Rectal temperatures | Busted!!! - How do you get yo…

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Busted !!

This is not exactly an RT topic, but I thought I had better post it anyway, considering that it alters my previous posts: I have to confess that I was caught by my mom yesterday.

She unexpectedly walked through the door and over to my chair as I was skype-chatting with one of the play docs here. She asked me, “Who are you chatting with?” At that point, I was cornered. I had no choice but to tell her the truth as to what I was doing. I told the person I was chatting with that I had been caught, and my mom commented on his response of “uh-oh” negatively, as if I was chatting with a child abductor or abuser or something like that, and was told that was a sign that something was amiss. I then told him I had to go, and gave mom my full attention, as did she to me. I then proceeded to tell her about all the times that I had mentioned in my posts not wanting anyone else – especially her or dad –to know what I was doing, and now seemed to understand why he had said “Uh=oh” – it was because he knew that I did not want my parents knowing about it. I then proceeded to tell her about my newfound fetish, and how I had found a group of people who were going through the same thing that I was. What I got in return was a lecture on internet and chat group safety, and how some of the people that I may hook up with online and end up friending might be a bit, shall we say, “Untrustworthy,” and that just because someone says that the have been through or done something does not necessarily mean that they actually have, and even if they have it does not make them an “expert.”

Of course, I already knew all of this. I am EXTREMELY careful about who I become friends with online, whether it be a chat group or even social media. In the case of a chat groups like this one, I always look at the persons profile before I connect with them; if I notice anything out-of-the or4dinary on it, I do not try and connect with them, or become friends what them. If someone friend-requests me on social media that I do not know (Or I do not recall the name), I look and see if we have any “mutual friends”. If so, then I ask that friend if they know “so-and-so,” because they just friend requested me.

~ Mudd QT

My only real “punishment” for this incident was having to cancel my order of four thermometers and Vaseline from amazon (the chocolate-tempering thermometer was shipping from the seller, so it has been getting ready to ship and therefore I could not cancel that one.); that, and the lecture.

She also said that she was worried about my judgment and that I should see someone and talk about it in front of a “real” expert. I think she has forgotten about that part, though, and I do NOT want to remind her. Needless to say, now, I have to post and get on while I am in my room, and at a time when I am positive that she will not come barging in on me (the two best times would probably be while she is tutoring, and the middle of the night) In my opinion, I think that this group is like alcoholics anonymous. There is a reason that the word “ANONYMUS” is in the name. For me, this particular thread of posts and topics is like “medical fetish anonymous.” Only unlike AA where they get together to try and encourage each other to kick the habit, it allows it’s users to relate to others anonymously, if they so choose, who have the same obsession I just don’t think that my mom gets that, and the fact that I have just now gotten to the point where I have become curious as to what is “’down there,” and that if an RT worked when I was a baby why shouldn’t it work now?

Has anyone else ever been “caught” doing something that you didn’t want anyone else to know about? How did you handle it? If you were punished, how so? What did you do, if anything, to make sure it didn’t happen again?

RN1993

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RN1993

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MuddQT I think this is one occasion where discretion may be the wise approach. Parents will often think that whatever fetish/ kinks we have are "too weird" "not mainstream" or "not normal" in an attempt to ensure conformity in behaviour in accordance with socially accepted conventions.

Fetishes are very common but often not talked about in person precisely because they can look very strange from the outside. For some people it's high heels, others it's leather, and others it's whips. other metfet like rectal temperatures, enemas, speculums etc. People usually only try to change them if they feel guilty about them, which is generally a sign that there's an unresolved issue that's surfacing so as long as you are comfortable with your own fetish then it may be prudent to leave this issue ( about talking to your parents about your rectal temperature fetish ) alone.

As an adult you can indulge in whatever makes you happy as long as it doesn't hurt others and you must keep in mind we all have our personal little quirks and idiosyncrasies. They're ours, and nobody has the right to declare them abnormal , because it's nobody else's business - not even your parents.

It seems from your post that you are seeking "parental approvement " and /or "parental acceptance", which is never going to be easy , so I'd say don't stress yourself. Any fetish is technically weird because it's different than the norm. That's what makes it a niche, or a kink, not everyone will accept it, and that's fine too, just so long as you aren't shunned by it.

If you're parents don't accept it, well, to be honest ( from what you have said it seems the case), it's not really their business what you get up to in your private life. So it may be wise and prudent to accept that your parents may never approve and save yourself a lot of stress and awkwardness . As yo said you are physically disabled and as such you really don't want your relationship with your parents to suffer or become awkward or strained as you will require their assistance , support and encouragement for the unforeseeable future.

n/a

I wouldn't even try, their first impression will be to call me a sick bastard or something worse so I'll rather keep it to myself and my family here on Zity, yes I consider my friends here on Zity family.

JJM

I've lost past girlfriends because of my rt fetish....(they assumed that I was gay). At 61, I've learned over the years that certain topics are off limits for discussion, with parents, relatives, and many others. I wouldn't even disclose that info. to a psychologist. What's the point in creating a negative outcome, and unpleasant responses ?

rectaltemp

As a teen, My mother caught me several times with the thermometer up my rear.

Dr Nash

Getting "caught" is a great fantasy and for some, a real situation. Understand that one day, you WILl no longer be under their eyes and your fetish will remain. There is no need to "explain" your fetish to anyone - caught or not. And as for disclosing your fetish to others can be a real relief in many situations. After years of thinking I was mentally ill for my medfet, I finally revealed it to my therapist. Her reply was so supportive - she ENCOURAGED me to explore my fetish. When I did, I was welcomed into a world filled with like-minded people that has been fantastic.

So, while you may be "caught" by mom or dad with a thermometer in your rectum, realize that one day, in the privacy of your won space, you will go back to enjoying it and when you discover someone you trust, can share that pleasure with another.

SwitchableSusie

Ugggh, this again. I remember the former member MuddQT well. She also had other names here.

She has significant emotional problems, as do other adult children who have the need to discuss their fetishes with their parents who they know might not approve or who let their parents see them in the acts by not taking precautions to keep their privacy. Simply not locking their bathroom or bedroom door is common. These people WANT to get caught.

Enemas4unme

The only type thermometer I had at moms house was rectal.

She gave me rectal temps till age 16

Rigel

We don’t have any medical thermometers in our house. We’ve used a Weber meat thermometer under the tounge and it is close to accurate. Hope this isn’t offensive. To anyone.