What is worse? Having spanker lower your panties or being ordered to do so?

You know there is no getting away from this spanking. It is going to be long and painful...and of course on your bare bottom, your spanker is sitting on the couch/chair and you are standing in front, your hands are on your head or on the sides - as instructed. you know you should not move them even a bit.

You obey his/her order to look into his/her eyes while you are being scolded and told about the upcoming punishment. Your pants were removed a while back when you were put in the corner as you see them lying on the floor,your heart is racing and you have butterflies in your tummy as you feel your disciplinarian's fingers on the sidebands of your panties.

The "moment" you dreaded, feared and secretly awaited - you feel the start of the slow tug...your panties are slowly coming down as you are being scolded and your eyes are locked with his/hers.

Spankees and spankers :

What emotions and actions cross your mind ?

How do you prepare yourself for that moment ?

How do you feel about being uncovered or uncovering ?

Being a spanker I have done both to my spankee. For example: 'lower your panties Missy and meet me in the bedroom' or having the spankee stand in front of you as she is lectured and I lower her panties.

I have been told both are embarrassing as in the first you must follow a specific order and the second you feel like a child.

Any thoughts?

I always take the girls panties down when she is over my knee for the strap! after having used the hairbrush on her pants first i can then see how red her bottom is! and strap her in the places i may have missed!

The worst is standing infront of the spanker, its so humiliating.

Much more humiliating to have the panties removed for you. Makes for a great roleplay when the Spanker instructs them to remove their panties, but they won't so it's done by force...

My panties are always lowered for me. Totally embarrassing.

My mother always ordered me to lower my panties. If I was going to be strapped in a standing position, I was also instructed to cover my genitals with my hands.

My wife uses the paddle OTK or the switches while I lie of a pile of cushions on the bed. In these situations, she lowers the panties after I am in position.

Either way, a bare bottom is not going to dwell on which method was used once it gets a taste of that first 'bite' ....

It's always super embarrassing when he lowers my panties..I no longer have control and feel extremely humiliated....

I dread and secretly love the early exposure of removing pants or skirt and blouse, standing, waiting, corner or not, in bra and panties - it's very embarrassing and very much reinforcing the power difference. I want to be made to do it even though I don't want to do it. The panty pull down moment as his fingers slide into the waistband makes me incredibly aroused as well as embarrassed, and sinkingly aware of the pain soon to come, whether or not there have already been some smacks administered.

Whilst having pants lowered draped over the spanker’s lap is most embarrassing I find being told to take off my pants and report to a location for a punishment session is much more embarrassing.

I am once again torn, both do have potential for embarrassment. Whether one is more embarrassing then the other or just different. Complying to an order and lowering your panties yourself makes you very aware of your own involement. You are acknowleging perhaps reluctantly the fact that your naughty bottom needs a spanking and are offering it up for a spanking. In having them lowered for you it can amplify the helplessness as you have little choice but to stay still as you are exposed and wonder what else you may be asked to passively accept.

She stands in front, slowly lowers her panties. She then must turn around, bends at the waste and must reach back

pulling her cheeks apart. I inspect her, reach for the tiger balm and lube her. Then insert a butt plug. She stands

faces me and asks for her OTK spanking. It is very exciting for us both.

Being a switch I have been in both positions. I've told my spankee to take off her panties and stand in the corner, or lay on your tummy in the middle of the bed.

As the spankee, Ive been told to stand in front of my spnaker and take my undies down. Very embarassing. Equally embarassing is having my spanker take my undies down, making me feel like a child.

If standing or bending over I prefer to be told to lower my panties. This would most likely cause him to linger a bit...building anticipation.

When my mz orders me to get over her lap and pulls up my nightdress and then pulls down my frillys,then i do feel like her little one.completely in her loving control and knowing no matter how much i squirm or squeal only mz knows when my spanking will end.

I love both scenarios but find there is that extra special sense of humiliation when I have to lower my own panties.

My hubby always lowers my panties for me. It gives me a sense of helplessness, and his full control over me. He is competent in doing whatever he wants with me. His warning of squirming lets me know he expects absolute obedience from me & it makes me feel like a little girl.

I've been spanked always with pants lowered or naked. My wife pulls them down, which is little bit of embaressing.

I think being made to lower them would be worst

Personally, I love to stand before the spanker and have my pants taken down, then over the knee and spanked on my panties, and then having those taken down also... mmmmmm....

Having to pull down your underware before your spanker is the worst and having to stand and bare your ass to them.

I pull down my girlfriends panties myself because I feel like it is a lot more embarrassing for her to be completely helpless and treated like a little girl. The moment she she feels my fingers in the waistband of her panties she starts to get both aroused and nervous for her spanking thats about to occur..

I like when he lowers them. Not that either is more embarrassing, but it makes me feel a little more helpless. He's in control and doing what he, and I, want. If I remove them, I'm just giving in. Gotta show a little fight sometimes(;

I must remove them, I wish she would do it!

I must also get the bath brush & give it to her, I wish she would get it instead of making me get the brush!

For me it is more shameful that my husband orders me and i have to lower my panties, this is like having to help him with what i'm about to get. I feel ashamed every time.

I found it embarrassing but exciting to be undressed by my mother or aunts before be spanked. Today it is a total turn on the be undressed like a child. Especially as I am being reprimanded.

I prefer having my spankee bare her own hiney....the humiliation factor works. I've had a number of ladies say that it was a huge turn on to have to drop their own pants and panties.

I've settled upon having the spankee undress to just her panties and stand before me. Then, while she is almost nude, we discuss that about which we are disciplining. Once the discussion is over, she has to lower her panties to her knees and ask me for correction. The whole scene seems to really get them in the headspace for submission.

I think it is more embarrassing to have your clothes removed by the spanker as it allows him to be more in control of the situation.

Most of my boys have to take their own underpants down for the spanking or enema... just part of the ritual