Who is better spanker a woman or men?

My father did not want to be bothered by household issues and let our mother deal with our backsides. On rare occasions she asked him for help (I recall him pinning down my sister, who resisted being spanked, so that mom could redden her derrière).

I felt better if it was mom who spanks, nothing WatchDox stopping her. Its probably why, today, woman's spanking are my fantaisies

I certainly had my hardest spankings from our Dad growing up. But that may have been because he took over spanking my brothers and me in our preteen and teen years so he spanked harder because we were older and he knew that we needed harder spankings. I'm not sure what makes for a better spanker. Our Mom spanked us more when we were younger so our Dad probably didn't have to spank us as much when we were older. I didn't feel like I got away with much when I was younger and Mom did most of the spanking. As younger kids, my brothers and I still end up with very red bottoms and tears in a corner so can't say that we weren't punished as much with Mom as Dad. The teen years are foolish years and every boy that I knew got spanked into their teens like I did. There were weeks when my brothers and I were in elementary school when one of us got spanked every week by Mom and sometimes that meant two of us together because she was the one at home while Dad was at work.

As a kid, I always feared the spanking from my father. He had a large hand and being a farmer, his spankings hurt like hell! You learn quickly not to cross father!

Never been spanked by a woman, but a man can really hold you around the waist and give a good hiding.

At my school, we all feared being spanked by our Art Mistress more than any of the male teachers She was almost sadistic about it, I never left her lap until I was sobbing desperately and my bottom was as red as a beetroot. I was not the exception either, even the toughest girls would leave in a flood of tears and swearing never to cross her again.

I would normally take my spankings quite well both at home and school but if she called me out to the front of the class I could feel tears welling in my eyes before I even got there. I would not even try to be brave but would plead with a croaky voice and never to any avail. My fate was sealed as soon as I left my desk and in reality, I knew there was no way to convince her for clemency, Soon enough I would myself over her knee desperately trying to keep my bared bottom still and "properly presented", to use her terminology, whilst she delivered a torrent of painful smacks.

Some parents did complain about her but considering she was the Head Mistress's sister, the complaints fell on deaf ears.

I actually feel the women teachers generally spanked harder than the men, maybe because sharing the same sex they felt less of a need to show any sympathy

At my school, we all feared being spanked by our Art Mistress more than any of the male teachers She was almost sadistic about it, I never left her lap until I was sobbing desperately and my bottom was as red as a beetroot. I was not the exception either, even the toughest girls would leave in a flood of tears and swearing never to cross her again.

She obviously had a liking for young bare bottoms. If that happened now she would be doing 5 to 10 in the pen. Amazing what they could get away with back then. You can't even spank your own child without getting into trouble if your son or daughter mentions it at school. It would entail a visit from child services at the least.The pendulum has swung the other way.

I was almost always spanked by my mom, my dad was often working late. I know his dad also was often away working, so maybe he had the same thing. I never asked. Mom liked the wooden spoon, sometimes over clothes sometimes privately pants down

I got to be very good at keeping my behavior just this side of a spanking. They faded out as I got bigger though. I wonder sometimes if things would have been different had my dad been spanking me and kept it up longer. Who knows - I eventually straightened out, but it did take a while. Nothing big, but lots of little stuff.

By far the most memorable time I was in trouble was when I was horsing around at my grandparents and left gates and barn doors open. Cows had a field day and my grandfather was VERY angry.

My mom always spanked me and she could really redden my butt.

Always wanting a woman to spank my bum, but never being lucky enough in get one. So hard to say who is better in my point view.

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I'd say it depends on how you define "better". Men seem to "get the job done" and while the spanking will be painful, it doesn't feel as emotional. Women spankers (in my experience) seem to inject more emotion into the spanking, and may not hit as hard but aren't afraid to make it last for a very long time.

I have to completely agree with this. I think most males/dad will say alright let’s get this done and just do it. Usually a short talk if any and Sure it hurts but usually doesn’t last as long as far as smacks. With women especially a mom it goes beyond just a spanking. It usually involves a longer talk and the spanking itself last longer and I think has a different feeling from it afterwards. Not to mention more times than not sitting isn’t easy. As he said spanking for a woman/mom is more emotional. So I think a female is a better overall spanker especially for punishment

I know this thread is old but thought I would respond to it.

If I was getting a spanking from Mom that was gonna be bad, but if I was getting a spanking from Dad it was gonna be REALLY bad! Even worse if I had to wait to get that spanking until Dad got home from work!

Women seem to spank just fine but I sometimes think a man can send the message home a little better.....I have had many memorable spankings from Mom as well as a few other females never once did I think this won’t hurt at all ......they hurt plenty

Men are better imo, but as adult I got the best spanking from a woman, 40's fitness trainer.

No comparison in my case - my father was very strong and could hold me in place while using the back of a hair brush to mercilessly flail away at my backside. My mom was just not strong enough..

Growing up when my mom would spank it was a little sting and I jumped around a bit, But when my father would spank it was hard to sit and I knew that I had been spanked even after a couple of days,

When it came to spanking, like enemas, mom was the go to person growing up. If the purpose of a spanking is to make you regret what you'd done to deserve it mom's spankings were good ones. She would use hand, brush, paddle, and a dreaded strap on all of us. I'm sure dad could have spanked harder but what he couldn't have done that mom did so well was to sit you down and have a quiet, calm talk about how sorry she was for what she had to do and how naughty/bad you'd been and how disappointed she was and how much she hoped she'd not have to do this again soon and how she knew the best way to make that happen was to give me a good spanking so I'd learn and remember. Did I understand? Did I understand why she was going to spank me and make me cry. Did I remember it was okay to cry out, beg her to stop, but I was to stay in position no matter how much it hurt?

By the time my pants were coming down and I went OTK, or bent over for the strap, I was already feeling the pain of a spanking.

@Thomas893 …mom did so well was to sit you down and have a quiet, calm talk about how sorry she was for what she had to do and how naughty/bad you'd been and how disappointed she was and how much she hoped she'd not have to do this again soon and how she knew the best way to make that happen was to give me a good spanking so I'd learn and remember. Did I understand? Did I understand why she was going to spank me and make me cry. Did I remember it was okay to cry out, beg her to stop, but I was to stay in position no matter how much it hurt?

Wow! that was most exciting to read! Has me fantasizing about being put thru that kind of formalized (for want of right way to describe it) discipline. How often did this happen?

Hi reddevil – nice of you to write. You're right it wasn't formalized any more than an angry upset spanking mother is formalized, but like the angry mother it did follow a pattern. How often is impossible to say. More often when I was young, rare but happened as an older teen, and even a young man. Her approach was one that drove home to me her disappointment in whatever had led to the spanking. I always felt so guilty, sorry to have failed her, as well as dreading the actual spanking to come. I can hear her voice in my head telling me how sorry she was she was going to have to spank me, and spank me hard so it would really hurt, really really hurt she'd say because the more my bottom hurt and burned, the more I cried, the more help the spanking was going to be to help me behave in the future. Finally she'd say, alright, it's time for me to give you the good hard spanking you need. I want you to lie over my lap now. You know you deserve this. Will you try to hold as still as you can to make it easier for mommy to spank? ….. that's a good boy. Make me proud of you. Take your spanking like a big boy. Over you go. That's right. Now, give me your right hand to hold and put your left around behind my back. Can you spread your legs just a little for me? That's good. It will be harder for you to clench up your bottom with your legs a little apart. Have you anything you want to say, tell me, before I start to spank you? I'd say I was sorry and she'd say, I know you are and I'm sorry too. Now hold on … it's time Tommy ….. SPLAT!

Women, my Girlfriend can spank really hard!.

I am the better spanker- ask my husband!!!

The thought of a dominate, determined woman wanting to give me a good spanking is most exciting! I'm sure either sex has enough strength to give a “good” spanking; after-all, only so much power is really needed - various implements can make up for any difference.

Of course I think drink would matter but really though I don't see where a woman wouldn't be able to hit hard enough. Really it's more about confidence and dominance which are attitudes of mind there have nothing to do with physical capability.

I think it's more an individual thing this person or that person not so much this sex or that sex.

Whether it's an old lady that just kind of nods head and beats your ass hard or whether it's a big Amazon or lumberjack that hits your ass hard it doesn't really matter. It's the attitude and who said.

it's more about confidence and dominance which are attitudes of mind there have nothing to do with physical capibility

Yes, very true; you hit the nail on the head!

I have been spanked by both. I say women spank much harder.

I feel men are better spankers.

I don't know because I've never been spanked by a man but I have been very satisfactorily spanked by a number of women. I actually doubt that there's any difference.

I've never been spanked by a man but my long time GF is very creative as far as pace, area to hit and strength (which she as lots of).

There are times when she will back off then really bear down hard. I just don't think that most guys are this creative . . . a female thing I suspect.

For me spanking is linked with my sexual preferences. I like girls. My sexual fantasies are all with girls. For example, I imagine cheating on my girlfriend and as a condition of being together, I must submit to a bare bottom spanking. She communicates her feelings about what I did by spanking my bottom. How do you think my bare bottom felt after my spanking?

My father did not want to be bothered by household issues and let our mother deal with our backsides. On rare occasions she asked him for help (I recall him pinning down my sister, who resisted being spanked, so that mom could redden her derrière).

It was the same for me - my mother gave me a beat. I was only spanked twice by other people, but they were also women (a female teacher in the junior classes and my aunt). I have no comparison, but I think a spanking from a woman is more embarrassing for a boy.

On the other hand, I don't know if it can be said that women are spanking differently than men. Each spanker hits differently. My mother hit me with moderate force that it was painful, but not excessive. My buttocks were very red after the spanking. Mom took short breaks between beats. She said it was to make me feel better.

The spanking of the teacher was different, she hit a little less and didn't take such long breaks. The spanking was similar - over the knee, bare buttocks (that was the worst) and the belt as a punishment tool.

My aunt also punished my bare buttocks. However, she used her hand. The pain was slight compared to the belt. She also lifted me over her knee.

Therefore, I believe that it cannot be said that there is a feminine style of beating different from the masculine.