"Enemas? Really?"

Guessing @Ms_Lila 🌹knows that,but as a reminder she'd likely say …"you'd better believe it…& don't you for-get it either Mister"

Something has been on my mind for some time now and I've been somewhat resistive with myself to admit it because when I examine the concept and the words, submissive and dominant, they may not be completely accurate. At least not to my satisfaction or concept of what those two words mean. And then I've happened upon six words written by @Wolfgirl66 ‘gifting your submission to your Dominant’. I may have to look past the dictionary definitions and preconceptions about what ‘submissive’ and ‘dominant’ mean and have come to represent, at least in this community.

@Ms_Lila

Your submission is a gift. The way my former Dom explained it to me is without your gift, he has empty arms. It's the ultimate surrender, your trusting that person or person's to take you to or past your comfort level, knowing absolutely they won't harm you, but take you to new limits to fly higher.

The the dictionary offers only one description. As you know humans have many facets and everyone's experience is not the same.. but if it's wonderful and all involved enjoy, why question? If it works, don't fix it, explore because there is so much more to come…

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If it works, don't fix it, explore because there is so much more to come…

Oh @Wolfgirl66 I have no intention of ‘fixing it’ 😈 in the least. There's a great deal of truth to the saying, ‘And the truth shall set you free.’ Once I understand something, then I can ask for it and share it and more the better for knowing. 🌹

Great thread between Ms Lila and Wolfgirl66. Thank you both!

I’m not even a little ’submissive‘ outside of the bedroom but behind closed doors I don’t want to be in charge. Now that being said, I want what I want when and how I want it, but I don’t want to be in charge. It’s perfectly clear and not at all contradictory. Really.

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@Nurse Phillips

EXACTLY 😉😆

I’m not even a little ’submissive‘ outside of the bedroom but behind closed doors I don’t want to be in charge. Now that being said, I want what I want when and how I want it, but I don’t want to be in charge. It’s perfectly clear and not at all contradictory. Really.

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To me it's become a ‘Well Duh!’ moment. 🤪

I hate the c word and never use it

@Ms_Lila and @Wolfgirl66 and @Nurse_Phillips … loved reading your posts. 🌹

Dominant / Submissive

Submissive / Dominant

Rolereversal

The word I'm not seeing here is…Switch…..and not the one applied to naughty bums…though that's debatable

Ladies🌹

Dominant / Submissive

Submissive / Dominant

Rolereversal

The word I'm not seeing here is…Switch…..and not the one applied to naughty bums…though that's debatable

Ladies🌹

@That_Australian … be patient! There are only so many … WELL DUH! … moments you can have in one day! 🙄

@gibby 🌹

SWITCH as such is not exclusively a word applicable to BDSM…..it's a very under-used word….Emphasis on “under”

In the near future I will be posting about a moonlit flogging I received at the hands of my beloved ❤️ @Night_Pilot ❤️with our deerskin flogger. 🥵 🥶 Where the chill night air in the bright glow of the moonlight sharpened the sting and pleasure of the lashes of the flogger against my total nakedness. 🥶 🥵 How my wrists were bound between two air conditioning structures and my ankles likewise bound to those same opposing supports. I was forced to wear a ball gag and my only comfort was the sight of the most beautiful moon I have ever seen in the cloudless night sky. The heavy sting of the lashes set fire to my skin 💥 with each swing of his hand and arm 💥💥💥 and he did not relent. I was given 20 lashes from behind from each side of my body with the length of the lashes wrapping about my side and so as to inflict 💥 wonderful intense pain on the underside of my breasts with one breast feeling the sting of the lash while I was being flogged from that side and then the other when he went to the other side. 💥💥💥

And then before I was released my husband stepped directly behind me and delivered five more sharply stinging lashings between my naked separated and restrained legs and onto my wet and quivering pussy. 💥💥💥💥💥 And the pain of each of the some 45 lashes I received in the moonlight only made the clarity of that beautiful orb all the more vivid. And then slowly blur as the tears from my eyes welled up and then ran down my cheeks. It was beautiful and my essence flowed from my pussy and down my restrained and separated inner thighs. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

And that was just the beginning of my night on the rooftop with my beloved 💖 husband in the moonlight. 💖

@Ms_Lila

OMG! Just that snippet of your time with your husband had me wet and very envious…. 😏

Can't wait for part 2

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I'd love to hear from @Night_Pilot and what it was like for him as he was flogging @Ms_Lila and what happened just prior to her being restrained between those two air conditioning things. And also what happened after he let her go from the restraints and all those details. 🥵 But I'd also like to hear from @Cedar when he took her coffee this morning. 😉

That was hot Beth Anne. 🥵

Think of it Beth Anne, you went from being tenderly touched and loving the clouds one night to tied torture with pain and lust the very next night. 🌹❤️

I can't stand abuse, not matter the source. Probably because I was spanked rather violently as a child.

I can't stand abuse, not matter the source. Probably because I was spanked rather violently as a child.

BDSM isn’t abuse, it’s the exact opposite. I loath the idea of diaper fetish but I don’t offer my opinion on the subject on the myriad of diaper threads here. Don’t kink shame.

BDSM isn’t abuse, it’s the exact opposite. I loath the idea of diaper fetish but I don’t offer my opinion on the subject on the myriad of diaper threads here. Don’t kink shame.

@Nurse_Phillips, it was not my intent to “kink shame.” I was revealing a piece of my childhood that I have hidden away, and why I feel the way I do about spanking, e.g., I never spanked my children.

@Wolf2007 💝 I saw your reply when you first posted and delayed my ‘Part 2’ as a result to add to it. You are a kind and gentle soul and what you shared was touching. But what my husband did with my very willing permission was what I wanted and needed. I savoured what transpired and have no regrets now or in the future.❤

I will explain my dear friend and I also thank @Nurse_Phillips for saying something that is to be well remembered. 🌹 I will explain when I return.

I've been talking to @Ms_Lila about this thread and some of the comments. I will post what she and I talked about, in detail, on my thread where it's about her and me. This thread, “Enemas? Really?" is about her and her husband, @Night_Pilot and what she does with him and how she feels about what they do with each other. This is their thread. Their “bedroom” or “playroom” and I am just one of a few that love reading about them.

I do not have to understand why Beth Anne loves the feelings she gets from being flogged by her husband that she loves and adores above all others. The morning after she willingly, happily, and with a fuck ton of love for him in her heart, took off her clothes and went up on the roof with him. With absolute trust in him, she let her self be restrained by her wrists and ankles, and then be flogged by this man she loves.

I saw the results of her flogging, in the morning after, by the man she adores after she willingly submitted to him and her being flogged. Her eyes. I'm never going to forget her eyes. The look she had in them when she was searching my eyes for my reaction to her naked body and the marks I saw on her. She can say a lot with her eyes. If you know how to read her eyes, those are what tell her story. Remember this little paragraph just like I am never going to forget that look in her eyes.

Beth Anne was drilling straight into my core with her eyes because she wanted to know how I felt about the marks I was seeing on her body. We had undressed her before all of this and she let me look at her from head to toe in detail as she stood naked to let me have my look and take it all in and a little time to process it. My final stop for my gaze was her eyes and they were intense.

“I want this from my husband. It is a need that only he can meet and only he has the right to do. I will do this freely and I did this freely. It's what I want from him.” That is word-for-word from Beth Anne.

Beth Anne did not address me as, “love," and there wasn't that lilt in her voice when she said this. Her stance, posture, added a finality to her words. I thought of this old saying, “Judge not lest ye be judged.” I'm not into religious things, but there is a lot of wisdom out there and it comes from everywhere.

What I picked up from Beth Anne's eyes, stance, body posture, was that whatever I said next to her would determine whether or not the privilege of “TOTAL ACCESS” to, with not to, Beth Anne was going to be there for me or not.

Here is a quote that describes me to a “T”;

“The proverb says that Providence protects children and idiots. This is really true. I know because I have tested it.” ― Mark Twain

That is there because my duties of being a ringmaster at shit shows have kept me from posting any replies until now. I wasn't able to post a reply to my rooftop, moonlight, experience with her, or the morning after Beth Anne enjoyed her rooftop moonlit time with her husband.

@Ms_Lila loves how her husband, @Night_Pilot, understands her need and desire to be flogged and what it means to her. He's the only one she wants this with and he understands and accepts this about this fantastic lady.

I kinda get it and Beth Anne is trying to explain it to me and I may even be catching on as to the “why.” The thing I don't need to have explained is that Beth Anne loves it. It “does it” for her and that's all that matters. It's about her and her husband.

I ran this past her this morning so it would not be a surprise. I just found where I had filed it. I'm posting this before I forget.

Poly is not easy. You all do it very well.

I am soooo going to fuck you. 🌹❤️🌹

@Ms_Lila 🌹

I am soooo going to fuck you. 🌹❤️🌹

Oh to be the proverbial fly on the wall. 😜

@Ms_Lila 🌹said

I am soooo going to fuck you. 🌹❤️🌹

Soooo how'd that go

I love joe cocker, you are so beautiful and came into the bathroom window lol

“I want this from my husband. It is a need that only he can meet and only he has the right to do. I will do this freely and I did this freely. It's what I want from him.”

I Think that says it all in one paragraph as you said @Cedar

It is not always easy for people who are not into BDSM to understand the strong desire and intensity that is enjoyed in this sort of situation.

My wife used to say that she was “hard-wired” that way and described the need and desire she had for that sort of play. And that can only be safely done with someone you love and/or trust implicitly.

Just my two cents worth.

“I want this from my husband. It is a need that only he can meet and only he has the right to do. I will do this freely and I did this freely. It's what I want from him.”

I Think that says it all in one paragraph as you said @Cedar

It is not always easy for people who are not into BDSM to understand the strong desire and intensity that is enjoyed in this sort of situation.

My wife used to say that she was “hard-wired” that way and described the need and desire she had for that sort of play. And that can only be safely done with someone you love and/or trust implicitly.

Just my two cents worth.

@LordJim2 your two cents are worth a great deal more and I thank you. 🌹

@Ms_Lila 🌹said

I am soooo going to fuck you. 🌹❤️🌹

Soooo how'd that go

@That_Australian I soooo fucked that man! 🌹🌹🌹

@Wolf2007 I was given the gift of submission from my wife @Ms_Lila and I am going to take that gift that is mine and give this woman what she wants. She wants pain, intense, sharp, penetrating pain and I am the only one who will give her that pain. Her gift of submission was given to me and I am taking it, have taken it, and it is me that she want to inflict this pain onto and into her.

I will do anything for this woman but the pleasure of giving her pain is also there for me and with each tear that she sheds, every shriek, I know that she wants this from me and only me. Her body tells me her story and I see it when her pussy lips swell and become dripping wet every time the lash kisses her flesh and I hear the stinging sound it make when it impacts that perfect body of hers. Only the safe word will save her tonight and she has made me promise that I won't stop until I either see blood from a wound on her body or the safe word escaping from her lips.

@Wolf2007 it is a brutal expression of love and there is not denying that, but it is what she wants and I have to admit that I enjoy giving it to her. I will do things to her body tonight that will involve her being invaded by a thruster and her clitoris subjected to intense and relentless stimulation to keep her in that “cum lust mist” she writes about and loves to be in. Beth Anne wants and craves pain from me and I have my thoughts as to why she wants this, but for now I am going to keep that to myself. I don't think she knows why she wants this pain from me but this insight is something I have gained from Charlotte, the woman I am with when I am not here with Beth Anne. Charlotte and I have grown closer and have more understanding of what and who we are because of our own spouses, but that is something I will write about at my post thread.

I appreciate your concern @Wolf2007 but Beth Anne is my wife and has given me the gift of her submission to me to inflict pain on her. I am going to do that and I respect your thoughts and feelings. It is good that she has friends for the time that comes after, especially what will happen tonight.