We are an engaged str8 couple, 7 years together, kinky, and in our 50’s. We both like extreme play. Here’s what I feel during anal play:
Just anticipating the anal play, preparing for, cleaning myself out deeply and thoroughly, getting toys, lube, towels, and gloves, etc. ready – My heart rate picks up, my stomach gets the butterflies, my cock begins to engorge and then gets rock hard, bouncing with each heartbeat. There is a ritual if you will, cock ring(s) get put in place, accessories are laid out, and I am in a heightened state of arousal just knowing what is about to begin. I am aware of a deep want radiating out from my asshole… craving the intense sensations of stretching and deep whole-body stimulation and orgasm! At this point, there is no turning back… anal play is imminent. Desire and lust rule us both.
Size matters. Fingers, small toys, her tongue, and lips, applying or inserting lube – Teasing sensations focused mainly on the two anal sphincters… and the exterior of my anus. The medical analogy’s that our mouth lips and anus are made from the same tissues, and have the same rich lacing of nerves. I am clenching at this point, and enjoy this anal foreplay. I am aware of being clean, or not. We check and make sure. If not, then we break for more cleaning. The feeling is tactile, direct and localized and very distinct. Light touch and pressure are as if someone were doing the same to my mouth lips.
Beginner dildos, up to 1.8” by 9” - Feels anally familiar, the sensations of opening up, initial stretch and pressure and focused on relaxing. We’re getting past the first two sphincters and the several rectal folds that slow you down, yet feel so good to open up. Our goal here is to give time to move lube deeper, and to relax my rectum and to make sure I am still clean as the toys are moved in and out. Still not bearing down, we play here until all is good and a warm feeling begins to radiate out from my anus and rectum. At about 8-9 inches deep, we both feel the resistance of the sharp turn into the sigmoid colon. This turn is critical because it is supported by a strong muscle called the Puborectal sling, which is strong and automatically controlled. It took me several years of play just to get a 1.5 in x 12 in double-headed dildo to turn and pass through this control gate if you will. At this point in our play, we are not passing this place, just bumping up against what feels like a dead end. If we feel like it, we use that double dildo, on our backs, butt to butt, with the dildo buried in both our asses, masturbating together and watching each other’s expressions and grinding our asses into each other, impaled. Or even fucking, but that is quite the trick.
Large dildo’s, fist(s), stretch play – Sufficiently aroused, my cock is hard usually. If not, we do not care. I enjoy playing with my cock during anal play and love when she sucks me off during this play. Hell, we can even fuck while she fists me. If we are using large toys, say up to 3” wide, then more lube gets applied. We like Crisco and J-Lube. We freeze mixed J-lube in ice cube trays, then pop them inside my ass at the start. Kinky cold fun and helps move lube deep inside me. We use a stainless meat marinade syringe without the needle loaded with Crisco and insert it as deep inside my ass as well. Several of these and I am ready. Usually, I have to squat over the large toys, just to get that stretch opened up. She may use them like a strap on, which is more intimate and erotic, visually, emotionally and physically. Either way, she usually plays with my cock while I slowly pass my ass over the toy and settle down to enjoy the glowing warmth of the stretch. I feel heat, and my heart races. The fullness of this size gives me mini convulsions of orgasm like pleasure that rolls in waves through me, centered in my lowered abdomen. I’m panting and moaning as I stretch down onto this size of a toy, and we only go as deep as the rectum allows at this point.
Fisting is different from a large toy in that it is far more intimate, we are more connected, and if we have not used a large toy before fisting, the sensations are more gradual, with higher peaks of pleasure. She uses gloves, and generous amounts of Crisco, and then with her fingers all pushed to a point, slowly slides inside my asshole. I feel insane pressure and stretching of the sphincters, as well and fullness that in the early stages of this kind of play, was similar to needing to have a bowel movement, yet different. We stay here until I catch my breath, and get used to the feeling of her hand inside me. Depending on how it feels, we may do any number of movements: She balls her hand into a fist and twists (Exquisite prostate milking as her knuckles roll over inside me) or plunges in and out of me (Incredible stretch on the way out and in… tends to make me push out against her both ways, and really loosens both anal sphincters. She tells me that it is as if my ass is sucking her fist inside me. This can be animalistic and steps up the already high kink level, and she loves the control she feels), or after a while, we may decide a second fist is needed. This brings about new orgasmic full body shakes from me, as she slowly slides fingers along her inserted wrist until finally… she is in. The stretch is that perfect balance of pleasure and pain, requiring a heightened level of arousal from us both, and defines the power exchange that occurs with this kind of sexual play. Often I need a few huffs to help relax and open me up, and that sets up a chain reaction of orgasms that have nothing to do with my cock. Truly, these orgasms are anal. Once she is locked into place with both hands, wrists askew, she can slowly push and pull back and forth without leaving my rectum, dragging my body along with her as she does. I have no control over this and have had too many orgasms to count this way. Often, at the end of a long and sweaty play session, I will stroke my cock to a massive ejaculation, which though it feels like gallons of cum are shooting out, really only produces a few dribbles until she removes the extra fist… which opens the flood gates and my cum pours out of me.
Depth Play with large dildo’s and/or a fist - If on the other hand, we are in the mood for some depth play, which as of late seems to be more often the farther along we get, the sensations and tempo change greatly. Early in the playtime, depending on me usually unless she says something to indicate her desires, and if my shower cleanout time was deeply successful and easy, I likely will want to explore some depth play. We have a double headed dildo that is 18”x1.8” that I have taken inside me completely. It takes time and patience, lots of lube and serious twisting of the dildo until it finally pops through past the puborectal sling muscle, which has to stretch to allow for the toy to straighten out. The sensation at first is truly gut-wrenching. I feel pressure and pleasure deep inside, and the mental process is more of a challenge and goal, with intense sexual pleasures from the changes inside me and transfer of the pressure off my prostate into the back of my rectum. If that toy comes out clean, we are definitely going to have some depth play. If not, I will return to the shower until it does. There are more critical bends and muscles involved now, so clean is king, and slow is the rule. And you can never have too much lube.
Our next playtime is going to include me doing the above to prep and clean out, and then we will insert 4-5 J-lube ice cubes and starting small, we will play with toys until I get up to the Fort Troff Real Deal Monster 14” dual density dildo. It is super comfortable, feels amazing and is almost too bendy, however, I have discovered that it is the perfect toy for me to slowly stretch open and straighten the transitions from the sharp turn out of the rectum, into the sigmoid colon then into the descending colon, through the sling muscle. It will take us perhaps 20 minutes of slow progress and then as if by magic, the stretch slowly let's go, I open up and it slips through. As I have done in the past, I will stop here and let my body adjust to this insane pressure and stretch. Breathtaking is the word, and I have to fight the urge to stroke my cock to orgasm. I also have to hold back her enthusiasm in wanting to fuck me hard and fast with the toy at this point… for now. Slowly I will take the entire 14” to the balls, and then remove the toy, add a few more lube cubes, then repeat the process, shoving the lube deep into my colon. When I feel ready, in an incredibly heightened state of arousal, and shaking from the extreme play and deep pressure and fullness, we up the game.
My heart racing, we move to the Dick Rambone at 2.4”x14”, a firmer, almost too firm version of the same toy. At this point, as much Crisco as we can push inside my asshole gets shoved inside me, and the toy is slathered in it. And, we start the process all over… the hard part is the same as the previous dildo…negotiating the turn past the sing muscle into the descending colon. With time and patience, it does happen, although the firmness of the toy makes the stretch almost insanely exquisite and then rest in place as this is nearly unbearable but the heightened state of arousal is caused by this extreme stretch and change in where the stretch comes from. I feel pressure above my belly button on my left side, and a desire to push the toy out which helps with straightening things out and releases pressure in the muscles. When I do bear down, I can feel my colon and rectum slide down over the toy. I find I am pushing out allot here, bearing down as with two fists, or a huge wide toy, to relax automatic muscles. Once I am used to the stretch, I can and will enjoy the slow ride on this toy, and then, for the first time, we hope that when it is pulled out of my ass, her fist and forearm well lubed in Crisco, will finally get this deep inside me as well. Perhaps even to her elbow. We have tried in the past without success, her wrist just barely through the sling muscle, but not after such toy play, and we both think that the toy warmup will finally be the trick.
I will let you all know.
That's what I feel during anal play. love to hear your feedback and your experiences as well!