SWITCHES--Do you prefer the Domme or sub roles?

My switching days were started long ago. We took turns to be Teacher/pupil

Each step was progressive

hand over clothes, returned plus paddle over clothes.

Paddled over clothes then paddled bare

paddled bare then plimsoll bare

Plimsoll bare then strap bare

and so on

the first to cry "enough" had to take another set

I always wanted to take more than to give but knew the harder I gave, the harder I got back. We played for hours!!

I like both, but I prefer the patient's. In RPG we give each other injections. It gives a lot of pleasure to give the patient a big injection in the butt.

I identify as a switch, although I feel like a better term for me is just a kinkster. I do enjoy both roles, but definitely lean towards submission. As a male, taking the top or dom role comes naturally in a scene with a women, and it's what my wife prefers. Porn is where a lot of my inspiration for scene ideas come from and it is very satisfying getting her off, tying her up, or watching her ass stretch. Do enjoy giving her a good enema too and seeing her reaction to it, although she only does them once in a blue moon as they're not her favourite.

I definitely crave for submission though. I don't often get to be the one submitting, so when I do I savour the moment. For me it's all about the pleasure and sensations I get and being able to completely trust someone else with my body. The surrender aspect is very exciting.

I say that I'm kinkster though because I'm more interested in unstructured scenes where pleasure for both parties is paramount. Think like rather than only one person having their ass played with, we play with each other's assholes. I find that with doms and subs, there is such a rigidity that it establishes rules and determines how the scene will go, which is good in some scenarios for sure, but I much prefer a fluid scene of just doing what feels good.

YES. YES. YES.

Generally I used to be vanilla, until I began exploring my kink beyond myself. But my headspace and heart have always been submissive to a man I desire. Submission is what I crave, what makes me feel sexual and feminine like nothing else. Functionally in life I'm Dominant and I'm coming to understand I'm that way when I meet men to date. However, it's never lasting because once I'm in control, it's more an effort to me than a relationship I desire. That said, when I'm in kink mode, if I'm being Dominant my pussy tells me I'm loving it because I get super wet and horny. I switch for kink and enjoy that equally with the caveat that I'm still serving and satisfying my partner.

So even when I'm kink Dominant, my heart and pussy are loving the sub feeling of pleasuring my partner and making Him happy. The few times I've tried to please myself mostly in the Dom role it feels weird, and I'd say he notices it, too. Dom and sub are labels and we all have variations in what they mean to us, and they can vary from relationship to relationship. I'm sure my partner sees my being a Dom at times very differently than he sees and feels with his Domme! I''m very ok with that!

I usually prefer the sub side, I guess for me is more kinkier.

But since i like to wear heeled boots and some female clothes, I could be a "Domme" too, if the situation could be fun for my play partner.......wht not! 😃

Za

I certainly like both roles and its hard to pinpoint when I want to top or bottom. I suppose it is al about opportunity. For example lately I had a bad cold that lingered. It was easy to feel a bit subby as a result.

My switching days were started long ago. We took turns to be Teacher/pupil

Each step was progressive

hand over clothes, returned plus paddle over clothes.

Paddled over clothes then paddled bare

paddled bare then plimsoll bare

Plimsoll bare then strap bare

and so on

the first to cry "enough" had to take another set

I always wanted to take more than to give but knew the harder I gave, the harder I got back. We played for hours!!

Does this mean plimsoll as in the British word for canvas and rubber athletic shoe or (American) sneaker, used to spank someone with the rubber sole, or what does plimsoll mean here?

Eric

When my switch ex would be Domme-ing, putting me into rubber suits and sneakers before giving me forced enemas to hold, her preferred methods of making me behave submissively to her, it would be especially potent when she'd explain her dominant rationale for Domme-ing me. She'd explain that the more dominated and submissive she would make me, the better her own orgasms would be, so my job was to accept as much submission as she chose to force on me, and behave, move and sound as dominated as she liked. We knew each other's kinks which were nearly identical, so we both enjoyed her making my submission as intense and prolonged as she liked. Though I enjoyed and was aroused by the kinks she made me endure, it was at times a struggle to endure what she insisted on: long periods sweating under complete latex or neoprene rubber suits, restraints to allow her access to any part of me, and large prolonged enemas, sometimes with an added spanking while holding, all of which were extremely arousing if challenging to endure. The more I'd moan and complain, the better she liked it and would frequently insist on more and more submissive behavior for me to earn an orgasm. Very satisfying for both of us. Though I thoroughly enjoyed being sub to her, I liked being her Dom when she asked for it, since I knew about the joys she would experience when she was being the sub, especially enemas which were her favorite submissive act.

Eric

I used to be extremely dominant when playing, but recently, I've found that I prefer to be the sub. It's been a really strange experience for me, finally coming to terms with what makes me happy and what I enjoy. My partner has been exploring her Domme side, and I have to say, it's been an adventure.

Depends on my mood. There are times when you get tired of being in charge all the time.At that point it feels so good to just surrender and submit to another person . You do derive pleasure from submission and from pleasing your Dom. At an other time when you are in the Dominant Role , the experiences learned as a sub ,can make you a better Dominate.

Depends on my mood. There are times when you get tired of being in charge all the time.At that point it feels so good to just surrender and submit to another person . You do derive pleasure from submission and from pleasing your Dom. At an other time when you are in the Dominant Role , the experiences learned as a sub ,can make you a better Dominate.

Yes, exactly. I'm a switch but markedly prefer subbing, especially when my Domme is giving me enemas. She loves them too, so whenever she wants to switch, I'm delighted to Dom and give her submissive enemas. I don't think any if very many people choose to be a Dom, sub or switch, as it seems to be preset from birth or at least from when you first notice who's team you're playing on. That said, I'm glad to be a Switch and enjoy both sides as both are arousing for different reasons. I agree that knowing how to enjoy being a sub helps me do a better job Domming her when she likes it. And since we trade roles and thus submissive enemas, I've noticed that we both have picked up pointers on either how to do certain things or how to erotically talk to each other when we're being the Dom(me), which makes it more fun for both of us.

Eric

I like subbing for my pleasure. I like domming for my sub's pleasure. I wouldn't want to only do one or the other.

Yes, I'm a switch.

Most of the time I love to be in control but sometimes I wish to surrender and let someone else take control of me.

I love to be the sub but sometimes switch

I enjoy both equally. I love dominating and pleasing someone who has the need to be submissive. But I love giving up control and being at someone's mercy. As long as their is trust and attraction, I'm 100% in.

Service Sub and Dom relationship ,a hybrid of Switching.

There is one very interesting hybrid situation of Dom and Sub roles and switching. It is that of a Service Sub. I will define a Service Sub as one who is chosen by their Dom to to please his or her most personal fetishes, quirks and weird stuff he enjoys . Doms can have more than one Sub, hence the choice.

The fine line here is that the Dom empowers Service Sub to do all the things he wants and enjoys. The Dom willfully SUBMITS to the Service Sub . When, what ,how long ,and to what intensity is up to the Service Sub . At any time Dom can end it go back to being in charge .

I've observed a few Service Subs inaction, and consulted with one Service Sub to create new scenarios and tasks to use on her Dom. Sessions can last hours, a weekend and on occasion up to a month . Make no mistake about it it . This is NOT Topping from the Bottom . Being a Dom can be hard work. Depending on what type of a person a Dom is ,they also want to unwind and fulfill their fantasies also. Submission (a switch) is one solution.

I enjoy both roles pretty much equally, however there are times when I tend toward the sub side. Butt that's the beauty of being a Switch.

I would say I'm about 95% submissive and 5% dominant. So, I'm not totally sure if I would even call myself a switch. Most of the time, I prefer to be the patient to an older male Doctor.

HOWEVER, when that 5% comes out, it comes out with a vengeance. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I prefer to domme a female.

My preference depends on the situation. As long asI am comfortable in the roll, I can go either way

It depends on my mood from day to day or even hour to hour.

In my first ever spanking relationship, we used to take turns within a session: we'd start with me spanking and caning her, then her spanking and caning me. It worked well for both of us.

I prefer domme but am happy being sub

I would say im 80% domme 20% sub, but i have no trouble switching, especially for medical play.

Domme, I can switch in a scene, but usually not on my own. Some men are able to pull it out, most not. I would like to try that again, after the virus. Having a safe space to surrender is rare and beautiful

With one brief exception decades ago, this is always with my switch woman partner, wife or GF, and my ex-wife told me she loved being submissive to me in bed and her most private sexual secret was thatr she wanted her husband to give her sexual enemas. I can do either D or S role and enjoy both, but I do profoundly enjoy taking large, long retention submissive enemas from my switch partner being Domme. In addition to loving enemas all by themselves, the addition of her being Domme and consensually forcing me to take enemas mixed with our other kinks while being extremely submissive to her adds a spectacular dimension to our interaction. But when she wanted to reverse roles and get her enemas plus kinks from me being Dom, we both loved that too. Win-win.

Eric

I quite often play the doctor but I prefer to be the patient. I get bored easily so I'm up for everything

I like to be the sub and be told what to do or what to wear to bed for the night.

All depends on who you are with. That dictates Dom or sub and there is a 3rd choice--- mutually playing together ,one of you emerges as the Dom. Fun getting there

I like to be the patient but it's usually more the case that I'm the doctor.

I'm curious, I've gotten paddled. Switch brings to mind, caining. Could be wrong. But seam similar. I would start out sub, to understand level of pain. Then placement, butt, thighs, feet and groin. After tasting placement and pain levels, as sub, become the dom, knowing the intensity of both sides I think creates a better sense of both roles.