Double standard? Anal sex and enemas

Obviously, a lot more people have sex than are willing to take an enema. I realize that enemas have been assimilated into the anal taboo over the years, but it seems like a lot of people are into anal sex and yet many of those people are still not into enemas and won't even try one. How can so many people who have sex, especially anal sex, still refuse to consider enemas? For a while, I had always assumed that it was understood that an enema is simply part of the routine to prepare for anal sex, much like shaving or waxing, just to make it smooth and clean. I don't see how so many people who have no problem with being penetrated either vaginally or anally by either a penis or dildo are apparently still squeamish about letting water into their butt via a nice smooth nozzle that can just be held in place. Is there some double standard that makes people avoid enemas as if enemas are a bigger deal than sex?

There definitely is a double standard with enemas and anal sex! And even if someone does take enemas to prepare for anal sex it is likely they don't want to discuss it. Enemas are still considered taboo and it seems doctors today try to suggest different laxatives before suggesting enema treatments for digestive problems. I assume a lot of people are able to have a healthy BM and the rectum is mostly empty and they just clean out real good in the shower with only their fingers and soap before having anal sex. I prefer to clean out my lower colon completely before anal sex to ensure waste isn't transferred from the sigmoid colon to the rectum during sexual activity. To do this I will take 3 to 5 enemas the day before and let my body absorb any water remaining in the colon and the next day a simple soapy douche to the rectum is all I need to be really clean.

I realize a double standard indeed. There are quite a few people who enjoy anal sex and consider it normal. Who even would have anal sex without a good cleansing in advance. At the same time, these people think of enemas for other than medical reasons as something gross. Klismaphilia they consider a perversion or disorder.

I find it hard to understand this.

How can so many people who have sex, especially anal sex, still refuse to consider enemas? ... Is there some double standard that makes people avoid enemas as if enemas are a bigger deal than sex? ...

I think that enemas are more intimate than sex. No one seems to bat an eye anymore when they talk about sex with another person and anal sex is even talked about more openly .. people seem to be more open to discussing sex and what kind of sex they want with each other. But you really have to be very comfortable and open with your partner to even talk about enemas .. enemas are still taboo to many people .. and outside of social acceptance .. so you have to be a lot more careful when talking about enemas. It's more socially acceptable to say you like anal sex and they may say .. 'I'll try that' or 'I've tried that' .. etc. and they will at least consider it or not faint. Tell someone you like enemas and suddenly they don't know what to say.

This is NOT a question of a double standard.

Enemas and anal sex are two different things.

Some may like one but not the other.

From personal experience I know that while some partners get off on anal sex, none of them considered enemas to be in any way arousing. Essentially the difference between a sexual preference and a sexual fetish.

Early on, I thought it odd that my girlfriends climaxed from anal but were turned off by the idea of enema play. We rarely analize our sexual turn ons. You go by your own experienes and project them onto others. Seems logical that if an enema turns us on along with other forms of anal stimulation, that it also works in the opposite direction. If anal sex turns you on, then so will an enema. It is a false corollary.

I think, because enemas have been bad mouthed by just about every professional over many years, there is a definite negative response to enemas. A lot of people say they are messy [they are not\, others take the word of their doctor who says they are harmful. [they are notas we know]. Getting naked, somewhat for a simple thing as being constipated, when they can go into the bathroom cabinet for a pill, discourage some.The last thing is that there is no foreplay or rise in libido, like anal sex is. Its immediate, getting naked, having a nozzle up your butt and voiding----not exactly an ordinary sequence..

I think the issue is "outcome." Poop rarely involved with anal sex. Almost always with enemas. This triggers endless cultural and personal issues -- from "The Poop Report" website down to rants about "filth." A major part of every life -- but usually taboo.

Being a klismo, and having both a vagina and an anus, I enjoy all of those types of penetrations. I have always been very anal, and I am perfectly happy to share anal sex following an enema. But for me, the most enjoyable of those combinations is to have the enema still deep inside me, retained with a tampon or plug in my rectum, and to have my hubby deep in my vagina while I'm in his arms. Mmmmmmmmm..

I will never understand why most people don't seem to realize that an enema doesn't create the smelly brown stuff, it just washes it away. Why is it so hard to understand for all those vanilla folks that the poop they find so revolting is already inside them?

Hugs,

Diane

Having never participated in anal sex, I can only suggest that if I were to try it, It would be a good idea for the party receiving it to be clean and ready. A simple enema would make lots of sense. Sharing the enema experience might even be enjoyable for both people.

An enema is a good idea before anal play. Taking one together as foreplay is also fun. It's unfortunate that people who don't really know much. Give them a bum rap. {Pun intended}

I can only imagine that some of the double standard is actually based upon ignorance. For instance, how many younger people today have actually seen real enema equipment or have had a traditional enema (non-Fleet chemical)? If you don't know what one is and how good it can feel to be clean in that way, I can understand the aversion to it.

My other theory based on the circle of American friends I have is that having BMs in front of significant others (dates) seems taboo, particularly for women. Getting an enema and expelling in your b-friend or g-friend's toilet is somewhat distasteful to many. Perhaps if people were actually aware of how real enemas work and feel they would use them before meeting up with their significant others to have sex. That way there would be no mess in their toilet or any embarrassing cleanup necessary.

For couples that live together I have a harder time understanding why taking an enema in your mutual bathroom before having anal sex would be distasteful. To me it's a hygiene consideration. Some people have sex no matter how dirty their bodies are. Others enjoy showering before climbing under the covers!

Yeah, maybe its because I find anything close to scat disgusting but I wont even consider any anal sex or play of any kind without doing enemas beforehand, but what others do is none of my business.I would imagine that most of society only connects enemas with poop, Oh how sad that they are missing out on such a wonderful experience, in my opinion anyway, but I dont get to tell anyone what to do, I only know how incredible enemas feel, going in and cumming out...mmmmmmmm and how they enhance an orgasm is simply mind blowing to me, I am absolutely delighted that my husband now realizes the same thing, our sex life has improved leaps and bounds, I am sure you all know exactly what I am talking about !!

The simple explanation is fear of SHIT! when you receive a dick or dildo anally, there is a chance you may see some shit. When you do an enema you KNOW you'll see some shit, and it will be foul so most people just opt to stay away from the whole ordeal.... What these people don;t get is that once they've cleaned their ass out with an enema or douche, they can treat their ass like a true fuck hole and go for it with no total confidence and abandon.

An enema is nice but not necessary for anal sex. And to me, they are different feelings. Enemas are much more involved and time consuming. When my bag comes out it's at least a 1 hour event. Usually longer. Taking my time enjoying the experience. Often times leading up to a very strong orgasm at the end of a few enemas.

Whereas anal sex can follow this but often times anal is just that. Penetrating the anus for sexual fun. So to me they aren't connected so strongly. But my enema fascination started with my love of anal. My 2 cents anyway.

I understand that anal sex and enemas are two different experiences, and therefore anyone who is turned on by one of these experiences may not necessarily be turned on by the other. I was just wondering how so many people, who seem to have no problem participating in anal sex of some sort, are still opposed to enemas just on basic principle and would never even try an enema. A lot of replies on this thread have offered some great explanations- thanks to everyone who has shared such thoughtful considerations of the point of view I had been trying to understand.

I've never had anal sex (would love to try) but do have anal toys and really, really prefer to have a clean ass if at all possible. So, an enema first. I find both erotic and enjoy each one. Of course, the enema is always good foreplay for the toy and subsequent masturbation.

I agree that enemas are not necessary for *penis in ass* sex but an 8 ounce bulb DEFINITELY IS.... If you've never done anal sex and you're considering it, GET ONE and flush yourself out a few times so that when you "bear down" like the pros tell you to, you won't end up having a mess.

For deeper and wider anal penetration, YES, LEARN HOW ENEMAS WORK AND GET COMFY WITH THE IDEA!!!

If you're into shitting yourself and making a smelly, gross mess then that's another story.

Yup, I agree that either an enema or a small bulb or Fleet type enema is mandatory for anal sex. I'd never have anal sex with someone who hasn't "douched", as I've heard some gay male friends call it. To me, having anal sex with someone who hasn't "douched" would be like kissing someone deeply when they haven't brushed their teeth in a few days. I'd find it repellent.

Hmmmmm.... I always THOUGHT enemas optional before strap on play, but always did them because for ME they are FUN... until the other day when I tried a SHORT CUT while using a dildo enema nozzle on my MACHINE. Thinking I could use the dildo nozzle moving IN & OUT as the cleaning enema was a MISTAKE. The result was UNPLEASANT! As switchablesusie so aptly said, " Be thoroughly cleaned out beforehand and use a lot of lube. A shitty-gritty butt-fuck will leave you sore for a couple of days." Maybe not a couple days, butt at least ONE. Be warned!

Some years ago I was on daily maintenance medicine that had me sooooo regular you could set your clock to my bowel movements. Now even then I wouldn't consider anal sex without a proper enema first. Besides as several have mentioned enema's can be oodles of fun!

Tho incidentally there were times I got home from work randy as an old alley cat and while showering first would come to find I was still *clean as a whistle* so I'd just quick dry and jump into bed for an *afternoon delight!*

I plan to waste no time with my next girlfriend and tell her in the beginning I have a strong kinky side and enema's are a big part of that. TBT if I had the remodel of my dreams my new bathroom would be akin to a Japanese bath house. Room enough for 15 or 20 people showering giving enema's fucking the whole 9 yards. The room next to it would be my dungeon.

Not sure why as well... I enjoy both. Maybe if they think about doing a enema alone then share the second one it maybe better for them .

The distinction between sex and enemas was significant for me and it took a long time before I was persuaded.

Anal sex had a taboo status for me.

I couldn’t grasp that sharing an enema could be firstly enjoyable in itself and then uniquely heightened when leading to anal sex.

So happy I finally made the decision.

mariee

I think the reason enemas are more taboo vs. anal sex is that they are associated with BMs, which most people do in private and really don't want other people around when they go to the bathroom. I think for enemas to be accepted among partners each person has to work through these issues and trust the person they are with to be accepting. It is a scary proposition to bring up the subject for the first time about enemas for sex play to a significant other fearing they will get a harsh rejection by that person.

It is possible to have anal sex and have it be relatively clean if the person on the receiving end has had a recent BM. Many of these people will have anal sex without feeling the need to clean themselves first with an enema.

So enemas and anal sex would seem to have different psychological strings attached and probably are considered by most to be more separate issues rather directly related.

The thought of taking an enema, in some people raises horrified reactions, whereas the thought of crawling inside a gorgeous rear end raises other reactions. Literally. I guess those people would prefer cleaning all he crap off themselves than doing something about it ahead of time. They just don't see the benefits.

I offered my 4 year old grand daughter a Werther's Caramel the other day and she wrinkled her nose at it and said she didn't like them.

I finally convinced her to taste one. I had to hide them after that for fear she would eat the whole bag.

I think enemas are much the same way.

Like everything else here this is very personal. So, personally, I can't imagine not cleaning out before sex.

I had not thought about it in that way, but the double standard has existed for as long as I can remember. Most of us "older folks" were introduced to enemas as a sort of health maintenance process for constipation or other general cleanliness. Even as a teenager learning that an enema had some sexual enhancement to masturbation there was no thought of enemas leading to anal sex. "Good girls" did not do anal.

Even as a young wife experimenting with different sexual positions and activities there was no requirement to have an enema before anal sex. As some others here have noted, there is no need for an enema if you have had a good bm some time before. Yes, I enjoyed enemas and I enjoyed sex (both ways) but the enema was still not part of sex play. It was way too personal and private, too messy and embarrassing to consider as sex play. It took years for me to connect the two.

Apparently for some others, the path was opposite. They started taking enemas as preparation for anal sex, and no other reason.

I know that when I was 9 I got an enema and it did not come out as planned. I hated it. I tried anal when I was bi and hated it then. It hurt. I never liked being touched there. After I split up with my ex and started dating only girls I met one who actually moved in with me. She loved anal with fingers, toys and tongues. She was always trying to put a finger in me there and I would always jump and say no. It is strange because I didn't mind doing it to her. Once after sex we started talking and decided that my problem was cleanliness. She told me that she always did enemas. The thought of that made me cringe. She asked if I would like to watch which I did. She would have major orgasms. Then after a few times I started helping her. I would insert then masturbate and lick her while the water was flowing. She really had amazing orgasms. After weeks I decided to try it. The first few times I only got like 1/4 of the bag in and no orgasm. As weeks went on I got more and more in me. Still with no orgasm even with her masturbating me, licking me and even using vibes. Then one day I was watching the bag go down and she was helping me. All of a sudden I had this amazing orgasm and the bag had emptied. She gave me a few more as she would do to herself and the water would finally come out clear. I eventually let her start putting things in me back there. Now I love to use fingers, toys and tongues back there and love it to happen to me. But I am still a clean freak. Nobody touches me back there unless I am clean.

Frankly, I love anal sex (giving) and receiving a well-delivered strapon. When pumping the derriere of a willing lady, I actually prefer that she NOT enema before...in fact, I love feeling her full rectum massaging my cock. The experience is best if she is very full of shit the consistency of soft serve ice cream. My very best anal partner spiced up her poop by eating nuts the day before, producing a gritty feel. I do not mind the mess, and the cleanup afterword. I realize this might seem disgusting to some, but I must say that most women who have been willing to try it have always wanted to take me while full from then on.