What is worse? Having spanker lower your panties or being ordered to do so?

When I was younger I'd always try and take my pants and underwear down myself because I felt I could get away with pulling them down just enough to expose my butt, if my dad took them down they'd be at my ankles.

I don't mind as know I an going to enjoy it either way!

Growing up, whenever I was going to be spanked, I had to strip down to my briefs, then my mother would pull them down to my ankles before pulling me across her knee. When spending part of my summer vacation with my aunt and uncle, the few times I was spanked my uncle undid my pants/shorts and removed my briefs himself.

In a very happy marriage I get my naked butt paddled by my wife about once or twice a year and its for outragious conduct on my part---I have it coming and we never argue when its got to happen--Since i shower right before i am naked when i kneel on the ottoman to get paddled so there is no question of taking down underwear---If your naked your naked! Since only my wife and i know it is not a matter of embarrasment on my part at all----so i might as well be naked BUT IT SURE DOES HURT

I think being told to lower them would be worse. Having them lowered would be such a turn on for me. Yum!

I think taking them off yourself because then you are submitting yourself

I really don't know which is worse. I wouldn't mind baring my own bottom for a spanking but I would also not object to my bottom being bared for me when getting spanked. I know the emotions I would feel would be the same I always feel before being spanked, excitement at finally getting a spanking, dreading the pain from the swats on my bottom, not to mention the anticipation of being taken over someone's lap and my bare bottom slowly and hard with a strong hand. Either way when the spanker takes hold of my hand and pulls me across their lap its not gonna matter whether my bottom is clothed or bare. Still a nice stern lecture from the person who is going to spank my bottom followed by them either raising my skirt or unbuttoning my shorts or jeans and pulling them and my underwear down to my knees before taking my hand and guiding me over their lap would no doubt turn me on before a good hard hand spanking.

Like many, I can see the appeal of both sides of this coin.

On one hand, the spankee ordered to remove their own drawers must submit willingly to their punishment. Perhaps they will move slowly, either sullen or just plain nervous, and drag out the process. They carefully give up the final barrier between their soon-to-be-red bottom and reality of what is to come. Despite knowing that the panties would offer little protection anyway, everything suddenly becomes very vulnerable, and very real. And the fact that they are complicit in their own pain, bareing themselves to the spanker, increases the humiliation factor.

On the other hand, there's a certain loss of control that makes having the panties removed by someone else thrilling. The spanker decides when and how far the panties will be removed, and they can see and touch whatever they like. Perhaps they will be quick and stern about it, yanking the panties to the knees and giving the spankee a rush of realization that the moment they've been dreading is coming much too fast. Or perhaps the panties will be removed slowly, teasing, letting the spankee fully take in their anxious anticipation.

One solution: The spankee must remove their pants or skirt themselves, in full view of the spanker. A few warm-up swats might be given over the panties, but when the time comes the spanker takes control and yanks them down.

My panties are always lowered by the person spanking me (husband). I get spanked initially over whatever I am wearing and then down come my panties. Sometimes I resist trying to hold them up but it only adds to the excitement for both of us. Karen Jean

I grew up with both happening. Mom delivered most of my spankings when I was younger. She always pulled down my pants/underwear before pulling me cross her lap for a spanking or paddling. With dad, it was talk first, then came the order to remove my pants and underwear myself. That was tough for me. But the hardest part was then laying myself across his lap followed by putting my hands against the small of my back for my dad to grab them and hold me in place before the paddling began.

When I was a teen I was spanked regularly by my stepmother. The routine was always the same. I was told at dinner that I would receive a spanking after for whatever reason. I had to report to her bedroom an hour before bedtime. When I knocked and went in she always told me, "get ready."

That meant I had to go to her closet and bring her back the strap or the switch, whichever one she told me to get. I'd give it to her and then drop my skirt or my jeans. I Usually had to bend over her bed and get my butt as high as I could. If I was wearing panty hose I was then supposed to pull them down and then pull my panties down. If just panties, I had to take them down. I was supposed to ask "is that far enough?" If it was she would tell me and then she'd say, "get ready." then the humiliating, "what should I do about your misbehavior?" I had to reply, "please spank me so that I will be a better girl."

Then she'd start and she'd first tell me how many I'd be getting and then I'd have to count them out. Years later I had a boyfriend who spanked me if I got out of line. He made my pull my panties down myself or sometimes he'd let me keep them on. The difference between he and my step mother is that when he used the strap on me my panties or my bare pussy always got wet, very wet.

I always tell my man to lower his trousers and pants - but first, I tell him to fetch the cane, which hangs up in my side of the wardrobe. We're still in love, after fifteen years.

Our routine started when we were first together, we would spank each other's bottoms for fun - just part of sex, really.Then I found out that he'd cheated with a girl at work. I didn't want to ditch him and he was terribly sorry & he asked if I wanted to slipper his bottom. I made him bend over and I whacked his bare bottom with one of my sandals, when it was really red, I dropped my knickers and ordered him to go down on me, then we fucked and it was the best ever.

Later he told me that his mother used to cane his bare bottom. We bought a proper rattan cane - like the one she used, a real school cane - and I made two discoveries.

1. I discovered that I enjoyed caning him. I loved the way his bottom cheeks tensed as the cane whistled down and twitched when it landed. He'd gasp, a thin white indentation would cross his buttocks turning into a pink line.

2. I discovered that it gave him the biggest hard-on I'd ever seen. Now, I cane him whenever he steps out of line - or just because I feel like it.

He knows when he's in for it because I'm wearing my dark blue business suit. I tell him to fetch the cane then I tell him to drop his trousers and pants. He's required to bend over with his bottom facing the light, that way I can admire the view - and, of course, my aim is better. I tell him how many strokes he will receive, usually the traditional six - but sometimes up to twelve, then I cane him - hard. It hurts with every stroke, his scrotum gets tighter and when I've finished he has an enormous erection, then I tell him to replace the cane & then I sit down, pull my knickers to one side and order him to pleasure me with his tongue. Eventually, I tell him that he may now remove my knickers, the sex that follows is wonderful.

I was never caned as a child, though my head mistress slippered me a couple of times and my father was going to beat me with his belt - before my mother stopped him.

I like the lady (girl) to lower her panties,for me it adds to the submissiveness,she knows what is to happen and agrees with the plan.

My preference, either giving or receiving, is to have the recipient follow step by step commands to strip naked and be inspected before receiving the spanking.

I have always had to go into my parents bedroom and indeed myself and then lean over their bed until my stepdaddy would show up and administer my belt whipping.

The worse for me was is my panties being taken down after I am over my girl friend's lap. She always starts with a hand spanking over my panties, if I am not in a diaper, until she has me crying real tears then she lowers my panties and uses the paddle on my bare bottom. I never know when my undies are coming down until all of a sudden I feel her fingers slipping into my pantie waistband and slowly lowers my undies to below my knees.

As someone who was never spanked as a child, I can only imagine what the moments just before the spanking starts must be like. I would have to go with the idea that having your pants and undies pulled down by mom or dad, seconds before being tugged over the knee must be torture. You know that in a few seconds the scolding will be replaced by that first sharp spank to your bottom, and many more will follow. If you’ve been given spankings before, you know what the whole thing will feel like, and you also know that before long you’ll be a kicking, yelling, crying mess.

Now if only I could have that as an adult...

USUALLY for women it is more embarrassing for them to take off their own clothes and for men more embarrassing to have their clothes stripped off them by someone else.

Getting my underwear pulled down is definitely worse than doing it myself. It means I have no control of if or when it will happen and I just have to stand there with my hands on my head.

Hmm - I tend to agree with another note in this thread that variety is best. Both as giver and recipient, I like to mix it up. Sometimes instructing my spankee to bare her bottom or my spanker do the same to me is a wonderful prelude. Alternatively, there is an equal amount of excitement and anticipation as the spanker unfastens my pants or I bare my spankee's tush. Both are fantastic ways to enhance the experience for both participants. The key is the result is getting that bottom bare and ready for the spanking to come.

When I was growing up i had severely mixed feelings when my stepdad would lower my panties for me. It was usually in one of two ways, the first was like you describe where he’d have me standing next to him while he was seated on the chair or couch and he’d pull my panties down and I’d feel so embarrassed because he could see everything before taking me over his lap. The other way he would have me bend over a chair, table or the couch and he’d get behind me and lower my panties before spanking me. Also very humiliating (and exciting). I hated the loss of control that I felt when he’d do it instead of letting me do it. Both ways were embarrassing but standing in front of him when he’d do it was worse because I felt so exposed and embarrassed.

I like removing her panties slowly to get her ready for her temp, spanking and enema. and orgasms of course!

Her hands are on top of her head, unless she is holding her dress / skirt up over her hips exposing her panties to me before I lower them to mid thigh and return her to the OTK position.

When growing up I had a certain amount of time to undress before my spanking, If I went over that time my father would do it for me, and when he had to do it everything would come off..

I would rather my husband pull down my panties (or undress me slowly) as it is much more erotic as my spankings are while lighting up my rear end with considerable sting lead to some very intense close moments for us during and after my spankings almost always over his knee and always on my bare bottom. Denise

I don't think there is one best, or one worst. With mom when I went OTK generally I'd be standing on her right side and as she talked to me she'd lower my pants, and then my underwear, around my knees or to my ankles. Let's get these out of the way was a common comment. When I was older and she decided to strap me I'd usually be bent over, or across the bed, or over the back of a large stuffed chair. I'd be told where to go, how to put myself and usually told to get myself ready.

Many of the ladies that I have spanked enjoy the feeling of embarrassment & humiliation that is associated with spanking. In order to address their need, I prefer to have her stand in front of me with her hands behind her head or holding her skirt up over her hips completely exposing her panties to me. I lecture her as I slowly lower her panties to mid thigh. I have her spread her legs enough to hold her panties in place, have her turn around and inspect her bottom, then have her resume her position OTK. After the spanking is over, I've been told they loved the rush and the exposure.

I was a rule tester/breaker as a 9--older boy. My Dad was a parent who (timeframe 1959--64) believed spanking was a necessity for a disobedient son. Being a contrary boy who tested rules a lot--I got spanked a lot. No paddle.My Dad was a hand spanker.Otk.Always bare bottom: jeans/p.j.bottoms lowered.My briefs came down last--after I was across his knees/lap. Usually I had to do the pants downing myself. But if my Dad did the jeans or pj bottoms downing himself--I knew I'd be getting a "worse" otk/bare bottom hand spanking--which he called a "hand paddling".

When i visit my male "sub" for his correction i expect him to be ready dressed only in my choice of underwear on my arrival. I have him stand before me hands on head while I sit on the spanking chair to explain the need for his spanking. Facing me i slowly take down his panties to mid thigh to take my time examining his hairfree genitals and taking his penis/scrotum measurements. This i find to be a pleasure seeing and feeling his embarrassment due to his below average size. Removing his panties completely i turn him to inspect his bottom for any marks from my previous visit and to introduce some KY to his anus for post spanking attention. Pre cum is usually noticable from his penis at this point despite his humiliation. I position him over my lap his legs apart and hairless cheeks raised to recieve my attention. After a gentle caressing and fondling i start his spanking by hand to warm his bottom for my choice of slipper. This is administered for my pleasure until i change positions to use the sofa to position him over or to employ the wheelbarrow position. When im satisfied with the results and hearing his gentle sobbing i have him stand so i can give him a further "examination". He is by this time humiliated to the point where further attention can be administered.

The action of removing and sometimes having him put his panties back on is an important and necessary part of his spanking as i enjoy seeing him blush with embarrassment when his panties are sloely removed.

Getting a spanking is very arousing to me.... knowing i am about to get one just as arousing ... i love having my pants taken down for me.... there is a certain amount of submission as I let myself be made to be naked... or at least exposed. I much prefer that to getting undressed myself. So I am not sure there is a "worse" way to go... but one is certainly better than the other for me! 😃