Lifelong slave

I am speaking from experience. Never make a promise where you are a slave for life. I feel like I'm bound in chains. I tried getting out but cannot. My master is an old flame. After 10 years, he still wants me. I keep trying to put off the inevitable because I kind of like someone else and we click on a certain level that actually is a little scary. 10 years ago, said master and I got together. I cannot become free. I realize this. I have accepted it but highly dislike my master.

I am speaking from experience. Never make a promise where you are a slave for life. I feel like I'm bound in chains. I tried getting out but cannot. My master is an old flame. After 10 years, he still wants me. I keep trying to put off the inevitable because I kind of like someone else and we click on a certain level that actually is a little scary. 10 years ago, said master and I got together. I cannot become free. I realize this. I have accepted it but highly dislike my master.

THAT'S BULLSHIT IN EVERY DETAIL and I think you know it.

If you don't like him or the relationship, get the fuck out of it.

Don't play games, it's your life.

Anyone with an ounce of sanity will tell you the same thing.

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Here's a song expressing exactly this. Listen to it carefully.

I like Quarterflash and their lead singer turns me on.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-K2tzy1jY4Y

start at 5:17

Susie nails this one!

@Switchablesusie you are right again. I am not that girl. I'm going to pick myself up, dust myself off, and leave. I am not his slave. I am a different person than that. I am a better person who is capable of love.

@Switchablesusie you are right again. I am not that girl. I'm going to pick myself up, dust myself off, and leave. I am not his slave. I am a different person than that. I am a better person who is capable of love.

You already knew that, you just needed a little validation or encouragement. If Susie's comment provided that, wonderful! I hope you follow through and wish you the very best.

Jerrkface of a master said "Not so fast. I'm never letting you go" I understand I'm actually cute. For someone to never let me go and be delusional is downright crazy.

Looks have nothing to do with it. If you choose to enslave yourself to someone you make the choice and that is it. Your no good piece of shit bastard ass wannabe master and that's what he is cant hold you. If you stay it's because you like the game . Games in bdsm are bullshit . If this situation is truth and not a fantasy post Get The Fuck Out. See the Forrest for the trees and realize this abuse . I am trying to figure out if you're poly or have an open relationship as you talk about , "my guy ", " my master" and other women often in your posts and you also speak of dominating . I am confused . If you are new to BDSM that is fine but if your posts state a bunch of different scenarios those experienced will call your bluff. I mean nothing offensive but I cannot stress enough BDSM is a chosen lifestyle and must be respected accordingly. It is not Fifty Shades of Grey and Meredith Wilde fantasy etc. If you're in a nonconsensual M/s relationship . You can leave . You can take the advice or leave it , your choice . I see you in chat and you seem very dominant and seem to have made friends and get on well with them. What is this?

Cut all ties with this person. Calls, emails, text messages, social media. If he shows up at your house, call the police, and seek legal help.

It's very simple.

Do what RNinCA said.

If he continues to call, show up, stalk you or bother you in any way call the police and get a restraining order.

Make sure he knows you will do this.

UNfriend him in all social media.

This person has no legal attachment to you.

I am in an open relationship with a guy. To add to that, I had the master, and a female whom once was my slave. Everyone knew about everyone. So, I suppose I was kind of in a relationship with three people.

I suppose you can say, I'm poly as is my jerk ex master and my current open relationship. I am more dominant than submissive. I would, however like finding a nice young lady to better and along the way, get to know. I chose to see the guy I'm currently in an open relationship with because I know he's open to that type of relationship. From what I understand, poly people are into open relationships. I will reblock the guy who claimed to be my master and ignore his texts. Through you guys here at zity I am seeing this is bs. You are right. I will better myself by leaving.

I am not new to BDSM I am new to a guy not leaving me alone to this extent. I never had this happen to this extreme. I am new to zity but have had kinks for quite some time. I thank you as a zity community for listening to me. Thank you everyone. I am currently blocking my supposed master and his wife whom once was my sub.

I am also talking with a few women and have spoken of past experiences with women. One being my prom date and the other being a roommate.

Any story I post and the crap I'm currently going through is not bullshit. The jerk of a guy whom was my master informed me he's never letting me leave. My guy is my current boyfriend, and I really do have exes going after me. There has to be something about me that keeps guys drawn in where they ask for me back or don't forget about me. Whether it be looks or my personality, I've been told I am pretty unforgettable and guys from high school admitted to still be thinking about me.

So, I was seeing three people. And anything I post really happened to me unless it is about a fantasy. @submissivlee if anything needs clarification please let me know. As far as friends go on zity, I am a very charismatic, caring person. Anyone who doubts what I have done or am currently doing, are the ones that should examine themselves. I am 100 percent real as I hate fakes and liars and bullcrap.

I recently texted my now ex master and told him I blocked him and his wife, my ex sub on social media and told him to stop contacting me and not to show up at my house. I then told him I'll call the cops if he doesn't leave me alone.

This is true freedom. I was too scared to walk away from him in the past and terrified he would come after me. I truly am appreciative to everyone who has helped me out with this. @Switchablesusie that song was phenomenal and the lead singer is adorable 😃 I never knew I would experience something like this.

I am hoping this is the last thing I will post in my thread.

Thanks zity.

To all those who have supported me with this lifelong slave issue, thank you! I'm happy to say I am completely free of him. I am looking forward to the future😃 The support and words of wisdom was well appreciated. I now found a real man.

Good for you, glad you found the right person for you. May you have many happy hours of submission to someone who appreciates you.

I myself am looking for a female slave, but it has to be a mutual agreement,. I would only have a contract in place for initially 6 months, then see how they feel after. If they want longer then extend the contract, if not then let them go, and try and find another. As a mistress, i think it's important to make sure they are comfortable with the situation, and they feel safe.

Sometimes marriage feels like slavery. Been married a few times, similar results. Gee.

Always...always...ALWAYS put a time element on any agreement with another person. Marriage is supposed to be forever....slave contracts like all contracts have dates or lengths of time they run. If you agree to be a slave or...if you agree to TAKE a slave, put a fricking length to it....6 months, one year....whatever. renegotiating a successful liason can be fun...opting out of a bad one can be easily achieved if you have a date pending. In the grand scheme of things....truth is...no one can own you....I learned an old proverb from a wise man once....."when you are in a bad situation, get the hell out!"

With slave contracts, just remember that unlike a real, legal business merger contract or a marriage [contract], a master-slave contract is just a game.

Switch....

Did I not say it right?

You DID say it right. No one can own you.

What I meant is that a master-slave contract is kind of like Sheldon Cooper's roommate agreements.

They aren't legally binding and if one person wants out, they leave.

Because of the nature of a slaves emotional state when agreeing to such a contract, a termination date is really a reinforcing tool if the slave just flat out can't make a decision. In this person's case, a date would be something to throw at the a-hole who is trying to hang on to her. The date helps her see that it's over and in reality, she can just get out. In this case like so many others, there is more to this than one can see.

When I formerly had a zity account under the same name, I started this lifelong slave thread. I threatened calling the cops on my former master. A few months later, he contacted me. He asked what the silence was about. I replied that he was too dense to get the picture any other way. He has since quit bugging me.

I am focusing on bettering myself. When I had these master problems, I was a horrible girlfriend to the guy I was seeing. I can't stay with one person for long apparently but am working on that. I recently realized I suck as a slave and have more dominance in me. I can say I am a switch.

I'm deffinately a sub, and have no interest in being dom or playing dom. Im currently talking to someone and I am his slave when we are together. I do as he says.

I disagree with the statement, "Never make a promise where you are a slave for life", that started this thread. Entering into a contract or lifelong relationship with a Master is similar to the same concept that marriage is based upon. It should not be done on a whim but instead be based on compatibility and similar goals with someone you have taken the time and effort to learn about and understand. If you chose well, just like marriage, your partnership can and will last a lifetime if you work at it.

I have been owned for longer than the originating author's 10 years and if anything both the commitment and the relationship have grown stronger. Yes, I/We have a lifetime contract. Like any contract (legal or otherwise) or marriage it could be dissolved or it can grow stronger and more binding (in a good way) with the passing of time.

I am sorry the originator of this thread is now unhappy with her choice after spending 10 years of her life and hopes her future choices are better.

I disagree with the statement, "Never make a promise where you are a slave for life", that started this thread. Entering into a contract or lifelong relationship with a Master is similar to the same concept that marriage is based upon. It should not be done on a whim but instead be based on compatibility and similar goals with someone you have taken the time and effort to learn about and understand. If you chose well, just like marriage, your partnership can and will last a lifetime if you work at it.

I have been owned for longer than the originating author's 10 years and if anything both the commitment and the relationship have grown stronger. Yes, I/We have a lifetime contract. Like any contract (legal or otherwise) or marriage it could be dissolved or it can grow stronger and more binding (in a good way) with the passing of time.

I am sorry the originator of this thread is now unhappy with her choice after spending 10 years of her life and hopes her future choices are better.

NO. It most emphatically is NOT at all like being married.

From a legal standpoint, your master/slave contract is nothing more than a game between the two of you. If either of you wants out, all you have to do is pack your belongings and leave. Try doing that when you are married.

I have Dominant tendencies but didn't know what the word meant until I came here. Probably Faith taught me the most and I know there are different levels and the most can be very constricting. Being a sub is more mental than physical and getting into that mindset can make it very hard to escape. Susie is right though, it is a play scenario and you can just walk out the door and not look back. You need to prepare to do it mentally then take the step.

You cannot own someone. Its against the law. You can be in a consensual bdsm relationship maybe for a lifetime if that's what you both want, but no one can be owned. You belong to yourself only.

@SwitchableSusie had it right all along. Slave 'contracts' don't need a six-month or 10 year expiration date. They are games, completely fake and completely illegal. Now the people who enter into them can be very serious about it, and it can also be quite fun and exciting to have a "slave contract"

But always realize what it actually is, a fun sexual game that means nothing. If you want to leave, use your legs and walk. Game over.

@SwitchableSusie had it right all along. Slave 'contracts' don't need a six-month or 10 year expiration date. They are games, completely fake and completely illegal. Now the people who enter into them can be very serious about it, and it can also be quite fun and exciting to have a "slave contract"

100% true but getting into the mindset as a submissive may preclude them from thinking this way. You are the Master and everything you say is law. Getting up and walking out the door might not be so easy.

100% true but getting into the mindset as a submissive may preclude them from thinking this way. You are the Master and everything you say is law. Getting up and walking out the door might not be so easy.

That's really bullshit. The whole idea of a legal contract is completely ridiculous and anyone who doesn't realize it PROVES that people into BDSM are NOT more intelligent that those who do not partake in it.