Can someone please explain to me the benefits of maintenance spankings as I am struggling with it.
They are to keep you in line and remind you of your position in the relationship.
If you don't behave you can be beaten to a pulp. 😁 😁 😁 😁
Maintenance spankings are a healthy, scheduled, structured reinforcement of the relationship. They establish that the dom is the dom, the sub is the sub, and love is love.
They also, for folks who like spankings, keep things pure. There is no need to brat to get a spanking. There is no need to misbehave to get a spanking. There is no reason to ask for a spanking. It’s going to happen, right on schedule. May be playful spankings through the week. May be foreplay spankings through the week. May even be punishment spankings through the week. But, the maintenance spanking is going to happen.
They also solve the “how do you punish someone who likes spankings by spanking them?” problem. A good maintenance spanking is everything the sub needs – long, hard, stinging, and right up around the limit of what they like. That is, after the maintenance spanking, the spankee is thoroughly satisfied and honestly has had plenty of spanking. I’ve always had a “if you do something during the week to get punished, you’re getting another spanking after your maintenance spanking” rule. And, more often than not, the sub has tried it. Once. And, after getting her maintenance spanking, spending half an hour in the corner, then getting a long, hard hairbrushing on top of the maintenance spanking, she hasn’t tried it again. In a relationship where spanking is both fun and disciplinary, the maintenance spanking makes that line much easier to maintain… the punishment spanking after the maintenance spanking is, in fact, dreaded enough to modify behavior.
I strongly recommend them.
As pmoi says, the maintenance spankings remind the sub that they are the sub and that the Dom/me cares about them enough to inflict a certain amount of pain as reminder of the relationship, to help keep them in line, and also reminds them of what can happen if they get in trouble.
I get my weekly maintenance spanking from mummy jade even if I've been a good lickle one all week just so I don't forget what a spanking feels like.
I also get an nawty spanking if I complain about not needing a maintenance one.
Like they all said its just a reminder..
I love your subtle way with words susie.
I wish I could trust someone enough to ask them to do this! Im single at the moment it sucks hard 😢. For me I think it would be a scheduled thing just because it's something you like. The above reasons are correct too, to remind sub is sub and dom is dom, etc. but I also like to think of it as a way to keep something you like going on a regular basis because for me I like to have things scheduled and I like things to be really routine.
It's to keep me in line and to know she is the dominant one in the relationship.
Syd -- it might be more challenging where you live. But, for years I had several women I saw once a week for their spanking. That's all that ever happened... they came at their appointed time, I spanked them soundly, and they went home. Not as tough as you might think to talk a man into doing this for you!
Oh yes, Maintenance spankings!!!!! In a Dom/sub relationship giving your sub, baby girl or boy et cetera a "weekly session" or when as needed will only benefit the relationship. It does not have to be overly harsh but nonetheless it must have some degree of, shall we say, "be adequately persuasive or with a convincing level of same?" Naturally the Dom will know which method is best but the fact is do not neglect this necessary element. A "good" maintenance spanking is as necessary as nourishment rest and love.
As weird as it sounds a good maintenance spanking can tell the bottom that you care for them. They seem to need and crave the attention. If they don't get their spanking I have heard instances where they will pout and mope around until they do get it.
I give maintenance spankings regularly every week. My subs collect points through the week, for good and bad behavior. Each week is awarded a prize. My maid gets always maintenance spankings for her mistakes and rude behavior. If she was very good then gets only 10 soft strokes, if everything is average 15 to 20, if there were any mistakes, then 10 medium for each mistake. In my Library are stories about the topic.
I find these comments really interesting. When spanking became a part of my exhibitionism, my daddy administered regular spankings every Friday night so that my bottom got accustomed to being spanked. Over time I discovered that I have a high tolerance level; and that I really enjoy being spanked while exposed.
........need and crave the attention. If they don't get their spanking I have heard instances where they will pout and mope around until they do get it! YES! That is ME! My spankings are for foreplay AND OR punishment. My wife also spanks me when I have been a good boy! " Yes you have been good, but I am going to spank you because I can and because I want to!" I have been VERY overdue for a spanking, at last 2 days ago she FINALLY spanked me! Not very hard or long, but it is all ways with a Bath Brush! Ouch! Foreplay spankings are lighter than punishment spankings (Duh!) Now if I can only convince her to give me maintenance spankings and more severe punishment spankings, I will be a happIER Hubby! Unfortunately I cannot provoke spankings by acting up, pouting, etc. 😢!
In our home, they are called General Principle Spankings!
Maintenance Spankings happen to me by my wife every Sunday morning or evening or sometimes both. Always naked always bent over the kitchen unit. Usually they are a timed spanking of 3 minutes.
I also get spanked every night during her period week. It helps her cope with the hormones and I love it.
I believe Susie said it best..... and it’s been said before ...because the Dominant can if they choose to .
I believe that maintenance spankings are what they state. It keeps the submissive on the straight and narrow. You know the saying "When the cat's away, the rats will play". This is a form of payment for any time the submissive deviates from the rules. The Dominant is not present to observe the submissive so the submissive can get away with breaking the rules. So this is a tool that the Dominant uses to discipline the submissive. Besides, it is fun to be made to drop your pants and be bare bottom so the Domme can see your bare buttocks and she can spank at will :-)
I get a maintenance spanking every Saturday night at 8 PM. My mistress tells me earlier what implement she will use and then I bring it to her. I know what to do and she expects me to do it. I have to present myself to her in her bedroom where she has a spanking bench and also keeps some of the other discipline implements. I am expected to stand in front of her, give her the strap, belt or switch, and then ask for my spanking. I then go to the desk, remove my jeans and bend over the desk. That's easier than being strapped to the bench which only happens with disciplinary spankings. Its easier if I am wearing a cock cage. She mostly makes me wear the cage for spankings because I start to get hard before I enter her room. Anyway, I bend over the table and then she comes over and lightly rubs her hand across my butt. "Are you ready." "Yes mistress. Please give me my weekly punishment. I need at least 20 strokes with the strap."
Then there is a slight pause and the first one strikes my bum. I have to count each one out loud and then ask for another. By then if I have a hard on my cock is struggling with the cage. After ten strokes she orders me to pull my panties down. Sometimes I am wearing pantyhose and if so they come down first, I get two or three strokes, then the panties come down. After the spanking I have to thank her and ask for another whenever I am naughty and another next week to stay on course. She then attaches a leash to my collar and leads me to the changing room where I have to lay on the table while she diapers me. The diaper goes on then the tight plastic panties and I'm almost ready for bed. Some nights I have to wear ankle shackles at night and some nights I'm tethered to a hook on the bed with a chain that is attached to my collar. If it will be the tether, I'm changed, diapered and then led into the living room were I can sit on the floor and be silent while she visits with one of her friends. Sometimes they are new dommes and I have to tell them how to give a maintenance spanking. When its bed time I am led to the bed and either tethered by the collar or if she chooses the shackles, I get in bed and she attaches a long chain to the shackles. I am always caged.
I look forward to the maintenance spanking because it helps me understand that I am her slave. If I am obedient and take the spanking as I should I am allowed to dress in feminine clothing.
Comments regarding that maintenance spankings about reminding one's role in a marriage certainly seem appropriate. I get pretty regular what one would call them “maintenance” spankings. There is just something about being taken over my husband's knee and having my skirt lifted (usually wearing a dress or a skirt when spankings occur although not always) and having my bottom bared after any underwear is pulled down to just above the knees including a girdle, panties, etc. It makes me feel loved, protected, and cared for as he is never anger or over what I would call my “limit”. My tolerance has increased with time and I have had some pretty hard spankings that have turned my bottom quite red but never black and blue or worse case breaking of the skin. A spanking is huge turn on for us both and ends up with very intense love making afterwards. Ocassionally, I will get a punishment spanking fir breaking of rules like uttering a simple cuss word or having a bad attitude. The dreaded hairbrush or paddle will come out for those types of spankings. Turn about is fair play as I have my husband over my knee on many occasions as well.
Benefits of a maintenance spanking. I get one every Saturday. I always get a hard on as I am heading for her room where I get the spanking. My cock usually stays very hard especially if she puts me in restraints and then pulls my panties down. Sometimes if the strokes are especially hard I get soft but then as soon as she is done I get hard again. I'm usually on a leash which she leaves on during the strapping. Then its time for the diaper and the plastic panties. If she feels like it I am allowed to jerk off before I'm diapered and she always watches. Aside from that it keeps me in line and clears the air from any mistakes I made during the week. Some nights after she has administered the beating she allows me to wear her panties. that only makes me harder. I know she benefits because I have heard her tell both her girlfriends and my step sister how wet her panties get while she is strapping me. If one of them, including my step sister is over on Saturday night they get to watch and I know they love it because they talk about how wet their panties get
According to my girlfriend it made my dick harder.
Given during the week or on week ends maintenance spankings reminds the submissive to continue to behave and do what they know what they are supposed to or face the consequences which they know will be a lot worse than the maintenance spanking.
As I understand them, they are not for what is known about what the penitent has done. But for what is not known, on the assumption that he or she has likely transgressed THE RULES. Maintenance discipline also reinforces the submissive's role on a regular basis.
The site called FLR Joy explains these matters quite well.
When I was a sub in a relationship with a older man when I was 22 I got Saturday night's watch and you know it was for doing this wrong or do not wrong some of them were actually good things that I should be doing for myself some were just things that made him horny
I think I'd enjoy maintenance spankings. Remind me of my place, keep me in line.
God I want this so bad. The current erotica I'm writing is about a college-age girl who comes to voluntarily ask for maintenance spankings, both from habit and from a recognition that she needs the discipline.
I have never had a relationship with a consistent D/s dynamic, and my last boyfriend only spanked me three times, and only when I begged him to, because I don't really think he could understand how a woman could get off on it. In my next relationship, I'm looking for someone who will understand my needs enough to regularly discipline me, including a weekly maintenance spanking.
By the way, are we all agreed that OTK is the best position for maintenance spankings? It prompts the spanker to be less severe, but it also has a kind of intimacy that can enhance the experience for the spankee. The humiliation of having to be naked on someone's lap is part of the discipline.
For actual punishment other positions are better, but OTK and maintenance/voluntary spankings go together for me.
Maintenance spankings are not meant for punishment of unseen misbehavior and so on. They are meant to give you as a sub a reminder of what will happen IF you misbehave. Of course it's also an act of Love and an exchange of energies you both need. After all a Dom into spanking likes to spank, and the spanking sub likes and needs to be spanked. A maintenance spanking is however painful, so it's not playing around. I'm talking about domestic discipline D/s settings here. I experienced a couple myself when I was younger. Dreaming about a new one, but okay, haha, that's not available right now. So we'll see. I absolutely needed these maintenance spankings for lots of reasons. And I'm NOT a masochist or so, on the contrary!
Very simply put, I don't think it's a real spanking per se'. Done the same way, stings the same way, but not the same duration or level, Just a way to remind a kid or adult, “you've been good, but I want you to remember, this is what happens if y'all decide to change that”!
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