How can I get my boyfriend interested?

Tiffany, it sounds like you are on your way to converting him into one of us. Nice going.

Good topic and this is the start of a good surprise plan to my beloved husband.

@lifeisrare: Ofcourse i don't know your husband, how open minded, kinky etc. he is and if you already talked about the things you would like to do. A surprise plan can be lots of fun and really work out but you don't want to scare him away, some people tend to freak out with certain surprises haha.

@tiffanee what a great idea. Can't wait to try it with my lady

I gave my boyfriend a suppository while we were engaging in sex he said before we started that no butt toys since his butt was irritated and he felt like he needed to go but could not. I rubbed his stomach for awhile then his dick then his butt and hole. I could tell he was constipated and was uncomfortable. I told him that I would be back and he should keep doing what he was doing which was stroking. I came back with the glycerin suppositories. He said it really doesn't do anything for him sexually. I told him to keep doing what he was. Stroking that is, I took one out of the jar and slipped it in him. We jacked and kissed and jacked and rubbed etc. We both came me twice since I got to finally give him a suppository. Then he came, we laid together for awhile. Then we got up and I told him he should go sit for awhile. After some time he came out I asked if he felt better he said little bit. He know I keep laxative stuff around and enema stuff. He has gotten constipated before and said we do have stuff to help that. Now, maybe he will not be so scared of things and start to use them for himself. And maybe we can even start to have more medical fun too!

I've been out since I was 18, which is almost 34 years. During that time I've met lots of guys, had lots of fun, but surprisingly very few who enjoyed enemas and medical play the way I do. I think it's wonderful your guy is willing to experiment!!! I would say that if you would like this to be possibly an ongoing area of play, and not a one time thing, go slow, set the mood, take your time, and make it as enjoyable and hot and erotic as possible!!! Good luck and hope you have a wonderful time!!! Let us know!!!

One thing to recognize is that nerves in one location which provide you a welcomed sensation may not provide the same response in your partner. Stimulation of the anal area for you may be very arousing but for your partner it may be a total turnoff. Take baby steps rather than just jump into the dream. While it is tempting to go for the gold so to speak, break the plan down into baby steps.

First you likely already know a repertoire of what he finds pleasurable. Of course he enjoys when you handle the penis, scrotum, stroke the inside of his thighs etc. Try touching the perineum (the skin surface between the scrotum and anus). Many males enjoy stimulation of the area bot the soft touch of a finger moving along the ridge and actual compression of the zone. Develop a step by step plan of sequential areas where you work around trying various touches and pressing as you circle the final target, incrementally working towards the final goal.

Assuming you find a positive response to stroking or massaging the perineum have him roll over on his stomach. Sit straddle of his buttocks and begin massaging his back using body oil or lotion. Initially confine your hands to the zone between the waistline and neck/shoulders. After five or ten minutes have him roll onto his back, and again sit straddle his legs but leave the space below the waist accessible. Continue to apply lotion or oil from his neck line down past the waist and around the genitalia. Work your way down the top of the thighs and slowly begin massaging the inside of the thighs between the knees and genitalia. Work your way around the outside of the thighs also. While doing this make mental notes of his responses to touch in each area.

Move back to the inside of the thighs. If he is enjoying the massage up to this point push your fingers between the thighs and stroke the skin just after emerging to the back side of the thighs moving up and down between the knees and genitalia. Observe for changes in his response to physical contact. If he is enjoying the massage thus far have him roll back over on his stomach. This time begin massaging at the waist and down the buttocks. Avoid moving towards the anus at this time. Observe for changes in his response as you begin stroking the buttocks. Now as you did earlier while laying on his back move your fingers down between the thighs but continue to stay away from the anus. If he is still enjoying the stimulus continue stroking/massaging the buttocks and thighs. Stroke the skin where the buttocks begin to roll into the anus. Carefully observe the response. If you discern he is enjoying your scouting thus far continue to move further into the skin near the anus. If you are having difficulty discerning his response lean forward and ask him if he is ok with what you are doing.

If he indicates that he is enjoying the massage thus far add lotion to your hands and continue to move deeper into the crevice between the buttocks. When you decide to touch the ring of the anus just brush it, do not dwell. Gauge your partner's response before continuing. If you determine he is enjoying what you are doing run your index finger around the anal ring. If you have been using lotion which is oil based you may want to wipe your hands with a towel and switch over to a water based lubricant such as KY Jelly or other brand. Put on a glove or finger cot. Apply KY and continue running your finger around the anus. If he is enjoying your stoking the area he will likely be making sounds to alert you. If not ask. Once you have made it to the anus with a positive reaction you can move onto enema administration.

Just like the the process of determining your partner's response to anal stimulation break the enema down into baby steps. Initially gauge his reaction to inserting the probe end of a digital thermometer or similar. When you move to injecting water use maybe eight ounces. Once he has evacuated the contents try a shower together where you can take him to a climax. When you detect he is about to ejaculate insert your index finger slowly, locate the prostate and vigorously massage the gland. The intensity will surprise both of you.

Whatever you are doing whenever, if he says stop, then STOP!

Wow Jean.....it sounds like you really know how to please your man. One lucky guy!

The big picture is about how the guy feels about any anal stimulation. This may well be a psychological can of worms. Some have very negative preconceptions about anything going up their ass. If they enjoyed it, they falsely believe that it might mean they have gay tendencies which they find threatening if their view of their own sexuality is one of being heterosexual. They might assume it would hurt having any penetration so there is fear of pain.

So I feel the best way is to start a conversation first and open the subject about ways the woman can provide pleasure for the man. Eventually, you will have to turn the prostate card over and ask if they would be open to getting some kind of prostate stimulation. If a woman is doing it, then that kind of neutralizes the gay fears- he's still having sex with a woman and he should be reminded who you choose to have sex with is the real determination of sexual preference not what you do when you have sex. Explain the prostate is the equivalent of the woman's G spot and when stimulated in conjunction with penile stimulation a more powerful orgasm can be experienced.

If he is open to the idea, then following all tips on how to give a proper and pleasurable prostate massage combined with either stroking or orally stimulating his penis will result in a very satisfying sexual experience. If this goes well and he experiences great sexual pleasure from it, the door will be wide open for all types of play.

Ask him to try a enema one time. If he agrees masturbate him while the water is flowing in. Once he shoots his load he will see the light. This is how my wife got me hooked.

One of the times I was giving my boyfriend one of his first few enemas, we were in the college dorm and in the shower in my suite. I hung the bag from the shower head. While his guts were filling up in the shower, I was kneeling on the floor, cupping his balls in one hand, grabbing his ass with the other and had his dick in my mouth. All of a sudden one of my suite-mates walked in! He was hooked after that.

I have the same problem....

Hey guys I took another step forward with my boyfriend with suppositories. We had our normal adult fun time last night and I told him he needed to be cleaned out before we started. I showed him the box of fleet liquid glycerin suppositories. I said they are like the solid ones but work faster. He said I don't know how to use them. I told him to get on all 4's with his head down and ass up. I had the applicator well lubed. I spread his cheeks and inserted then administered it. I kept him in that position till he needed to go. We also did a exotic photo session so that was why he needed to be clean. He got hard I stroked his cock. I told him let me know when he needed to go. He did he was hard I told him to take his time. He came back and we continued our session. It was awesome to have him cleaned out. I think he finally realized butt play was more enjoyable when he was cleaned out. Plus the liquid glycerin helps bring water to the lower colon/rectal area. He suffers from constipation anyways so hopefully this will continue to break his dislike of suppository and enema play.

Hi! Does anyone have any advice on bringing up the subject of enemas when you're dating a nurse?

I've just recently started dating a very sweet guy who works as a nurse. I've found myself hesitating to bring the subject of enemas up with him. I'm also somewhat into medical play. Suddenly I feel really uncomfortable talking about this with him - and I'm most often rather open about it with others. Somehow it feels more ridiculous as he is a medical professional. Any one with experience ether being a medical professional into enemas or bringing the subject up with one? Any advice on how to approach the subject?

Jake,

For years I've had one of my 4qt. Sherema bags hanging in the shower. I leave the doors partly open so air circulates and dries the shower, and anyone using the toilet can see the bag. This has brought interest from a few who saw it, and has led to a few unexpected Enema sessions. The night light, made from a 2 1/2qt. Enema can has also brought a few comments. If all else fails, just come out and say you get into Enemas.

Dan

Hi Dan! Thanks for your reply! I'm usually quite frank about what I like and how I like it. But with this guy it's special and it's because he works as a nurse. Ever had any encounters with some medical professional?

If you've been dating awhile, just open up about what you like. If this guy likes you, he'll want to know. Now, he might not be into it, but then again, who knows, you might just have your own "private duty" nurse!!! I hope all goes very well!!! Let us know!!!

The way i see it this does not appeal to everyone ,so i would suggest talking and gradually bring the subject in to see if its a turn on or turn off

If he has already agreed that is your green light to move forward with your role play. Be gentle, and have fun. Remember the first experience is the most important for it builds the foundation for future play.

Trouble is you can probably get a lot of people to do it, but if he/she isn't into it, it's not much fun. I like an enthusiastic player.

I think you both are lucky - you want it and he is able to try... :-) Just step forward.

You have all ready done the most difficult part which is telling your boyfriend about your interests. I am sure that you do not want to proceed to fast so go slow and talk to him about what turns you on. May I suggest you pick up a stethascope ,rectal thermometer and an enema bag if you do not own one all ready. You might try showing him a porn video of what turns you on, and go from there.

My boyfriend recently started exploring my kink, enemas.

At first he gave them to me, and I loved it. Soon he asked to try them.

He loves being given a Fleet while I jack him off.I've also used my bag on him twice. He wasn't quite as hot on those, but didn't mind them. It's just nice to finally have someone to share them with. I haven't had that simce I was 16

Id like to give a particular friend an enema and he brings it up but when I start talking about giving them to him he changes the subject. I want him to feel comfortable to take an enema not forced.

A short, freshly made up fable.

A couple sat next to each other on the sofa watching Wheel of Fortune for fifty years.

While they sat in silence, she was thinking 'Why the hell did I marry a vanilla? I wish he'd stick a squid up my ass'.

In their silence he was thinking 'She's such a prude, I wish I could bend her over and stick a squid up her ass'.

They died in silent desperation.

Talk. It's cheap.

A couple sat next to each other on the sofa watching Wheel of Fortune for fifty years.

While they sat in silence, she was thinking 'Why the hell did I marry a vanilla? I wish he'd stick a squid up my ass'.

In their silence he was thinking 'She's such a prude, I wish I could bend her over and stick a squid up her ass'.

They died in silent desperation.

Talk. It's cheap.

@Buttwoman Exactly right! Some people spend years, anxiously waiting for the right moment to talk to their spouse about doing XXX, when they could have spent all those years actually DOING XXX if they had asked! And it's also unfortunate that many people can come online and divulge the dirtiest, nastiest, kinkiest perverted things to a bunch of strangers, and yet can't talk about it with the one they've shared/committed their entire life to.

If you never try... you never know.

Buttwoman soooo true ! Thank goodness for Zity where people with a squid in their hand are ready, willing , able to happily oblige ! ? ??? ?

A lot of it is timing but mainly it is all about communication. It also helps if you catch your hubby in a particularly horny mood and bring up the subject. 😉

My adolescent girlfriend was once visiting when the doctor paid a house-call and she stayed to watch me roll over for a penicillin shot in my bare bottom. It clearly turned her on and we began playing doctor. Every session involved rolling over or bending over for buttock injections realistically simulated with sterile pins and we both enjoyed the thrill of getting as well as giving each other those play shots.

So where can I get a squid ;-)