Do you ask or tell your doctor everything during your examination

I do tell and ask my doctor everything. If I lie to him or with hold information from him then I get spanked. Hell, sometimes I'm damned if do and damned if I don't, lol.

Mashie

You have a great doctor!

I had a doctor for years that I was very comfortable telling everything, absolutely everything. I have told him things that I didn't tell my partner at the time. He has put hands on me as intimately as any lover including prostate checks, erections, seminal emissions, testicular checks, etc. Regrettably, he had all he could take with managed care and insurance companies and started a concierge practice. My current PCP is a female and even though we have frank conversations, I miss the hands on more intimate approach. I have found an urgent care physician whom I really like. He has that hands on approach I like, but he isn't a primary care physician but urgent/emergency physician. I still go to him for more intimate concerns.

I am very comfortable telling my doctor everything. He has been our family doctor for years.

I had a great doctor-patient relationship with my pediatrician growing up and I have a great doctor-patient relationship with my internist currently. I am quite comfortable with speaking to my internist (and pediatrician in the past) about all aspects of my health.

@Inkdik concierge practices are great. Concierge doctors spend on average 55 minutes in the exam room with you compared to only 15 minutes with those who are not concierge.

So here is a hypothetical:

Say someone, I.e. Me, has too much fun solo but ends up damaging the back door.

If the doctor asks what happened, should I just say I've been straining too hard or would they be suspicious that it was penetration and push for the truth?

So here is a hypothetical:

Say someone, I.e. Me, has too much fun solo but ends up damaging the back door.

If the doctor asks what happened, should I just say I've been straining too hard or would they be suspicious that it was penetration and push for the truth?

If you injure yourself, you ABSOLUTELY should tell the doctor how. If you're there for a routine visit where you have no issues and the doctor has no questions, there's no reason to volunteer personal information.

Should I tell the doctor that I ride a bicycle in case I fall off? No. Should I lie or not answer afterwards if he asks how I hurt myself? Yes.

I've never been asked anything sexual (well actually I think I was later on but that's because I didn't see a pediatrician/doctor again until I was probably around 18+). Never asked about masturbating, just if I've had sex (that's a no) or if I've smoked or whatnot.

I have to say that I never intentionally try to hide anything from my doctors. Even if they’re personal questions I try to be as honest as possible because they’re try to help me so it’s in my best benefit to be completely honest with them because it could be the difference between them finding or not finding something wrong

I’m always honest with a doctor, without elaborating more than they need. I’ve got no hesitation in describing the sex I’m having during sexual health checks, so I’ll be completely honest where it’s relevent. However, when I hurt my wrist after getting my arm stuck during sex I just said I got my arm stuck. They didn’t need to know what I was doing at the time.

I hate going to the doctor. I finally went after chest pain for weeks. Yes it was a heart attack. My bad. They usually have to pry information out of me. Irrational I know. I think it is Rule #3

@Moppys_jalopy my dad did something similar. He was pruning his cherry tree in the backyard while he was having chest pain. Two days later he had a triple bypass. My mom made him go to the ER.

If we didn’t live in the age of electronic medical records I would be more honest. Too many people have access to view my chart and I assume everything I say can and will be used against me by my insurance company.

I let my sub decide how much he wants to let the doctors know. Unless it is a really important piece of information. But most of the time they go off his blood tests and numbers for that visit to deem him “healthy”. So saying much doesn't seem to matter.

My situation is, i think, something of my own . My beighbors think i should be under doctors care. They have called the cops on me twice with “welfare checks”. They told the cops that i have sores on my mouth and body. The cops showed up with a health care worker, twice. They insisted on inspecting my home, inspected my food store's, and INSPECTED ME.

I found out they, my neighbors, have made a doctors appointment on the 2nd of next month with out my knowledge and told them i need a colostomy bag and that i would lie to them as to how bad my health is.

#1 i do not shit myself . #2 yes i have lost 60 or 70% of my leg control and walk with a cane. Yes i have lost control of my bladder and have to wear diapers. If i should be forced to see a doctor i plan to tell him he and all others that stick their nose's in my affairs they can stick it where the sun doesn't shine.

I do not want nor do i need forced health care. My wife rests in a teak wood box at the foot of my bed. I have a card in my wallet that show's that if i die Palm Morturary will come for me and all expanses are paid for. I have a friend that will come for my wife and pick up what's left of me when it's done. As far as i'm concerned every thing else is just passing time.

I do not want nor do i need that kind of help. So would i tell the doctor anything...NO...that is a resounding NO! Those cop's and health care worker's that came here told me they think that old woman is bat shit crazy and told her to leave me alone.

O.K. I see i might be a little out of line on this thread . But i think giving control of my life to others is just not right.

My dentist's office has their take on it written strongly “If you do not answer these questions honestly you are jeopardizing your own health” It was all the standard ones: medical history, medication list, etc, nothing really out of the norm. Well, I did not mention PTSD because of the way it's worded on the form. There's a difference to me between “Psychiatric problems” and “Body sometimes gets stuck in fight, flight, or freeze, please help unstick me if needed." Now I can't slide anything past him, he's worked out that something happened and acts accordingly, but not the full story. I should inform him of what happened and that what he's doing is much appreciated, but I will wait until that opening comes up.

I will be honest with a practitioner, but the way the question is asked is important. I've never lied by omission or commission to him in any other question, never over or under rated pain or treatment effectiveness. I've never lied to my primary; I work for her on freelance so the truth would come out and hurt my professional credibility.

Hell no. They're wrong about too much stuff too often to be blindly trusted anyway, especially not with sexuality issues. Most of the ones I've dealt with, especially guys like urologists, seem vaguely annoyed that their patients are sexual people and that they have to deal with that. I think they're in it for the money…

I don't see a doctor too often, but if I was receiving anal sex now and then and started having some problems “back there" I am pretty certain that I would mention that to the doctor, if it got bad enough that I felt that I needed to see one.

Yes, a doctor is person, to whom one should aways reveal any symptoms as it's a matter of health. If kept secret, the treatment might go wrong and it can cause serious trouble.

I've never tried to hide anything from doctors, even laid down completely naked to get examined, to go through full body check up.

I remember while growing up, I confessed to the doctor that I masterbated, when he discovered a strech scar on the foreskin.

I decide what to to tell and what not to tell my Doctor based on what I want in my medical record and what I think is important. Even with HIPPA, medical records aren't really all that private and if I don't feel something is relevant, I don't offer it.

Right on, @gwhap !

I provide the information the doctor needs to treat me. Nothing more, nothing less.

If I notice any sort of editorial comments on a form I do not fill it out. When asked about it I tell the admin flunkies that it is not information necessary for the doctor to treat me.

Neither do I sign forms admitting financial responsibility. I do not electronically sign any forms that I haven't read and do not receive a copy of prior to signing.

Seriously - last doctor I considered wanted me write in all medications I take - on three separate forms. Then demanded I bring all my medications to the first appointment. What?! That, and the rest of my medical history is already available to them via the computerized medical information systems they already use.

I have been known to rewrite forms so they favor me instead of the practice. Most of the time no one bothers to read 'em - just look for the signature.

My situation is, i think, something of my own . My beighbors think i should be under doctors care. They have called the cops on me twice with “welfare checks”. They told the cops that i have sores on my mouth and body. The cops showed up with a health care worker, twice. They insisted on inspecting my home, inspected my food store's, and INSPECTED ME.

There's probably more to it than described but I am NOT finding fault with you. I am pretty sure, though, that if that happened to me I'd become the richest mofo in the county.

Tried to tell my gastroenterologist about my love of enemas and he pretended he didn't hear me. Strange.. I thought my heavy use of very soapy enemas might be important to know.. Anyway, that was first and last time I ever opened up to a doc, male or female.

Even if I didn't tell my doctor something, his or her exam findings are going to be recorded. After finally getting a newer laptop and reading my VA electronic health records, I can't believe how much stuff they write. Some things are written that I'm certain the doctor never mentioned.

When I had physical therapy, I hadn't read all of my electronic health records at that time. I didn't know the VA could share your medical information without asking. Since physical therapists aren't doctors, I hope the VA only sent pertinent records regarding my knees and no records about my mental health, vaginal or breast exams.

I have noticed that over the years Doctors write a lot in you records that seem to follow you forever and are impossible get anything removed so and as @Mullanphy stated I only provide information to treat me nothing more nothing less.

A lot of the questions being asked nowadays are ones that healthcare systems (especially large for-profit systems) are pushing doctors to ask. Covid-19 shots. Shingles shots. And my favorite, “are you depressed?” These and other things they are inquiring and sometimes, aggressively pushing, have high CPT reimbursement codes for the healthcare system. My advice is be truthful about symptoms you are having but be on guard not to be tricked into going down a path that will rob you to pay them.

Even as a kid I never liked to let anyone know there was something wrong with me. I hated being mothered and bothered over as if I were a child (even though I was …ha ha). Cuts and bruises, sore throat, upset stomach, a cold or flu, toothache, I never really liked to admit to any of those kind of things. Not to my parents nor to doctors really. I would do my best to make light of such ailments even though grown-ups could clearly see something ailed me.

Anyway, I fear I still have a tendency to minimize complaints. And as for intimate questions about sex, the thing is, I've never had a doctor ask me anything about those things. I am certain they know I haven't taken a vow of chastity, but even so, it is like I am a sexless, abstinence-only person to them. There has literally never been one single medically trained person who asked me if I was sexually active.

A bit mortifying in a way … ha ha

A lot of the “stupid” questions posed during the Medicare wellness check have to do with depression - which is more common in geriatric patients. I don't think the questions were designed to generate business - medicare would have to pay for that anyway! You don't have to answer any of the questions if you don't want to. Here's a couple of links:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patient_Health_Questionnaire

https://www.hiv.uw.edu/page/mental-health-screening/phq-9

https://www.hiv.uw.edu/page/mental-health-screening/phq-9

Like @agracier I don't like to complain to my doc…..although sometimes it is prudent to do so. I had a DVT for over a week before I decided maybe I should talk to my doc about it….. they got me in within a couple of hours for an ultrasound and I was on meds before I left the building!

I wish I could tell my doctors about my love for medical fetish. I would love to see them all the time.

Pretty much yeah. My nurse practitioner knows I use enemas and that I do take my temperature rectally. She said she's heard weirder things than that.