Afraid of losing your MEDFET?

Ive always had this love/hate relationship with it. Im not into medfet per se but nothing would make me happier than to wake up one day and be rid of it completely. It's just such a distraction sometimes.and really complicates things. I guess my problems is that its really really specific so finding a partner that suits me is very difficult but also because it makes me feel guilty.

An interesting thread as I've often wondered the same. I guess in recent years my fetish has grown and if it's a FETISH then by nature, it wouldn't diminish?

Conflicting thoughts, even in my own mind, but it's also somewhat comforting to know others have the same worries.

There's only one thing to do - live for today.

Dont think id loose my interest in medfet just my option to find people to play with

I've realised that fetishes are not always active, sometimes they are dormant. It really depends on your state of mind and where you are emotionally.

I've realised that fetishes are not always active, sometimes they are dormant. It really depends on your state of mind and where you are emotionally.

And let's not forget the level of your hormones which vary and fluctuate over time.

I think mine will diminish unless i get real play in at some point, otherwise unless something happens and i get more into it and someone actually treats me like a patient, nothing will come out of it im afraid

My interest in medfet has grown rather than diminished over the years. My spouse has no interest in sex or any kind of fetish so I have had to pursue my interest eslewhere. Now, I know it is not good "playing away" but fixing up a 90 minute examination with a like minded lady has been a brilliant solution for me - it has kept me sane, both parties have got enjoyment and no strings. The excitement of meeting a patient (or sometimes a doctor or nurse) for the first time and then performing the examination never disappoints. So no - I d not see my medfet diminishing.

I've masturbated while looking back on the physicals I've had since I was about 12! No loss of interest here!

Lately, yes, I worry about losing it. Some nights I really wonder if I'm a freak. I doubt my own sexuality. Being different from so called normal people's idea of normal brings embarrassment and shame. These feelings have to be balanced and weighed against the sheer joy that players with the same kinks can give each other.. a little secret other people just won't ever know.

I've met some fantastic friends through medical fetish. I've also experienced some almost life shattering betrayals, which makes me reluctant to ever reach out again.

My desires fluctuate. Sometimes I am ravenous and can't get enough. Other times I have no desire, sometimes not even for regular sex. Don't really know what causes that. I'm ADD so maybe it's just my nutty brain! lol

This is still an interesting thread that I keep coming back to...

I've started to lose my medfet because I can't actualize the fantasy, however I keep trying to renew my interest by checking back here for an erotic thread, as well as looking for realistic pics and/or video online, but to no avail...

I think medfet is something you have or you haven't I doubt you will lose those feelings even if at times they are at the back of your mind.

I've been aware of what I know to be a medical fetish from a very early age and it's still as strong today.

As for losing it due to the lack of realizing a fantasy, I was in my forties when I first had a taste of playing doctor and I was a member here over four years before I found a play patient, the lack of play partners didn't reduce the desire.

I would say I have a definite medical fetish, so as far as I'm concerned having a fetish means it's with me for life. Even though trying to participate in medical play has caused me a lot of stress as of late, I still have that desire. If I ever did lose an interest in medical play (which I highly doubt!), I don't think I'd be super bummed about it. When I was a kid, I loved to go cliff diving. Now I definitely don't. I am not sad that I've lost that hobby.

I definitely have a medical fetish, and it has only become stronger and more prevalent over the years. My interests and desires around medfet are my strongest fantasies, the ones that excite me the most and I most often turn to. I find myself thinking about my medical interests not just when I am aroused, but also randomly during the normal day. My medical fetish is very much part of me and who I am, I don't see ever losing that.

I am a butt injection fetish. It started when I was a child abot 8-10 years old with watching injections to others, mostly injections to my relatives given at home. I realized that injections turns me on. Even with the hear word of "injection" or seeing a nurse with a syringe I get excited. Getting butt injections is not my interest but no problem I can get. Some times I get self shots just to play with syringes and feel its excitement.

Always dreamed to watch and give injections. Even talking or thinking about it turns me on. Afters years of fantasying then I found a female partner and realized. I gave her several injections and also she injected me. I really enjoyed.

Now I wonder if i had an opportunity to watch or give injections regularly (everyday) did I loose this fetish or not. If our fetishes becomes routine events then we still keep them?

You never outgrow your fantasies!

You never outgrow your fantasies!

A lot of what i create now, posts, pics, vids, stems from fantasies i've had for 30-35 years.

As well as thoughts and fantasies i jack off to, stuff that stemmed from teen years

You never outgrow your fantasies!

That's not necessarily true.

You may outgrow your old fantasies and fetishes and/or might develop new ones.

If you lose a fetish or fantasy, SO WHAT!

If you lose it, that means it isn't important to you any longer.

I never heard anyone complain, "I'm so sad, I lost my love for cabernet sauvignon, now I like pinot noir (or don't like red wine any longer)."

For years someone may love enemas but after a time got tired of them and enjoyed bondage instead, or just didn't want any kink for some years.

YES, that happens. People change, preferences and likes/dislikes change.

If you lose a fetish or fantasy, SO WHAT!

If you lose it, that means it isn't important to you any longer.

The question had more to do with the anticipation of losing them. Yes, when people have lost their interest in a fetish it probably means it is no longer important to them, though this is something of a tautology, saying the same thing with different words. Besides, it's easily imaginable people can be scared out of liking or doing something. Imagine anticipating that.

But the idea that in some point in the future, you may no longer care, is a bit discouraging at the least I'd say. It may even end up working as a self-fulfilling prophecy and hastening the end of your enjoyment. And that's really like psychologically shooting yourself in the foot.

I never heard anyone complain, "I'm so sad, I lost my love for cabernet sauvignon, now I like pinot noir (or don't like red wine any longer)."

And a bit beyond the specificity of a fetish, losing interest in that for most people implies a lessening of the sex drive in some way or another. And frankly, contemplating losing your sex drive is quite a horrid idea. It is one of the most enjoyable things in life.

You can't always assume that the loss of one fetish will be compensated by assuming another fetish. After a certain age, you simply loose urges and desires definitely and get nothing in the place. Contemplate that and tell me that isn't sad.

I don't think I've ever really lost my medfet fantasies/desires. There have been long stretches of time where the only way I indulged in them was via my own daydreams and not online with others, but they never really went away. And they have evolved over time. I started out as strictly a patient who only did the most basic well woman exams. Now I like to fantasize/roleplay everything from dental to surgical to childbirth, and I play both doctor/dentist and patient.

There may come a time when I can no longer indulge in anything except in my own head, such as when I have children someday and am busy with them. But that is life and I will accept it if it happens.

I highly doubt I will ever lose my medfet or love for auscultation, stomachs, and other assorted vanilla exams anytime soon. Simply put, I adore my roleplaying capabilities and have no intentions of stopping in the foreseeable future. Given that medfet has been such an integral part of my life for nearly my entire life in some way, shape, or form, relinquishing my medfet would be like surrendering a shard of myself that keeps the rest of me intact as a uniform whole. In a way, my medfet is humanizing.

relinquishing my medfet would be like surrendering a shard of myself that keeps the rest of me intact as a uniform whole. In a way, my medfet is humanizing.

That was nicely said.

You are indeed correct in saying that our secret fantasies are what keeps us whole. Because you could also say that what we do in everyday life is perhaps more play-acting than our fantasies are. We have to suppress so much of our core personalities when interacting with others in every-day situations. We have to be sure we don't slip up and reveal ourselves. Maybe that is the real accomplishment in the way of play-acting: acting like we are normal like everyone else around us ... ha ha.

I don't think I have ever been afraid of loosing my medfet or that it will diminish from lack of fulfillment or from over-exposure. As with all human interest, our interest waxes and wanes at time , it only natural with everything in life . At the beginning, its all exciting and new and its only natural to be enthusiastic , intrigued and captivated by new experiences , discussions and interacting with fellow enthusiasts as it becomes our passion in life at that point in time.

After this initial high we can lose some interest , this is because everything in life is in a dynamic flow, that is every changing and the changes make us change too. Sometime the changes hit us hard and that makes us a little down or lose interest; this is further compounded with the daily stressors of our life , work, relationship, free time etc .

In addition what initially started as a passion can become so consuming and the more you compare yourself to others, you can begin to lose all interest and get into a negative spiral. A very excellent and appropriate quote comes to mind by Theodore Roosevelt "Comparison is the thief of joy"

For me personally I done most of what some dream of doing and continue to do on a daily basis so its not an all consuming passion. I still enjoy my medfet because from the start of my medfet journey I had a clear idea of what I wanted out of this experience and that has not waned and I don't expect it too. But everyone's own personal journey is different , individual and unique and as such how we react is unique and individualized.

I never felt ashamed, embarrassed or guilty to have a medical fetish . As I have said before I think guilt is rather a very subjective word as it implies a feeling of worry or unhappiness that you have because you have done something wrong, such as causing harm to another . I don't think any fetish or kink is wrong , we all have our likes and dislikes , so I look upon mines as things I enjoy and like and I know it does not cause any harm to others but can do the opposite and bring happiness, pleasure and enjoyment to others .

With me, it's ups and downs. But never had a thought that I might loose my fetishes.

There are weeks when I don't have time to even think about my fetish/kink.

Then there are weeks where it won't get out of my head.

I have been in car wreck and was in and out of hospital for about an year. Someone from here told me that slowly I will loose my medical fetish. It did take a long time to get back to those "urges" but no I never thought I would loose it and I didn't 😃

~Dinosaur

I have been involved with med-fet for many many years. But I also have many other interests which keep me happily occupied. I take a vacation and leave my computer at home. I have been off zity for months and then return refreshed. I think like most people, we have to strike a life balance and I have been able to do so, but I do not think I am ever in danger of losing my med-fet.

I have never ever had the opportunity to be active with anyone else. Not once with anyone real and alive. The only interaction I have with other people on this is remotely, by way of websites and posting. But that's probably not really being active in the sense most people mean.

And aside from that it's by way of my imagination, my fantasies, thinking about it.

On the contrary, looking over the other Zity topic sites, I have added new kinks: MedFet, Anal play and I am just starting to read about E-stim and it sounds great. Zity has expanded my kinky horizons from just being a Klysmo., to other areas that I never considered; thanks all!

As I get older my desire for medical fetish and trying new things has increased. I thank Zity Biz and the members here for that.

I don't think it's going to go away, at least all the way until now it has stayed on very firmly. Almost the other way round, feels more like it is getting more varied over time.