How important is pain to an erotic spanking?

@vato said

I think a good spanking involves some crying..... just my opinion

. . . .and a few black and blue marks.

I enjoy the soreness left by the spanking to remind me how painfully good it was. It releases my stress and I do cry but I feel better afterwards. I agree with Bridgette, your partner should know by watching you carefully when to push your limits slow down or stop

Bruises and marks that do not fade away in a minute are not what I want.

A little sting is nice. A nice rosy red bottom that he strokes between swats. Sometimes I need to be put in my place and be reminded that my husband is in charge. Sometimes when my world is spinning and I feel out of control, being spanked helps me to be more centered. A spanking helps me calm down because I know that my husband will take care of me in all the ways that I need to be taken care of, even during all of the uncertainty swirling around in the world. It is the caring for me by my husband and my submission to him that is the turn on for me, not being in pain. I want enough sting to get my attention, but not more than that!

I was watching today some videos from Michael Masterson (realspankings)

Well I have to say that watching Jessica and Brandi in tears because of the pain was really wonderful.

Of course it has to be together with a story and a good environment...

Giving or receiving I hate spankings that are barely more than gentle slaps on the butt. It’s got to sting a bit. I’m not into bruising or bleeding, not my thing, too violent. But glowing pink cheeks and a little pleading to stop is about right.

I received my last spanking at 15 years old,a very long but not real hard spanking,it seems to me that a proper spanking causes vibrations in the rectum to excite the prostate gland,causing an erection in males and possibly an orgasm if continued beyond certain limits by the spanker or he may receive an unwanted load of sperm on his trousers from the spankee depending on the level of pain or excitement!

In my experience, for both giving and receiving moderate spankings are the best for setting an erotic mood. Harder, punishment spankings - intended to impart a clear message of consequences for misbehavior are, for me, less conducive to stimulation.

For me, a good sting is important. If it less than a sting, it is really not effective.

For some submissives a little bleeding is imperative.

Pain? Oh there is "the" question!

Love it, hate it; Love it more when receiving. To me the entire session is tremendously erotic!

First the anouncement that my behavior was unacceptable, then being taken by the ear and being undressed, pants down, shoes and socks off, over her beautiful lap, the sensation of her hand slipping inside my shorts and the feeling of exposure to the whole world.. The sensual touch, just to let me know how much the spanking is going to hurt. Oh yes, spankings "I" receive are meant to be painfully applied with all the begging and pleading: Pleeze I'm so, so sorry, I'll be good, pleeeze. Even as the smacks are raining down and I hate them, love them, in between hating them. The total humiliation being put across her lap, my bare ass and humiliation seen in my imagination, by all. Yes I love the hand as hard as can be, the strap not as hard as can be, yet more than I would give myself.

Yes, by now you've guessed I am a spankee; not to say that I don't like giving a woman a good satisfying spanking. Less than deserved, more than wanted.

Does that make sense.

PLease advise.

OTKguy

And yes in case you are wondering I pay her for them!

OTKguy

For me, a good sting is important. If it less than a sting, it is really not effective.

@medfedcouple Oh really? 😮

For some submissives a little bleeding is imperative.

@SwitchableSusie I could never do that to a woman!

@SwitchableSusie I could never do that to a woman!

Arterial or venous bleeding isn't necessary. Just a couple of drops from a capillary bed is enough. It shows who's boss.

I enjoy spanking My woman. Sometimes it is with the hand, sometimes with the cane. I enjoy giving pain. She enjoy receiving the pain. Just enough that it will hurt and lead to something much nicer

When I get spanked for adult pleasure I want it to be as painful as the spankings I had growing up.