It's crazy to me, that people who have enough interest in enemas to be on a forum like this, have trouble getting their spouse to take care of them. From my point of view, that's horrid. I'm not talking about the occasional lurker, I'm talking about the people who really like enemas.
I'm 70 years old. I've been married to my third wife, going on 11 years. Although she became disinterested in sex a few years ago, I still get plenty of enemas from her, just for recreation. My other two wives also gave me plenty of recreational enemas for sexual foreplay, and sometimes just for the fun of it.
Early in my life I realized that for me, enemas were a NEED! I assume that is how it works for many of you. Just recognizing that it was a need, set the stage for relationships. Enemas didn't have to be a need for my women, but they had to accept my need, which turned out to be rather easy. NONE of my wives liked enemas. None of them allowed me to give them enemas, except maybe for 2 or 3 during the first year of our relationship.
Before any relationship turned serious, my need had to be worked out. I was a little tricky with the first one, because I didn't know how to broach the subject. I pretended to be constipated one afternoon when we were alone at my folks house. Of course, being raised at that time meant she knew about enemas. It didn't take much to get her to offer to give me one. After she saw how I reacted to them, she understood my need. For the next 18 years, I got enemas from her on a regular basis.
Wife number 2 was sexually adventurous, and definitely not vanilla. She made it plain that we could expand our fun if I was cleaned out back there. It only took a few minutes to anchor in my need for enemas. For the next 5 years I got plenty of them.
Then there is my current wife. Wife number 3. As we were having dinner one night, we talked about sex. I mentioned that I had a special need that was driven into my mind map by my mother. She asked what it was, and I told her I needed to be given enemas by an assertive woman. Her reply was, "Whatever it takes." Shortly thereafter I was getting my first enema from her. She needed to be trained how to do it, and how I liked it. As I said, sex ended for her a few years ago, but I still get enemas once or twice a week.
Take a lesson. If enemas are something you need, make sure you work it out before making a commitment. It's not that hard to find someone who will do it. Women seem to be easy to convert when it's explained to them as a need. In fact, I believe that when many of them know it's a need, they like it. Taking care of you in such a special and private way, makes them feel more secure in the relationship.
I should mention that wife #1 and wife #3 were both pretty much vanilla when it came to sex. After 18 years, wife #1 said, "no more enemas." Within a year, we went our separate ways.
Many marriage counselors say that kinky can be really good for a marriage. I read a bit about one lady who spanks her husband. She said that it is the glue that holds their marriage together.