The view in the exam room.

Guys, when you go with your partner to her exam and are sitting in the exam room, what kind of view do you have? Where is your chair in relation to the exam table?

Girls, have you ever noticed the setup of the exam room and if you had a partner in there, would he have a good view?

Thanks!

The one time I was in the room with my wife, I was seated on her right side. The examination table was a good bit higher than the level of my chair. And while I got a good view of her right foot/leg in the stirrup, I couldn't see much of what was going on between her legs.

After the routine portion of the examination, I was allowed to stand by her right foot (her feet were back in the stirrups) for a complete viewing of her transvaginal ultrasound.

Yes I have noticed the exam room set up. In the exam rooms I've been in the chair(s) have been to the side of the exam table, on the opposite wall. Depending on the exact layout, the chair(s) have been either closer to the head of the table or a little further down towards the feet, but have not been positioned far enough towards the foot end that the person sitting in the chair would have a view between the stirrups, just a side view.

At the local PP where my SO used to go, the extra chair was down on the foot of the table end off to the side. I tended to get up and if she was in pain for any part of it be up near the head where her head was to comfort her, or if she was OK and there was something interesting going on, looking down below. From many of my technical endeavours I have gotten pretty good at looking at what I want to look at, but unobtrusively and that just carried over quite naturally into this.

It depends!

In one case my size view was optimal right through the bed

In other case, I could see only feet

I stand at the foot of the table during my wife's pelvic. Our Doc encourages involvement during a conjoint exam.

I am always at the foot of the table behind the doc looking over his shoulder, but from a distance. Usually leaning on the counter. I get a great view! I also ask questions during the exam because my wife usually forgets so it gives me a good vantage point if I need to point something out.

At my wife's gynecologists office the exam chair is in the middle of the exam room at an angle and the chair is off to the side. in some of the exam rooms the exam chair is angled more than others and I usually get a side view where the drape has gaps and I can see a side profile when she's in the stirrups. There have been a few times I've been asked behind the drape for a direct view.

I have never seen a room where the chair was in a decent position to see directly into the action. They always seem to be off to the side. I was thinking about how I could encourage a better position for the person with me, and thought it may work to have them stand near me, perhaps holding my hand, to get a closer view. Of course, we'd have to ditch the drape 😃

Due to work schedule my husband has never been able to attend any of my exams however he was there for each of our children's birth. The exam room at our physician is not set up for any type of view if he were to come, The exam room is very small and consists of an exam table angled from the corner with the head of the table in the corner next to the door, at the foot of the table is one extra wide chair and one chair across from there, again in the corner. The doctor moves around on a small rolling stool. On the wall opposite the door is a small sink with a small counter. There is a waste can under the sink and counter. The rooms are very small infact when the door is open it rests on the side of the exam table. There is no way for someone to see the patient on the table if the door is opened because the patient would be behind the door so patient modesty is never a problem, someone would need to come totally into the room to see the patient once they were on the exam table due to the position of the door.

If someone were to be in the room during an exam the doctor would be obstructing any view the visitor would have.

I'm usually perpendicular, to the side, so i don't get to see much

I have been to a BUNCH of exams and the set ups have all been different. Most often the chairs are not in a good location to allow for a spectacular view. However, on several occasions the chairs have been perfectly placed so I had a view right up the table. There is no better view in the entire world! Also on more than once occasions when I was sitting in a chair that didn't have a great view, the gynecologist actually asked me if I wanted to see my wife's / girlfriend's cervix. So I got up and walked around and got a great, up close view of her cervix.

I usually have a great view when I go with my wife for her gyn appointments. The way the room is set up has me standing at the business end of the table, at an angle behind the doctor. I get a great view of the speculum, bimanual and rectal exams. Especially since she does not get a drape. Just a gown open in the front. Her doctor is female.

I rarely do routine pelvics. My patients are sick, dripping pus, bleeding from incomplete ABs (abortions that is miscarriages). The chairs for family in our Gyne rooms are placed at the head of the bed. I don't encourage husbands or other family members to join the patient because they do inopportune things like fainting on the floor. One of my worst memories is of a six inch laceration to the bone of a husbands forehead. He was trying to be macho and look when he wife was aborting. Blood was pouring out of her and he fainted striking the

metal step of the table. It was a four layer closure which took 45 minutes when I was alone on a night shift in the middle of the night. He didn't have insurance either so it was gratis work. What about the patient who had maggots crawling from her rectum to her vagina and back again? I almost fainted with that one. Not again soon thank you. As I said I rarely do routine care. My patients are sick.

I have had the same OB/GYN for the last 25 years and the only times my husband came was about once with each pregnancy because HE WORKS FOR A LIVING! I don't know how all you guys get to go to your wives and girlfriends exams--do you go at night? Seeing all the reports here of men going with the wives and girlfriends does not correlate with how very few men I see in the waiting room or going in with their partners when I go.

Anyway, any chairs in the room are at the head of the table or patient's waist level.

I went with my wife to each and every one of her appointments through 3 pregnancies. I was always able to slip out of work for an hour or so. No big deal. It was a pretty casual environment and my boss had just done the same thing with his wife so he was pretty understanding.

Sadly, I just got to see the one pelvic exam and transvaginal ultrasound.

Susie, you have to remember that people are asking questions in stocked waters here. That is, the population here does not reflect a more normal cross section of society. I don't have a har time believing the guys that go to their wives exams here.

As far as taking time away from work, at the risk of sounding redundant, an annual happens once a year so it is not like the male is having to take a slice out of their days every week. Back when I worked hourly and it would have been a hit in the paycheck it would have been worth it. For the last 30 years or so the jobs I have had never had a problem if I needed to duck out for part of a day.

I had one nurse complement me for tagging along and being interested and supportive.

The room that I have been in have always have been set up with a tray and the table look normal and as the exam progressed the strurrups would come out.

When I go with my wife, there are 2 extra chairs in the exam room and they are both just past the foot end of the exam table, with their backs to the window. For me, that has long since been and always will be the best seat in the house!!! My wife said that it really turns her on knowing that I am right there in the exam room with her and that I am able to see everything that her doctor sees and does. For that matter my wife always comes along with my to my regular physician and urologist appointments as well and I feel the exact same way she does....it is an incredible turn-on to have her there watching my exams as well.

Look at the pictures in my gallery and you can figure out where my view is from.

He was trying to be macho and look when he wife was aborting. Blood was pouring out of her and he fainted striking the

metal step of the table. It was a four layer closure which took 45 minutes when I was alone on a night shift in the middle of the night. He didn't have insurance either so it was gratis work. What about the patient who had maggots crawling from her rectum to her vagina and back again? I almost fainted with that one.

This is a genuine question. The things you describe from your work are often simply quite awful. Really horrible at times. If I had to deal with those kind of things on a professional basis, I doubt if I would be interested in anything to do with the arousing nature of medfet.

Well you have to understand that one becomes inured to almost anything over time. Gallows humor gets me through it as well as wanting to help and intellectual curiosity. Also the body is a pretty marvelous thing and when one understands it there's little to be revolted by it. I'm interested in a small subset of medical fetish. I'm in no way aroused by the events which I experience at work. I participate in these forums because I like to shed a realistic light on the subject. I have to admit that I'm amused by some of the misconceptions. I do believe that a dose of reality helps laymen to understand what we experience everyday.

@agracier

This is a genuine question. The things you describe from your work are often simply quite awful. Really horrible at times. If I had to deal with those kind of things on a professional basis, I doubt if I would be interested in anything to do with the arousing nature of medfet.

That is an excellent question. Just like Liquidsky has alluded you get a sense of professional detachment in the sense that you are there to provide care for someone so no matter how "horrible" the situation is you just get on with your professional responsibilities and duty of care . It does not mean that we are not affected by some of the sights and circumstances we have to deal with on a daily basis , believe me when I say that their are days at work when everyone are quiet , withdrawn, and even a bit depressed and not our usual self because of things we have been involved with. Each any everyone in the medical profession regardless of their reasons for joining the profession had a desired to help people ( yes are I know at times this may be difficult to fathom with some of the medical professional that you may have encountered).

With regards to:

I doubt if I would be interested in anything to do with the arousing nature of medfet.

Like it has been said on numerous occasions , work is work and play is play . The two are very distinct and separate facets of us. At work my main focus is centered around providing care that is safe, effective, detecting and treating any problems, maintaining your safety , promoting comfort , support, reassurance , encouragement etc , medfet does not come into my conscious thought in any form whatsoever.

Outside of work I have my medfet interest , part of which is participating and interacting on this forum . Well that's my own personal perspective of your question , hope it sheds some light on your question .

I've only attended a couple of exams with my wife. At the last one, the chair i sat in was off to the side so I really couldn't see much. The doctor did a breast exam, but was standing between me and that part of my wife so she blocked my view. When it came time for the pelvic, the drape over her legs blocked any view I had of that. The only thing I could see was the speculum. I could look under her leg and see the very end of the speculum that was in her.

I have only had two doctors my whole life. I also worked at an OB/GYN. All of which had two chairs. One for someone with you placed close to the head and the doctors. The doctors stool are usually on wheels.

In the four different exam rooms that I can remember, one room had the chair at the head so I saw almost nothing because the head of the table was tilted up but in the three other rooms, the chair was at the side so I was able to observe the breast exam clearly. I did not have a good view of the pelvic exam until this last time when I asked the doctor if I could see what she was doing and the doctor said that it was up to my wife and fortunately for me, she said I could so I was able to observe the pelvic exam with the speculum and the rectal exam afterwards.

One time with my wife the exam table was in the corner of the room, and the spectator chair was in the other corner. I mentally cleaned out my spank bank in preparation for what I was about to witness.

Then the doctor came in, and asked me to stand next to my wife because of the awkward position of the chair. In the end I was ok with it, since this was a medical exam and not a porn shoot. But still, I love to think about what could have been.

I've only had a handful of people with me in the exam room, but when I have it's been extremely distracting because all I can think about is, what can he see lol. I prefer to go my exams alone these days.

I have had the same OB/GYN for the last 25 years and the only times my husband came was about once with each pregnancy because HE WORKS FOR A LIVING! I don't know how all you guys get to go to your wives and girlfriends exams--do you go at night? Seeing all the reports here of men going with the wives and girlfriends does not correlate with how very few men I see in the waiting room or going in with their partners when I go. . . .

When my former wife was having gyn surgery, I arranged my schedule so as to be with her for a few appointments, at her request. Only one of those involved her being in position for an internal. Because the PA was at the head of the table, there was no chair for me to use. and I was free to walk around and peek if I chose to do so. Having worked in operating suites on many gyn procedures, I had no need to peek this time.

Interestingly I have gone in the room once with the wife for a gyn exam which was unplanned shortly after the birth of our first child. The second time with a visit to a urologist. Sadly both times I had the cheap seats either along side her or up at her head so no joy there.

The one time I did have a ringside seat so to speak was during a colonoscopy procedure in another city. Anyway a funny story but I'll come to that a bit later. I had to gown up and walked into a crowded room. There was the wife laying on her side and joining in the the fun was the Dr., along with the anaesthesiast, two nurses and 3 student Dr's. Interestingly there was no mention in advance of the student Dr's being in attendance but oh well it was a full room as I said. Luckily it was large enough. Anyway I got to stand just behind the Dr. with the student Dr's so I got a pretty good view of the procedure and the TV show was also kind of interesting.

Anyway the funny part... The anaesthesia had kicked in but the wife was not out but more in a drunken haze. The Dr. told her that he was going to insert the probe and that she would begin to feel the pressure on her bum. My wife who has a heavy French accent responded..."That's OK, my brother in law is Greek" I almost burst a gut trying not to laugh and the Dr who was South African turned to me and asked what did she say. Obviously I pleaded ignorance.....