Enemas with birthday spankings ... Who else does this?

My husband and I have a custom that every year on her or his birthday the other gives her or him a birthday "spanking" with something other than the hand, and this is always followed by a birthday enema (and sex!).

On the eve of the birthday, the birthday girl or boy puts the enema bag and nozzle of choice together with the "spanking" implement of choice on our IV stand. The next morning the IV pole is wheeled to the place of the giver's choice and whichever of us whose birthday it is is summoned and tied up securely with the legs spread as far apart as possible. Then the other of us goes off to fill the chosen enema bag with whatever soap or other additive she or he chooses, and returns (sometimes not immediately) and re-hangs the bag to the IV stand. Then the recipient is lubricated asks the other of us, "(age) strokes, please, Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!", receives a whack, as hard as the giver can muster, with the chosen implement, and the spankee says sincerely, "Thank you right kindly, most generous Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!". And then the birthday boy or girl counts down his or her age, and may go on to ask for "zero, please, Doctor, Ma'am (or Sir)!", and go down to negative numbers, if so desired. After indicating that she or he has had enough, often another is given "to grow on".

Enema fun then commences! Following the "please" and "thank you" protocol used for the arse whipping, the birthday boy or girl asks for the nozzle to be inserted, and for the flow to begin, and when finding it hard to retain, to be untied. Usually the first un-tying request is granted, but other times the giver may call the other a "wimp" and wait for a second request. Often at that point, foreplay is demanded, but the giver may choose, depending on the perceived discomfort of the other, to wait until a request to use the toilet and may then demand sexual servicing. Unless sex is fully consummated during that first enema, another enema is prepared while the birthday girl or boy goes with the flow, and upon her or his returning and being administered that enema, both parties need to be fully sexually satisfied before expulsion is allowed.

A week from today is my husband's birthday; does anyone have any notion of how to spice this up for him this year?

And, who else gives and receives birthday enemas???

Sophia ... it is always fun to read your narratives. All I can say one lucky couple the two of you.

Given your vast experience, I am sure you tried Vick's Vapor Rub as a lubricant. In the event it has been awhile, it might kindle fond memories. I have used Vick's many times on self and others and I have only found one person who didn't enjoy it.

Thanks for your contributions to Zity.

First. i am opposed to spanking for children or adults.

You don't teach non violent conflict resolution by being violent.

You don't actually SOLVE conflicts by not controlling your temper.

LisaK, PLEASE read the text of the topic! It begins, "My husband and I have a custom that every year on her or his birthday the other gives her or him..."

First. i am opposed to spanking for children or adults.

As CONSENSUAL PLAY we give EACH OTHER an enema with a birthday spanking!

You don't teach non violent conflict resolution by being violent.

TRUE! I strongly OPPOSE any type of corporeal punishment! Spanking a child is abuse! Period!

You don't actually SOLVE conflicts by not controlling your temper.

This post had NOTHING to do with conflict solving!!! It is about our CUSTOM to give a BIRTHDAY enema and spanking!

@Sophia. Yeah Sophia, sometimes she doesn't really understand post and takes it out of context, seen it many times before with her. Likes to put her own twist on things.

@Sophia. Yeah Sophia, sometimes she doesn't really understand post and takes it out of context, seen it many times before with her.

I'm much obliged for your backing up my clarification! I simply can't deal with such a misunderstanding of what sort of woman I am!

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Sophia ... it is always fun to read your narratives. All I can say one lucky couple the two of you.

Glad you like my anecdotes. Yes we are a truly lucky couple and all because I left my red gallon bag hanging conspicuously in my bathroom and my then-boyfriend saw it and commented on it and that's how and why the magic began!

Given your vast experience, I am sure you tried Vick's Vapor Rub as a lubricant.....

Thanks for the suggestion and I reckon I may just try that! BTW, Tiger Balm works much better! And even better yet, if you're really hard core, try capsaicin cream, which burns during expulsion! But those might ruin a perfectly beautiful birthday enema, so Vapor Rub it may be.

Thanks for your contributions to Zity.

You're most welcome!

Yes Sophia, thanks for your posts, I always enjoy reading them. 😉 😃 Take care, Mike

Growing up on the farm in Iowa with my aunt, birthday spankings were always given on the day with all watching however the enemas were given that evening by her in the bathroom. She chose the size and bag color and nozzle

Not to children!!! I oppose any type of corporeal punishment and that enema sounds to me like corporeal punishment!

Yes spankings were given holding an enema n birthdays but then also at ther times. So maybe a few extra on the birthday lol

My GF and i have a sort of similar routine to the one described by Sophia but the recipient has no idea of when things will happen or in which order. Variety is the spice ..

We've never combined these two. Spanking is just a ritual affair with no real pain involved. We have traditionally provided the enema(s) as a birthday present. The B'day girl or boy gets to ask for a custom enema or series. These are administered after dinner, have been known to last until the wee hours, and always end in the bedroom. Sleep frequently doesn't ensue!

My GF and i have a sort of similar routine to the one described by Sophia but the recipient has no idea of when things will happen or in which order. Variety is the spice ..

Well, parts of ours are surprises while other parts follow a script. The giver chooses the time and place and what solution is in the enema, how hot the enema is, and how high and fast it's administered, and how long it's held, and whether more than one enema is given, and so on.

We've never combined these two. Spanking is just a ritual affair with no real pain involved. We have traditionally provided the enema(s) as a birthday present.

That sounds like you do what pleases you! We occasionally like BDSM, and our extravaganza is a birthday present!

The B'day girl or boy gets to ask for a custom enema or series. These are administered after dinner, have been known to last until the wee hours, and always end in the bedroom. Sleep frequently doesn't ensue!

Well, as I described in my original post, the birthday girl or boy holds an enema for sex. While the giver determines the time, and it's announced as a surprise, it's always well before supper time.

Yes spankings were given holding an enema n birthdays but then also at ther times. So maybe a few extra on the birthday lol

We certainly do this other times, too! Enema sex at least once a week, and spankings a few times a month. Just this is a special, ritual spanking (actually, with an implement, never by hand) and enema in bondage followed by the birthday girl or boy holding an enema through orgasm, something we also do frequently.

FYI, my husband is asking for an extra mean birthday extravaganza!!! See:

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=756865

Basically, for the first time in decades I’m simply constipated and I’m letting HIM decide how to deal with MY constipation because I reckon that the nicer or harsher he is with me, the same is how he wants to be treated. He must seriously want something especially nasty, he must seriously want to be very afraid, as he’s started playing really, really hard and being as harsh as he can possibly be!

Sophia, have you been taking lessons from Switchable Susie?

It's fantastic to read about such a mutual and personal birthday present.

Better be careful what you do though because ,the next birthday is yours. Smiles

Sophia, have you been taking lessons from Switchable Susie?

No, but apparently my husband would like it if I did!

Better be careful what you do though because ,the next birthday is yours. Smiles

Well, I'm letting HIM ask for how mean he wants me to be, so I don't think I need to worry! He would never over-do how he treats me (unless I also ask for it!!) And my birthday is 9 months away!

My birthday is August 14th. Hope my husband doesn't read everything in this topic!

My birthday is August 14th. Hope my husband doesn't read everything in this topic!

We only engage in CONSENSUAL play and if your husband reads this and does something that you hope he doesn't, then I suggest you leave him by August 14th!

The family just left for the day and my husband just ordered me into sub space!

My first order is to post the following which he typed up:

“I have filled the 5 quart bag with very warm water and the bar of Kirk’s is now steeping in it.”

“Sophia shall get over my knees and take it, which will be hard with the 5 day’s constipation I ordered her to induce.”

“Sophia shall next fill that bag and give me that enema while holding her enema.”

“Sophia shall hold each enema today for 15 minutes and if she can’t, she’ll get a strong whack with our heaviest paddle for each minute she fails to retain that enema.”

“Sophia shall get 5 quart enemas until clear and while holding each one she shall service my body as I direct her to.”

“Sophia, once clear, shall get an extra 5 quart enema and hold it while mounting me until I have my orgasm.”

“I fully expect that Saturday when I am in sub space that Sophia will treat ME very harshly because I am overdue for EXTREME masochism!”

His appointment with the doctor is at 3:00. The "examination room" is his office where there is a dining table he uses for sorting papers and writing that I had him clear off, and he realizes that that's where he'll be tied up on for his therapy. He is appropriately very afraid. I don't want to give details about my plans because he may be reading this while he waits for Dr. Wife. I'll post some details tonight or, more likely, tomorrow.

Your description of your birthday spanking ritual sounds absolutely fantastic!! My husband and I do give each birthday spankings but not to the degree you describe nor is an enema involved.....at least in the past!! His birthday is coming up soon and is he in for a surprise but only if he is willing!! I can just see his bright red bottom looking up at me as I slip that large nozzle up his tush and moan as the warm soapy water enters into him. Thanks for the post and the comments others have made. For the record, neither me nor my husband spank our kids nor do they know of our kinky behaviors. Karen

On the eve of the birthday, the birthday girl or boy puts the enema bag and nozzle of choice together with the "spanking" implement of choice on our IV stand.

Friday night, because the children and grandchildren were still here, he just put the items on the IV stand but left it in the closet, only yesterday after brunch and the good-byes, then did he wheel it out to his “examination room”. He chose the 6 quart Daval enema bag with the steel magnum nozzle and the second worst “spanking” implement in our collection, a 34 inch long, 10 mm thick, rattan cane used in Victorian reform schools.

Something new since the early 1980s when I collected implements for my dungeon is E-Stim, and I thought I’d surprise him pleasantly with something new to us, so I bought an Allegro Medical208A Stimulator and many attachments including quite a collection of anal probes.

“I fully expect that Saturday when I am in sub space that Sophia will treat ME very harshly because I am overdue for EXTREME masochism!” please recall is what he said, before treating me harshly a few days ago.

In more than 30 years of playing, he had used his safe word only twice, and I set out to make him use it a third time in this birthday session!

I tied him on the hard table in his office in the knee-chest position, hands tied to ankles, and the spreader bar for his ankles spread as wide as possible. Then I went, according to the traditional procedure, and filled his enema bag, choosing the proper amount of castile soap, but adding a bottle of garlic extract to increase cramping, and I also took my time in returning with it. Then I had him count down his 58 lashes but didn’t (yet) give him “one to grow on”, and then waited for him to ask, “Please insert my nozzle, Doctor Ma’am!”, which took him a moment after the painful caning to ask for. Then he asked for the clamp to be opened, and during his fill he groaned with the cramping.

Soon after I removed the nozzle, he asked “Please untie me, Doctor Ma’am”, which, of course, I denied. Then I inserted a ribbed (bumpy) anal probe and commenced some electro stim, which as I had been told, did in fact cause the anal sphincter to tighten, and I turned it up and played with the pulse rates until he screamed, upon which I wished him a happy “EXTREME masochism” experience!

After playing with this a while, I eventually untied him, exposed my breasts, and had him stimulate them with my explicitly command him what to do as I had my hand on my cunt, and with the other hand playing with mild electro stim on and off. Eventually I let him expel.

For his subsequent enemas, I did likewise, with REPEATING his birthday spanking much to his dismay and dislike (“Please, Doctor Ma’am, please do not whip me again!”) and over the next few enemas he had to lick my body from head to toes, front and back, all the time receiving some e-stim. Finally, after clear, he was given an extra enema before the final one for sex, and finally he was allowed to lick my cunt. For the final enema, I at last used our bed for tying him. When I told him that he needed a fifth whipping, he finally used his safe word (“I am a wimp, Doctor Ma’am, so no more please!”) and I replied, “I understand you wimp, but you do need one to grow on!”, and a final lash I gave him. In all, he received 233 strokes, after which I washed him with brine, then applied betadine, and bandaged his buttocks and thighs, even as he was being e-stimmed on his penis and testicles.

And he held his fifth enema as I strode him and brought him to orgasm. THEN, I sat on his face, had him lick out and swallow his sperm, and then I lay face down on out bed with a few pillows under my abdomen, and set a timer for 15 minutes for him to perform anilingus (which he isn’t fond of) in his post-orgasmic state while retaining his cramping enema.

I doubt he’ll ever again beg me to receive “EXTREME masochism”!

See image at http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=6864 or, in case the link doesn’t work, the only image in Gallery -> Images->English->It's kinky and I love it!->Miscellaneous->Esim after thorough caning

Spice it up with ginger in the rectum while spanking or multiple suppos.

Okay, Sophia, potentially silly question about your photo of hubby during e-stim (and after bottom caning - Wow! Does that look painful. I knew I didn't like pain for a reason - even from a delightful partner!). I've never done e-stim, though it does sound interesting. Your photo looks like he has electrodes pasted to his scrotum, which makes sense. However, it looks like you've put an electrode of some shape into his anus/rectum in a condom, which would make sense for anything else except that rubber isn't a conductor. What am I missing (or not seeing) here? Thanks.

Eric

Your photo looks like he has has electrodes pasted to his scrotum, which makes sense. However, it looks like you've put an electrode of some shape into his anus/rectum in a condom, which would make sense for anything else except that rubber isn't a conductor. What am I missing (or not seeing) here? Thanks.

Well, to quote Wikipedia, "condoms are most often made from latex, but some are made from other materials such as polyurethane, polyisoprene" These do allow electricity to flow through. The condom is there, BTW, simply to keep the electrode clean so it can be put away without washing.

... and after bottom caning - Wow! Does that look painful.

Well, thank you!!! I take pride in a job well done!

I knew I didn't like pain for a reason - even from a delightful partner!)

Well, I did set out to get him to use his safe word, and for only the third time in more than 30 years of playing, I succeeded in getting him to use it!

Ahhh! Yes, non-latex condoms. I have no experience with same, but if I ever decide to try e-stim, I'll come back for a recommendation. I would have guessed that the non-latex ones would be insulators too, like latex, but materials science does fascinating things sometimes. Thanks.

Eric

Sophia said http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=756469

Please allow me to repeat:

I OPPOSE ANY TYPE OF CORPORAL PUNISHMENT! And since using an enema as punishment may give the receiver the notion that enemas are inherently unenjoyable or distasteful, that can result in the punished one never taking an enema for pleasure or whenever else one is appropriate.

Sophia said http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=758323

Friday night, because the children and grandchildren were still here, he just put the items on the IV stand but left it in the closet, only yesterday after brunch and the good-byes, then did he wheel it out to his “examination room”. He chose the 6 quart Daval enema bag with the steel magnum nozzle and the second worst “spanking” implement in our collection, a 34 inch long, 10 mm thick, rattan cane used in Victorian reform schools.

Something new since the early 1980s when I collected implements for my dungeon is E-Stim, and I thought I’d surprise him pleasantly with something new to us, so I bought an Allegro Medical208A Stimulator and many attachments including quite a collection of anal probes.

“I fully expect that Saturday when I am in sub space that Sophia will treat ME very harshly because I am overdue for EXTREME masochism!” please recall is what he said, before treating me harshly a few days ago.

In more than 30 years of playing, he had used his safe word only twice, and I set out to make him use it a third time in this birthday session!

I tied him on the hard table in his office in the knee-chest position, hands tied to ankles, and the spreader bar for his ankles spread as wide as possible. Then I went, according to the traditional procedure, and filled his enema bag, choosing the proper amount of castile soap, but adding a bottle of garlic extract to increase cramping, and I also took my time in returning with it. Then I had him count down his 58 lashes but didn’t (yet) give him “one to grow on”, and then waited for him to ask, “Please insert my nozzle, Doctor Ma’am!”, which took him a moment after the painful caning to ask for. Then he asked for the clamp to be opened, and during his fill he groaned with the cramping.

Soon after I removed the nozzle, he asked “Please untie me, Doctor Ma’am”, which, of course, I denied. Then I inserted a ribbed (bumpy) anal probe and commenced some electro stim, which as I had been told, did in fact cause the anal sphincter to tighten, and I turned it up and played with the pulse rates until he screamed, upon which I wished him a happy “EXTREME masochism” experience!

After playing with this a while, I eventually untied him, exposed my breasts, and had him stimulate them with my explicitly command him what to do as I had my hand on my cunt, and with the other hand playing with mild electro stim on and off. Eventually I let him expel.

For his subsequent enemas, I did likewise, with REPEATING his birthday spanking much to his dismay and dislike (“Please, Doctor Ma’am, please do not whip me again!”) and over the next few enemas he had to lick my body from head to toes, front and back, all the time receiving some e-stim. Finally, after clear, he was given an extra enema before the final one for sex, and finally he was allowed to lick my cunt. For the final enema, I at last used our bed for tying him. When I told him that he needed a fifth whipping, he finally used his safe word (“I am a wimp, Doctor Ma’am, so no more please!”) and I replied, “I understand you wimp, but you do need one to grow on!”, and a final lash I gave him. In all, he received 233 strokes, after which I washed him with brine, then applied betadine, and bandaged his buttocks and thighs, even as he was being e-stimmed on his penis and testicles.

And he held his fifth enema as I strode him and brought him to orgasm. THEN, I sat on his face, had him lick out and swallow his sperm, and then I lay face down on out bed with a few pillows under my abdomen, and set a timer for 15 minutes for him to perform anilingus (which he isn’t fond of) in his post-orgasmic state while retaining his cramping enema.

I doubt he’ll ever again beg me to receive “EXTREME masochism”!

See image at http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=6864 or, in case the link doesn’t work, the only image in Gallery -> Images->English->It's kinky and I love it!->Miscellaneous->Esim after thorough caning

So after your initial strong statement, "I OPPOSE ANY TYPE OF CORPORAL PUNISHMENT!" , and your claiming to be a physician, you expect us to believe you did this to your husband??? http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=6864

I don't think so.

This is NOT your photo of your husband.

Consensual play, however hard, is NOT corporal punishment. Requested limit testing is also not corporal punishment. Playing until the bottom uses his safe word when the bottom asked for extreme treatment constitutes requested limit testing, and that is not punishment, but simply very hard playing.

Consensual play, however hard, is NOT corporeal punishment. Requested limit testing is also not corporeal punishment. Playing until the bottom uses his safe word when the bottom asked for extreme treatment constitutes requested limit testing, and that is not punishment, but simply very hard playing.

Plead ignorance on this one, Sophia.

Corporal punishment in S&M has NOTHING to do with consensuality.

What that photo shows is severe corporal punishment--whether or not the recipient asked for it or not.