Partner's presence at examinations

I have a play patient who i have accompanied to her gyn exams.

My husband was only present for one of my exams and that was when we lost our first child and instead of standing beside me and holding my hand he was at the other end watching the doctor take samples to find out for a fact the I was having a miscarrige. I could see his cold stone face and that was when I decided that he was not needed when I went to the doctor and he could stay home. He does not know to this day about my med-fet interests and will never know, he isn't worth the effort anymore.

The only time I've ever had a Dr. tell me that I couldn't have my spouse was when I was having a miscarriage and I was at the ER. My husband was NOT OK WITH THIS and I was in no shape to argue. All they wanted to know was if there were any dates or info that I didn't want my husband to know. Once it was established that I had nothing to hide, they allowed him in. My actual OBGYN makes it a policy to never be alone with a patient. It covers everyone that way. So, I always have either my husband or a nurse int he room with us.

I went with my wife to our local hospital recently. She asked the (female) doctor whether I could be present during the examination. The doctor agreed, but thought it was a strange request. Perhaps she had never been asked before. Unlikely, I thought, given that she must have been 50 years old at least. Anyway, my wife enjoyed my being there, and I was able to stand next to the couch, holding my wife's hand and seeing everything quite close up.

My very pretty 18 year old girlfriend, who was a student nurse at the time, had to attend the family planning clinic to get a new batch of the pill back in 1989. She was waring a long skirt and a shirt. In the exam room the nurse asked her to remove her bra and knickers, but leave her shirt and skirt on. I was with her right up until the very nervous and a bit creepy looking male doctor, about 45 years old, walked in and immediately looked my gilfriend up and down and obviously liked what he saw judging by the look on his face. He asked me to leave the room. When my girlfriend asked if I could stay, he looked me in the eye and told me it was bad practice to allow anyone in the room durirng an intimate exam.

My girlfriend later told me that the whole examination was very embarrassing and she felt very uncomfortable, as the doctor had no chaperone. When he examined her breasts, she said that he was stroking her nipples and breasts rather than palpating them and even though, in order to get the pill, she was booked in for a Pap smear, he only performed a full vaginal and anal inspection and pelvic with her skirt lifted up around her waist and using no lube.

I always wonder how many times he had done this to and if anyone ever complained. Still, was a great turn on.

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stellasauraus - I'm assuming you've read the General Rules - so what is it about underage - under 18, you don't understand?

Rather than delete your post mentioning an age lower than 18 I've edited it for you, including in the quote above. Please don't make the same mistake again.

I've gone in a few times with my wife for an exam and it was different each time. The first time was with a female doctor and she let me see everything and even let me look inside when she had the speculum in and explained what everything was and what she was doing. It was very exciting for me. The next time was a male doctor and he shielded me from looking with his body but I maneuvered so I could see. The last time sucked because the doc had me stand near my wife's head and blocked everything with a cloth so I couldn't see anything. was very frustrating because I wanted to see so badly and was so close yet so far. After that one she had to go somewhere else to get an internal ultrasound so I thought I was going to be able to see the doc insert the unit inside my wife's vagina but she covered her completely and had her stick it in herself. Very frustrating.

Way to much fun without him there!..

"Honey, do you know how big Dr. *&^%$ fingers are!"

If you want to have some real fun tell him, "It seemed odd that his hands where on my knees during the internal."

😉

We share each others medicals as much as we can.

I always go to my wife"s exams with no problem from the Dr.

I go with my partner to her exams. Generally the doctors or NP's are cool. We don't ask, they call her name and we both get up and walk in. I hang out in the hallway while she pees in their cup. That gives me a minute to look and listen and get a sense of the layout of the place. My heart is usually pounding in the waiting room.

They usually have a chair by the doctors end of the table, but I generally stand up and look behind her anyway. If my partner is in any pain or distress I run up and hold her. This is very rare as they tend to go very slowly and gently with me around.

On one visit the NP saw I was behind her when she was doing the bi manual exam and kind of looked at me. I said I could never find the ovaries but I never pushed too hard from the top. Once she saw my partner was cool with it and I had a genuine interest she took her hand out and showed me exactly where she was reaching and where she was pressing.

It was an interesting visit to say the least.

We giggled in the car on the ride home about what she must have been thinking, but she was totally cool with us. She acted like it happened every day. I think she was happy to poke through veil of silence and when she saw a real interest she was happy to put the weirdness of the situation down and share her knowledge.

We also wondered if she was going to go home to somebody and have visions of us going at it like rabbits while she was going at it with her partner. And, yes, my partner was quite lubed up in both orafi from the exam, and yes, we did make use of said lube as soon as we got home.

I don't see why any doctor would refuse such a request in a general practice or gynaecological type setting. I can understand in some circumstances that it might not be possible or suitable, but hardly in those two situations.

I go all the time with my girlfriend to her doctor. The doctor doesn't usually say anything about it 😶 .

I am in the uk, my partner has scheduled a Birth control appointment for 14/2/2012. She needs to get her birth control insert in her arm removed, and a temporary birth control device used, until she can get a new insert installed, we dont like condoms and are thinking injections may be good, in the mean time. We have scheduled this exam when I am not working, so I am hoping to be allowed to be present , because that is what she wants. We will keep you all posted with a full detailed description.

Chris UK

Thanks drkaby, looking forward to hearing how the appointment goes. And I know it has been said a thousand times before, but if your partner wants you there, then that is her choice.

Don't let the medical personnel tell you otherwise!

I have accompanied several friends and gfs to their exams. but i know all the family physicians and gyns so its not awkward at all

I have only been to my wife's exams when she was pregnant.

I was at one of my wife's exams. I was only there because it was a pre-op visit. I was to preoccupied for it to be erotic.

It is interesting to be inthe exam room of your wife while she is completely naked and being examined by a fully clothed male doctor.

I did get to go into the examination room when my wife was pregnant. I would like to see what goes on in a yearly check-up. I think that it would be a turn on.

Gynojames, Sadly the event was uneventfull, despite me pointing out that she was overdue for her smear testm

The actual change over is to be on 29th March, I am hoping for better luck then,and will keep you all posted.

Chris UK

I really admire couples who have that kind of loving relationship to attend each others exams. I never had that kind of relationship with anyone.

I'm sure for many, having a partner there is more about concern and not necessarily about a medical fetish. I still wonder if I had been into medfet when I was younger, would I have wanted a boyfriend there.

I prefer to not have my wife there because her presence inhibits my questions for the doctor. She is becoming more prudish every year. I am just beginning to get my new doctor so I can ask her anything.

Although I love wathing woman examined by a docter,for some reason I prefer to stay at home when my wife goes to her gyno.Strange because years ago my 17 year old girlfriend needed to go to the gyne for the first time.She was so afraid she wanted me to accompagny her.Well well,I could not believe my eyes.It was the first time I saw a gynological examination and will never forget it.

My ex gf had a painful speculum insertion one time and when informing the nurse got told it was because she had big lips. They were very long but had never been a problem before.

I went to her next test and there wasn't an issue. I was at her head end so didn't see too much, but could see the speculum sticking out of her! She had open butterfly lips after the test when she climbed down so I think she doctor had spread the lips wide to move them out of the way.

My girlfriend and.i always go together and watch each then exams and it is no Problem at all

My girlfriend recently had an IUD inserted and asked that I attend because the procedure can be painful. She knows about my kink and thought it might also just be interesting for me, though we were clear that my being there was for emotional support. The nurse who did the procedure was glad that I was there as a supportive and involved partner. My girlfriend and I laughed at some of the things the nurse said though, like how “nobody likes being in the stirrups” or something about not being familiar with a speculum. If only she knew that I frequently fantasized about having a set of stirrups and that I had a few speculums at home!

I was only privileged to sit in on one of my wife's exams. I accompanied her to her first appointment after finding out she was pregnant with our first child. I was only expecting to see a transducer on her belly. Not sure what she thought was going to happen.

Turns out, he doctor did a full well woman exam including breast and pelvic exams with me in the room. I didn't get to see a whole lot as I was sitting off to the side (trying to hide my erection).

After the exam, the nurse returned to do the fetal ultrasound. When she was unable to find it with the abdominal transducer, the Ob/Gyn came back into the room to find the heartbeat with a transvaginal ultrasound. I got an eyeful for that exam as I was standing by my wife's right foot for that.

Never got to see that again, though. My wife ended up having different doctors for each of our children. And none of the other doctors did any more than an abdominal ultrasound for the initial prenatal visits.

And my wife has never asked me to accompany her to a routine physical or gyn appointment.

Unfortunately I haven't, but I heard a lot from parnter's stories. My fiancee knows that I have medfet since she had a breast exam for her life insurance.

Since there are no available female gyns in the part of town we moved to, and to stir our sex life up (knows my medfet), now she plans to go to the male gyn for an exam. She is still not 100% sure because she is a bit prudish, but it seems it will be that way.

She asked me if I wanted to go with her, but I'm already excited and jelaous a bit even by expecting it, I can't even imagine watching it. Even worse is that she always requested a complete woman exam (family history), so she gets both her breasts and vagina examined.