Do you ask or tell your doctor everything during your examination

I wish I could tell my doctors about my love for medical fetish. I would love to see them all the time.

Please don't push your fetish into a real life medical situation. It wastes the professionals time and resources. Keep your fetishes in a private situation.

@Stevie7808 if you do say something the information will probably become a part of your permanent record and will follow you forever.

During a deployment physical, a doctor asked me if I was sexually active. I hadn't been for a while. I later saw that she had written "she claims she's not having sex". I never saw that doctor again so I didn't have the chance to ask her why she didn't just write that I'm not sexually active.

She didn't make any other annotations about her exam as to why she thought that. I don't know why she needed to ask because I'm sure the pregnancy and other tests I received were mandatory for deployment.

I only discuss medical issues, that I’m concerned with. The medical screeners rarely enter my questions into the list that’s provided for the doctor, before they actually arrive. That just adds to the amount of time, that I need to complete the appointment.

I tell my doctor what they need to know for that visit. When they ask about shots I say I will take care of later, whether I had them or not. I try to stick with what is important for that visit. If they need to ask if I was sexually active if it applies to what is going on I would let them know.

I answer all questions my doctors ask, as relating to my general health or the specific issue I am being seen for. I don't ask questions about kinks or fetishes, only about my actual health. I have good, professional relationships with all my doctors and don't see the need to potentially make things weird. In addition, I would be taking up valuable time that could be spent on a real issue with myself or moving on to the next patient.

And, as others have pointed out, with electronic medical records and potential system hacking, I do not want any more information available to people than is already out there.

Before my last annual, I wrote down a lot of stuff I wanted to discuss. I didn't want to pull out my notes and start checking off as she was examining me. I really was nervous about going to a new primary care provider so I still forgot to mention some things and was embarrassed about mentioning other things.

Even if I'm embarrassed to bring something up like vulva pain when sitting and frequent urination, I'll have to remember it won't get checked unless I do.

I can't think of any reason to withhold anything from my physician. There's no illicit drug use that I'm embarrassed to talk about.

I can't imagine him needing to know I've had a few encounters with other men for role play exams.

Can't hide my weight or blood pressure or anything from my blood work from him. What would be the point of hiding anything from him?

Nope never had a doctor yet that I’d feel comfortable with telling him/ her about personal sexual practices. nope absolutely not

Sometimes there's things I forget to tell my np but then I remember. The other day I sent her a message saying that my family has a history of colon cancer via my grandfather. I'll be getting the cologuard test anyways so I'm guessing the next testing would be a colonoscopy

Yes and no. Yes if it involves a particular issue but no as to my kinks. Doctor has Ben treating me for 40 years so knows a lot anyway but not my kinks. Doctor and doctors wife who is a PA also treato some of my relatives thus another reason to keep some things confidential

Filled out some on-line forms for an upcoming routine follow-up. Noticed a new set of medicare questions in addition to the ones about depression. Wondering why - or for who - they are collecting this info.

Within the last twelve months:

• ......have you worried that your food would run out before you got the money to buy more.
• ......has the food you bought just didn’t last and you didn’t have money to get more.
• ......has lack of transportation kept you from medical appointments or from getting medications?
• ......has lack of transportation kept you from meetings, work, or from getting things needed for daily living?
• ......was there a time when you were not able to pay the mortgage or rent on time?
• ......how many places have you lived?
• ......was there a time when you did not have a steady place to sleep or slept in a shelter (including now)?

I'm very open with my doctor about any questions or concerns. But it makes sense to be that way with someone who has had their finger in me as well as my erect penis in his bare hands. I'm curious if he's aware how much I enjoy being exposed and inspected during genital exams. I have a yearly physical coming up and have actual questions that I know will lead to my favorite part. During so I intend to ask about penis size (I already know I'm small) and see the true answ there.

Filled out some on-line forms for an upcoming routine follow-up. Noticed a new set of medicare questions in addition to the ones about depression. Wondering why - of for who - they are collecting this info for.

Within the last twelve months:

• ......have you worried that your food would run out before you got the money to buy more.
• etc etc etc

Those are very troubling questions and would indicate that (medical) authorities are aware of very serious social problems. These are the kind of questions one might expect to have been asked during the Great Depression of the 1930s. The kind of problems and worries you'd read about in 'the Grapes of Wrath'.

This certainly depends on the comfort level established with the doctor. I've been in a situation where I had to disclose my sexual history with a woman doctor and I believe a male student or resident was present. I already felt embarrassed but the lady smirked as I tried to recall very intimate details. Her smirking didn't help at all. In fact, it gave me further reasons to keep quiet about such things. That was over 10 years ago.

Fast forward and now with the right doctor, I don't mind sharing details but I still get a little shy about sharing ☺️ 😅 In fact, it's especially helpful with my husband present as he is VERY open and comfortable sharing every detail he can with the doctor.

When we go to the chiropractor, it's usually a result of some new sex position we tried or something sex-related and we divulge all the details to him 😆 He'd say it wasn't necessary to share all of the details but he chuckles nonetheless because I'm sure, he's never had patients quite like us.

Within the last twelve months:

• ......have you worried that your food would run out before you got the money to buy more.
• ......has the food you bought just didn’t last and you didn’t have money to get more.

With 3 young kids, I spend a fair amount of time at the local doctor. I've been seeing these questions for a few years, long enough that I've grown complacent to them. I live in a decent area, and these are actual issues people around me face.

Doctors these days spend more time asking about gender identity and food insecurity than they do performing the actual physical exam. If I wanted to discuss any of those topics, I'd go see a social worker.

Those are very troubling questions and would indicate that (medical) authorities are aware of very serious social problems. These are the kind of questions one might expect to have been asked during the Great Depression of the 1930s. The kind of problems and worries you'd read about in 'the Grapes of Wrath'.

Never saw questions like that before - seems like more social concerns are popping up following the pandemic. Most people who suffer from those kind of issues, probably don't have the resources for medical care - except the older folks on Medicare.

I refrain from discussing my mental health issues, because it’s her policy to push psychological evaluations, to cover herself from liability. I’m extremely depressed, and I have terrible ptsd, but I lie to her, because of that. I despise mental health “professionals.” They’re entirely ineffective.

Within the last twelve months:

• ......have you worried that your food would run out before you got the money to buy more.
• ......has the food you bought just didn’t last and you didn’t have money to get more.
• ......has lack of transportation kept you from medical appointments or from getting medications?
• ......has lack of transportation kept you from meetings, work, or from getting things needed for daily living?
• ......was there a time when you were not able to pay the mortgage or rent on time?
• ......how many places have you lived?
• ......was there a time when you did not have a steady place to sleep or slept in a shelter (including now)?

For the vast majority of us, these questions are irrelevant... BUT...

Many victims of human trafficking are identified and rescued by these or similar forms. Sexual or domestic slavery is a much more real and pervasive thing than most people realize.

After 10 years with a new doctor I finally have her confidence and I don't mind asking or telling her anything.

Many victims of human trafficking are identified and rescued by these or similar forms. Sexual or domestic slavery is a much more real and pervasive thing than most people realize.

For a 53 year old male?

You think I'm a candidate for sex trafficking or white slavery? 🙄

For the vast majority of us, these questions are irrelevant... BUT...

Many victims of human trafficking are identified and rescued by these or similar forms. Sexual or domestic slavery is a much more real and pervasive thing than most people realize.

Agree trafficking is a big problem. But these are mostly Medicare questionnaires I doubt these trafficked patients ever get asked, or if they are they’re too scared to answer truthfully. IMHO.

These Medicare questions can also be used as a gauge to discover elder neglect and elder abuse.

These Medicare questions can also be used as a gauge to discover elder neglect and elder abuse.

@Fawkes Good point, most likely that’s why those questions asked. Glad my wife can’t talk….I answer those questions for her. 😈😁😁😁

I think dealing with any professional or person in authority, answer questions if necessary, but don't offer additional information.

I go to a female PCP because I enjoy my exams more from her vs from a male…she is attractive. I tell her just about everything, but I’m not going to tell her I enjoy her examining me…..hehehe….or that I’d rather she made me undress into a gown.

As a child, for sure. When the doctors asked me if it hurt to poop, I said no. Although it hasn't been true since I was 9 years old.

With 3 young kids, I spend a fair amount of time at the local doctor. I've been seeing these questions for a few years, long enough that I've grown complacent to them. I live in a decent area, and these are actual issues people around me face.

These questions, or those of a similar nature, have been asked on different forms for years around here as well. I guessed they were looking for people with real needs like lack of food, money not available for transportation to and from medical visits, lack of money for basic prescriptions, or people with no secure place to live.

People do not always ask for or know where to ask for help in these matters. These questions might get them assistance to live a better life. These are concerns in our state for the elderly as well as young parents.

I have also seen these questions on my last few physicals. Within the last twelve months:

......have you worried that your food would run out before you got the money to buy more.

......has the food you bought just didn’t last and you didn’t have money to get more.

......has lack of transportation kept you from medical appointments or from getting medications?

......has lack of transportation kept you from meetings, work, or from getting things needed for daily living?

.....was there a time when you were not able to pay the mortgage or rent on time?

......how many places have you lived?

......was there a time when you did not have a steady place to sleep or slept in a shelter (including now)?

I feel so very fortunate none of these questions are currently relevant. Having spent 7 years in Foster Care I have been in some of those situations as a child so I know what it means to struggle. I take these questions to heart and they certainly conjur up a few bad childhood memories. Thinking back on those days can stress me out to the point where I am reaching for my inhaler. Despite the painful memories I also realize that being in those situations has sharpened my survival skills. Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Disclose what you want. If you find this line of questioning too invasive just decline to answer them. Nobody is twisting your arm.

To add to my recent post on the subject, it appears that many of us are being asked questions that are unrelated to our health and well-being. I’ve been contacted by social workers affiliated with the medical practice. They’re never older than 20-something, and they shoot me these ineffective links to organizations that never return my emails or phone calls, and if they do, the programs are designed for an entirely different segment of the population, with a different set of needs.