How do you feel about yourself, and your "perversions" ?

Everyone is wired differently. When I found zity it opened my eyes to a whole new world. I found out that there were many people just like me and that I didn't need to be ashamed just because I like Rocky Road and not Vanilla. Perversion? What perversion.

For many years now I have had issues with people using the word normal, and I feel they over use and/or don't really know what normal is as they have no reference point. People use it to discriminate, label, and put people down, which is a terrible thing to do. In many ways, these so called normal people scare me because of there insecurities and ignorance using it as a tool/weapon to make themselves feel better. Frankly, I like the label of abnormal and think of it as a compliment, for me it means above normal. Think of this, it is the abnormal people who have provided society and civilization with the change in technology, and social sciences. It does not occur to those normal people that we do see the world in different ways than they do, in fact we see so much more than they do and can comprehend much more.

I've always been private about this aspect of my life and I still am a little bit, but it has changed these past few years. For years I kept it to myself and a few relationships, but a few years ago I started talking about it with more people and the reactions were nothing but positive. That really helped me accept it as a part of me instead of something to be judged.

Obviously there's the right time and place to discuss these things, and also there will always be openminded and less openminded people (even in a more open culture like ours) and you have to know which of the two categories you're dealing with before you open up about these things. But indeed, I've learned to accept that even though many people live with the cultural determination of 'normal', life is a lot more enjoyable if you learn to accept that everybody is allowed to bring their own unique slice of cake to the party - and hopefully meet some partygoers on the way who like the same kind of cake.

The longer I live with my “perversions”, the more “normal” they seem. Real life has a way of keeping them hidden, but I find myself longing for an end to Coronavirus days just so that my “perversions” can safely come to expression again.

1. Everything is relative.

2. There is no ‘normal’.

As a teen, masturbating and playing with my ass, I assumed I was the only one doing such nasty things. So I felt ashamed and weird (perverted). As I grew up I realized that I was not the only one. And after experiencing the very very naughty desires of numerous girlfriends and hookups, some of whom were demure, polite, conservative, religious, proper, respected in the community, etc, I came to realize that the difference between NORMAL and PERVERTED only exists in people’s minds, like everything.

What we do is between two consenting adults.

It makes us happy.

It makes him hard.

It makes both of us orgasm.

It makes both of us feel very much loved and cared for.

The rest of the world can just mind their own business.

What we do is between two consenting adults.

It makes us happy.

It makes him hard.

It makes both of us orgasm.

It makes both of us feel very much loved and cared for.

The rest of the world can just mind their own business.

Completely agree, no reservations about my kinks and fetishes. Hard, check. Orgasm, double check. Loved and cared for and trusted with sexual secrets, check. Minding their own business, double check.

I don't advertise my interests, except for talking here. Other than wondering if they interfere with normal loving LT relationships, I love everything I and my exes did together and that I do now solo. With dealing with serious ED, often my "perversions" make the difference between orgasming or not and as a result sometimes sleeping or not.

Eric

I accepted myself a long time ago

Sure im into everything and anything and i say TO EACH IS OWN. Let everyone enjoy themselves as long as its consentual. Im game are you?

I don't feel my sexual wants, needs, and desires are by definition perverse. They're natural urges, likes, and preferences that bring me sexual satisfaction and pleasure. In that light, I'm completely happy with my feelings towards my own sexuality!

I feel a little guilty about it, because people are not supposed to enjoy real gyn exams. I don't seek them out, though, so that helps temper my guilt feelings.

I feel a little guilty about it, because people are not supposed to enjoy real gyn exams. I don't seek them out, though, so that helps temper my guilt feelings.

Says who, @shypatient2? You have no guilt whatsoever to feel about anything you like... so long as it's legal, of course!

I disagree, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.

It's a part of me and it's not going to change anytime soon. When I was younger I felt weird having the interests I had and kept them to myself for a long time , then the internet came along and that blew everything up and found many people who were into many of the interests I had and I became more comfortable with it and more open about it. Now there is no shame , just enjoyment and excitement.

Oh no, my fetishes are clearly safer for myself and for society. I am sure about that.

It just so happened that I watched some pretty awful porn (I'm serious, it's just awful. How and why it's still on the net, I don't know and I don't want to know), and I can say that just being in the image of a doctor and making this or that diagnosis WITHOUT causing any damage to a person, whether it be physical, psychological or other pain — this is much safer than very tough BDSM, which cannot even be called a perversion IMHO.

I dont feel guilty about any of my perversions

I enjoy wearing diapers and rubber pants and going potty in them as though I was still a kid who wouldn't potty train. I'm not hurting anyone including myself and it's really no one's business that I like to go around in a wet diaper and rubber pants, or wet my bed. or need to be changed. Fortunately I met my fiancee many years ago and she tolerated my fetish and indulges me, even changes me all the time so why fell bad or be hard on myself.

It all boils down to the old saying, “If you have not tried it, do not knock it.” Or, “If you have not tasted it, do not say that you do not like it.”

One persons kink is another persons real desire. Sex in itself is kinky. However, sex is how we were all created. If all of us were to suddenly stop having sex, how long would it be until there were no more people on this planet? Maybe, one or two generations and we would all be gone. No more people and no more of anything we know and do.

I do not feel that my perversions are in any way bad. There are things I will do and things I will not do Some of them that I have done, I really like. Some of them that I have done, I do not like. Some of them that I have heard of, I have not tried and do not care to try them. In any case, I will not say that if someone else wants to do what I do not like or do not want to try, they should not do it. Do what you like. Just do not do what you do not want to do.

I feel pretty good about it when I met my husband. Joining Zity showed me that there were many others out there like me. As teenager and 20 something year old, I felt weird about it.

When I was Younger I was Extremely embarrassed about my fetish. it was somethibg I only explored online and would have been mortified if anyone I knew had found out. Fast forward to today and Altho I still Consider my sexual interests a private matter, I’m much more open about it with people who are closer to me both sexually and as a close friend.

Further to my post #88, l now sum up what seems to be the general feeling here: live and let live!

Repeat: live and let live!

- Ken

I don’t feel great about the things I fantasize about. It was worse as a young teen because 1) I learned about sex and masturbation before I learned about what people think about it. And 2) when your a kid you really want to fit in because it comes with a lot of perks and just like the rest of life, the mob will look for any fucking reason to ostracize you. Knowing you’re different then, especially in a psycho-sexual way is scary(not in a fun way though, in an existential dread kinda way. Like a ”am I gonna die alone?” kinda way). Suffice to say that since I can’t edit every Wikipedia article about sex and every paraphilia to include at least a paragraph about public opinion, when the time is right I will explain to my future child how the birds and the bees multiply. And then I’ll explain what the Republicans, the Democrats, and the lizard men that rule us think about it. The fact that I’m aroused by certain medfet activities is something that in the past I would undoubtedly have killed and died to keep secret. I still might but there is a little more doubt. I think that’s just a function of time. You can’t feel emotions like intense loathing forever. It never helped me to think that you guys exist. No offense. it’s just that most of you are decades older than me and even if there are 10,000 readers here, that is an utterly insignificant fraction of the population. And as for the regular members, that frequent discussion boards and do the heavy lifting, a couple dozen like minded individuals scattered across generations does nothing to reassure me that I‘m not a spectacular weirdo. All that said I would never begrudge someone with a healthy, unproblematic fetish. I’m a little surprised(and glad) that so many of you are totally comfortable with what you like. Just can’t say the same.

Hi there, keyserSoze (post #112 )! A good, heartfelt post! Congratulations!

Importantly, please accept my congratulations as being something you're entitled to - because you are. Please take my words on board. I don't write them lightly.

Sure, they're only a drop in the ocean - l take your point that way. Likewise, you and l are both puny! So what? Everything's relative. Even the Queen of England is only monarch of a few countries compared with all the countries she DOESN'T rule (as a figurehead, at best.)

To be forever comparing oneself to others is a trap. Whereas, the OCCASIONAL such comparison is healthy.

Here endeth the lesson.

- Ken

Pardon me, but what exactly is a “perversion”? I understand the OP was many years ago. Considering the question in the context of today 's western society, maybe the word perversion ought to be replaced by “preference” or simply removed on the grounds of irrelevance.

Nope. No need to try to change history. The OP put the word in quotation marks to show that he understood the word to be taken less than seriously or literally; hence any behavior not considered “vanilla” may qualify. It is certainly NOT irrelevant…

I attribute it to so many medical procedures as a child and sometimes find myself feeling I need this as an “excuse” or justification for it. I would probably have gone through life thinking I am the only one had I lived in the preinternet era.

For many years I thought I was not normal because I liked to take my rectal temperature and did it secretly almost every day. Thanks to the internet, I realised that many people have the same preference as me. So it's nothing perverted, but just a special preference ;-)

I DO NOT FEEL THAT I HAVE PREVERSIONS OR ANYONE ELSE WHO ENJOYS THE KINKY PLAY WE SO LOVE DOES. We follow the sensations God has made possible with creativity. The perverse people are those who lack the vision of creativity and believe what suppressive myopic individuals preach to them . It is usually a person with little personal inner strength or some stalwart who can't see the trees because they are in the forest. They watch the world go by. They think and speak negatively while new and slightly different ideas pass them by. Most of my kinky friends are creative self starters well as those who are completely into submitting to those who make their given needs a reality. Both reap the benefits of classic kinky relationships and play their way.

I've been told I'm a pervert a number of times by girls I liked and eventually told I liked to wear diapers and rubber pants, wet and sometimes mess my diapers. I was always wearing my diapers and rubber pants when I told them, was really nice to them and I didn't think it was fair to call me names like pervert just because I liked to wear diapers. What's wrong with that? Why do they want to humiliate me just because I prefer going to the bathroom in my diapers. I'm not hurting anyone, and I'm just making myself feel good. I like to masturbate in my diapers and girls have told me I'm perverted, weird, a psycho or worse but everyone I know masturbates, often alone, but often in front of someone else they like. Of course I have also met girls who didn't think I was a pervert and we had loads of fun, but why should I be made to feel like I'm shit for just wearing diapers and rubber pants all the time and wanting to be loved.

Many people - maybe most people - have an aversion towards sharing bodily functions like peeing and pooping. That's a unique niche of fetish lovers. Not surprised many are not aroused or into it. Those who are, I suspect find it hard to find someone else acceptive and/or enjoying it themselves. Just like enema enthusiasts have a limited following…