At the end of your orgasm do you ever feel like the stimulation needs to stop?

Yes, after orgasm, there is almost always a period in which continued stimulation is unpleasant.

No way do I want him to stop until orgasm is finished

@Turkey1

Overstimulation can hurt.” You don't say!😈

@Nurse_Phillips

On occasion I’ve been stimulated beyond that point in a BDSM scene and it’s more unpleasant than pleasant. I’m Cumming sure but it’s painful and had brought me to tears.

Ever hear of dacryphilia? Academic question, thats all. The painful orgasmic spasms of the muscles over the gut and stomach after a dozen or so cums are also enjoyable to induce in the right dynamic.

@Turkey1

“Overstimulation can hurt.” You don't say!😈

@Nurse_Phillips

“On occasion I’ve been stimulated beyond that point in a BDSM scene and it’s more unpleasant than pleasant. I’m Cumming sure but it’s painful and had brought me to tears.”

Ever hear of dacryphilia? Academic question, thats all. The painful orgasmic spasms of the muscles over the gut and stomach after a dozen or so cums are also enjoyable to induce in the right dynamic.

I just saw this. Yes I’m familiar with dacryphilia. I don’t get aroused from crying. My husband gets aroused from me crying. Because of that I happily let him bring me to tears in a session even when I don’t enjoy what’s going on per se. Because I gift him with my tears he doesn’t abuse the privilege.

I don’t generally share the harder BDSM things we engage in here. I don’t go to Suzy extremes but we play hard sometimes.

I have experienced both side of the coin with different women. Some find they are too sensitive in that area directly after orgasm, but I have come across quite a few who were very happy for me to continue to stimulate them through to two or three more orgasms, which I was always happy to do.

If a woman is sucking me to orgasm I quite enjoy them to keep sucking after I have come. I find it very soothing. Back in my younger days I enjoyed that to the extent that I would get an erection again and would be good to go a second time.(those were the days). I am happy now with just the pleasant feeling after orgasm. On the other hand, if I am masturbated manually, I don't want a lot of extra handling after coming unless it is done gently.

As for P in V, once I have come I pretty much lose my erection fairly quickly (diabetes). So it becomes a non issue really. I will continue to grind my pubis against the woman's clit if that works for her to get her off.

Going back to @reddevil 's comment about loss of libido directly after orgasm. I personally think it might go back to the cave man days where preservation dictated that as soon as you were done, it was wise to get the fuck out of there before something came along and ate you. Not in a nice way. 😃

I've always thought that's both males and females need at least a short brake from stimulation following orgasm but it's generally less than a minute.

Just a slight variation on this theme….My ladylove frequently experiences long orgasms ,,,and it is quite evident from her moans/screams (yes, she really is a screamer!!). When I sense that she has reached her endpoint I will (most times,,,chuckle) cease my ministrations and let her gradually drift down from the ceiling. More than once, however, despite my backing off completely, she has gone into “hyperdrive” and continued climaxing (orgasmining is too difficult to say…lol) for long enough that it scares me!! I have, at times, resorted to physically shaking her to bring her out of it. It usually takes her a minute or two to catch her breath, and she has never complained…truly amazing…and I'm REALLY jealous!!!

Great questions. as a man, when its over, its over!! My patient (gf) cums like a man!!!! Strong and hard. I love it.

For me, much more stimulation after the last of the orgasm is like scratching something that doesn't itch any more.

I know exactly what you are talking about. As a male, when someone is sucking me and I am feeling an orgasm build and build it is all good and the actual orgasm is wonderful. However at the very end I want them to stop immediately as it is actually painful just after. Then nice to just lay still and bask in the afterglow for a few minuets. Then the loving can start again. As I get older the recovery time is longer too.

There are light orgasms and strong orgasms. Light orgasms last for like 10 seconds and under, and I usually get them when the sexual stimulation is of a frenzied or hurried nature, like when I have a compulsion to push myself to cum. I can have several light orgasms in a row until I get tired of them. They are similar in quality to the orgasms I had as a child by squeezing my legs tightly together.

Strong orgasms last for like, half a minute, and my clit becomes too sensitive after only one orgasm. I get strong orgasms if I am unhurried and allow myself to relax and let the arousal build gradually, or if the foreplay was good or if I'm super horny from not having sex in a while. These are the orgasms that send you into another world.

An interesting topic for sure. When I discovered the pleasures of masturbation at the age of 11, I experienced dry orgasms for about 15 months before the 1st evidence of semen began to appear. Those dry orgasms were very intense and once the orgasm peaked I found that additional stimulation on my penis actually hurt. Over time and experimentation I found that if I stopped stroking for about 12 to 15 seconds I could resume stroking again without it hurting and achieve another dry orgasm in only about 20 seconds of additional stroking! After the 1st appearance of semen, the nature of the orgasms changed and I was now experiencing several pelvic contractions vs. only one long full body contraction and the ability to continue stroking (after a brief pause) and orgasming over and over (I usually had 4 or 5 dry orgasms in a masturbation session back then - - all VERY intense) quickly vanished. The other thing that changed is that I was able to continue stroking through the orgasm as there was no longer the extreme sensitivity after the orgasm peaked. That lack of extreme sensitivity after orgasming has continued throughout the rest of my life.

Now that I am in my 80s my refractory/recovery period continues to lengthen. In my early 60s I was still able to have multiple ejaculations in a 24 hour period, occasionally as many as 3. By my late 60s I was content to have one orgasm per day. In my 70s that desire/libido decreased to an orgasm every other day. Now, having an orgasm about every 4th day seems to be what I desire. Of course. these figures are an average and sometimes the length of time between orgasms shortens or lengthens depending on outside stimulation.

As a male, very quickly after orgasm there is a period of time where continued stimulation is way too intense or unpleasant for me, and I need to push way from continued sexual touch. It often times takes 15 or 20 minutes before (assuming I am in the mood) where I am ready for stimulation again. I know this isn't the case for everyone, but at least in my experience this is common and not some pathological sex avoidance condition or anything.

Might be controversial but I don't get them easily and usually don't seek them. When I do get one it's usually alone after going over it all in my head and adding a lot of fantasies to what actually happened.

Can't really recall the last time I was overstimulated and just wanted it to stop, even with a partner. I usually ask for other stuff, he can finish up.. I often finish later but he gives me enough material to do it. when I finish with him, in the moment, it's again not from penetration but from other things, so this problem just doesn't come up.

Maybe guys have a similar thing? Here's a question for the guys, if a woman is, let's say sucking you off to orgasm, can she continue sucking after ejaculation without stopping? Is it too much at some point? Does that just feel good and you can enjoy it?

Sometimes after I orgasm continued stimulation is too much and I want it to stop. In the past, not so much while fucking - vaginal or anal - I could keep going as long I remained erect and hopefully brought my wife to orgasm. But with oral or a handjob continued stimulation after orgasm is usually too much and drives me through the roof. In a BDSM scene while restrained, it would be tortuous to recieve continued manual stimulation after orgasm where I had no control over it - fortunately my wife never thought of that!!!! On the other hand, she occasionallty had multiple orgasms via PIV or masturbating each other while waiting for me to complete. We usuallty stopped after we both got off.

If she’s performing oral on me, often there’s a lingering shudder throughout my body, and if I try hard enough by tensing my ass, I can make the sensation go on, almost as if manually pushing myself over the edge again. It’s intense, but never to the point where I feel I have to stop.

It's different for everyone...it's about reading your partner and communicating constantly... everyone's aftercare is different and being able to tap into each others emotional space is crucial to a positive sexual experience. I'm quite emotional and I communicate with my partners that this might happen... communication is so important

After orgasm, my glans is so sensitive it's actually too painful to touch ir even to reinsert.

Yeah, both of us. She comments saying that her clit becomes too sensitive even to the slightest touch after orgasim, almost in a defensive manner.

I, too. But I think because she gets a sense of power over my reaction to the sensitivity after ejaculation. She tells me she loves seeing my reaction to the slightests lick of her beautiful tongue.

Love the OP's original question and comments.

i'm a gay guy who was married to a woman for many years before i got free of religious conditioning against being gay. That said, i got pretty good at pleasuring my wife. i started out very ignorant, but early in our marriage she cried when she didn't orgasm, so i learned how to do it. i had no resistance to tears when i see them as real. Giving her orgasm was pretty much our sex life together and our experience was definitely like the OP notes. She'd have multiple orgasm and get to a place of overstimulation and tell me to stop, and i would. One thing she'd do pretty consistently was when i was stimulating her using oral or my fingers, or both, and she'd orgasm, she was never satisfied to end that way. She'd reach a point where she'd literally grab and shove my penis inside of her, begging for "big ones." Then i'd have to be careful because apparently i'd also hit her cervix if i went too deep and that would cause her pain. But penetration was the only way she wanted to finish.

From my standpoint now as a single gay total bottom, i can actually relate in some ways.... i always want my Tops orgasm and seed in me... and i experience those as two distinct things, though connected. i don't get overstimulated anally. i don't like my penis stimulated with the idea of having an orgasm that way. i want my Tops orgasm to be my orgasm. But i do love when my Top enjoys owning and controlling my orgasm. i honestly relate to my penis is more like a clitoris than a penis. I.e., it's sexual, but not penetrative. i think it's really hot and feels very possessed when my Top uses my penis to help develop an aversion towards orgasm that way by overstimulating me using it. Ideally, i love when He uses it to give me a ruined orgasm, or bring me close, and then plants His orgasm inside of me instead... because we both want to share His orgasm.