The question is also for parents....who is "better" spanker....mother or father?
From a play perspective it's my personal opinion that men are far more superior at spanking than women but not for the reasons you might think, which is strength.
For me personally I don't like playing or doing anything sexual with women and I absolutely would never put myself in a position where another female would be superior to me, so having a woman spank me is simply not going to happen and is out of the question.
So again, the answer to your question for me is men, hands down. Getting spanked by a man would and is a huge turn on, being spanked by a woman would probably just piss me off, lol.
Being spanked as a kid, mom did it mostly, and was always bare butt, in private, and way more than a couple of swats with a strap or switch. No-way was it cruel, or abusive, just very effective!! Rarely did dad spank, and was with his hand (once with a strap), and on the pants. Boy, did it hurt, and was way more scared of dad, than mom. When, push, came to shove, you had a sore butt, and knew not to do it again. I would say mom was better at it, as it just seemed to be, a more "easy"?? experience?? Maybe, there was more love involved, and am sure my fetish for spanking and enemas both, were from the same person. . .Mom!! 😉 No enemas from dad. . .whew!! 😃 Mike, KID, Cal 😃
In my experience, men are better spanked.
Whenever I misbehave or forget to do something, my husband uses his awful Laser Stinger paddle on my bare behind. I bawl like a baby and the marks last for several days. However, this past summer, I met an older woman who knows how to spank me. These woman-to-woman spankings are more enjoyable for me, for a quality spanking. She has a way of lecturing me, as she undoes my pants and takes them down. That almost make my knees buckle, while she is seated and I am standing to her right, like a 30 year old naughty child! -Gabi
I've been spanked twice as an adult, once by the daughter of my landlord, she was still at school (but 16+) and in her uniform with a pleated skirt, I could not sit down for two months after that spanking! The second time I was spanked was by a female manager in a kitchen I worked in, because I back chatted her. I could not sit down for another two months. From my experience, women and girls are very capable spankers!
No question about it - my mother was!
My Mom was a better spanker by my dad's were more painful. I think it was a combination of the total number of hits and the amount of force involved.
From all the spanking I have had I would say it's very even. Each have their own method of getting to the bottom of the situation.
By a slight margin I prefer men. I thing it has something to do with having to submit to some one of the same sex. It seems more exciting and embarrassing to me have a man put me over his lap or make me stand before him to have my ass paddled or strapped.
The following is a letter I wrote to him after the spanking and some planning if we ever get to enjoy each other again.
How about you? Been over anybody's knee lately?
No, I broke a rib during one of our storms and have been out of commission for about three weeks.
I can understand why your paddles are so busy, that was one great hiding you you administer to my butt which I really needed and deserved every bit of energy you imparted to it, and more.
When you led me to that bathroom with that paddle and strap I thought I knew what I was I was in for, boy was I pleasantly wrong!
I really appreciated those extras back in the bedroom, I should have asked for more. The pleasure from the spanking and the "aftercare" you administered were Of the highest order possible. The extra strokes in the bedroom are just as important to me, not for pleasure, as a paddling after an orgasm is given at a time when it is pure pain. It is pure punishment which contrast so much from the pure pleasure just received, and is remembered, treasured and dreaded as much or more so than the pleasure. Giving and taking pure punishment establishes a very tight and cherished bond between spanker and spankee. I thank you for that and hope and dread a longer and harder punishment if we happen to meet again.
Sorry for the prolonged dissertation.
That aftercare was a prostate massage and an orgasm that was unbelievable.
The best I've experienced was a transgender woman. Just the right combination of upper body strength and flexibility at the wrist.
My mother not only spanked far more often than my father she spanked both harder and for longer periods than my father.
On top of this whether my brothers or me or my sisters she spanked bare butt.
Father never did. spank on the bare.
Does anyone agree with me.
I have never actually been spanked, but have given a few spankings in my life all to adult females, and I have been told that when it comes to discipline spanking, I am really good. I once spanked an old acquaintance of mine and it brought her to tears in a matter of 10 swats and she had on jeans.
I'd say it depends on how you define "better". Men seem to "get the job done" and while the spanking will be painful, it doesn't feel as emotional. Women spankers (in my experience) seem to inject more emotion into the spanking, and may not hit as hard but aren't afraid to make it last for a very long time.
My high school football coach paddled my naked butt and it sure hurt He was a big guy---My wife is a smaller woman--but amazing as it may seem she can paddle my bare butt and make it hurt as much as the coach
Never been spanked by a man other than a few swats by my dad so I really can't say other than I enjoy my gf when she spanks me. She either uses her hand or a wooden paddle that is always on top of the refrigerator ready to be fetched by me.
I thinks ladies knows best.
The way spanking worked growing up is mom did the spanking and then if that didn't work or she felt disrespected she would tell the old man. This was equivalent to Darth Vader choking you by just looking at you. I can count on one hand the times he actually pulled off his belt. Once when I did something stupid to a shopkeeper and involved a water balloon I was returned home in the back of a cop car. That was REALLY not a good day.
Flash forward 20 years and now I'm the dad. My wife did most of the day to day punishment, usually the threat of a wooden spoon was enough. Occasionally when she had the same thing happen, kids weren't listening or being disrespectful she would yell out "Buford" ( not my real name) and I would run into the room with the same crazed look my dad had and using his old command voice. Just my "Patented look of death" was usually enough to end it but if that didn't work I would whip off my belt and snap it once. My daughter would run to her room screaming and my son would disappear in whatever direction was away from me. I don't think I ever hit them with the belt more than once or twice because one taste was enough. From then on just the threat was good.
I happened to be over at my sons house not long ago and laughed out loud when he used his "command voice" with his daughter just like I did and my dad did before me.
As far as who is a better spanker, it is 100% men. I'm with Hot Lips on this one. I would never allow any woman to spank me, I'd rather have a root canal.
We'll based on my experiences I think women are the best spankers by a wide margin
I definitely would say it was my mother that was the better spanker. She was very efficient and understanding and kept her cool, but she could deliver a message when it was needed. When younger, I of course cried my eyes out and even learned to make crocodile tears leading up to the actual spanking. Spankings were on your bare bottom and depending on the transgression, it could be the hand, the dreaded hair brush or paddle, a wooden spoon, and occasionally a switch that I had to go and find for her to use. My bottom was always red afterwards even with only hand spanking. My mother would always hug me afterward telling me how much she loved me and "encouraged" me to "straighten up and fly right" in the future. As I got older and wiser, spankings were less frequent but in my opinion were much harder than when young. While my father never spanked me, I had a great fear that he might someday as he was a strong man with broad shoulders. Sometimes my mother would warn me if the transgression repeated itself in the future, she would have a "discussion" with my father and he would deal with me but it never happened to my the best of my knowledge. Denise
I once spanked an old acquaintance of mine and it brought her to tears in a matter of 10 swats and she had on jeans.
Damn, I want a spanking like that
One of my former girlfriends was switchable and enjoyed spanking games. When we got together, her only stipulation was whatever I did to her, she would do to me in return.
I liked taking her over my knee, when she was nude, and give her a blistering spanking with my hand, which was quite arousing to her.
In return, I was undressed, and scolded like a naughty boy. This was followed by a prolonged hand spanking over her lap. To make sure I stayed in place, she held my erect dick between her thighs.
My wife & mother-in-law, are both bigger, stronger & more dominate than I. My mil walked in on us on my 50th birthday as my wife had me in my b'day suit, over her knee on our living room couch. I tried getting up to coverup, when my wife said "where do you think you're going? Did I say you could get up? It's too late to coverup, my mom has already seen you". The women talked & my wife didn't miss a beat. My mil said to me "this is a whole different side of you I haven't seen before". Then she asked my wife if she too could wish me a happy b'day? My wife said "sure", and over her knee I went. That was the most humiliating & embarrassing spanking I'd experienced as a 75 year old woman was able to hand spank me to tears. That was 11 years ago, now I'm spanked naked by both women whenever they think I need it & get a mouth soaping if I use bad language too.
No idea. Wasn't spanked as a kid. Have developed a strong interest adult role-play spanking ... but exclusively with women spankers. Watching spanking videos, most spankers turn me off, but some women get the job done (tears) in a way that turns me on and makes me wish I was the one they're spanking.
Mom was for sure in my case. I honestly think my dad felt partly bad for the way they punished me but my mom made sure to make it as painful and humiliating as possible.
Growing up, Mom was the painful spanker. She was all about making every swat count and the more colorful the heiney turned the better. Never beaten, but she would not stop in the face of tears, pleas, prayers until she felt I would remember it come the next full moon.
While Dad did his fair share and he was far from a feather touch, his approach wasn't so much about the pain as it was the embarrassment. Often depending on the degree or reincidence of the offense, I would be made to undress in front of him rather than just raise or lower skirt or pants. When it was spanking time, particularly if I had offended anyone else and they were still around, it didn't matter who was present, the spanking was given. Dad also had this technique of psychological torture in that if he didn't spank in the instant, he would remind for a period of hours to a few days that I had a spanking coming, and again, it didn't matter who was around or where we were.
Mom's spanking were memorable for their pain. Dad's for their anxiety and embarrassment and prolongation of the process.
Me? Since being a single parent for so long, I guess I adopted or adapted a combo approach of both my parents. The prevailing method depending on the situation.
I always thought dad was he was harder.
My mom did all the spankings - except one when I got caught stealing. My dad had me pull my pants and underwear down and lean on the bed. Don't know how many swats I got with his belt but it was severe. Had a metal buckle on the end that wrapped around and bruised my hip.
I kept stealing stuff - just avoiding getting caught.
Mother always spanked me and she knew how to do it too.
My parents divorced when I was a small boy, so my sister and I were spanked by our mother who was a strict disciplinarian. I did get a few [rare] spankings from my dad but it really seems my mother was a better and more efficient spanker. Additionally, her spankings seemed to be longer and more thorough. Juts a statement...
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