to give it a try! I know there are some older guys out there who would like it, too.

I've been bi for over 60 years. I have loved girls and made love to many. I have enjoyed men, but only their penis and testicles. I loved having a nice cock in me (mouth and ass), but was never attracted to men except for sex. I never had my cock in a man or boy!. But in plenty of girls. Now my cock is pretty well useless, but my GF loves me to make love to her - I think of it as being like a lesbian. I enjoy her and she love to play with my shrunken cock and balls, and my ass. I still think of getting a man in my ass, but really am satisfied with my GF's attention. Growing old but still enjoying sex is wonderful. Just have to change expectations. I can make love to her much longer than I ever could when I was using my cock. And I never lose interest as I used to when I “finished”!

It's exactly as TM48 told it. Some women lose interest in sex as they age, or become very reluctant to participate. It's much different with most men, and they miss the intimacy. I know a couple of friends who faced this exact problem but also didn't want to cheat on their wives with another woman. The only way out was to try out a sexual adventure with another man when the opportunity arose. My acquaintances aren't actually gay or bisexual, and they only cared about sexual satisfaction. If I now imagine that men who are about to meet somewhere, in a relevant cinema, in a sauna or somewhere in the dunes, then these encounters will happen. And I still think that's much better than separating from your partner.

....in addition, a sexual adventure between men is more non-binding; there is mostly no love involved and no other feelings towards each other. You meet, masturbate together, maybe there's a blowjob or (rarely) anal sex, then everyone goes their own way and that's it. With women it is very often much more complicated.

I have noticed that as I age the idea of male to male interactions are no longer frightening, taboo or what ever. I have never had sex with a man but I imagine with the right person it could be very exciting and

male to male interactions are no longer frightening, taboo or what ever.

In an odd way, it was those very things that became intriguing - along with my wearing women's undergarments 😈

I'm definitely younger than many here (late 30s), but am noticing this change this already. I had always considered myself straight, but are wondering if that's more fluid as I age. I definitely have most interest in women, and don't really find men attractive, but do have interest in their equipment. I've found that I thoroughly enjoy the locker room experience and being naked with other men. It's nice to be on full display and able to compare to what others have, though I'm usually the smallest around. I haven't had the opportunity, but have the curiosity of what it'd be like to pleasure another penis and eventually be penetrated. I doubt my wife would be interested in a MMF encounter, but I'd definitely jump at it if the chance arose.

I'm definitely younger than many here (late 30s), but am noticing this change this already. I had always considered myself straight, but are wondering if that's more fluid as I age. I definitely have most interest in women, and don't really find men attractive, but do have interest in their equipment.

From that description, perhaps trans is the way to go first if so inclined.

There are many male to female trans-people who, aside from their genitals, are almost indistinguishable from females. View them clothed and you could never tell the difference (except if you go into minutiae like an Adams apple or such). You have a female body with male genitals. A perfect mix of attributes as Ancients Greeks used to think.

Growing more receptive might also come from a slow, but steady elimination of the social stigma surrounding being gay. This isn't evenly applied everywhere on the globe, but in western society in general, except for the die-hard homophobes, society does not disapprove as much as it used to in the past. This allows individuals more leeway to mull and think on the subject without being immediately faced with social disapproval.

From that description, perhaps trans is the way to go first if so inclined.

This is an interesting point, and definitely something that I wouldn't be opposed to. I find this a fascinating option, further adding to the spice of the situation. It an exciting thought of being with a woman with potentially a larger penis than me.

I'd LOVE to receive anal from a sexy trans woman! 😜

Mike45 said….

I'd LOVE to receive anal from a sexy trans woman! 😜

Wow! What guy wouldn’t LOVE to experience this?

This is an interesting point, and definitely something that I wouldn't be opposed to. I find this a fascinating option, further adding to the spice of the situation. It an exciting thought of being with a woman with potentially a larger penis than me.

As an interesting side-bar concerning the outward appearance of a trans-person: in the (legal) red light district in my city, trans sex-workers are required to hang out a sign on their store-fronts identifying them as trans. This because in the past, too many clients didn't realize what kind of sex worker they were paying for, mistaking them for female. And in many instances mistaken gender did cause some consternation ... not always, but often enough that police were called in to settle disputes and misunderstandings.

Good exercises in honing people skills and conflict resolution ... ha ha

It's been 5 years since i first responded to this thread, still i a curious and interesting question to me.

i do subscribe to the spectrum theory of human sexuality, and i see that spectrum as multidimensional, not just linear. I.e., i suspect there are infinite variations on the generalized labels we have for communication like: "straight, gay, bi, etc.."

i can see age as a factor going either direction on this question. I.e., i can see some men being 'more' straight as they age. But maybe it isn't a matter of any of us being more or less, but having gotten to a place where there are more or less boundaries? Some cling to their notions, ideas, identities- as they age- to maintain a sense of security. Maybe that's a part of dealing with mortality. On the other hand, some may want to experience newness, difference, as they did earlier in life when they had fewer experiences.

i think it's a complex question though, and don't think there's a yes or no answer, that individuality plays more into this than age?

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I do not have any definitive answer to the question, but clearly I see even among people that I know that having a homosexual experience is something that many consider only when aging.

I cannot add any personal perspective here as I was always only interested in other males, I can therefore just add my perception: when aging people might tend to reconsider the old family/society indoctrination and are more true to themselves and what they really feel. Maybe also the feeling of having less time to really exercise that freedom might play a role, so the combined effect of more mental freedom plus less time could facilitate those with curiosity towards homosexual encounters and could create the right circumstances for following up on one’s instinct.

Just my two cents

I always thought I was just a hetero, but when I turned 50 it was like a switch turned on. I became enamored with the thought of having a dick in my mouth or pounding my ass. Women still excited me, but this whole new dimension opened up. It resulted in a number of safe sex encounters with men (tho I yearned for bareback). I think the seed may have always been there (was subtly approached several times when young, and was never disgusted by it).

I think the seed may have always been there (was subtly approached several times when young, and was never disgusted by it).

Might be that most guys who consider bisexual at an older age simply suppressed their desires while younger. I don’t believe a “switch” magically goes off at some later point in their lives.

I don't disagree with that. The transition, tho, was so quick...it took me by surprise.

I don't disagree with that. The transition, tho, was so quick...it took me by surprise.

That seems to support the idea of "suppression" to me. If something is held back ("repressed"), it can be a full force flood once released.

i was not in denial about being attracted to guys, but i both repressed and suppressed that part of myself because of religious conditioning against same sex attraction. i didn't have my first same sex experience until i was 27 years old, but my whole fantasy/masturbation life from puberty was always about guys. Once i gave in, there was no going back... even though i tried like a mad man to resist sexual contact with guys for years after. It took me several more years to process through my conditioning and accept who and how i am, but i was having sex with guys the whole time.

Good thoughts, with which I agree. I also believe in the spectrum of sexuality, which would suggest I was more a repressed bisexual. Women have always and still excite me, too.

Yes, the older I get the more I want to be with a man. As a young man I never considered other men. But now, I often prefer holding, kissing, sucking a penis. Now, the trick is finding similar men.

Assuming there is a scale of varying degrees associated with this concept, I would say I have moved a half step away from NO, and into the gray. I don’t find myself wanting or imagining myself playing with another cock, but the idea of encountering one in a group situation no longer spoils my fantasy. I used to think I would only enjoy a threesome or foursome with just myself and other women, but now the idea of mixed sex group play is very arousing. I would be comfortable interacting with another cock as a part of an activity which also included another woman.

I know it sounds small, but baby steps. Tip toeing into the heteroflexible category.