Use of Condoms for anal sex

I like the feel of a guy coming in me. However, I just joined a swing club and I only do anal. Always with a condom.

I only have anal sex with partners I know. I never use condoms.

Not to sound like a spoil-sport or anything, but simply knowing someone is no guarantee of being infection free. At a minimum, mutual STD testing seems appropriate and safe ... and even that is no guarantee if either has sex with others in the meantime.

Just saying ....

I am 62 years old and every morning I rise I am thankful I am here and healthy. I grew up sexually in NY city. Every summer, I lived there; every night I spent in the clubs and bathhouses. The purpose was to experience as much sex as was available, and I can say with great authority there was a lot of sex. NO ONE used condoms. Why would we? Until...

So many beautiful sweet innocents died simply because they were unknowningly exposed to a deadly virus. So many beautiful sweet innocents were shunned, outcast, and vilified because they were unknowingly exposed to a deadly virus.

I survived and do not know why, other than just pure dumb luck.

For me, it would be disgraceful to dishonor all those many beautiful sweet innocents by being so cavalier as to ignore the fact that the use of a condom is one important tool to protect against a deadly virus.

Kandi said

I've never used a condom for this...

YOU'RE NOT THE ONE who would necessarily get the infection from someone you know.

Normal colonic bacteria can give the man a UTI.

The first time I tried anal was w/o a condom. too tight, too dry and no experience . It just didn't work the way it's susposed to. On the second try, we used a condom and magic happened. That was in 1977, so it was more to improve the experience than protection from disease. So another story of just being lucky. I would never try it w/o one now.

YOU'RE NOT THE ONE who would necessarily get the infection from someone you know.

Normal colonic bacteria can give the man a UTI.

And/or prostatitis, which seems like it should be a UTI but evidently can be separate. Never had anal but have had prostatitis and it's a killer. Sometimes it just keeps hanging around and pops out to say "didja miss me?" at inconvenient times (it's always at inconvenient times because there's never a convenient time for prostatitis).

If my wife ever said "I want to try anal" I'd certainly say "let's get a condom." Well, in my fantasies that would be after saying "great, let's go look at strapons!" 😁 .

I enjoy casual anal sex, so a condom is absolutely nessasary. I have, however had a few LTR that the condom was not needed, and we've never had a problem. If you're worried, use it.

I will be using a condom when me and my wife to be finally do. the last thing i want is an infection that stops any more fun time. And she would be terrified if i pulled out with shit all over my cock. Would probably be the first and last time we have it if that happens

I always wear a condom when I'm fucking a guy, and wouldn't allow a guy to fuck me without one.

I actually find condoms quite hot - I especially like a guy unrolling one onto my penis for me.

The only exception in my life was an ex boyfriend, who found it hard to keep an erection with a condom on. We had both tested negative for STDs, so he used to fuck me without a condom and I did enjoy the sensation of him ejaculating inside me - but I definitely wouldn't do that casually.

If you are already sharing fluids with her, then using a condom for anal sex is unnecessary, IMO. I just pee afterwards, and never had any issue in 30+ yrs of anal sex in LTRs.

No. We are both clean, No STDs, and have been doing Anal forever without problems. (Cannot get pregnant in the rear.) Besides a condom would prevent him from giving me a pee enema.

To not sound like a hypocrite, I will say my husband and I do not use condoms because we have been fluid bonded for over 25 years, but that doesn't mean we don't know he can still get a UTI even after a series of enemas.

Getting a UTI from anal sex IS NOT purely a matter of its being easy to avoid feces even if you're not using a condom.

When you get chlamydia, herpes, gonorrhea or syphilis there isn't necessarily any "pooh" or "slime" there. The bacteria are just on the tissue surfaces and you pick it up. It's that simple.

Yes we do, but just because I like the latex feeling.....

Never. I hate condoms!!!

I guess I shouldn't worry, as it sounds like most people don't have a problem and my bouts of prostatitis were not from having my dick in a butt. Might not be an issue for me, though, as my wife hasn't shown any interest in trying penis-anal sex, and I prefer to use my "brownie points" to get her inside my ass.

My wife and I have not used a condom for any type of sex in years. Neither of us can stand them other than for fisting. But that is just us.

Condoms are my best friend. I would never have casual sex without one. There are to many std out there. I even got use to giving bj with a condom after my divorce. I even use a barrier having random sex with a women. The diseases that are out there today are no joke.

I failed to mention I clean my toys as if they were surgical instruments.

Condoms are my best friend. I would never have casual sex without one. There are to many std out there. I even got use to giving bj with a condom after my divorce. I even use a barrier having random sex with a women. The diseases that are out there today are no joke.

On my vacation this summer, while caught up in the moment, I have anal sex with two men, bareback. Not like me, but the heat of passion can cause us to make bad descisions. I worried myself sick until I got back home, and got tested.

Cooler heads must prevail- while you are tearing each others clothes off in your front hallway, remember to wrap that rascal.

Ppillowrocker Polypropylene condoms are oil safe, stronger and thinner.

Update from my post in this thread dated 2016.04.20

My wife (of 36 years) is nearing the end perimenopause. She has been off of birth control for several years and insisted on condoms for intercourse. Her Dr. has told her that after 12 months with no menstrual cycles - she need no longer concern herself with birth control. After several (too many) 3 or 4 months stretches, we're in the 10th or 11th month of this latest and hopefully final stretch.

Back on topic - she knows i hate condoms. She also has become a fan getting in the ass! No way I'm wrapping that sucker!

Even after birth control is out of the picture, I think my wife's preference will still be having me deposit a hot load deep in her bowels.

Well it depends if the guy who's fucking me has any STDs. If not then I don't use a condom and neither does he. I feel it's better that way because I really like the feel of a man busting his hot load in my rectum 😉

Anallover- Do you just take his word for it, or do you get tested together?

I tell my male lovers- bring me a negative test report dated that day, and they can come in my ass. Otherwise-Nyet!

Btw- None have yet.

I tell my male lovers- bring me a negative test report dated that day, and they can come in my ass. Otherwise-Nyet!

Btw- None have yet.

isn't that an impossible task? Are there places that give immediate results? Usually tests take a few days to weeks where they could have engaged is risky intercourse after the sample was taken. Plus doesn't HIV take up to 3 months to test positive for, and even if negative they must get retested in another 3months? So unless someone gets testified for everything, and then stays celibate for 6 months, you can never be sure...

And if they do that, and then have one bareback session, they are back to square one, so they are looking at 2 'safe' sexual encounters in a year!

CJ1999- you have some seriously old information. HIV can be detected immediately. Tests take 15 minutes including wait times. Thry are free at any planned Parenthood, community health service, or a lot of other places, including your GP. They are not allowed to force you to give a name, or present I.D.

Have you ever seen a gangbang video? They hire a nurse, who tests the guys in line.

They will give you a printed statement of your status.

Even in my little city 60,000 not including the university, we have 5 places for while you wait HIV tests.

HIV is detectable within 14 days (it is less but don;t remember the extact number). That said Dr.'s still like to keep people on a 3 month watch to be absolutely safe.

You may be right about the incubation time. When I started my last LTR, about four years ago, they tested 3 times, in 3 months. Now, I've been tested quite a few times, as recently as a month ago. They handed me my status report, and said I was good to go.

From Ontario.ca

point of care testing: your blood is tested while you wait. If you test negative for HIV/AIDS, you will learn your results immediately. If you test reactive, your blood sample will be sent for standard testing

Edit- Also from Ontario.ca it's 12 days after infection.

It just seems smart to use a condom for anal sex with a new partner or one that has other "contacts." And can't oral sex expose one to HIV/AIDS??

The only time I use a condom is when I give my wife anal sex. We have been together and monogamous for years, but just the idea of my bare penis being in her behind without a condom grosses both of us out. But with a condom, no problem!

For several years, Carla and I greatly enjoyed having anal sex, without a condom, when she needed -- but did not have -- a cleansing enema beforehand. Most of the time, solid feces in her rectum stimulated my super-sensitive urethral opening and then my entire glans. A kind of ritual dialogue would follow:

Jack: "I can feel you need an enema."

Carla: "Does it bother you?"

Jack: [Smiling] "No."

Carla: [Smiling] "Good."

Then she'd slowly push or rotate her hips against me to cause full penetration. In less than a minute, we'd both climax and she'd get her "natural enema." There was no visible trace of feces on my organ when I withdrew, but I always got in the shower right after "cuddle time." This is the only time in our life together that Carla and I had any scat in our sex life. But it was so erotic that I recall it vividly a quarter century after resuming our former practice of a cleansing enema before sex (which was always anal).

We had unprotected "dirty" anal sex hundreds of times with no ill effects. I'm not advising any of you to follow our example, but only to modulate your sometimes blunt warnings that condoms are a life or death anal sex requirement, even in a totally monogamous relationship.