The 69 Myth

I had no idea the "goal" of the 69 was to have mutual orgasms.. . . .

IT ISN'T.

I totally agree. Either of us may have an orgasm first, or not at all, but it is still fun.

As others have stated, milage varies.

When I was much younger eating pussy was stimulating enough to cause me to orgasm. When my partner and I engaged in 69 (side by side) she'd suck and lick me while I tongued and sucked on her. Eventually I became so stimulated that I climaxed. My orgasm would trigger her climax and as she came she took me as deep as she could into her throat to swallow my ejaculate. After a brief recovery we coupled missionary style.

With other partners 69 was not as satisfying and I concur that it can be distracting. When I do move into 69 it is more of a prelude to sex than an objective. Gets things ready and wet, as it were.

Even if intensity approaches the peak at the same pace for partners in a "69" and simultaneous orgasms would seem imminent, the odds are that one or the other party will set off first. The party experiencing the orgasm will usually then cease or dramatically vary their stimulation of the other individual. It is particularly challenging for a orgasmicly vocal woman to continue to perform fellatio to the best of her abilities while crying out in the throes.

Nevertheless, just enough carryover stimulation and the thrill of witnessing an explosive orgasm in his or her partner can often launch one into an orgasm of one's own. Close as it may be, even that type of ecstasy is not truly categorized as simultaneous orgasm.

I'm not saying it can't happen, but it has got to be a particularly rare experience.

When we do 69, I usually get off then my husband spins around and we have regular sex. At that point, he's very very close.

There is no myth sometimes it works for both of you, and then there are times it doesn't work where you both orgasm at the same time.

I've heard it said that men are like a cartridge firing off; one big bang and done. Women are like clothes irons; you turn them on and it takes awhile to get really hot, but they can stay hot for a long time. My SOLE job using my tongue on a lady is to get her off as many times as she wants to. If she's using her tongue/mouth on me, it's distracting me from my main job. After she is totally satisfied, she will usually return the favor. I've had it happen a few times that we both go over the edge doing 69 together, but it is rare.

My husband and I enjoy doing 69, lying on our left sides while taking simultaneous enemas and attempting to hold off orgasms until the bags are empty. It works out about 40% of the time and if we don't orgasm together we each do eventually and he always assures that I have as many as I can, often 3 to 4, his limit is 1.

Where we most often orgasm simultaneously is when I'm lying across the bed with my hips at the edge and my legs pulled back. My husband is kneeling on the floor giving me an enema and reaching up and playing with my breasts as he orally pleasures me to orgasm. since he has an oral fetish as strong as his enema one, when I orgasm he usually orgasm's as I do.

I also orally pleasure him while giving him an enema but I have to be careful to not take him to orgasm before the bag empties because he won't desire any more enema and I must become a stern mistress and make him empty the bag.

Marlene

Its a fun thing to do, but I never tried to coordinate timing....thanks for the idea!

I think one tends to think of 69 where our part is to concentrate on the vagina. Personally I like to explore her anal region while I am doing the 6...

I have no problems with 69. I love it. Especially if the girl I am with has an orgasm at the same time as me. It can happen.

I agree with Tabatha, it can and does happen but it is hard to concentrate sometimes (a lot of things happening at the same time) haha..............

I never worried that we'd come at the same time. Just enjoyed the mutual exploration and intensity of feeling.

With one former GF we did anal 69 one evening, tongues buried very deep. It was amazing.

To be very honest, this is something I have tried over the years with various partners of both sexes. It was difficult to concentrate and the fireworks never quite went off. Hubby and I will do it ever so often but it always leads to us becoming more solo towards each other.

The few times I have tried it were unsatisfactory. We could not find a position in which both of us could be stimulated at the same time. After licking her for a while, the ligament on the underside of my tongue got sore from being stretched. It is more exciting to think of than it is actually doing it.

hankb

I have spent lots of time in the 69 position over the years and have found it very satisfying. I have never worried about mutual orgasms as the important thing to me is how many times I can make her come. One time I remember spending a long time with our tongs up each others assholes that was unbelievably erotic. I remember getting a pillow under my head so my neck didn't cramp. I must have come before we started as that didn't seem to be a factor.

For us it sort of works, but I agree it will be more one than the other, but you get kind of a fun dynamic going back and forth. I get very hot getting her off, but not nearly as hot when she is distracted trying to get me off at the same time. However she can chill on me for a bit until she gets really hot, and by than I am good for some, so it kind of goes back and forth.

I don't care for it as much. The feeling is great, but I like one of us being worked on at a time. When I'm receiving, I want to lay there and receive and focus and do what I want. I don't want to be working that hard reciprocating simultaneously. But I don't mind reciprocating! Just not at the same time.

I agree to one at a time. I don't like "working" when I'm receiving. I'd rather lie back and take it, and have my partner do the same. It's fun to try, but not something I particularly look forward to or want.

My wife and I engaged in 69 sex regularly - generally laying on our sides. Rarely, if ever, did we climax at the same time. Whichever one of us came first simply moved to a more comfortable position to complete the oral gratification of the other. More often than not, I could get her off before I came. That's when I got to lay on my back as she would bob her head up and down. Watching her do that and watching her tits swaying as she sucked meant I wouldn't last long before my load would cum. Ah, memories, I love them.

We like the 69. Usually don't get off together. But we both do get off.

No myth. We don't always get off that way but I have. Either way it's really hot.

I love 69. It's easier for me to have satisfying orgasms if I'm sucking him at the same time. Im pretty sub so I think it's the idea that I need to be doing something for him that does it for me.

With 69 it seems to me the oral is better and more intense I have passed out doing 69. It has also helped when I go from 69 to vaginal or anal sex to stay a little longer and be a little stronger and cum a bit more. I love 69 and it has been a great sex tool for getting me off . thanks to who ever thought of it

Cowboy said ,

I have passed out from doing 69

Cowboy just to clarify the several variations I have going thru my head, you passed out from such an intense orgasm you received? Or from one you gave ? Or did she have you in such a tight thigh death grip you lacked oxygen ? Please inquiring minds want to know ?

I passed out from an orgasm and I dont know how many she had but it was lovely and amazing

I seem to focus more on her than my satisfaction during 69. Looking 69 porn though it seems like the women feel the sensations more than men even while appearing to be putting a lot of effort into fellatio.

I've enjoyed 69er's with many Women and with a couple Guy's!! With the Women i love to Kiss after our Orgasms and share our Cum with each other!! That was always Nice!! However I have had a couple Bi-Experiences with other Bi-Men who enjoyed 69er's to Orgasm!! I must say that I enjoyed the 69er's to Orgasm with both of theses Bi-Guys and we also involved Ass Play/Enemas and some Spanking Fun! That's been a few years back and I would love to find another Bi-Guy to share/explore 69er's and More in a Fun/Discreet endeavor?? (~;

Ah 69, the potential and fantasy is incredible, but reality does seem to fall just a bit short. I have enjoyed 69ing quite a few times, but usually as a foreplay thing. I don't cum too easily from oral (usually), so I have to concentrate more, which I can't do in 69 since I like giving oral more than receiving. I like my female partner on top, so I can easily hold and fondle her ass, spread her and dip my tongue into both of her delightful holes. A few times my partner has orgasmed on top of me, which caused her to stop sucking on me so she could fully enjoy and ride it out. After that we moved onto other things... mostly anal sex, as that is my favorite way to cum.

Funny story, as a 19 yr old, with my first sexual girlfriend, we go into this position one afternoon. It my head I was very excited thinking about WOW - my first 69 experience! I couldn't wait to give and get at the same time. Well, apparently I did a good job... and she came... and proceeded to squirt all over my face! I swallowed some and continued licking since I wanted her to complete her orgasm, but I wore contact lenses at the time.. and it burned my eyes!! After she finished I had to go remove my lenses and rinse them and my eyes out!

Neither of us knew what it was nor had heard of squirting! I asked her if she accidentally peed on me, and she said she didn't know. So we just left it at that.

I am not certain if it is the right definition but we lie on our sides with one of us curled back a bit and that is 69 for us. Seems to work to work well

Dita

Add me to the “easier on your side” group, although her on top is pretty hot and fun too.

I don’t see 69 as end game sex, but more as kind of transition sex. I think it’s a great place to be, a great way to feel close and enjoy someone while they enjoy you, and it’s a good place to hang out and spend time.

My 2 cents