Why do some women scream and others don't when they having an orgasm.

When it's from "normal" sex, I tend to be very loud. When I have to keep quiet and can't bite into a pillow, I scratch my partner's back. I only partly notice that, but I see the result later...

When it's from an enema, I just moan I think.

Afterwards I sometimes giggle uncontrollably.

As for the why, I don't know. The reason probably is that we women are individuals with individual traits and behavior.

There was a study about it once.. women only scream when they sleep with low quality men. I never do that, therefor I never scream😃

But on a slightly more serious note, it has nothing to do with shyness. I just dont like making loud noises because it either ruins the mood or if it fits, it's not my thing.

I'm usually pretty vocal but I really have become more so with my current. He enjoys it and he makes me feel secure enough to let myself go and be loud if I want to. I suspect that level of security/comfort with both yourself and your partner plays a factor.

There was a study about it once.. women only scream when they sleep with low quality men.

Cherie - hmm...study said low quality men make women scream did it? :-)

Tend to agree with Nurse Phillips comfort and security with the person you are with would be factor. The screaming or even other wild sounds I have always associated with a woman really letting go, and not holding back any. Definitely a big turn on to hear that stuff.

I'm really starting to agree with BigK about most women don't orgasm. I've had the belief for a while that I'm not actually orgasming but rather getting to the prestage of it and then stopping out of fear of losing control and being caught by my parents. I have noticed when I managed to squeak out a small sound I have a very sharp increase in my pleasure though.

I think I don´t scream when I cum, but my boyfriend told me that I make a lot of loud sounds at this moment.

I am very vocal and i really like when I have the possibility to be loud. If the curcumstances ar enot so good ( I remember a shared apartment with friends during holidays) I sometimes bite in a pillow to be not so loud.Fortunatly our kids have a very deep sleep and our bedroom is far ways from theirs, which was my intention planning the rooms :-)

I certainly don't scream all the time but I can't help but let out groan /moans etc esp during penetrative sex and as I feel orgasem building.

In times when I've tried to be quite it still happens so isn't a voluntary thing I guess.

The loudest I recall was having had sex a short time later we started again in the dining room and husband sat between my legs with me on the table and he sucked, licked and fingered me. I cried out very loud as I came but thankfully we were home alone. Wouldn't have had sex out side of bedroom had we not been home alone.

Can sometimes hear others groans in the house.

Noise is helpful in letting partner knows they are hitting the spot non verbal communication. Silent sex would be weird.

I believe that is totally up to the woman. I can get loud sometimes. Like if I haven't done anything in awhile. It's hard not to moan or make any noise at all. But I have had a few girlfriends who never made a noise.

Most time I have an orgasm I let out some groans and moans but some times I get a bit louder. I think when I have been away with my husband I must have been heard in the hotel room next door hehehe.

I think there is something just primally intensifying in getting loud.

Not artificially, I have to "feel it"... but when I do, it just seems to make the orgasm more intense. It isn't consciously done, it's more like just "not holding it back"

Being over a half mile away from nearest neighbors has spoiled us though.

Like Amethyst, it has actually caused trouble at a couple motels.

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It's amazing how women differ in their response to an orgasm. Everything from screaming to apparent indifference. I do, however, agree 100% with the women who insist on having an orgasm while having sex. Any man who doesn't make sure this happens is just selfish.

For what it's worth, I like to stay focused. I am somewhat quiet, but a moaner and a heavy breather. The most I can let out is "Oh, God" while I struggle to catch my breath. On the other hand, my SO likes to give a narrative, in his deep voice, of where we are and where we are going. Big turn on. My body language says it all, I am sure. I like to keep my eyes closed and the room somewhat darkened. Focusing.

I tend to be analytical about many things, but sometimes these aspects can be studied into the ground. People make assumptions about others. I don't believe anything can be concluded regarding how much vocalizing results. Or how loud. Some of it is habit. Some of it is forced. It is almost always flattering to the ego of the partner. And so, here we are, discussing whether it indicates that a woman has had a "true" orgasm. "A rose, is a rose, is a rose." if you believe it, then so be it. No need to measure up by decibels.

I'm a screamer, but I'm very quiet until I orgasm. Then, I let go. I try and be a bit quieter when it's nice weather and the windows are open!

I have only ever been with one man who screamed. Most are quiet.

As long as she is enjoying it noise is optional. You don't have to be a screamer to have a good orgasm.

An often cited study in the 2011 Archives of Sexual Behavior

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/44609177_Evidence_to_Suggest_that_Copulatory_Vocalizations_in_Women_Are_Not_a_Reflexive_Consequence_of_Orgasm

Snipped from a synopsis of the study...

suggests women are most vocal not when experiencing orgasm, but during the act of sex itself -- as well as when their male partners are about to orgasm. The women in the study reported that the increased noise was used to encourage male partners to orgasm and therefore end the sexy time, make the male partners feel good about themselves… or both.

It's interesting that women found this sleight of hand necessary even in cases when they had already orgasmed (sometimes multiple times). Women still felt it was important to vocalize pleasure during penetration as a sort of high-pitched pat on the back for their male partners.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/44609177_Evidence_to_Suggest_that_Copulatory_Vocalizations_in_Women_Are_Not_a_Reflexive_Consequence_of_Orgasm

Those findings are definitely accurate. Women use their screams, grunts and moans as a means to approve or disapprove and give feedback on what their partner is doing.

I will go on record as stating that I am not, nor have I ever been a screamer, but I do definitely enjoy a good orgasm. I should think the auditory evidence happens in some way other than screaming and the one capable of giving me an orgasm will no doubt know the orgasm has successfully happened!

When it comes to vocalizing during sex, whether I scream, moan or quietly hold my breath depends on the situation.

If I am masturbating I usually don't make any sounds at all and I have a combination of holding my breath and irregular breathing. If my husband and I are gently, lovingly having sex I quietly moan and kiss my husband while we have sex and as I have my orgasms. If we are having wild sex and fucking like farm animals, you can hear me outside the house.

I do admit every so often I cut loose and scream, the swat team and ER has never showed up yet but?? ?

During anal sex I will usually cut loose, if my husband is using a ribbed rubber on me, or if I have been drinking a bit more than I should have. But we live alone and our next door neighbor is a bit of a distance away so I can squall until my heart's content.

Tillie: Interesting — you use rubbers with your husband ?

My wife does not scream but I definitely notice it almost every time when she has an orgasm.

Ah, the female orgasm - my favorite subject! As I’ve posted before I’m a true connoisseur, basically obsessed with it. I love helping/inducing my partners to orgasm through text, phone or, of course, in person. I’ve come to feel that during those few moments a woman is her true sexual self. She’s not worrying about her less-than-perfect body, or how certain wrinkles might show, or that she might be unladylike sweatin or making weird noises. She is engrossed in the most powerful feeling of pleasure and releasing all her tensions without any thoughts or self doubts. Her inhibitions are lost as she reaches the point of losing self control. God, I LOVE it!!

As for the OP, its the same answer as why some women can cum over and over, endlessly, others have one orgasm and are done for the day while others can have a few in quick succession or with minor rests in between. Women are just different. My partners have ranged from literal screaming, high pitched and loud, to more grunting and continual low moaning. Another partner seemed to become possessed and made incomprehensible grunts like she was speaking in tongues! While I prefer them to let loose with any expression they feel, I have loved every orgasmic noise that I’ve had the pleasure or being involved with!

And lets not forget about the buildup noises and how incredibly sexy those are! When her breathing changes, either holding her breath or letting out short gasps, when she whimpers with little moans escaping her lips, or when she pants in anticipation of reaching her climax. Its all amazing to be a part of.

@CJ1999 That was a kind response. No partner should focus on their companion's imperfections when it comes to sex. At least I think, but focusing on the connection and well, how good she feels.

I don't why some women scream during orgasm, but I just want to make sure they have an orgasm.

On a different note: When it comes to anal sex, the husband of @Tillie has the right idea about using a ribbed Condom.

If I am masturbating I usually don't make any sounds at all and I have a combination of holding my breath and irregular breathing. If my husband and I are gently, lovingly having sex I quietly moan and kiss my husband while we have sex and as I have my orgasms. If we are having wild sex and fucking like farm animals, you can hear me outside the house.

Some guys have all the fun!!

A ribbed condom in the anus?! In the vagina I can understand, but in the anus?

@Pecan_nutjob it’s an Oxford comma. She’s describing 3 different situations that will prompt screaming.

Yes we use rubbers, ever so often he will put on a ribbed, or spiked, rubber and we go at it in the twootie, don't think a ribbed up the backside would go over well. Makes the ride just a bit more fun.

When we are traveling, we always stop at a Loves's truck stop, get a rubber (Loves has the best rubbers) and one of the hot dogs rolling on cooker then get to the hotel and run around like a bunch of newlyweds.

We eat the hotdog, don't get no kinky ideas.

I am not a screamer, but I have a hard time containing moans and gasps, especially when it feels good and is giving me orgasms. It's pretty hard not to make some noise when something is squeezing inside you, going in and out of you, and occasionally bumping into your cervix. I really like to try and concentrate on how good it feels, especially when I have an orgasm, and just go with it.

This subject makes me think of a line from the move Ground Hog Day. Phil is in the diner and he introduces Rita to that one lady who he slept with, and says "This is Nancy Taylor, she makes sounds like a chipmunk when she gets really excited." I never really understand that line until I got a vibrator ?

I was never very vocal except for heavy breathing and soft moaning. I think I have always been so self conscious and was never able to fully just let go.

It took some coaxing to get me to express myself and now I am afraid I am too loud. Lol

Still not a screamer but maybe it just needs to be brought out of me 😉