Habits | Enemas with birthday spanking…

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My husband and I have a custom that every year on her or his birthday the other gives her or him a birthday "spanking" with something other than the hand, and this is always followed by a birthday enema (and sex!).

On the eve of the birthday, the birthday girl or boy puts the enema bag and nozzle of choice together with the "spanking" implement of choice on our IV stand. The next morning the IV pole is wheeled to the place of the giver's choice and whichever of us whose birthday it is is summoned and tied up securely with the legs spread as far apart as possible. Then the other of us goes off to fill the chosen enema bag with whatever soap or other additive she or he chooses, and returns (sometimes not immediately) and re-hangs the bag to the IV stand. Then the recipient is lubricated asks the other of us, "(age) strokes, please, Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!", receives a whack, as hard as the giver can muster, with the chosen implement, and the spankee says sincerely, "Thank you right kindly, most generous Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!". And then the birthday boy or girl counts down his or her age, and may go on to ask for "zero, please, Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!", and go down to negative numbers, if so desired. After indicating that she or he has had enough, often another is given "to grow on".

Enema fun then commences! Following the "please" and "thank you" protocol used for the arse whipping, the birthday boy or girl asks for the nozzle to be inserted, and for the flow to begin, and when finding it hard to retain, to be untied. Usually the first un-tying request is granted, but other times the giver may call the other a "wimp" and wait for a second request. Often at that point, foreplay is demanded, but the giver may choose, depending on the perceived discomfort of the other, to wait until a request to use the toilet and may then demand sexual servicing. Unless sex is fully consummated during that first enema, another enema is prepared while the birthday girl or boy goes with the flow, and upon her or his returning and being administered that enema, both parties need to be fully sexually satisfied before expulsion is allowed.

A week from today is my husband's birthday; does anyone have any notion of how to spice this up for him this year?

And, who else gives and receives birthday enemas???

jimmyt44

Jesus Sohpia, I thought Switchable Susie was the sternest mistress on our site! It looks like SHE took lessons from YOU.

ericmacson

Susie,

I'm not passing judgement at this point one way or the other, since I'm in favor of doing whatever you find arousing and satisfying as long as you're not hurting anyone. However, it certainly begs the question of what the limits of S&M are. So I'm curious. I really have no knowledge of S&M other than what I've read, here and elsewhere, but if this is in fact corporal punishment, where do you draw the line? I imagine I'd get different answers from different practitioners. You've often said you and your husband enjoy switching with each other and enjoy pretty severe S&M - where do you stop? Does the Dom(me) need to have a safe word also? Thanks.

Eric

SwitchableSusie

Susie,
I'm not passing judgement at this point one way or the other, since I'm in favor of doing whatever you find arousing and satisfying as long as you're not hurting anyone. However, it certainly begs the question of what the limits of S&M are. So I'm curious. I really have no knowledge of S&M other than what I've read, here and elsewhere, but if this is in fact corporal punishment, where do you draw the line? I imagine I'd get different answers from different practitioners. You've often said you and your husband enjoy switching with each other and enjoy pretty severe S&M - where do you stop? Does the Dom(me) need to have a safe word also? Thanks.
Eric

As the Dom, because you're the Dom, you always reserve the right to stop. You do not need a safeword. For instance, I have posted several times about trusting your partner. My husband and I trust each other implicitly. If the submissive partner never used the safe word we normally, use and the dominant partner never stopped building intensity, the activity could literally build up until maiming and murder occurred. Obviously neither of us want that, so as a Domme, I will definitely stop at the slightest breakage of the skin, and that would have been accidental. I have no desire to scar or maim my husband. Black and blue marks are OK, but nothing of a permanent mark or injury should ever result between us. Some people have no limits, and I have seen torn ligaments and torn muscles with hematomas, none of which have been caused by me.

Sometimes the Dom gets into a highly aroused state of being high with power most often seen by me during whipping/flogging/paddling where they may not realize how hard they are swinging especially when the submissive doesn't complain. That's one BIG reason NEVER to scene when you are high on drugs or alcohol. Senses and reasoning of what constitutes too much force are not recognized and severe injury can result. It is far better to end a scene wanting more than to have gotten too much.

A good rule to follow is, if you wouldn't drive under the influence, you shouldn't scene under the influence.

Wolf2007

To each his/her own, but that amount of punishment does not fit my concept of pleasurable enemas and sexual contact. Actually I cannot even conceive of harming my partner in that fashion.

Sophia

A good rule to follow is, if you wouldn't drive under the influence, you shouldn't scene under the influence.

FYI. I neither drink nor use recreational drugs, so please don't assume that's what was going on.

And, FYI, I did communicate often with my sub during the session and also I assure you that no permanent damage occurred and he was quite happy with the session afterwards and still is even if he's still bruised.

Sophia

@DrZ

For your information, the term is corporal punishment, not corporeal.

Thanks for catching that mistake! I'd share the blame with my spell checker, but I know better and just was sloppy!

DrZ

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DrZ

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@Sophia said to @Switchablesusie

FYI. I neither drink nor use recreational drugs, so please don't assume that's what was going on.

I think you'll find Susie didn't assume anything of the kind. She was actually replying to @ericmacson, and it was a general safety comment about the S&M scene.

SwitchableSusie

DrZ sad
@Sophia said to @SwitchablesusieI think you'll find Susie didn't assume anything of the kind. She was actually replying to @ericmacson, and it was a general safety comment about the S&M scene.

DrZ, you are correct.

ruthiney

No thank you! I hate trying to sit on the toilet seat with a well-spanked behind! Especially after 4 or 5 birthday spankings in a row from family and friends at our beach hose. My birthday is in the middle of August.

rigid58

WOW

I can't imagine how a pleasurable site like this gets so caught up in objectional comments like the one's I have read this evening The original post was something that, that couple enjoys, so why the condescending comment, it's there game their choice, and as to Susies comments, I believe that she called it as she see's it just as I said, it's their ball their bat their game just enjoy don't put your values on others, we are all here to partake in an enjoyable exchange of ideas. We are not here to judge but to read and view for our own pleasure, without judging. Just my opinion

Rigel

I thought this was a very interesting discussion and didn’t pick up on objectionable comments. Aren’t discussions supposed to generate differing opinions - pros and cons? If everyone has to agree it would be pretty dull. Good thread - my take is I would never let @Sophia or @Switchablesusie punish me! But I love their posts!

Thanks @ruthiney for resurrecting this topic! Be sure to let us know how your birthday party turns out this August! Have a “whopping “ good time! 😄

Hiddenuser

I like the idea of a birthday enema, but personally not into the spanking end of things myself. IF that's your thing enjoy.

eman445

This is how I got my wife to start paddling my bare bottom, I asked her to give me a birthday spanking and let her know I very much like to be spanked, It has taken her a while to try and understand why I like it , now she has stopped analyzing why and will paddle me upon request and for sure i get my bare bottom paddled every August for my birthday also introduced an enema with it, she doesn’t like to be spanked but will occasionally let me give her an enema

elover123

Wow, sounds like the most wonderful birthday ever.

LisaK

We maintain a strict “no hit” household.

NO spankings ANYTIME for ANY REASON

Full stop!

Rose75

Sounds like fun, but we have never done this.

MissStress

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MissStress

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We don't do birthday spankings normally so not in the kinky realm. My sub is not into spanking so why abuse the rare opportunity I do take to spank him for my kinky pleasure.

isitfull

Wow, sounds like fun and holding the enema while performing sexual satisfaction sounds intense. Guess only thing to spice it up is to film it so as you get older you can reflect back on the good old days. Enjoy your day and your partner.

Denise

My husband and I have done this several times although we do not have to wait for a birthday as anytime is fair game for and enema and a spanking. The enema does come after the spanking! And then the play time after the enema is no longer in either of us. Denise

sse4fun

I've been dreading birthdays as I get older and older. This might just turn 180 degrees with something to anticipate?

LisaK

Even when my husband and I do a little S&M foreplay, its something like ropes, or handcuffs or corsets or even an occasional enema or rubber outfit,

It is NO WIPS, PADDLES, RIDING FROCKS, OR SIMILAR. NOT EVER!!

We don't hit!!

Jimbobofmoo

Even when my husband and I do a little S&M foreplay, its something like ropes, or handcuffs or corsets or even an occasional enema or rubber outfit,
It is NO WIPS, PADDLES, RIDING FROCKS, OR SIMILAR. NOT EVER!!
We don't hit!!

Good for you?

Luckily plenty of us do enjoy those things else the world would be a dull place.