Small Penis Humiliation during Examination

. . . . I don't know if it was just me, but the urologist seemed interested by the case of the reappearing and disappearing penis. I thought we were wrapping up, but she then spent several more minutes examining my shriveled penis. I wasn't sure if the shriveled state could somehow be medically relevant to my issue, and she was checking if that was the case. The thought did cross my mind that because the first time she began feeling my penis, it began to grow (not getting erect though), she wanted to see if that would be the case again out of interest or even entertainment. She did seem to take her time before having me get dressed, but my penis remained in hiding.

I wonder if seeing penises shrink and reappear like that is a common thing for urologists, and if it's medically interesting to them and even sometimes personally interesting.

If she was really interested in your size, she wasn't very experienced.

Size isn't part of any condition unless you made the appointment specifically because of your size.

If she was really interested in your size, she wasn't very experienced.

Size isn't part of any condition unless you made the appointment specifically because of your size.

She was very professional, but maybe this was the first time she'd experienced this and was curious? Or maybe this is extremely common...hard to know!

Size had nothing to do with the reason for my appointment, although I can see how she thought it might be medically relevant...could've just been that.

Based on your stated size once it came out of hiding, she had to have known you just had a lot of shrinkage and size wasn't a problem.

Based on your stated size once it came out of hiding, she had to have known you just had a lot of shrinkage and size wasn't a problem.

I wonder if it could've been medically relevant to her practice, not necessarily my particular condition. If she saw a penis as small as mine was shrunk, I assume she might normally consider the possibility of micropenis. Presumably she didn't think I had one, and was examining to understand the distinction between a micro-sized penis that does become normal size. Because she spent several minutes poking and prodding it, when there wasn't even much to examine. At one point it seemed she wanted to see if it would retract entirely within me.

The diagnosis of micropenis is based on the size of the erection, not the flaccid or shrunk appearance.

You are obviously normal sized.

I see, that makes sense. So if someone comes in with an acorn-sized penis like I had, if micropenis was suspected, they would intentionally induce an erection to make a diagnosis? Perhaps that's essentially what happened to me, at least stimulated to the point that micropenis could be ruled out, even though I didn't become erect. I may be exaggerating how much I grew, maybe more like 3 inches or under. Perhaps she wasn't able to fully rule out micropenis at that point, and that's why a lengthy examination of my shrunken member continued.

I doubt that. If a person has a very small penis, they don't need to make a diagnosis of micropenis and it is unlikely they would stimulate you to have an erection unless that was your problem. There is little that can be done for micropenis except for ligament releasing and that is fraught with side effects and less than perfect results. She could tell from your 4" flaccid penis you were normal.

Thanks for the perspective, makes sense. As you can probably imagine, this can be an embarrassing experience for a guy! I appreciate that she was just being a very thorough doctor and not judging.

I wonder if seeing penises shrink and reappear like that is a common thing for urologists, and if it's medically interesting to them and even sometimes personally interesting.

Having assisted in many such exams I can confirm that the scrotum and penis often retract into the body. This was explained in our physiology classes and is quite normal. The south of China has a subtropical climate but in winter it gets pretty cold and often the examination room is not as warm as we would like it. A typical exam usually ends with the urogenital system so a man's equipment has a chance to cool with resulting shrinkage. Of course it responds to the warmth of physical contact and then returns to its shrunken state as it cools down again.

I have to admit that this is fascinating to observe but we keep our thoughts on the job and do not judge.

Having assisted in many such exams I can confirm that the scrotum and penis often retract into the body.

Thanks Meiwi88, that's reassuring to know this is common around the world. It's equally fascinating for me to observe since my equipment has a mind of its own. Well, the shrinkage can be nerves/mental, or cold/physical, or both. Can you often tell the difference? What was the largest shrinkage difference you observed between the normal flaccid and the retracted state?

While being examined by both men and women I have never experienced anything like this. If they did they kept it to themselves. As they see all types both big and small it's not that big of a deal. If that's what you want you're going to have to find someone else to do it. To most doctors and nurses, Etc big and small penises just another thing you see at work and is not a big deal.

While being examined by both men and women I have never experienced anything like this. If they did they kept it to themselves.

I don't think the Original Poster is suggesting that the doctor / nurse is actively humiliating the patient. I think it's more to do with the way that the patient internalises the situation in which they are naked. When one is self conscious about having a small penis it can be embarrassing to have to stand there naked and "on display". It's this that may lead to the feeling of humiliation.

I can’t say I’ve ever experienced this. I could sympathize with someone who did though, I’m sure it would be bad. It’d be even worse if the doctor commented or something.

I have to say I find this thread ridiculous.

I can't not believe that a medically trained professional would mock a male patient, especially a teen or developing youth because of penis size. The whole idea of penis size gets tiring since so many brag. The other is, what is an average size anyway for an adult male? I guess I do wonder about that since what adolescent male hasn't questioned how big he is compared to those in the locker room.

Nick

I guess it's more about embarrassment than outright humiliation. Most of my teenage years I dreaded the group exam performed around age 18 for the purpose of the military draft. I heard stories about having to be completely naked as they measure all your vitals in front of a doctors committee. In the end we could wear undies and just one older male doctor lowered them behind a curtain and after seeing everythings in place he pulled them up, no drama.

A few years ago I ended up being examined by two female doctors for testicular pain. Not being well endowed I had also a pretty bad shrinkage. What they saw was probably just an empty overhang of foreskin. The exam was pretty bizarre as each of my testicles got to be palpated simultaneously by either doctor. It definitely made me very conscious about the shrinkage, but I was just lying there happy to get help and not too embarrassed.

The follow up ultrasound was more embarrassing as the prettier of the doctors was explaining me the situation with my pants down and she kept switching the gaze from my face to my genitals. When she finished talking, she stared at my groin a little bit too long and then picked up a cloth used to wipe off the ultrasound gel and gave my penis a few squeezes (?) and left it there for me to finish wiping. Never had a doctor before or after that try to wipe of the gel themselves like this, so I like to think she wanted to feel my willy a little. I would definitely feel slightly embarrassed seeing her on the street after that.

No. Why would you?

I guess I never found any reason to feel humiliated even though I have one of those little wrinkly ones as a friend described it when she met the naked hiker on the AT in Maine. Growing up I just felt you had what you got and some are bigger than others. Recently with female Drs and ARNPs it's just been fun. The first one at the VA had be bent over the table to do the DRE when she remarked "you have a nice little one". When I realized she meant my prostate I chuckled and told her I was thinking the same about her finger and we both had a good laugh. I miss her, she retired a couple years ago.

Not during a real exam, maybe felt a little embarrassed a few time but not to the point of humiliation. Thats only in my dreams and during play exams.

I have never been examed naked in the presence of other naked men. I was concerned that I would have to undress in front of others during the military examination. We stripped down to the panties, while we took the panties off one by one behind the screen. When I undressed in front of the doctor (female) I looked down with embarrassment. My penis was shrunken in embarrassment and was smaller than normal. It was a source of additional shame for me.

Yes, I have several issues going on with my urinary pelvic area plus my bowel issues, and yes I'm very small, in fact for a while my PCP listed it as uncircumcised ( I was thou) and with bladder issues rashes develop. So as she was examining my penis she made some comments ordered some cream to use, in her notes she wrote patient has a micropenis. Which I knew along I did. But I have a very good relationship with my PCP

Roscoe, I am gonna have to use your response about the finger! Fantastic comeback! Love it.

I, too, find it odd that ANY provider would make a disaparaging remark about a patients anatomy…. It’s unprofessional… but can it happen? I guess so… maybe depends on your relationship with your provider. But most would never go there.

I also enjoy having medical females in charge of me… and I DO know that NPs and APRNs will spend more time with ya than your docs. They are more thorough, they don’t have their hands on the door to the room, and don’t seem to be in any rush. Some will actually do a physical, whereas your doc or PA, in any other setting, just won’t have the time. So, I prfer to see female NPs for my physicals, and I prefer those apwho are in solo Practices. They are usually quite sympathetic when they hear your docs never actually examine you…. I’ve had that many times… in and out in 2 minutes, then off to the lab, and adios. but the NPs seem to take their time, and I will sometimes request the “head to toe” exam, as my other providers don’t do that. I then usually get what I need out of that visit.

I am going again for urodynamics, which is bladder testing and function exams. I love it. You sit on a special exam chair, legs open and in stirrups, and the tech/nurse stands between your legs and manages you… can’t get any better than that, and I love it because there’s an audience between my legs, and there’s no way to preserve any vanity, at all. The testing itself is wild, if you enjoy penetrating urologicals, which I do… but the exposure is tremendous, and u cannot stop their advances. Humiliating? Absolutely, and personally, I cannot get enough.