Children finding your toys

As a teenager I found my parents vibrators and several nude pics of my mom nude and showing her pussy. At first I was shocked. Then I masturbated to the pics using their vibrators.

Oh my. I never realized this but reading your post suddenly made me realize that I used to take many nude photos of my wife. Neither made any big deal of it, friends saw them at times, mainly as part of vacation photos or outings or what not. And I know our kids saw them. I never hid photos I took. Many nude photos of my wife were in photo albums I had laying around the house.

We weren't a naked at home family though, first off because it is too damn cold here (even with central heating) and also because the kids were foster children and you never know what social services might think.

But I never considered them thinking anything special of my wife's nude photos until now. I'll have to ponder this a while now ... 😃

My parents had a small filing cabinet in their bedroom, but unfortunately it was always double locked. I never asked what was in it, by my super nosey brother did, and my mom just grinned and said, "none of your business."

I keep my stuff in a locking box now. One day my daughter took my parents on a tour of the house. This tour included my underwear. Fortunately not the toys, though she had opened that drawer before.

I haven't had any enema equipment questions from her yet, oddly enough, as that is hanging out in the bathroom.

If your children find your toys/kinky equipment you're not doing a real good job hidding your stash.

DrJ said

If your children find your toys/kinky equipment you're not doing a real good job hidding your stash.

You don't have children. Kids can find anything and what they can't actually see, they can correctly deduce. Once they correctly deduce something, denying it only makes you a liar and we were always truthful with our children about sex, why should we lie?

When it comes to hiding our stuff, we have an entire LOCKED ROOM for our toys and equipment that our daughters NEVER saw open. You know what? They accused us of keeping "kinky stuff" in there when they were 11 and 14 years old respectively. That prompted a few lengthy family discussions. When the older was 15, she saw a lot of our equipment when she came home a day early from an overnight party and saw us using it in an S&M scene. That prompted another family discussion and under a bit of duress from the then 12 year old and her 15 year old sister, we unlocked the door and let them see it all.

The 12 year old was fascinated and very carefully examined everything like a scientist. The 15 year old was definitely turned on and interested. She had this gleam in her eye and wanted to try on my leather and latex scene clothes that might have come close to fitting her at the time but I didn't let her do that. I did buy her things when she was a couple of years older.

By the way, we still keep the room locked even though they know what's in there. We don't need the housekeeper or other service people rummaging though our stuff.

No kids. I do tend to leave stuff out tho'. Plenty of people have come into my house and found lube, toys, BDSM gear, lying around. I have a Shower-Shot permanently hooked up in my bathroom, and a GIANT butt plug for a door stop in my office.

My toys are like my cat- If you don't like 'em, you can leave- the cat stays.

@Curlyt66

That video you posted is hilarious and even serves a good purpose! I really like it:-)

You don't have children. Kids can find anything and what they can't actually see, they can correctly deduce. Once they correctly deduce something, denying it only makes you a liar and we were always truthful with our children about sex, why should we lie?

You're right I dont have children but I do have nieces which are like my children. And yes I know children can get curious and do a search. Not saying go on a naugthy toy or medfed equimpent hnt but in general, I'm saying they can find it no metter what. you just have to move them to a whole different place just to have it found again.

And I get it you and your hubby are pretty open nothing wrong with that. In fact I like that striaight forward parenting. I Was a sheltered child wished my parents werent so uptight when I was little and a bit more open, if I was a kid that found anything like that I would just leave it alone as I would have no idea what they were except for the enema bags.

Most important of all if your kids find something sit with them and explain to them in an age apropriate way what it is. You cant have a conversation with 5yo and expect him/her to understand like a teen would.

DrJ said

You cant have a conversation with 5yo and expect him/her to understand like a teen would.

Oh yes you can. Kids often ask "where did I come from?"

Our daughters knew EXACTLY how to make a baby and how a fetus develops when they were about three and a half years old. (There are actually explicit children's books on the topic.) They wouldn't stop asking questions until it was crystal clear. This happened to our older daughter one night at bedtime. She refused to go to bed and the amount of crying was unimaginable until she got an answer that was acceptable to her--that meant the truthful real answer. One other time I was putting her to bed when she was about five and I heard a clicking noise and saw her hand moving under the blanket. I thought she was playing with a toy under the blanket and I asked, "what's that noise?" and she replied, "I'm enjoying my wetness." So there you are. Kids know what feels good and how to do it if their minds aren't poisoned by parents, teachers and religious people.

So, obviously you can explain these things to very young children.

The truth is always easy to explain and easy to understand.

The truth is always easy to explain and easy to understand.

And moreover it will set you free ... 😃

@SwitchableSusie , yes I know, you should remeber I have a cerification on child development. I know kids are curious and will explore thier own and thier peers bodies all innocent. What I ment was you cant give too much explicit info to a very young child you have to give it to them in a way they'll understand or just cut them loose on facebook and youtube?

@SwitchableSusie , yes I know, you should remeber I have a cerification on child development.

OMG we are doomed!

I know kids are curious and will explore thier own and thier peers bodies all innocent. What I ment was you cant give too much explicit info to a very young child you have to give it to them in a way they'll understand or just cut them loose on facebook and youtube?

You can give VERY explicit truthful information to almost any child any age who has a vocabulary and you define your terms to them.

There ISN'T anything complicated about sex or how the body works.

What do you think a child won't understand about putting an erect penis into a vagina that gets wet and slippery when it is excited or that it feels really good and later a baby will grow?

OMG we are doomed!

You think youre funny but your not

Children need to be told the truth about sex as soon as they are inquisitive enough to ask. However, sex toys do not really come into that category and hence dont have to be explained.

Children need to be told the truth about sex as soon as they are inquisitive enough to ask. However, sex toys do not really come into that category and hence dont have to be explained.

I guess sex toys do have to be explained if youngsters chance upon them. If you fob kids off with a cock and bull story they will invariably know they are being given the run-around. Usually it's the older people's nervousness and unease that gives it all away.

There ISN'T anything complicated about sex or how the body works.

Of course there isn't. It is all pretty straightforward and almost logical, how the parts are made to fit together. What is difficult for many/most grown-ups is finding and using the right terminology and words to describe everything. You have to know which type of words fit best in any given situation. Words that are used during sexual excitation are not always proper or useful when giving (medical/scientific) explanations. Nor are childish/baby words always proper either. Neutral, medical terminology is often best, but not everyone has sufficient knowledge to know them or how to use them. That is of course mainly an educational fault. It might not be a bad idea to have pupils themselves give talks about what they have learned in sex-ed classes (provided they are not abstinence-only or gay-shaming) so they get used to the words and terminology.

The same applies to business schools. No one instinctively knows all the insider terms. You have to learn them, be taught what is proper and correct in which particular situation.

@SwitchableSusie I just love your subtle replies ....

SwitchableSusie said

Our daughters knew EXACTLY how to make a baby and how a fetus develops when they were about three and a half years old. (There are actually explicit children's books on the topic.) They wouldn't stop asking questions until it was crystal clear.

The older daughter (The Adventurer) was three years old when her sister was born. She was fascinated by how my abdomen grew larger and larger as my pregnancy progressed. By the time her sister was six months old, she wanted ALL the info on where she and her sister came from--and she got the full physiological/medical description. She was very pleased to have this information which about three years later, she started explaining to her younger sister (The Mouth) which precipitated our telling her the same information to make sure her six year old sister didn't make any errors in her description and to fill in additional facts. That's how our girls learned everything involved in making a baby at a young age. They understood everything perfectly.

Daughter has walked in on me nude a couple of times, so we've had a few discussions but she hasn't had the full tale yet. I decided early on that I would be calm and honest, and it seems to be working.

We always walked around the house naked until the girls started puberty, by which time their friends, teachers and friend's parents had poisoned their minds about nakedness in the family which ended up with their father wearing underwear instead of being naked around the house. My being naked didn't bother them. We would even go to the bathroom without closing or locking the door so they knew right from the start that mom and dad were built differently. We didn't play games with what the body parts were called either (all Terminologica Anatomica or close to it), or with the excretions (urine and BM) that came out of them. The girls on the other hand always were never shy about themselves and always wore the tiniest of bikinis and lately have gone swimming topless at home in front of us. So it's good to see they have regained their original nonchalance with their bodies.

I found my parents porn magazine collection when I was under 10. They made for some enjoyable masturbation at that young age.

Our kids have seen and looked through a couple of drawer of toys. They both know they can ask about anything snd get an honest answer. Though with the internet there are many answers at the stroke of a key.

The girls on the other hand always were never shy about themselves and always wore the tiniest of bikinis and lately have gone swimming topless at home in front of us. So it's good to see they have regained their original nonchalance with their bodies.

Best way to be, well not totally nonchalant but confident and without false modesty. Some of the bikinis my two wear seems little more than expensive dental floss

When I told my daughter that she needed to wipe her vulva after urinating my wife gave me a funny look and said "she doesn't know what that is". I still use it because she can learn and it is clear and specific.

I don't intentionally parade around her naked and give her her privacy, but I don't panic when she walks in on me and I calmly answer any questions.

When I told my daughter that she needed to wipe her vulva after urinating my wife gave me a funny look and said "she doesn't know what that is"s. . . . .

How old is your daughter? Depending on the words you and your wife have used she may not know what a vulva is. Just use the proper terms and she will learn. Glad you're NOT using "peepee."

How old is your daughter? Depending on the words you and your wife have used she may not know what a vulva is. Just use the proper terms and she will learn. Glad you're NOT using "peepee."

3. Yes, she'll learn, and I clarify when necessary. Also not using "vagina" except for the real vagina! (Shudder... Hate that word mix up. Vulva is nice and accurate. When used about my wife I even think it sounds sexy, kind of round and flowing and feminine)

Re the books, yes, I had a very explicit book when I was young that included intrauterine pictures of the baby and a lineup of males and females at different ages. Explicit and clear but not pornographic. Still have it and may use with my kids.

I guess my parents never found that book. Got a chuckle out of "peepee" Switchable. I had a "pee tail" and penis almost seemed like a dirty word.

Going back to the original topic of children finding your toys - my oldest daughter found my vibrator. I had it in a bedroom dresser drawer under some sweaters. I don't know if she planned to wear one of my sweaters and accidently found it or was looking for it. She did not say anything about it but I could tell someone disturbed it when I went to use it myself. Within a year I found that she had one in her room when I was cleaning it. By then she had her license and I could just see her and her friend buying one, giggling uncontrollably all the time.

I also knew she used my enema bag a few times as a teenager too. It was not hidden but just under the sink in my bathroom. She knew how it worked because I had given her a couple of small ones over the years. One night when she was nine or ten, my husband was gone and the kids were supposed to be in bed sleeping so I decided to give myself an enema. I am on my bed, on my back, with the nozzle in my butt when I became aware of the bedroom door opening part way. There was enough light to see what was going on so I told her I had a stomach ache and was giving myself an enema, and what did she want. She said she had a sore throat and wanted some cough medicine or something I do not remember. I told her to wait in her room and I would be there in a few minutes. If she saw "my fingers doing the walking" she did not say anything. From the angle to the door, she probably did not see that.

I found that she had one in her room when I was cleaning it. By then she had her license and I could just see her and her friend buying one, giggling uncontrollably all the time.

Where do you live? I was not aware of any places that required licenses for vibrators... 😉

Where do you live? I was not aware of any places that required licenses for vibrators... 😉

Probably driver license--able to travel to buy a vibrator

Yeah... I guess kids don't walk or ride bikes any more... 😃

Funny story: our youngest found a button plug and chased our oldest saying "pew pew" We instantly recovered the "space gun" & have been better about putting our toys away. (They were around 10ish. )