Question about orgasm

Males can answer this too, but I'm a lady and have this question of ladies particularly. When you are coming to the end of your orgasm with a partner (not alone), do you ever have this feeling just at the end like the stimulation needs to stop? For example, my partner would do whatever he is doing at that time, and he would try to not let me push him away or stop the act, but there is just too much stimulation at a certain point when the orgasm is complete and I really want him to stop. It's like I'm over the edge and it's now too much. Anyone else have this? Maybe guys have a similar thing? Here's a question for the guys, if a woman is, let's say sucking you off to orgasm, can she continue sucking after ejaculation without stopping? Is it too much at some point? Does that just feel good and you can enjoy it?

Males can answer this too, but I'm a lady and have this question of ladies particularly. When you are coming to the end of your orgasm with a partner (not alone), do you ever have this feeling just at the end like the stimulation needs to stop? For example, my partner would do whatever he is doing at that time, and he would try to not let me push him away or stop the act, but there is just too much stimulation at a certain point when the orgasm is complete and I really want him to stop. It's like I'm over the edge and it's now too much. Anyone else have this? Maybe guys have a similar thing? Here's a question for the guys, if a woman is, let's say sucking you off to orgasm, can she continue sucking after ejaculation without stopping? Is it too much at some point? Does that just feel good and you can enjoy it?

What you describe is the rule, not the exception and it is the same for women and men. Don't let oversexed people tell you anything different. They are lying.

After an orgasm is over, people generally need to stop. Very few people want continued stimulation after the orgasm itself comes to an end. The area is hypersensitive and needs to rest--the resolution phase after orgasm.

For myself, on very rare occasion I will or will have my husband keep going, but that's maybe one in fifty times at most. 99% of the time, after I have an orgasm my husband can keep his hand or fingers on my vulva or in my vagina, but if he tries to move it around after my orgasm is done, I will tell him to stop or if he thinks he's being playful, I'm going to push him away or I will pull myself away--which is what you should do.

The wonderful feeling of the orgasm, with continued stimulation after it's over goes from terrific, to good, to annoying to painful at times.

My wife does that to me almost every time. Its my way of knowing that shes satisfied. I hope. Now let me ask this question. For those females who are restrained, how does it feel when you can't get away and your hubby or partner won't stop?

For those females who are restrained, how does it feel when you can't get away and your hubby or partner won't stop?

In S&M it's different. You have to expect some pain and some of what you really don't want. I have done that and had it done to me.

No way do I want him to stop until the orgasm has stopped! After it I want him to stop. My clitoris is very sensitive but I do not want him to stop until my orgasm has gone away. He knows when that is so I do not need to tell him, and I am very sensitive there when I am still getting my breath back. 😃

As far as orgasms go it depends. Most of the time I like it all the way because sometimes I can start having another and then another. Sometimes roght after I want to stop for a few minutes because clit get very sensitive. It is all in how they bring me to this point.

Definitely, sometimes while orgasming I cannot stand any more movement. Its just too intense.

Yes, after orgasm, there is almost always a refractory period in which continued stimulation is unpleasant. If I am doing her, I stop at that point; if she is doing me, pussy, hand, or mouth, I stop her.

This may sound funny, but my wife is has just finally became more readily "orgasmic" after 34 years of marriage (post menopause). So we're still learning with her.

As for me - it depends. Hand Jobs - yes, please stop. Intercourse, if it stays hard I'll keep working it. I've actually pulled off some simultaneous orgasms recently. Blow Jobs? I'm afraid I'm not qualified to answer that one yet.

In general, after I orgasm, there is so much sensitivity that any more stimulation is actually painful.

However, and I don't know if this is normal, if I stop stimulation at the point of orgasm, I have a "mini-orgasm" with ejaculation but am able to keep going with very little loss of erection or sensation. These mini-orgasms are less intense than normal ones and the pleasure seems to be localized to just my genitals, but I'm able to do it multiple times in a row.

When my wife orgasms she stops me she is so sensitive she doesn't want me to touch he clit. She orgasms so hard her whole body shakes is stiff after she wants my cock in her to fill her up. When I come I am very sensitive to being touched other than deep in her

When my husband is giving me oral sex and is stimulating my clitoris my orgasm comes along slowly and builds to my maximum and it peaks. In the beginning his tongue is pressing harder on my clitoris. Prior to orgasm the pressure is down to the tickle of a feather. My peak lasts a few seconds. It's a body and head rush! That's when my husband stops. It's half heaven and half heartache. The peak is the half heaven part. The half heartache is the feeling of being electrocuted while coming down from that peak. My body feels as if I've been plugged into a wall socket. It lasts a few seconds and after that it's finished. It's so intense and it physically drains me. I'll often dose off into a deep sleep for a while. After being in short circuit mode my body needs to recover. That happens during oral sex every time. My first experience with that was at age seventeen when my boyfriend now husband first gave me oral sex. His tongue was in my vagina but when he discovered my clitoris, which neither one of us had any idea what that was I recall things changed. We never had regular sex prior to us getting married but I became an addict for oral sex. I wanted his tongue on my clit as often as possible. He learned how to grasp my clitoris in a suction between his lips and hold it there as he pleasured me. That electrical feeling was always part of the session. As I got older it actually kicked by fanny but I keep coming back for more.

Orgasm itself is an ecstatic blend of pleasure and pain - it would quickly become agony if sustained too long, even without the hypersensitivity that sets in during the final stages. One of the best things about partner-induced orgasms is that moment when the stimulation is extended just beyond the point that I would stimulate myself if masturbating, giving that moment of helpless overload. A sensitive partner learns over time to sense the exact moment to stop before genuine pain sets in. The fusion of our bodies in full embrace afterwards is the deepest experience of contentment and well-being I have ever known.

My clit becomes very sensitive prior to orgasm. Often I pull away a bit and my husband knows to ease up on the finger or mouth stimulation during foreplay. Most of the time he backs off a bit on his own. After I orgasm, I need about 15 minutes or so to rest a bit before he begins active coital thrusting. I don't mind having him insert his cock right after I orgasm but no humping motion until I am ready. I usually start he action by moving my hips when I am ready to begin.

Every time might be a little different but feeling the intensity of sensation during and at orgasm can be alot to process and consider enjoyable if it's really intense. I don't think there is anything wrong with slowing down/stopping if it's too much...that's actually great ! If you wanted to try and continue you can try some breathing that focuses your mind and body so you actually push through the wall of sensation.

I definitely need him to stop for a while once I have finished my orgasm, time to recover and relax; before hopefully a repeat LOL xx

No way do I want him to stop until the orgasm has stopped! After it I want him to stop.

That is how it is for me. To pull away or have him slow runs the risk of spoiling my orgasm. That would be a bad thing. A very bad thing.

My wife and I are both great proponents of oral sex and indulge frequently. Routinely I bring her to orgasm orally and she is very sensitive immediately afterwards and any touch between her navel and knees is very uncomfortable for her for several minutes. However, when bringing her to orgasm by intercourse she likes to continue and will frequently have one or two more orgasms without stopping. She says she does not experience the same sort of sensitivity as with oral. She also can have more orgasms without stopping when masturbating which she attributes to having control of the stimulation.

Similarly, I find my penis is extremely sensitive after orgasm by oral or manual stimulation but not with penis in vagina. In my younger days when I could maintain erection for longer periods we would frequently continue til we could both cum again. I miss those days.

I found this quite an interesting question. As I know you are directing it to primarily females, it follows that you do not wish to get much on the male perspective so out of respect to your wishes I will be brief. First off must say that I had an experience with my last partner where toward the end of the orgasm the intensity of feeling became overwhelming and I found myself over stimulated to the point of wanting to stop. My partner wanted me to keep going and I recall the look of disappointment in her eyes when I was simply unable to keep going. It was like a ticklish sensation which as it increased became almost uncomfortable. Following that experience I noticed that will I did very much continue to enjoy intercourse with her that I would when approaching orgasm, wish for it to be over quickly. I think this is odd being a male and having the anatomy and brain chemistry/wiring of a man one for which I always assumed was purely about physical pleasure elements of sex versus the more romantic deeper ones. Well I see I am rambling so much for being brief.

When my wife has one or more orgasms from oral sex, especially if I’m simultaneously stimulating her clitoris and G spot, she often wants me to stop just as she is subsiding. She says that sometimes she feels overstimulated and it becomes almost painful to continue.

But when she has one or more orgasms from straight up intercourse, she doesn’t need me to stop. Which is great for me, it means that I can finish up and come as well!

If that is true for my wife she has personally never told me or given me any clue to it.

If you’re a male, you can experience prostate orgasms through stimulation from a prostate massager which can last until the pleasure becomes almost unbearable! Some say this is similar to the orgasm which a female experiences!

@MedFet13 said

If that is true for my wife she has personally never told me or given me any clue to it.

Your wife may never have had the sensations rabidbiker's wife has. For almost all women, after they have their orgasm (if they actually have an orgasm because some women don't, and/or aren't faking one) they need at least a short bereak from stimulation because it can become painful.

Sometimes if I'm feeling a little masochistic, I will allow or tell my husband to keep stimulating me to a second orgasm without a break, but it can be painful for a while because the resolution phase taking place while clitoral stimulation is being continued and that can hurt. Once the resolution phase is over despite being stimulated, the rapid coming of the next orgasm is the reward, but most women do pay a varying painful price for that. If I am not in the mood to endure that, I tell my husband to stop moving or if he thinks he is being funny by continuing, I either pull away or if I'm being feisty, I have been known to slap men in the face letting them know that I was serious.

When I was a kid 12 plus,my next door neighbor ,same age,however Catholic we used to jack each other off, when he was ready to cum he told me to stop, I said why? he said it was a sin to spill your seed on to the ground,I would just laugh an keep jacking him and he would cum all over his belly,and bitch at me later that he would half to go to confession about spilling his seeds!

Here's a question: Why is it that once I cum, my mind completely shifts out of the horny state I was just in - suddenly the pictures I was looking at and sexually drooling over are not of interest.. It's a change of personality that takes place in an instant!

Here's a question: Why is it that once I cum, my mind completely shifts out of the horny state I was just in - suddenly the pictures I was looking at and sexually drooling over are not of interest.. It's a change of personality that takes place in an instant!

Sounds like exactly what I feel like at that point, and a pretty standard male occurrence. It's happened to me ever since my first orgasm at age 15. I've read about it occurring to many men, but still not clear on the reason or mechanism, though it may have to do with male refractory period, sort of turning off your libido for you until you're able to go at it again and orgasm. For me, it has essentially the same effect on my kinkiness. As soon as I orgasm, my interest in whatever kinks I was using to stimulate the orgasm disappears and doesn't come back until my libido starts up again. I'm 68 so it may take many hours or a day or two to re-ignite my interest in orgasms, my partner, and kinks. When I was much younger, my refractory period as well as libido and interest in kink took much less time, sometimes almost immediately.

Back when I had a real person, my ex-wife, as a switch Domme who loved giving me erotic enemas mixed with our other kinks, this lead to an interesting practical application. She'd typically dress me in complete enclosure rubber and sneakers (2 major kinks), fill me with an enema or two, and make me hold it for a couple of hours while we did sexual things, climaxing with me giving her orgasms. Then I'd usually have an orgasm with her help (PIV, manual or oral) and go empty and change clothes out of my sweaty rubber.

Now if she occasionally wanted to really push me in my submission and make me stay in rubber holding the enema overnight, she'd usually make up a reason to deny me an orgasm till much later, usually morning after waking up (even though she had her orgasms already). As a result, I'd still remain extremely horny, spurred on by my kinks, the rubber and sneakers and enema, and maintain my arousal and desire to orgasm. It would also keep me being enthusiastic if/when she woke up in the middle of the night and insisted I give her another orgasm. In the morning when she decided we were near the end of her dominant role, I'd orgasm and then soon after go empty myself and get out of my kinky rubber clothes.

Eric

In a word, yes. You can be over stimulated. Most women I talk to about this has this happen and is very common. Also common for men. Overstimulation can hurt.

I'm able to have multiple orgasms. However, there are times, when I do become overstimulated and it's painful.

I'm able to have multiple orgasms. However, there are times, when I do become overstimulated and it's painful.

I agree. At some point things like a wand can be too much. You need to stop and recover. Too much also leads to soreness and too much soreness means no more play. I do like to turn off the wand for a minute then just buzz it for a second to watch the reaction. It is priceless. Eyes fly open and mouth forms an “O”

What everyone else said. Yes. When I have multiple orgasms they’re usually a building series - each more intense than the last until I finally have the one that makes me stop. On occasion I’ve been stimulated beyond that point in a BDSM scene and it’s more unpleasant than pleasant. I’m Cumming sure but it’s painful and had brought me to tears.