@Wolf2007 says; Lora, your posts could fill a really sexy book, becoming an instant best seller, for sure. Beyond the details, and believe me they are a source of vicarious pleasure, I am curious how you managed to work out a community of people equally interested in pursuing sexual pleasures, yet who remain more than just "fucks" to each other. I find your circle an incredible group, as you navigate waters that most of us might wish to emulate, but have not found the solution as "easily" as you.
@Wolf2007 - it's been far from easy for me to get where I am now, and things are constantly changing in my life. The quick version is that - I was lonely at home not feeling appreciated so I cheated on my husband with a very dear and long time friend all because we admitted to each other that we liked enemas. At the time I started my affair - I didn't know that my husband had been cheating on me. None of that matters one bit now - I've been here at Zity.Biz for over three years, and I was doing enemas with my friend turned lover for a year or two before I came here.
@Wolf2007 and also @Dahiana - back then I didn't know what I wanted in the way of a sex life, and if I didn't know what I wanted, then how was I going to make it happen with my husband? At the time - he and I just weren't clicking, and too damn busy to talk about it or even try to do something about it. So - we fucked around on each other. I was lucky - in that I found a lover in my very dear friend who actually listened to what I had to say, and was open to trying different things, and being honest about our liking enemas. Then enemas were as kinky - taboo, as we could possible get and we were sure we were perverts for even trying. 😉 That saying - 'It's only kinky the first time,' fit us to a T. 😉 The element of enemas in our affair - turned us into explorers with each other and not just someone to fuck just to be fucking. We both found out that - enemas created a bond between us, because we had to trust each other enough to let the other, first, know that we liked enemas, and second we had to implicitly trust one another to submit to being given an enema by the other. You have to totally trust - and communicate with your partner, in this case Him, to make the enemas work. And it is the communicating - that started resonating with me and helping me understand what I wanted out of my sex life.
I don't think - that if all He and I did was to meet and fuck each other on the side, that our friendship would have gone very far or survived our affair, let alone blossom or enable me to finally get the 'balls' to assert my new found sexuality and try to involve my husband into what I wanted to do. It became a goal for me - to either give my husband and enema, or get one from him, and at the very least give it a try. 😃 But first I had to work it out in my mind - and heart, just where I wanted to go and how to get my husband on board the enema train and go totally ape on sex.
@Dahiana and @Wolf2007 - that was at the very very least, 3 to 5 years ago! I would not call that - 'easily' and sure as hell not fast. 😉 Pangs of conscience - and flames of lust and downright perversion, garnished with lots of love and tenderness, and even more 'we're-gonna-talk-whether-you-want-to-or-not' and outright seduction of my husband took me awhile to pull off. But I did - I finally got my shit together and worked my womanly wiles and ways on my husband, and enemas got into our bedroom from my 'sewing' room. Those were our first - 'baby steps' and the fire and flames were being fanned, mainly because I knew what to say, when to say it, and get him to open up and talk to me. We got things going - and the more we did, the more I worked up an apetite for exploring more kinks.
I had a friend - a nurse named Ruthie, and even in school she was pretty confident in herself, and from being out with a date and running into her with her date, I could tell that I had some competition in being boy crazy. 😉 If there was anyone - who might know about kink, it was her, and after opening up Pandora's box of sex toys with my husband, I felt like she might be a source of good advice. What I didn't know - is that my husband had been fucking her off and on for several years. 😮 By then - I didn't care, well, I did, but it would be like the pot calling the kettle black, and throwing a hissy fit needs some moral high ground, which I sure as hell did not have. Fuck it - I wanted to get kinky with my husband, and I did not have time for drama.
So - Ruthie & Dave became closer friends to Tom & me, and we started talking about getting out more, traveling. We were already - friends who went to football games together, an occasional vacation, trips out to Vegas, going into the big city for a play, and just generally hanging out. We had another couple - Beth Anne & Steve, the squareist looking couple and most vanilla folks that you can imagine, as another set of friends. They also joined us - Tom & me and Ruthie & Dave, on some of our outtings, and lots of backyard BBQ's and I knew Beth Anne from school and my catering business and her flower shop. So all of us - were acquainted and friends, and I truly liked all of them, even Ruthie, yeah, I'm not that forgiving or mature, but still, who was I to talk?
My enemas - progressed and at some point I was brought to Zity.Biz by my very dear friend, who had the guts to show me what He had been writing about us. Blew me the fuck away - I was pole axed and He took a major chance with me and a leap of faith that I would not think that He was a fucking pervert for putting 'us' out here for everyone to watch us fuck. For all He knew - I could have looked at it that way, and thrown a hissy fit to end all hissy fits and ripped Him a new asshole and have His guts for garters. No @Wolf2007 - what He wrote about us was so damned detailed, so touching, and so erotic, and beautiful, that I never once considered it wrong what He wrote. 🌹 That was a helluva risk on His part - and I don't think people realize that.
I have to tell you @Wolf2007 and also @Dahiana - that His attention to detail, is what I have modeled my own writing on and how I tell my story. You men 😧 :-\\ 😳 😢 🙄 - to get you to string more that three words together + a grunt + a fart + a belch while you um and uh clumsily through a sentence about how you feel is almost all but unheard of. I mean - really how the hell hard is it for you to tell us about how you feel about us and what you want from us, and how we make YOU feel? And here - of all places, I'm reading some extremely articulate, hot, erotic, and tender things about me 🌹 and what I mean to Him, how I please Him, and how high in His life I am to Him. 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹
I read what He said about me - having no idea that the woman He was talking about in those beautiful stories could even be me 🌹 🌹 🌹 and I'm brought to orgasm just by reading what He says about us! Is that for real? 😧
Then I think - why the hell didn't He tell me all this instead of coming to here to write about it? Then I remembered - He's a man. But He did write those words - I did join here, and I met some pretty terrific people. There were a couple of women - @Qnymph and @gibby who reached out to me, and we started up a friendship. Time went on - I was writing here, and eventually visiting with @gibby, and at some point, @gibby convinced me that IM enemas, and then webcam enemas, were a nice way to communicate. I read a lot of what @gibby wrote - and she is good 😃 and there was more than one time that I caught myself thinking about how much this chick was turning me on. But - I don't do girls. 😉 Still - maybe? No. This old farm girl - no way in hell I'm going to puy my face between another woman's legs and get 'all up in her bizness', my gate just does not swing that way, thank you very much.
Then I caught myself thinking - you know? I might not totally hate it if - some woman, like @gibby, put her face between my legs and up in my business, you know, just to see if I would like it? I don't know how much time lapsed - but I ended up in a motel room getting an enema and having my 'cherry' popped by a woman. She got me so hot - that I returned the favor, and I became 'bi-curious'.
Meanwhile @Dahiana and @Wolf2007 - back home our little group was becoming bolder by the minute and kicking aroun ideas of going to a nude resort or a nude beach. Oh yeah - we were becoming wild and crazy! Just not - wild and crazy enough to actually take the first step or what to do. I'm looking at Ruthie in a whole new light - as in, in light of having my girl / girl cherry popped by @gibby and thinking maybe those rumors about Ruthie were true. Beth Anne? - nah, she and her hubby Steve were vanilla. I did Ruthie - or rather she did me, and my bi-curious status was in full effect. Cutting to the chase - @Wolf2007 and @Dahiana, @gibby agreed to come down for a visit and show us how it was done, afterall, she was a photographer, had done some nudes herself, been to 'nudist camps' and maybe she could break the ice for us all.
She did - at a dinner in her honor, Ruthie and I had agreed that we would quickly follow @gibby's example and take our clothes off when she did, after dinner or during, and break the ice. I was going to be the first one naked - even if I had to weld Ruthie's zipper shut, I was going to be daring and lead the way. Ruthie had other ideas - we both just waited for @gibby's panties to hit the dining room floor and get the road to change for our little circle. @gibby set the stage for all of us - then took off her clothes, she is beautiful and a hard body 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 but little miss vanilla Beth Anne was naked almost as fast as @gibby was. It was a photo finish - as to which of the women's panties hit the floor first.
That's when I looked over - and thought to myself, 'Well no shit Beth Anne!' 😎
@Wolf2007 and @Dahiana - since that time, and you can read about it in this thread and others I've written, things changed for me for the better, I'm happier now in my marriage to that little bowlegged man, and I've done just about everyting I have ever wanted to do on my sexual bucket list. My - or our, 'circle' has shrunk or become more selective for Tom & me as to preferring Beth Anne & Steve as 'regular' people we take to bed and enjoy. 🌹 And when we are very lucky - we also take @gibby & Pete to bed 🌹 on those very rare occasions when they can make it down our way. But that is not often enough - but I will never turn either Pete or Gibby away from bed, or the table, or the counter, or anywhere they want me. 😉
In all reality - Ruthie & Dave are in different circles that me & Tom or Beth Anne & Steve, and if I do fuck Dave, he has to wear a condom. Period. No condom? No fuck. But the option is there - but I'm not going to seek them out.
No - @Dahiana and @Wolf2007, for all intents and purposes, Tom & I are very very fond of Beth Anne & Steve and they have become more than enough for us.
@Cedar 🌹 ? I'm His anytime. 😃
I hope that answers your questions - @Wolf2007 and @Dahiana 🌹 🌹
The rest is here - for you to read. 😃