Busted!!! - How do you get your parents to understand this Fetish ??

Busted !!

This is not exactly an RT topic, but I thought I had better post it anyway, considering that it alters my previous posts: I have to confess that I was caught by my mom yesterday.

She unexpectedly walked through the door and over to my chair as I was skype-chatting with one of the play docs here. She asked me, “Who are you chatting with?” At that point, I was cornered. I had no choice but to tell her the truth as to what I was doing. I told the person I was chatting with that I had been caught, and my mom commented on his response of “uh-oh” negatively, as if I was chatting with a child abductor or abuser or something like that, and was told that was a sign that something was amiss. I then told him I had to go, and gave mom my full attention, as did she to me. I then proceeded to tell her about all the times that I had mentioned in my posts not wanting anyone else – especially her or dad –to know what I was doing, and now seemed to understand why he had said “Uh=oh” – it was because he knew that I did not want my parents knowing about it. I then proceeded to tell her about my newfound fetish, and how I had found a group of people who were going through the same thing that I was. What I got in return was a lecture on internet and chat group safety, and how some of the people that I may hook up with online and end up friending might be a bit, shall we say, “Untrustworthy,” and that just because someone says that the have been through or done something does not necessarily mean that they actually have, and even if they have it does not make them an “expert.”

Of course, I already knew all of this. I am EXTREMELY careful about who I become friends with online, whether it be a chat group or even social media. In the case of a chat groups like this one, I always look at the persons profile before I connect with them; if I notice anything out-of-the or4dinary on it, I do not try and connect with them, or become friends what them. If someone friend-requests me on social media that I do not know (Or I do not recall the name), I look and see if we have any “mutual friends”. If so, then I ask that friend if they know “so-and-so,” because they just friend requested me.

~ Mudd QT

My only real “punishment” for this incident was having to cancel my order of four thermometers and Vaseline from amazon (the chocolate-tempering thermometer was shipping from the seller, so it has been getting ready to ship and therefore I could not cancel that one.); that, and the lecture.

She also said that she was worried about my judgment and that I should see someone and talk about it in front of a “real” expert. I think she has forgotten about that part, though, and I do NOT want to remind her. Needless to say, now, I have to post and get on while I am in my room, and at a time when I am positive that she will not come barging in on me (the two best times would probably be while she is tutoring, and the middle of the night) In my opinion, I think that this group is like alcoholics anonymous. There is a reason that the word “ANONYMUS” is in the name. For me, this particular thread of posts and topics is like “medical fetish anonymous.” Only unlike AA where they get together to try and encourage each other to kick the habit, it allows it’s users to relate to others anonymously, if they so choose, who have the same obsession I just don’t think that my mom gets that, and the fact that I have just now gotten to the point where I have become curious as to what is “’down there,” and that if an RT worked when I was a baby why shouldn’t it work now?

Has anyone else ever been “caught” doing something that you didn’t want anyone else to know about? How did you handle it? If you were punished, how so? What did you do, if anything, to make sure it didn’t happen again?

Wow, first of all, to bad you got 'busted'... but a lesson for the future i guess... BE MORE CAREFULL!!! Always.

i got 'caught' with plenty of things in my days of 'living home', like watching or ordering porn and stuff.

Also one time my mom could still 'smell' the odeur of 'desinfection alcohol' i used to clean a thermometer with.

a good thing i was going to nurse school at that time, i'm prety goog with finding excuses ;-)

What you need to do (i guess, i don't know your full family situation) is to plan ahead!

Make sure when you 'practice' your fetisch you have the time and the place to enjoy it.

Do it when your alone at home, or in a place your parents can't come in

For example, when you want to take your temperature, take a thermometer to the bathroom... no one will enter when your on the toilet right? Or like you said, when your home alone or there off to bed..

things like that... and find a good hiding place for your 'fetish stuff' as well!

But a real shame you had to cansel your thermometer orders... i was hoping to read about your 'expereance' with them.

If i can help in any way or you heve some questions, feel free to contact me and take care!

K.

It might be time to look into getting your own place. Possibly in another state.

Wow that is really bad I feel really bad for you

I guess I'm maybe taking a different position on this. I have to admit that when I read a post like this the first thing that perks up is my badar, it's like gaydar but badar stands for babies. Maybe it's the moderator in me. While as a parent with an adult child still living at home she abides by my rules which are, 1) "My house, My rules" 2)Don't like it I don't care, see rule number 1" With that being said I always allowed my kids a certain amount of freedom to grow and discover who they are, and as long as they had good judgement and were mature about it I encouraged it.

My advice to you are the following things........If you are under 18 you need to leave ASAP that's first and foremost! Next if you are buying your items with your allowance then your parents have some right to tell you how and on what you can spend their money. If you have a job and it's YOUR money that YOU earned then it's your LEGAL right to spend your money on anything your little heart desires, as long as it's not illegal. Next you need to sit down with your parents and explain to them that you are an adult and that what you are doing is not a "disease" or a "condition" nor is it a "bad habit". Tell them it's no different than a foot fetish or doggie style to a Catholic. And speaking of God, please do not ever compare us or this site to anything even remotely associated with AA NA or any of the other 12 step hells. That has to be one of the biggest insults to most of us we can ever hear or read. It's extremely offensive.

Next thing is if you are an adult your parents need to give you some respect, the same they ask of you. Again, while it's their house, they expect you to knock on their closed door, they should be doing the same, especially if you are an adult. Your parents may never get it and that's okay, they don't have to because as an adult you have the right to do with your own body as you want.

You know I could go on and on and on. You are just "discovering" whats "down there"? Seriously? Every single thing about your post reeks of a baby, for which I have an absolute 0 hear that loud and clear, 0 tolerance policy, as well everyone else should too. We read stories like this all the time, of people "remembering" an event that happened to them when they were kids, or back in the day, but your post is in the now, is current.

Doesn't anyone else feel this same way? Or am I going to be the only one with big enough balls to put it out there?

Mashie

P.S. I WILL BE WATCHING!

In her profile, MuddQT says she is 23 years old.

Mashie –

First of all, let me apologize for comparing this site to AA. I guess I should have compared it to something like a Facebook group.

My situation is complicated. The reason I still live at home with my parents is because I am disabled, and get SSI benefits, including Medicaid, which I will lose if I have more than $2,000 in assets. I do have a paid part-time job, as well.

We just decreased my steroids about three months ago, right around the time I discovered my fetish. That is why I hesitate to talk to my parents about it – I think that they will think that it is a side effect of the steroid reduction.

As far as “discovering what is down there,” I meant discovering that there is another place to take my temperature.

I truly did just become interested in rectal temps. I, unlike most on the site, have no memory of having one taken.

Also, I was not caught taking my temperature; I was in the family room skyping with one of the docs when my mom came home from church and caught me by surprise.

All of what I said is true, both in this reply and my original post (except comparing this site to AA in my original post; I rendered that part in this reply). Also, my profile is correct; I am 23.

I hope this clears up some of what I posted.

Mudd I'm sorry doubted you. I am humbled. Please forgive my pathetic attempts at humor. Good for you!

A little over 40 years ago ... when i was 16 ... i was 23 ... ... when i was 17 ... i was 23 ... when i was 18 ... i was 23 ... ... ... :-\\ ... just sayin'

Mashie I'm entirely with Jimmie in this one. If you're calling AA or NA hells you don't know diddly about them. You should know better. They are the most effective method known for helping people to overcome addictions.

To the NA, AA folks and believers. My own personal views of these programs are just that, my own. I can't go into details as to why I have such a hatred toward these 12 step programs/hells at this time, eventually I can and will share it and you will then understand why I feel the way I do. If these programs work for you than fantastic do what you have to do to get over your issues.

But with this being said, while I did refer to them as 12 step hells don't let that diminish the way to my point that I was in fact trying to make. That point being that comparing having a medical fetish to a drug addiction or insinuating that maybe we need to go to a 12 step program to get help because we have a medical fetish is highly offensive to me. And should be to everyone else too.

Look, I didn't mean to offend anyone and I am sorry if I did. Like I said, my issues with these programs are my issues. As a professional I have sent my patients to these programs on more than a few occasions. But personally speaking I absolutely despise them.

Mashie

For What it is worth, I agree with Mashie 100%. Well all except the AA and NA thing, and that's only because I have no experience with them therefore I am not qualified to offer an opinion. I also have a "Set" and am NOT afraid to speak up! Yes, if you are under 18 then GET OUT and don't let the door hit you in the ARSE. If you are of legal age then tell mom and pop to mind their own business. I moved home when I was 37 because of A. Divorce, and B, Because of the Divorce I decided to go back to college and the only way I could do that was to move in with MOM and POP. I abided by the house rules, BUT! I had my own room, did my own laundry, paid my own bills and a private line. It was a place for the 4 S's, Shower, shave, sleep and S**t. I was told by dad that under no circumstances was there ever to be any "overnight guests" ok, their house so not a problem. Easily solved. "UH! I won't be home tonight!" Staying at a friends house." You folks get the idea. My folks always respected my privacy. God bless them because I wouldn't have gotten through college and wouldn't be where I am today without them! Lesson is, Respect each other's privacy! If you are indeed 20 yrs old then Mamma needs to untie that apron string!

I never understood the reason for adult children or teenage children not being permitted to have sex in their parents' house when they have been doing it elsewhere.

I was always quiet about having sex at my parents' house when I was in college during summer and holiday breaks, but I had sex at home and my parents knew it. My husband and I actually encourage our daughters to have sex at our house [and they do] because it is a safe place.

Your mom's right about the whole internet safety thing and whether you "know it" or not she's not only saying those things to you to protect you but more importantly to protect HER and the family. When you open yourself up to "like" minded people here on the internet you're not just letting them into your world but you're also letting them know your personal info. Where you live, who your parents are... that alone can carry extremely devastating consequences if you open up too soon and the person ends up being a desperate free loading extortionist. Don't laugh, it HAS happened to people in the past. The old "you better pay me every month or people will know how kinky and fucked up you are" card has been played I'm sure by a few people here and other sites. We all seem normal here but it's all writing and words. Don't think for one second that there aren't any predators reading this stuff.

As for the "you need help" part of what she said..... That I don't necessarily agree with. She's Vanilla (or is she? 😉, you're not. She needs to understand that.

Well I think your mom was doing what she thought was best for you.

Once I was on some online site, chatting with a guy whom I never met in real life, my sister found out by looking into history. I didn't get punished but a lecture , in which she said he could be a rapist for all you know so chatting is fine but don't provide him with any personal information and I still have her words in my mind.

Stay safe!

Bloom.

I am physically disabled, and lived with my parents full time until a year ago. Still, I go to visit them every other weekend or so.

I have been having trouble talking to my parents about my Rectal Temperature fetish. They just don't understand, and the last time I tried to talk with my mom about it, I got a lecture.

Any advice on how I can get my parents to understand my fetish?

This may be difficult for you, but don't mention it again. Think about it, what else can you say? Bringing it up again may jeopardize your relationship with them. Okay?

I think your mom made it quite clear to you

Do not pursue it again, there might be consequences you will not like!

One would be they won't see you again!

Is that worth them knowing?

Ruth and I can't be both wrong

Why in the world would you ever bring up a fetish with your parents? Do they discuss and explain their kinks to you?

Frankly it is simply none of their business, however well meaning they may be about things. It is better you enjoy things on your own and not ever talk to them about it at all, never ever again. Why make them and yourself unhappy and set things up for a confrontation?

Just go about your business and enjoy it. Mum's the word ...

My mother is a strong Catholic. Need I say more?

Hahahahahahaha

What should religion has to do with religion? plus......why do the parents need to know about the fetish at all?

A. Gracier said: "Why in the world would you ever bring up a fetish with your parents? Do they discuss and explain their kinks to you? "

If you were asking this of our adult children, they would answer "yes". :-)

I started doing enemas when I was 13 using my mother's enema kit. I never found the bag wet from prior use meaning my parents rarely used it. So for all practical purposes it was my enema kit and my secret. I still to this day have never had any type of conversation with either of my parents regarding my sexuality (mother 89; father deceased).

So discussing fetishes with parents- never happened or ever will happen.

Thanks for the input on this topic. I will keep this my little secret.

I am so thankful to have found this site, and others (ladies in particular) that have the same fetish that I do!!!

The only time you would have to explain it to them if they caught you with your pants down and a thermometer sticking out of your tush. Otherwise, Enjoy it.

I agree. You are at an age where you need to break free and reduce your dependence on your parents. No doubt having a disability makes this more difficult, but not impossible. If you are to share your fetish with anyone (apart from us here on Zity) it should be with a close friend, not a parent.

Good luck and keep us posted!

I agree with everyone here. . .Just enjoy what you like to do, stick around here, as we all understand, and sadly, your parents won't understand. I had the same thing with my parents, and was so glad I could be on my own, and do what I liked to do, and they loved me, 'til they died, and I the same. I think my mother, especially knew some of it, but she had no reason to discuss it, and neither did I. 😃 Mike.

Best advice don't share your kinks outside of a kink community I personally have seen nothing good come from it . I have a friend whose family disowned him for saying he was involved in BDSM. Somethings are better left unsaid . Family and friends don't need to know everything.

MuddQT, it seems that your parents are very important to you, and it's totally normal that you'd probably want them to understand and accept you completely, including your desires. But as many others here have said, the likelihood that they will suddenly develop a tolerant and more liberal attidude is rather small, unfortunately. You described their reaction to finding out you had a pofile here on zity, so they probably won't change their attitude.

Your moving out from home seems a good step in the right direction. You will find new friends, and it's more likely to find people with whom you can share kinks amongst friends than with parents. You can still be very close to your parents, even when there are some topics you'd better avoid with them.

All the best to you!

DO NOT discuss your fetishes with your parents.

It serves no purpose. What do you want, their blessings for you to play with your asshole???

Keep your fetishes between yourself and your sex partner.